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NillaWafers 01:36 PM 08-12-2016
I was just curious, seems like many of us have had sooo many crazy parents - but who was your worst? What did he/she do to make it to the #1 position?

Should make for some entertaining reading >_<
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DaveA 01:53 PM 08-12-2016
Toss up between the DCD who tried to start a fight in my driveway with another DCD (a local cop) who had busted him or the DCM who tried to pay me in moonshine. That one probably wins because I termed them & they filed a false abuse claim in retaliation.

Weirdest thing DCPs have ever done was probably the couple who propositioned DW & me for a "play date".
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spedmommy4 02:05 PM 08-12-2016
Worst dcp ever had an extraordinarily difficult child. Dcp dropped off little one and, shortly after, little one got sick. My staff called the parent and spoke with them directly. Over an hour later, I called the parent again and she pretended she didn't know she needed to pick up. Very long story short, I enforced 24 hour sick policy and she pulled from care. I endured two weeks of ranting emails and have a long ranty review about how mean I am and how unfair my sick policy is on my Facebook page.
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Meeko 02:04 PM 08-12-2016
DCM picked up her two year old every afternoon around 4pm. One day, right after she left, my phone went. It was our friend down the street who is a police officer.

He says "A mom just left your place at a crazy speed. She literally FLEW over the speed bump. Tell her if I see her again she's in trouble". So I said I would.

About 15 minutes later, I got a call from the mom. "What the he!! happened to DCB's tongue??!!!!" She was furious.

I told her nothing happened! He was happy all day and left a happy camper. She told me his mouth was bleeding like crazy and his tongue had a gash. She demanded to know "What I had done to her son"

I started to put two and two together. My best guess is that when she hit the speed bump, he badly bit his tongue. He was FINE when he left here. All smiles. Mouth wounds bleed profusely, so she would have noticed straight away if he had been hurt here.

I tried to reason with her, but she was raging. She said she wasn't bringing him back, wasn't giving me notice etc. I told her when she calmed down, we would talk.

That was the last I saw of them. About two months went by and I got a letter from an attorney. Supposedly I had abused her child. However, she didn't want to go to court and would settle for a $7000 payout

I called him and told him to bring it on. I told him I would arrive at court with the police officer down the street, a child protective services worker (client) and every client I had.

I pointed out that surely the judge wouldn't take kindly to a mother truly believing her child had been abused and yet was willing to forget it for a payoff?????

Never heard a peep after that!!!!!!!!!

I found out later, that the wife and husband were both busted for drugs. They obviously were looking for some drug cash. I'm SURE she knew that she caused the tongue injury, but wanted to implicate me.
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LostMyMarbles 02:13 PM 08-12-2016
Nilla, I am sooooo glad you asked. Go get yourself some nillawafers and a glass of milk and sit back and read.

So I had a Dcm who was a nut job. She would show up when she wasn't scheduled, not show up when she was scheduled, pick up late, drop off early and just planed piss me off on a daily basis.

One time she came 2 hours early. I was on my way to a school function for one of my kids, and had 2 dcks. They were well behaved and I didn't have any issues taking them anywhere. So Miss Nut Job shows up 2 hours early, and I said No. I explained that I had to go to the school for a program for my child. She got huffy with me and said she wanted to take a shower and Get ready work. I said I could not take her due to not having enough car sets. I also explained that it is a time where she would need to sit quietly and she wasn't capable of doing that. She stormed off saying she would see me later.

A week later she called me freaking out, crying and telling me she was going to be late. She showed up about 2 hours late freaking out saying it was all my fault. I asked what was my fault. She explained to me that when she went to take a shower her child got out of the house and she could not find her. She was running around her neighborhood screaming the child's name. One neighbor called the police for her. A neighbor on the next block walked over and said, are you looking for a brow hair little girl because she is swinging in my back yard. It was happy ending for a terrible scary situation, thank goodness.

I asked after she told me all this, how it was my fault. She said because I won't let her bring her child early so she can take a shower and get ready for work. I gave her the walking papers on the spot.
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Silly Songs 02:28 PM 08-12-2016
Paying in moonshine ? I wonder when the family I nanny will resort to that ? They owe me two weeks pay, but gave me 50 today to help me out !! Seriously !!
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NillaWafers 02:29 PM 08-12-2016
Originally Posted by Silly Songs:
Paying in moonshine ? I wonder when the family I nanny will resort to that ? They owe me two weeks pay, but gave me 50 today to help me out !! Seriously !!
You what I bet would help you out? Paying you what they owe you. Some people..
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AmyKidsCo 02:31 PM 08-12-2016
I haven't had THAT bad of parents.

DCM brought her 2 yr old and said she'd thrown up that morning but she thought the girl had eaten some soap because she found her in the tub and the puke was all soapy. Nope, she really was sick. This same mom would come right at closing time with her 2 SA kids then let them play in my backyard for a half hour after closing.

DCM asked me to give her 2 yr old a bath because she didn't have time. She asked to borrow some dress-up clothes for a Halloween costume. And once I saw her driving around town with her 2 yr old standing up in the back seat.

DCD asked to use the "rest room" then wanted some water, then asked if he could keep the cup for the day because he'd be thirsty running errands.
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permanentvacation 02:34 PM 08-12-2016
I had an interview with a dad, his girlfriend, and a young child. I kept having a weird feeling during the interview, but just couldn't figure out what my 'feeling' was about. The dad acted strange when I showed him the paperwork that needed to be filled out by the child's doctor. Then he noticed the section that states if the parents object to immunizations due to religious beliefs, they can sign the paper and not have a doctor fill the form out. Then Dad seemed quite content.

I watched the child for 4 days. Around 10 am on the 5th day, Dad called me and told me that the police had arrived at his house, took the child to give him back to his mother and that the mother had reported him for kidnapping the child!

The man had literally KIDNAPPED his child from the mother!!! That's why he couldn't take the paperwork to the child's doctor and was so content and relieved when he realized that he could bypass the doctor by signing that his religious beliefs are against immunizations!!!

Since then, I absolutely refuse to accept children if their parents want to claim religious objection to immunizations.
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Blackcat31 03:13 PM 08-12-2016
young mom, 2 yr old and 6 month old

moved across country alone.
fantastic kids, really nice mom.
stayed almost 3 yrs. Full time.
ended with lots of police.
a restraining order.
an 84 yr old neighbor with a broken hip.
a family separated.

it was frustrating and heartbreaking.
it deeply impacted my views on lots of things professionally, personally and in general.
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KiwiKids 05:00 PM 08-12-2016
Was asked to DUI check the person picking up the kids because they sounded drunk on the phone and had a known drinking problem.

The other brought me a child with the stomach flu knowing I was 8.5 months pregnant and had gestational diabetes. I caught on within an hour but it wasn't enough...Guess who was puking with out of control blood sugar a few days later?
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KiddieCahoots 06:35 PM 08-12-2016
Oh God! There are too many.....where we get the experience behind our belts though....right!?
Guess it would have to be the mom who I suspected was a user, (but couldn't prove it), freak out when I confronted her about her arrival time being 2, 3, or more hours past her drop off time, without notification.
She stood 2 inches from my face and screamed "f@ck you", as well as other profanities, while her 2yr old cried and screamed witnessing the situation.
First time in my 16 yrs of daycare that I thought I'd have to physically defend myself.
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childcaremom 03:04 AM 08-13-2016
Hm. How to pick?

I can think of a few that tie for top place.

1- I was brand new to dc so went above and beyond for mom. When I stopped doing that, dcm pulled dcg, refused to pay me and then reported me. Left threatening phone messages for a few weeks.

2- Parents pushed me on every single policy I had. Then acted like I was the bad guy for enforcing them. Multiple suspected dope and drops, picking up late, arguing everything, bullying behaviour from dad, bullying behaviour from mom. They caused me a lot of stress while they were here. Come tax time, they started sending harassing emails about receipts (which I had given them). Rather than asking for replacements, mom tried threatening me with government action if I didn't comply. Um. Ok. They were only here a few months before I termed them but it felt like a life time.

3- Clients paid a deposit to hold a spot. Changed her mind 2 weeks later. Repeatedly harassed me to get her money back. I refused. She cursed me up and down. Turns out, she acted even worse for the provider that ended up with them (termed them after 4 weeks). She was a pumpkin.
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Josiegirl 04:07 AM 08-13-2016
All I can say is WOW after reading all of these replies.
I don't know how some of you put up with all that you did for so long. Makes for eye-opening stories to share on here and many learning experiences. I think you all should be writing books!!

I was going to share but after reading these, I've got nothing. My dcparents have all been creme de la creme dcfs. Thanking my lucky stars too.
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e.j. 11:02 AM 08-14-2016
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
All I can say is WOW after reading all of these replies.
I don't know how some of you put up with all that you did for so long. Makes for eye-opening stories to share on here and many learning experiences. I think you all should be writing books!!

I was going to share but after reading these, I've got nothing. My dcparents have all been creme de la creme dcfs. Thanking my lucky stars too.
I was thinking the same thing! I've had my share of dc parents that drove me crazy for various reasons but none were as bad as the ones described here! You all make me feel very grateful for the dc families I've had over the years!
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DaveA 04:19 AM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by KiwiKids:

The other brought me a child with the stomach flu knowing I was 8.5 months pregnant and had gestational diabetes. I caught on within an hour but it wasn't enough...Guess who was puking with out of control blood sugar a few days later?
All off these are bad, but as a husband this one infuriates me. If someone put my pregnant wife's/ unborn child's health at risk to keep from having to take care of their own sick kid I'd have a real hard time not absolutely chewing out DCP the next time I saw them.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 09:27 AM 08-13-2016
1. I was newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy, family kept bringing in sick children and saying it was because of too much granola/watermelon/candy/etc. They broke policies (or, tried to) all the time and I had enough. Mom yelled at me and slammed the door at pick up time in front of all of the children and then sent her husband here to chew me out. My husband wouldn't allow him in.

2. I was still newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and the behavior of a child continued escalating. I had tried to deal with it for 9 months but he was 4.5 and enjoyed hurting other children. He found it funny and it made him happy. I placed him on a behavior plan to attempt to get the parents to assist me more but he was suspended within 24 hours for 3 incidents of harming other children. The Dad then blamed me for his child's behavior (even though he did things like throw rocks at his Grandma's head outside of here which his wife let me know...) and told me he was suing me unless I gave the remainder of their tuition back. I wound up giving it back to avoid additional stress. They knew I had lost 3 babies before and needed to minimize my stress levels. We still saw him around for years after that and he always smiled, waved, and asked how we were doing. I always walked away.

3. This year...
Mother fabricated her child's abilities and the child needed one on one care. It wasn't safe for anyone for her not to have it. I terminated care, she didn't bring her back, demanded the belongings by a certain time, and I placed them on the porch so as not to have an explosive Mom around my kids. She still rang the bell and proceeded to yell at me in front of the kids at pick up time about how rude of a person I was. I told her that her e-mail sounded upset so I was making it a safe situation for my current kids by not allowing anger or yelling around them. She continued to yell.
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KiwiKids 06:09 PM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
1. I was newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy, family kept bringing in sick children and saying it was because of too much granola/watermelon/candy/etc. They broke policies (or, tried to) all the time and I had enough. Mom yelled at me and slammed the door at pick up time in front of all of the children and then sent her husband here to chew me out. My husband wouldn't allow him in.

2. I was still newly pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and the behavior of a child continued escalating. I had tried to deal with it for 9 months but he was 4.5 and enjoyed hurting other children. He found it funny and it made him happy. I placed him on a behavior plan to attempt to get the parents to assist me more but he was suspended within 24 hours for 3 incidents of harming other children. The Dad then blamed me for his child's behavior (even though he did things like throw rocks at his Grandma's head outside of here which his wife let me know...) and told me he was suing me unless I gave the remainder of their tuition back. I wound up giving it back to avoid additional stress. They knew I had lost 3 babies before and needed to minimize my stress levels. We still saw him around for years after that and he always smiled, waved, and asked how we were doing. I always walked away.

3. This year...
Mother fabricated her child's abilities and the child needed one on one care. It wasn't safe for anyone for her not to have it. I terminated care, she didn't bring her back, demanded the belongings by a certain time, and I placed them on the porch so as not to have an explosive Mom around my kids. She still rang the bell and proceeded to yell at me in front of the kids at pick up time about how rude of a person I was. I told her that her e-mail sounded upset so I was making it a safe situation for my current kids by not allowing anger or yelling around them. She continued to yell.
Oh man! My four pregnancies were all high risk and knowing you are supposed to be low stress and then having DCP's be so impossible... It is the worst feeling.
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Hunni Bee 09:59 AM 08-14-2016
Hmmm....

Can't decide between the creeper dad who made sexually and racially inappropriate comments, stood around watching us all day and creeped me out so bad I started having nightmares about him...

...or the aunt with custody of one of most challenging children ever who made rude comments about our director and daycare, then aggressively confronted us about it in front of dc parents and children. This woman also once picked her kid up, sat in the parking lot for an hour on the phone, and then sent the 5-year-old back across the parking lot and into the building alone for a snack when she got hungry.

Perhaps the parents of a little girl who came for a week, screamed every day all day and then suddenly on Friday when their copay was due...accused us of slapping the the nonverbal child and threatened us with physical harm

Or maybe the parents who said their children's severe aggression, sexually inappropriate behavior, rage disorder and health issues were all the result of my ineptitude as a teacher.

Somewhere in there.
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KiwiKids 06:05 PM 08-13-2016
Originally Posted by DaveA:
All off these are bad, but as a husband this one infuriates me. If someone put my pregnant wife's/ unborn child's health at risk to keep from having to take care of their own sick kid I'd have a real hard time not absolutely chewing out DCP the next time I saw them.
It was pretty unreal. I was very adamant with all my DCP's that this was a high risk pregnancy for a few reasons including gestational diabetes and I would be able to work up to delivery IF I could avoid any complications.

My husband was very upset too. It took almost two weeks for me to eat normally and have my bloodsugar balance back out. They were in their last few weeks of care because I was downsizing before baby. They opted to leave even earlier after knowing how sick I ended up getting.
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lovemydaycare0912 11:19 AM 08-16-2016
I just remember a parent who actually never made it in my care. Thank GOD! She had 6 children. Wanted the 3 school agers to be on subsidy but she would only use it during no school days. I told her I couldn't do that because I could not accept money for not having them the other days. She wanted FT for her youngest who at the time was almost 3. At the time, I knew nothing about holding fees and deposits. I submitted her subsidy paperwork before her child would begin, and had to wait forever. She lied and told them she worked in another state. Then since it was taking longer than a month, I told her I needed a holding fee because I could no longer hold her spot. I asked for $75. She said she couldn't afford it because (insert excuse here.) Then throughout that entire process, she also no longer had a cellphone. She expected me to communicate with her through her work line during work hours only. Same day, her subsidy got accepted but she would have had to pay $130 out of pocket. I left her a message and told her I was not willing to give her the spot. She never responded.
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