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E Daycare 06:10 AM 09-19-2012
I recently went to a mon, wed and fri schedule so I could do more things with my own ds who just turned 3. The past two years all my kids were mon, wed, fri to begin with so I figured there wouldn't be an issue.
OF COURSE THERE ALWAYS IS
One dck now needs full time mon-fri for the foreseeable future. I agreed because its a few months and the full time money is nice (as the other kids are part time). I'm having some issues now though.
Tues and thurs are days I have signed my son up to do extracurricular activities as late as possible and the parent has known that's why I chose to go part time and knows we do things. So instead of picking up said child when they get out of school (dcp is a teacher), dcp goes home, waits for eldest to come off bus an hour later and then comes to get the kid at 5:15. I'm open till then so it's not an issue really but it is. My sons activities are around 4 on one day and 4:30 the other. Instead of coming to pick up the child right away dcp is ok with me taking their child (3yrs) with me to activities and then will come pick them up when I get back at 5:30. Dcp even mentioned I could sign up their son too so I could have a "break" too.
The thing is, there is no "break". A parent still has to be around to make sure if a kid gets hurt they are there. Plus they have waivers to sign. I'm not wanting to be liable for that. So the dck has to sit out with me and watch as my kid goes out to participate.
Does anyone else take their dck to things their kids are involved in? If so i have some questions:
Do parents ask to have their kid participate too and do you say "ok"?
Do you have a parent meet you to pick up the kid if it goes past your hours?
If not, do you charge for going past your hours even though it's your activity?
Do you say "no you need to be here by_______" and if they don't arrive by then take the kid with you or risk being late for an activity by waiting for dcp?
This kid is with me 53+ per week. He's ready to go after nap and yet I have to drag him with me and I feel so bad. I've recently postponed the early evening activity till spring and signed my son up for a later evening class because doing this 3x a week is a lot on me (and not fair I think to the dck who can't participate).
OF COURSE THERE ALWAYS IS
One dck now needs full time mon-fri for the foreseeable future. I agreed because its a few months and the full time money is nice (as the other kids are part time). I'm having some issues now though.
Tues and thurs are days I have signed my son up to do extracurricular activities as late as possible and the parent has known that's why I chose to go part time and knows we do things. So instead of picking up said child when they get out of school (dcp is a teacher), dcp goes home, waits for eldest to come off bus an hour later and then comes to get the kid at 5:15. I'm open till then so it's not an issue really but it is. My sons activities are around 4 on one day and 4:30 the other. Instead of coming to pick up the child right away dcp is ok with me taking their child (3yrs) with me to activities and then will come pick them up when I get back at 5:30. Dcp even mentioned I could sign up their son too so I could have a "break" too.
The thing is, there is no "break". A parent still has to be around to make sure if a kid gets hurt they are there. Plus they have waivers to sign. I'm not wanting to be liable for that. So the dck has to sit out with me and watch as my kid goes out to participate.
Does anyone else take their dck to things their kids are involved in? If so i have some questions:
Do parents ask to have their kid participate too and do you say "ok"?
Do you have a parent meet you to pick up the kid if it goes past your hours?
If not, do you charge for going past your hours even though it's your activity?
Do you say "no you need to be here by_______" and if they don't arrive by then take the kid with you or risk being late for an activity by waiting for dcp?
This kid is with me 53+ per week. He's ready to go after nap and yet I have to drag him with me and I feel so bad. I've recently postponed the early evening activity till spring and signed my son up for a later evening class because doing this 3x a week is a lot on me (and not fair I think to the dck who can't participate).
wahmof3 06:40 AM 09-19-2012
I require all of my DCP to pick up their kids when my kids have scheduled activities.
My youngest has dance on Monday afternoons so pick up is 4p
Here is how I deal w/ my son's games:
Away games= early pick up
Home games= I leave my house at such & such time and if they can't be here by then I will take them with me.
I left my outside of the home job making $25 plus per hour to be home for MY kids. This works for me too because I do have mainly all teachers kids.
In return there are times when they have meetings before or after school & I will keep their kids earlier/later and I won't charge them extra.
It all works for me
My youngest has dance on Monday afternoons so pick up is 4p
Here is how I deal w/ my son's games:
Away games= early pick up
Home games= I leave my house at such & such time and if they can't be here by then I will take them with me.
I left my outside of the home job making $25 plus per hour to be home for MY kids. This works for me too because I do have mainly all teachers kids.
In return there are times when they have meetings before or after school & I will keep their kids earlier/later and I won't charge them extra.
It all works for me
cheerfuldom 09:43 AM 09-19-2012
You know that she CAN pick up and chooses not too. I would absolutely insist on her picking up. I would never pay for, take, or supervise another child at these activities that you are doing....too much liability. I also would never allow a child in care for the amount of time you are allowing. 50 hours is my absolute max....10 hour days and I only have one child out of my 5 daycare kids that is here all day every day.
countrymom 10:25 AM 09-19-2012
do you find that the parents are jealous of your kids activities. I have a mom who hates the fact that my kids have activities. I close at 5pm, she needs care till 630pm or sometimes 8pm (which the 8pm is a big fat no) in may I was helping her out and watched them till 630pm. She started to hate the fact that she had to go and get her kids at my kids activities. This sept. I stopped offering the extra, dh hated the fact that they were here too. Well now she is so resentful and all she keeps saying is that she doesn't have time to do anything with her kids and just because her kids don't take extra activities they are not missing anything. Oh she works 3 days a week and her kids are older. sorry to highjack but stuff like this makes me mad.
Nickel 11:11 AM 09-19-2012
I have a similar question. I started my dd in dance but it is at 330 onmon. I occassionally have dcg but sonetimes not. Do i ask or just say hey btw mon is dance i will take your dcg with. She is contracted till 730pm 
MNMum 11:50 AM 09-19-2012
You are doing this family a "favor" and taking the child FT. If you don't want the kid with you for the activity, insist mom pick child up. This is why I do contracted hours. Why wouldn't mom just pick kid up on way home. I don't get that?