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tenderhearts 11:34 AM 08-03-2019
I mentioned about a little over a month ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. I took off about a month for his surgery and recovery which just happened a week ago. Surgery went well but recovery has been a little rough for him. Anyways because the cancer spread to one of the lymph nodes he has to do 6 months of chemo every 2 weeks. We have heard that although everyone reacts different it can be quite brutal. He will have to go every 2 weeks for 8 hours plus bring a pump home for 2 additional days. I don't know what to do with my daycare. I really am afraid that if I stay open he is going to have a really hard time which causes me stress because I already know he will complain that I'm not there ect and it is really hard to do my job when he's complaining and having a hard time, nausea is a huge side effect of the chemo and he is already having a lot of nausea and they don't know why so driving is another thing we would have to deal with.
My husband thinks I should remain closed for an additional couple months to see how the chemo goes but I feel like that is making it harder for my parents especially if it wasn't going well and I had to close after those couple of months. I really don't know what to do, part of me feels like I should close right now, of course knowing that I would lose all my clients but find a job that is very flexible so I can be available for his chemo appointments. I am willing to do that. I just have know idea what to do and what would be appropriate, I don't want to make parents mad by extending the closure then turning around and saying well it's not going well so I have to close.
My husband thinks I should remain closed for an additional couple months to see how the chemo goes but I feel like that is making it harder for my parents especially if it wasn't going well and I had to close after those couple of months. I really don't know what to do, part of me feels like I should close right now, of course knowing that I would lose all my clients but find a job that is very flexible so I can be available for his chemo appointments. I am willing to do that. I just have know idea what to do and what would be appropriate, I don't want to make parents mad by extending the closure then turning around and saying well it's not going well so I have to close.
lovemykidstoo 01:26 PM 08-03-2019
I am so very sorry that you and your husband are going through this. My heart goes out to you both. Do you do your daycare from your home? is there someone that could come in and help with you for the days that you need to help him more?
Josiegirl 02:41 PM 08-03-2019
I am sure they'd understand if you needed to close. I'm very sorry for what you're both going through. You need to know it's definitely okay to think of you and dh first before worrying about making your dcps mad at you.
Take care my dear!!
Take care my dear!!
rosieteddy 03:26 PM 08-03-2019
So sorry to hear he is having a hard time.As his wife its hard to be torn between work and family.In 1995my husband was diagnosed with non Hodgkin's Lymphoma .I had 6 daycare kids and 2 middle schoolers as well as 2 in college .We needed the money,I was able to pick him up after chemo and a assistant took care of the daycare.He was able to have treatment on Friday afternoons and was well enough to work by Monday.Each person is different.You may want to just close for the time of his treatments.Then when he is feeling better you could reopen.It is very draining for the caregiver you will need some time as well.Good luck.PS my husband was lucky to get through chemo and radiation and has been cancer free since 1997.This past weekend we celebrated our 46th wedding anniversary good thoughts sent to you.
tenderhearts 04:36 PM 08-03-2019
Thank you everyone. rosieteddy I'm so happy to hear your husband has been cancer free, that is very promising to hear. Right now my husband is the mentality that this will come back. I want to say he will do well through chemo but I'm not very hopeful since he is already feeling ill.
As for someone coming here, our state requires a lot to have someone be able to stay with the kids, plus I don't think my husband would feel comfortable on his days right after chemo when he isn't feeling good having someone else here (this is just info we have received about this chemo). I am not really afraid to close for 6 months and lose all my clients and start all over, I don't think that will be an issue, the hard thing is losing my kids I have right now, I love and miss them so much right now, it's hard to see not seeing them again.
As for someone coming here, our state requires a lot to have someone be able to stay with the kids, plus I don't think my husband would feel comfortable on his days right after chemo when he isn't feeling good having someone else here (this is just info we have received about this chemo). I am not really afraid to close for 6 months and lose all my clients and start all over, I don't think that will be an issue, the hard thing is losing my kids I have right now, I love and miss them so much right now, it's hard to see not seeing them again.
rosieteddy 05:48 PM 08-03-2019
It is a very difficult situation. We do miss them when they are not with us.
Josiegirl 04:02 AM 08-04-2019
Originally Posted by rosieteddy:
So sorry to hear he is having a hard time.As his wife its hard to be torn between work and family.In 1995my husband was diagnosed with non Hodgkin's Lymphoma .I had 6 daycare kids and 2 middle schoolers as well as 2 in college .We needed the money,I was able to pick him up after chemo and a assistant took care of the daycare.He was able to have treatment on Friday afternoons and was well enough to work by Monday.Each person is different.You may want to just close for the time of his treatments.Then when he is feeling better you could reopen.It is very draining for the caregiver you will need some time as well.Good luck.PS my husband was lucky to get through chemo and radiation and has been cancer free since 1997.This past weekend we celebrated our 46th wedding anniversary good thoughts sent to you.
So sorry to hear he is having a hard time.As his wife its hard to be torn between work and family.In 1995my husband was diagnosed with non Hodgkin's Lymphoma .I had 6 daycare kids and 2 middle schoolers as well as 2 in college .We needed the money,I was able to pick him up after chemo and a assistant took care of the daycare.He was able to have treatment on Friday afternoons and was well enough to work by Monday.Each person is different.You may want to just close for the time of his treatments.Then when he is feeling better you could reopen.It is very draining for the caregiver you will need some time as well.Good luck.PS my husband was lucky to get through chemo and radiation and has been cancer free since 1997.This past weekend we celebrated our 46th wedding anniversary good thoughts sent to you.
Congratulations on all fronts!!
Ms.Kay 05:48 AM 08-04-2019
Sit quietly ....the answer will come. Sending healing vibes!