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Childminder 12:45 PM 10-06-2013
1:56 am to be exact, I get a text from someone that got my info from care.com needing childcare for two boys. Wants me to email her back ASAP with all of my details "so we can take things from there".

I'm so flabbergasted I haven't responded, don't know as I will. Early in the morning, on a Sunday, text instead of a phone call, etc...

Thought it was one of my kids having an emergency.
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Sugar Magnolia 01:06 PM 10-06-2013
Call me crazy, but I think I would have called her immediately. Yep, at 157 and said "Exactly who on earth do you think you are? Why are you texting me in the middle of the night? Whatever you want, the answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT."

Unbelievable!
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Unregistered 01:11 PM 10-06-2013
I have Verizon. Sometimes, I'll send a text, the person won't get it when I sent, and they'll get it several hours later instead. Maybe she actually sent it earlier and it was delayed. I'd call her back and find out before dismissing her.
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Lucy 02:12 PM 10-06-2013
Originally Posted by Sugar Magnolia:
Call me crazy, but I think I would have called her immediately. Yep, at 157 and said "Exactly who on earth do you think you are? Why are you texting me in the middle of the night? Whatever you want, the answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT."

Unbelievable!
OR --- text her at about 6:30 am. Obviously she's a nite owl and probably goes to bed about 3am. I'm sure she'd LOVE to be woken up just a few hours later!
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LaLa1923 02:21 PM 10-06-2013
Originally Posted by Childminder:
1:56 am to be exact, I get a text from someone that got my info from care.com needing childcare for two boys. Wants me to email her back ASAP with all of my details "so we can take things from there".

I'm so flabbergasted I haven't responded, don't know as I will. Early in the morning, on a Sunday, text instead of a phone call, etc...

Thought it was one of my kids having an emergency.
Personally, I'd be happy my ad was successful at reaching the people I want to reach.

I would've answered when I got up on Sunday.

I've gotten late night emails before from care.com, I'm always happy to get them.

She could be working nights....
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Starburst 02:28 PM 10-06-2013
She may have just sent a text because she figured you were asleep and would read it when you wake up (my phone is always on vibrate) and since she seems to be in a rush she may be afraid you don't check your e-mails on weekends. I see texts more as a way to see if someone is busy before I call them. I don't think a text is that big of a deal, if it were an actual phone call at that time of night then I would be mad.

Though since she isn't an actual daycare parent, I would find that unprofessional that the first thing she does is text, at that time of night an E-mail would have made more sense and is more formal (i.e. grown up). In the future, I would put a side note on the care.com add to not text but to either call (and put your phone on "Do not disturb" mode at night) or to e-mail you. Just put "You can contact me by e-mail at *******@mail.com or call me at ###-#####. Please no texts, calls only"
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Unregistered 02:33 PM 10-06-2013
I dont care for this kind of clients, that wont text during business hours...
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Former Teacher 03:21 PM 10-06-2013
Originally Posted by Sugar Magnolia:
Call me crazy, but I think I would have called her immediately. Yep, at 157 and said "Exactly who on earth do you think you are? Why are you texting me in the middle of the night? Whatever you want, the answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT."

Unbelievable!
I TOTALLY agree. I would have done the same thing!

Originally Posted by Unregistered:
I have Verizon. Sometimes, I'll send a text, the person won't get it when I sent, and they'll get it several hours later instead. Maybe she actually sent it earlier and it was delayed. I'd call her back and find out before dismissing her.
It sometimes happens to me as well-I have AT&T. However it will still show the time that the text was originally sent. So even if I don't get a text until 5:11 am- it will show that it was sent at 8:42 p.m. the day before
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Leigh 03:41 PM 10-06-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
I have Verizon. Sometimes, I'll send a text, the person won't get it when I sent, and they'll get it several hours later instead. Maybe she actually sent it earlier and it was delayed. I'd call her back and find out before dismissing her.

Same thing happens to me. My husband's phone went crazy beeping one night, and he received several texts at once that I had sent over the past few days. I wouldn't have thought of this myself, but it does happen to texts I send quite often.
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Unregistered 06:29 PM 10-06-2013
Originally Posted by Former Teacher:
I TOTALLY agree. I would have done the same thing!



It sometimes happens to me as well-I have AT&T. However it will still show the time that the text was originally sent. So even if I don't get a text until 5:11 am- it will show that it was sent at 8:42 p.m. the day before
I wish! Verizon, mine shows as if it were "just sent". It's very irritating, to say the least. I've lost some important messages because I can ONLY text at work, not call, and people get mad when I KNOW I text them back and can prove on my side what time, but on their side, it shows something else.
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MCC 06:46 PM 10-06-2013
I just want to warn you that I get those text from people saying they got my info on care.com as well. They are always "urgently in need of care" and always will ask for your resume, address, phone, and references right away. I do not even have my cell phone number associated with care.com, so I know it is a scam.

I would be careful with how you respond to these, and just make sure they are legit. I usually say "Please contact me through care.com, and I will happily discuss care options with you."
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Nebula 07:55 PM 10-06-2013
Scam!
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Lyss 08:14 PM 10-06-2013
I'd be angry too. Its incredibly rude IMO. I don't think I need to keep my phone on silent or in bedside just so my DCPs or prospective DCPs can text whenever they feel like it, I'm not at their beck and call. That's what email it for.

I have ATT too and it shows when it was originally sent, not received. Even if sent from a Verizon texter but I guess Verizon doesn't work that way.

I think scammer or a rude person (AKA a DCP I don't want) Either way I wouldn't respond.
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MsLaura529 03:56 AM 10-07-2013
That stinks ... however, I'm going on the side of she sent the text earlier and it didn't come through until now. I also have AT&T, and it never shows me the actual time it was sent ... shows up as just now...
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Shell 04:43 AM 10-07-2013
Originally Posted by Nebula:
Scam!
There are so many scams out there, you can't be too careful. Based on the timeline, it could be a person from another country, too. My friend was sent a similar message, and turned out to be a scammer in another part of the world sending out mass messages to daycare providers!
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momofboys 05:03 AM 10-07-2013
I have received texts from people late or very early (DCPs) & realized at one point my signal was having issues so they may not have sent them that late. I know when I send picture texts sometimes the texts send within a min & sometimes they take 10-15 min. There are lots of reasons why you could have been sent the text so late. I have an AT & T phone but my carrier is not AT & T - I don't see the actual time the sender sent the msg, only the time I receive it.
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LK5kids 05:50 AM 10-07-2013
Holy early morning text batman....that is crazy!
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Former Teacher 05:53 AM 10-07-2013
I think I need to be more clearer lol

When I get a text before I even open it, it will say the current time. However when I go to read the text it will say the time that the text was sent
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Crazy8 06:12 AM 10-07-2013
it may depend on the phone, not just the carrier, we all have iphones but my DD's will delay texts much more often than ours. It does end up showing the "real" time it was sent.

But regardless, I would believe this text was probably sent late at night when she was browsing the internet. A text is VERY different than an email and I would be pissed if my phone, which I keep right by my bed for emergencies, went off at 2am from a prospective client. I've gotten 6am phone calls from people at times and my answer at that time of morning is "I'm full" whether I am or not. I am not a center, this is a small home daycare and if you think I am available at midnight, 2am or 6am I am not the provider for you.
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Childminder 07:32 AM 10-07-2013
My phone shows the time text was sent, she left an email address that I did respond to Sunday afternoon, she has not replied, I keep my phone on for emergencies and I didn't want to reply at 2am I wanted to sleep.

Her area code was from VA, I'm in MI so unless care.com sends texts at 2am OR she just moved here it was a crap call.

Anyway, I am grumpy when I get awakened early. and she hasn't called back.
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Blackcat31 07:38 AM 10-07-2013
Originally Posted by Childminder:
My phone shows the time text was sent, she left an email address that I did respond to Sunday afternoon, she has not replied, I keep my phone on for emergencies and I didn't want to reply at 2am I wanted to sleep.

Her area code was from VA, I'm in MI so unless care.com sends texts at 2am OR she just moved here it was a crap call.

Anyway, I am grumpy when I get awakened early. and she hasn't called back.
Sorry she woke you.... it was incredibly rude.

On a side note, I NEVER give my cell number to anyone until they are enrolled parents.

Anyone wanting to contact me regarding care/services goes through e-mail or my landline at daycare.

My cell is for CURRENT clients only.
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williams2008 08:49 AM 10-07-2013
Originally Posted by Sugar Magnolia:
Call me crazy, but I think I would have called her immediately. Yep, at 157 and said "Exactly who on earth do you think you are? Why are you texting me in the middle of the night? Whatever you want, the answer is ABSOLUTELY NOT."

Unbelievable!

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Soccermom 09:04 AM 10-07-2013
She likely didn't think you would hear it in the middle of the night and assumed you would respond the next day as soon as you turned your phone on.

She may be really desperate for childcare as her previous provider may have left her without care on short notice.

I wouldn't dismiss her just based on that. I would meet her and her children first before making any decisions, especially if you need to fill your spots.
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melilley 11:12 AM 10-07-2013
It probably was a scam and like pp's said, do you even have your number for the public to see on Care.com?
I have an ad on CL and I get emails all the time saying that people need care for a week and can they use my house and they need a housekeeper/nanny, stuff like that when my ad says exactly what age I can take in and for full time only. And wouldn't you know, whenever I email them back, no response is ever given. Absurd.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 12:17 PM 10-07-2013
Holy moly!
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Childminder 06:38 PM 10-07-2013
Okay ppl, this is the response I got back, WHAT do you think?

Hi Dear,
Am glad you wrote back so sorry it took me so long to get back to you been having internet problems, Am not sure how best to go about this nanny choosing, as you should understand that a child is not what you just leave in the care of anyone as there has to be trust and love as very good parent would give to a child. Will be nice to have a personally interview so as to create a concrete ground with the hope of all best expectations. I did lose my mom about a two weeks ago and only had her funeral some days back here in England and we should be back in states in a week from now, hence, we have been for a look out for a nanny even before the death of mom. It will be nice if we find one before we get back home and it happens to be you then we would be the happiest people as myself and my husband will be so occupied by work in the coming week and we just seek to have the best person to look over our child. We can kindly get on with all formal interview before we arrive back States.Thank you so much and i do hope for a better communication and look forward to having you as best of family and friends.
I have listed some questions from for you below as i was advised by the nanny site that these questions should be the basis for for us to make a choice of a good baby sitter.
Our kids means everything to us and we would do all withing our best of efforts to give them the best of things in life.
I hope the questions are not so breath taking , we are only trying to act as we have been directed by the nanny site so we can know we are having someone with enormous experience when it comes to baby sitting.
Questions are listed below:
Do you smoke?
How well do you like pets ?Any allergies?
Do you drink alcohol?
Do you speak any languages other than English?
Would you work in a position with a mom how far? how long?
What are your education goals?
Have you ever been treated for mental illness/depression?
How many children do you feel comfortable caring for?
What ages do you prefer?
Are you CPR and first aid certified?
What are your weaknesses/limitations?
What are your strengths?
What do you like to do your free time?
How many people are in your family?
What is your relationship like with your parents and siblings?
What jobs have you had in the past?
Have you been a past nanny ?where do you get a job?
Are you interested in taking classes?
How assertive are you?Do you feel you communication?
How much do you charge and what hours are you available?
I hope to get your response back soon enough so we can get on with this.

Thank you and stay blessed lastly kindly send at least one of your reference (s) so we can contact them and know more about you.

Write soon!
Eileen Kruse
eileen.kruse@aol.com
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Hunni Bee 06:50 PM 10-07-2013
Originally Posted by Childminder:
Okay ppl, this is the response I got back, WHAT do you think?

Hi Dear,
Am glad you wrote back so sorry it took me so long to get back to you been having internet problems, Am not sure how best to go about this nanny choosing, as you should understand that a child is not what you just leave in the care of anyone as there has to be trust and love as very good parent would give to a child. Will be nice to have a personally interview so as to create a concrete ground with the hope of all best expectations. I did lose my mom about a two weeks ago and only had her funeral some days back here in England and we should be back in states in a week from now, hence, we have been for a look out for a nanny even before the death of mom. It will be nice if we find one before we get back home and it happens to be you then we would be the happiest people as myself and my husband will be so occupied by work in the coming week and we just seek to have the best person to look over our child. We can kindly get on with all formal interview before we arrive back States.Thank you so much and i do hope for a better communication and look forward to having you as best of family and friends.
I have listed some questions from for you below as i was advised by the nanny site that these questions should be the basis for for us to make a choice of a good baby sitter.
Our kids means everything to us and we would do all withing our best of efforts to give them the best of things in life.
I hope the questions are not so breath taking , we are only trying to act as we have been directed by the nanny site so we can know we are having someone with enormous experience when it comes to baby sitting.
Questions are listed below:
Do you smoke?
How well do you like pets ?Any allergies?
Do you drink alcohol?
Do you speak any languages other than English?
Would you work in a position with a mom how far? how long?
What are your education goals?
Have you ever been treated for mental illness/depression?
How many children do you feel comfortable caring for?
What ages do you prefer?
Are you CPR and first aid certified?
What are your weaknesses/limitations?
What are your strengths?
What do you like to do your free time?
How many people are in your family?
What is your relationship like with your parents and siblings?
What jobs have you had in the past?
Have you been a past nanny ?where do you get a job?
Are you interested in taking classes?
How assertive are you?Do you feel you communication?
How much do you charge and what hours are you available?
I hope to get your response back soon enough so we can get on with this.

Thank you and stay blessed lastly kindly send at least one of your reference (s) so we can contact them and know more about you.

Write soon!
Eileen Kruse
eileen.kruse@aol.com
Scam, scam, scam!!! Anytime you see overblown, antiquated language, lots of requests to tell them ridiculous amounts of information about yourself, and needing to arrive from another state/country, its a scam.

I got this same kind of crap when I was looking for an apartment.

I wish they would leave people alone.
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SilverSabre25 08:52 PM 10-07-2013
oh yeah i'd say total scam.
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TheGoodLife 09:05 PM 10-07-2013
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
oh yeah i'd say total scam.
I get these sometimes- I never respond but I'm just curious what they can get from a provider? It's not like they are going to try to do the "wire money here and I'll pay it back" scheme. I've always been curious as to what they can get from these fake responses.
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Lil'DinoEggs 10:03 PM 10-07-2013
Scam. As soon as I saw "England" I would have been done. I would still say a note saying something like, I understand you dilemma, but I prefer sit down interviews.
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Unregistered 05:31 AM 10-08-2013
Scam! And if you were to actually respond with honest answers to 'her' questions, she/they would have a heck of a lot of info on you.
Pretty scary.
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kelsey's kids 06:57 AM 10-08-2013
Originally Posted by Childminder:396609:
Okay ppl, this is the response I got back, WHAT do you think?

Hi Dear,
Am glad you wrote back so sorry it took me so long to get back to you been having internet problems, Am not sure how best to go about this nanny choosing, as you should understand that a child is not what you just leave in the care of anyone as there has to be trust and love as very good parent would give to a child. Will be nice to have a personally interview so as to create a concrete ground with the hope of all best expectations. I did lose my mom about a two weeks ago and only had her funeral some days back here in England and we should be back in states in a week from now, hence, we have been for a look out for a nanny even before the death of mom. It will be nice if we find one before we get back home and it happens to be you then we would be the happiest people as myself and my husband will be so occupied by work in the coming week and we just seek to have the best person to look over our child. We can kindly get on with all formal interview before we arrive back States.Thank you so much and i do hope for a better communication and look forward to having you as best of family and friends.
I have listed some questions from for you below as i was advised by the nanny site that these questions should be the basis for for us to make a choice of a good baby sitter.
Our kids means everything to us and we would do all withing our best of efforts to give them the best of things in life.
I hope the questions are not so breath taking , we are only trying to act as we have been directed by the nanny site so we can know we are having someone with enormous experience when it comes to baby sitting.
Questions are listed below:
Do you smoke?
How well do you like pets ?Any allergies?
Do you drink alcohol?
Do you speak any languages other than English?
Would you work in a position with a mom how far? how long?
What are your education goals?
Have you ever been treated for mental illness/depression?
How many children do you feel comfortable caring for?
What ages do you prefer?
Are you CPR and first aid certified?
What are your weaknesses/limitations?
What are your strengths?
What do you like to do your free time?
How many people are in your family?
What is your relationship like with your parents and siblings?
What jobs have you had in the past?
Have you been a past nanny ?where do you get a job?
Are you interested in taking classes?
How assertive are you?Do you feel you communication?
How much do you charge and what hours are you available?
I hope to get your response back soon enough so we can get on with this.

Thank you and stay blessed lastly kindly send at least one of your reference (s) so we can contact them and know more about you.

Write soon!
Eileen Kruse
eileen.kruse@aol.com
This is spam I have recieved this exact email word for word twice.
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