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MCC 10:56 AM 02-20-2014
Ugh... new family, started last Monday, the 1 yo little girl was NOT adjusting, at. all. She was crying from drop off to pick up every day. This is the mom that wanted me to dreamfeed the 1 yo.
Today is her first birthday, DCM wanted to bring in cupcakes, I told her it has to be after PM nap, at 4pm. This is the only way I allow parents to attend a birthday celebration, and then they must leave with their child. DCM wanted to come at 10:30, I said no, so she termed....
There were a couple of other policies she was challenging, so I was most likely going to term at the end of Trial period (tomorrow), but she saved me the trouble.
I am so relieved, this little girl was just not doing well here, and everyone was suffering from it.
Mom has asked if I have advice on where to send DCG now, what should I tell her?
Today is her first birthday, DCM wanted to bring in cupcakes, I told her it has to be after PM nap, at 4pm. This is the only way I allow parents to attend a birthday celebration, and then they must leave with their child. DCM wanted to come at 10:30, I said no, so she termed....
There were a couple of other policies she was challenging, so I was most likely going to term at the end of Trial period (tomorrow), but she saved me the trouble.
I am so relieved, this little girl was just not doing well here, and everyone was suffering from it.
Mom has asked if I have advice on where to send DCG now, what should I tell her?
daycare 10:58 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by MCC:
Ugh... new family, started last Monday, the 1 yo little girl was NOT adjusting, at. all. She was crying from drop off to pick up every day. This is the mom that wanted me to dreamfeed the 1 yo.
Today is her first birthday, DCM wanted to bring in cupcakes, I told her it has to be after PM nap, at 4pm. This is the only way I allow parents to attend a birthday celebration, and then they must leave with their child. DCM wanted to come at 10:30, I said no, so she termed....
There were a couple of other policies she was challenging, so I was most likely going to term at the end of Trial period (tomorrow), but she saved me the trouble.
I am so relieved, this little girl was just not doing well here, and everyone was suffering from it.
Mom has asked if I have advice on where to send DCG now, what should I tell her?
tell her where to go................lmao jkUgh... new family, started last Monday, the 1 yo little girl was NOT adjusting, at. all. She was crying from drop off to pick up every day. This is the mom that wanted me to dreamfeed the 1 yo.
Today is her first birthday, DCM wanted to bring in cupcakes, I told her it has to be after PM nap, at 4pm. This is the only way I allow parents to attend a birthday celebration, and then they must leave with their child. DCM wanted to come at 10:30, I said no, so she termed....
There were a couple of other policies she was challenging, so I was most likely going to term at the end of Trial period (tomorrow), but she saved me the trouble.
I am so relieved, this little girl was just not doing well here, and everyone was suffering from it.
Mom has asked if I have advice on where to send DCG now, what should I tell her?
give her the number to your R and R
Rockgirl 10:59 AM 02-20-2014
Cupcakes at 10:30? No way! I missed your other post....what is dreamfeeding? Or was that an autocorrect? 
ihop 10:59 AM 02-20-2014
Wow good riddance! If she's that crazy after a week.... oh just imagine!
I personally would not give her a referral, its not fair to who gets her next. I'd recommend a nanny as the child isn't adjusting to group care. Or a center where someone is more likely to put up with her drama.
I personally would not give her a referral, its not fair to who gets her next. I'd recommend a nanny as the child isn't adjusting to group care. Or a center where someone is more likely to put up with her drama.
ihop 11:00 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by when is naptime?:
Cupcakes at 10:30? No way! I missed your other post....what is dreamfeeding? Or was that an autocorrect?
The child wasn't taking a bottle so the mom wanted her to slip it in her mouth while the baby slept so she would eat during the day.Cupcakes at 10:30? No way! I missed your other post....what is dreamfeeding? Or was that an autocorrect?
hope 11:01 AM 02-20-2014
She termed and then asked for your advice for another provider???? I would tell her that all providers will have a set of rules to follow and seems to like her own set of rules. Suggest a nanny.
daycare 11:02 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by ihop:
The child wasn't taking a bottle so the mom wanted her to slip it in her mouth while the baby slept so she would eat during the day.
hollly molly no way.........................that sounds very dangerous.The child wasn't taking a bottle so the mom wanted her to slip it in her mouth while the baby slept so she would eat during the day.
Good thing for you she left.....
I would just give the resource and referral # and leave it at that. You don't owe her anything.
butterfly 11:03 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
hollly molly no way.........................that sounds very dangerous.
Good thing for you she left.....
I would just give the resource and referral # and leave it at that. You don't owe her anything.
hollly molly no way.........................that sounds very dangerous.
Good thing for you she left.....
I would just give the resource and referral # and leave it at that. You don't owe her anything.
MCC 11:12 AM 02-20-2014
You are all right, I don't owe her anything.
Unfortunately, this lady lives in my neighborhood, (it's a big neighborhood, but still....) so hopefully things will be smooth if we ever run into each other.
There is another DCP on my street, I have never talked to her and I'm not sure she knows I am down the road, but I feel like maybe I should warn her, but don't want to start drama.
Unfortunately, this lady lives in my neighborhood, (it's a big neighborhood, but still....) so hopefully things will be smooth if we ever run into each other.
There is another DCP on my street, I have never talked to her and I'm not sure she knows I am down the road, but I feel like maybe I should warn her, but don't want to start drama.
nannyde 11:13 AM 02-20-2014
She wanted to come hang out. It wasn't about cupcakes.
Sometimes you run into parents who don't want a no. They don't do well with rules or authority. She needs to hire an employee who comes from a place of yes.
Sometimes you run into parents who don't want a no. They don't do well with rules or authority. She needs to hire an employee who comes from a place of yes.
melilley 11:16 AM 02-20-2014
Buh Bye! Unbelievable! Cupcakes at 10:30...nice. 
What a dumb thing for them to term for!
Well at least you don't have to term!
What a dumb thing for them to term for!Well at least you don't have to term!
coolconfidentme 11:16 AM 02-20-2014
Tell her to call 1-800-477-2937..., it's the Dial-A-Prayer Hotline. 
llpa 11:18 AM 02-20-2014
The dreamfeeding post blew my mind and now this? parents never cease to amaze me! I can see wanting to be part of the first bday celebration, but sometimes it seems like new parents have to take a stand against their provider to establish themselves when its a partnership and you would think they would want to get along and realize that we have "rules" for a reason and that we might actually know what works best in our group! If you need individualized care... Hire a nanny! Ok phew! Pollyanna rant over
parents never cease to amaze me! I can see wanting to be part of the first bday celebration, but sometimes it seems like new parents have to take a stand against their provider to establish themselves when its a partnership and you would think they would want to get along and realize that we have "rules" for a reason and that we might actually know what works best in our group! If you need individualized care... Hire a nanny! Ok phew! Pollyanna rant over
Crazy8 11:24 AM 02-20-2014
sounds like you are much better off!!!! If she wanted to be a part of her child's first birthday maybe she should have taken the day off to spend it with her. Good for you for sticking by your policies!
I wouldn't hesitate to tell this mom that maybe group care isn't for her and that she should hire a nanny!
I wouldn't hesitate to tell this mom that maybe group care isn't for her and that she should hire a nanny!
MCC 11:26 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by coolconfidentme:
Tell her to call 1-800-477-2937..., it's the Dial-A-Prayer Hotline.
Tell her to call 1-800-477-2937..., it's the Dial-A-Prayer Hotline.
MCC 11:28 AM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by llpa:
The dreamfeeding post blew my mind and now this? parents never cease to amaze me! I can see wanting to be part of the first bday celebration, but sometimes it seems like new parents have to take a stand against their provider to establish themselves when its a partnership and you would think they would want to get along and realize that we have "rules" for a reason and that we might actually know what works best in our group! If you need individualized care... Hire a nanny! Ok phew! Pollyanna rant over
I think this is exactly what she is doing, it's like she is trying to prove to me that she is the mom. Lady- I get that, but I am the one who has 7 other children here during the day. I know what I have to do to make my day run smoothly, and you coming in at 10:30am with cupcakes, doesn't work for me.The dreamfeeding post blew my mind and now this?
parents never cease to amaze me! I can see wanting to be part of the first bday celebration, but sometimes it seems like new parents have to take a stand against their provider to establish themselves when its a partnership and you would think they would want to get along and realize that we have "rules" for a reason and that we might actually know what works best in our group! If you need individualized care... Hire a nanny! Ok phew! Pollyanna rant over
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:33 AM 02-20-2014
Time to hire a nanny.
TwinKristi 12:31 PM 02-20-2014
I would tell her that her needs are that of someone who doesn't mesh well with group care and she needs to find a nanny who will cater to her needs. WE, as providers, know that some children are going to be a certain way regardless of where they are. This little baby is going to now go to another provider who will have to deal with her drama and bend over backwards to please her and just may do it. Good luck to her if she does because that mom will be all over it. If the other neighbor provider isn't someone you would normally talk to I wouldn't warn her. BUT he careful that DCM doesn't go talking trash about you!
Play Care 12:37 PM 02-20-2014
I have also been in the situation where it's a neighbor, plus, my town is very small... I would give her the number to you R&R Agency and wish her well. You don't need to be the one to "educate" her.
Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dance
Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dance
julie 01:28 PM 02-20-2014
R&R is probably the best course of action.
I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply
"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."
I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply
"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."
spud912 01:34 PM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by Play Care:
I have also been in the situation where it's a neighbor, plus, my town is very small... I would give her the number to you R&R Agency and wish her well. You don't need to be the one to "educate" her.
Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dance
I have also been in the situation where it's a neighbor, plus, my town is very small... I would give her the number to you R&R Agency and wish her well. You don't need to be the one to "educate" her.
Then thank your lucky stars while doing the happy dance
MCC 01:59 PM 02-20-2014
Originally Posted by julie:
R&R is probably the best course of action.
I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply
"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."
R&R is probably the best course of action.
I would be tempted to look at her sideways and reply
"Dcm, I am confused as to why you are asking me this. Essentially you are leaving because your child is not a good fit for my program and you are upset you didn't get your way. The providers I associate with align closely to my beliefs. I would only send along potential families that I feel would be a success at the other daycare and would therefore respect my provider friends' policies and procedures. Setting you or them up in a situation that is destined to fail sounds like a really bad idea on both a professional or personal level. I am sure you can understand that. I wish you the best."
This is very good.
Kabob 02:29 PM 02-20-2014
I would be glad she left.
Honestly I don't know why her unwillingness to host her child's birthday at her home was supposed to be your problem. If her child was that important to her then she would just have celebrated at home or taken the day off and celebrated there. You are not her captive audience to her relieving her guilt.
Honestly I don't know why her unwillingness to host her child's birthday at her home was supposed to be your problem. If her child was that important to her then she would just have celebrated at home or taken the day off and celebrated there. You are not her captive audience to her relieving her guilt.
BBDC 05:13 PM 02-20-2014
I say good job staying with your rules! I would have probably given in so really good for you!