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No 52 69.33%
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littlemissmuffet 05:42 AM 02-27-2013
Would/could you, as a parent, send your own child to daycare on their birthday if you were home, not working (assuming your family celebrates birthdays)?
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snbauser 05:43 AM 02-27-2013
No but it amazes me how many parents do. Usually with the "little johnny wanted to celebrate with his friends at school." And then they are left here until 5:00. I want to say okay, we usually celebrate birthdays around 10am so if you want to pick him up afterwards. But I know that they wouldn't. Why not pick him up and take him out to a special lunch or something?
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Springdaze 05:48 AM 02-27-2013
I probably wouldnt if I was off, but why would I be off? Unless maybe they wanted to get ready for a party and figure the kid doesnt know its their birthday. its not an excuse, but some parents dont know what to do with their kids or maybe they dont get a chance to be alone, just like we dont. I cant say that they are bad parents because of it.
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SilverSabre25 05:56 AM 02-27-2013
depends. I can see my older (3/4/5 etc) child wanting to celebrate with their daycare friends or get whatever special treatment the daycare does for birthday kids. I would send them for part of the day then, because it's their choice
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MyAngels 06:05 AM 02-27-2013
Back in the day (eons ago ) I always took my kids' birthdays off so we could do something special. Their daycares at the time celebrated all birthdays in the month on one day, though, so they wouldn't have missed out by not going to care that day.
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crunchymama 06:05 AM 02-27-2013
I'd keep them home, but in my 7 years of doing childcare I have yet to have 1 parent keep their kid home on their birthday. Tomorrow is my own DD's birthday and this is the first year that I am NOT taking the day off just to be with her and now I'm regretting that decision.
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Jewels 06:17 AM 02-27-2013
I replied wrong, I thought it just said would you send your child on their birthday, I missed the part that said if you were home, so I answered Yes, but that would definitely be a NO if I was home, If I were working yes I would.
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Unregistered 06:18 AM 02-27-2013
Honestly it would depend. We have birthday parties on the weekend so if my child's birthday fell on say a Friday, I might take the day off with the purpose of cleaning, organizing and doing any last minute shopping or baking. I would probably send them to day care/ school because I highly doubt a day of hanging around watching/helping me would be as much fun. Typically on my child birthday we allow them to chose their breakfast - be it pizza or an ice cream sundae and then it's back to "normal" until the evening when relatives come over or they are having their friend party.
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itlw8 06:27 AM 02-27-2013
I would not keep them home . When they got to school would they still tak the day off ? can't see the teacher liking that.

Most kids want to be with their friends and do the fun stuff at school instead of helping mom clan up and get ready for a birthday dinner. Everyone has different traditions. Some adults take their birthday off work and I bet thos might keep their child out of school.

Our tradition is a special birthday breakfast and then we go out for dinner or fix their favorite meal for the birthday.
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youretooloud 06:31 AM 02-27-2013
Not if I were already home...but, if I were working, yes i'd send them.
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TheGoodLife 06:33 AM 02-27-2013
I have a 3 yr, 2 yr, and 7 month old. I have always taken off their birthdays when I was teaching, and continue to use a day off when doing DC. Luckily this year 2 of them fell on the weekend!
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littlemissmuffet 06:49 AM 02-27-2013
I would never in a billion years send my child to daycare on their birthday if I was home... DOING NOTHING.
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Scout 07:01 AM 02-27-2013
F NO!! Who would do such a thing? People amaze me in good and bad ways. That is pitiful for a child! I may not have given my son a 2 or 3 party but, we sure as heck spent the day together and had cake!!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 07:02 AM 02-27-2013
No, I would not. But, every single client of mine does for a 9 hour day here.

I recently had a stay-at-home parent sadly send her child here and make a Facebook status about how sad she was that she wasn't with her child on their birthday for the first time.
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jessrlee 07:06 AM 02-27-2013
I want a re-vote! Yes, I would and have sent my child to daycare on their birthday while I worked. No, I would never send them if I had the day off.
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Country Kids 07:10 AM 02-27-2013
I think its about $ and Cents. If the parent is paying they want to make sure they get their moneys worth.

It wasn't the childs bday but I had a parent take a personal day and say they were still going to send the child since I charged whether they were here or not. They ended up keeping the child home but later almost brought because they couldn't get anything (outside work) done because of the child.

I felt for the parent though because I know how difficult this child is. I actually myself have thought of taking a day off in the middle of the week so that I have my own kids gone, no dck's and do some MAJOR CLEANING for those 7-11 hours that I would have childcare.
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williams2008 07:25 AM 02-27-2013
No, I wouldn't, but all of my dcps does.I agree with Country Kids the parents feel that since they have to pay anyway, they are going to get their moneys worth. I have heard that so many times from the parents I have.
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Blackcat31 07:40 AM 02-27-2013
All my parents pay weekly regardless of attendance. All my parents seem to schedule their child's birthdays off and stay home with them.

I am lucky enough that I have DCP's that seem to value the time with their child more than they value the money they are paying for child care.
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EchoMom 07:43 AM 02-27-2013
I don't see a problem with sending them. Daycare at my house is more fun and social than being at home and so it makes sense they want to come and be with their friends even if it's on their birthday.

But your question has a twist in it for me. If I were home, I'd want to be with them no matter what day it was! So birthday or not, I'd be spending the day with my child.
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Cat Herder 07:53 AM 02-27-2013
I answered NO because I never did as a parent.

I have lost count of the number of kids who have spent 10-12 hours with me on their birthdays. Even their very first one. Many all 5 of them (before going off to school).

Granted, some parents/grandparents were at work. Others who did take off had rational arguments for doing so.

The typical reasons were "I have to clean the house" , "He/She will not know the difference" or "I have to shop for gifts and party supplies". The worst was "he does not deserve it" after said 3yo found and opened a couple gifts prior to drop-off. Age appropriate behavior.
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jessrlee 07:56 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
I answered NO because I never did as a parent.

I have lost count of the number of kids who have spent 10-12 hours with me on their birthdays. Even their very first one. Many all 5 of them (before going off to school).

Granted, some parents/grandparents were at work. Others who did take off had rational arguments for doing so.

The typical reasons were "I have to clean the house" , "He/She will not know the difference" or "I have to shop for gifts and party supplies". The worst was "he does not deserve it" after said 3yo found and opened a couple gifts prior to drop-off. Age appropriate behavior.
This made me so sad. I hate all of the holidays and special things I have missed due to work!
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Cat Herder 08:02 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by jessrlee:
This made me so sad. I hate all of the holidays and special things I have missed due to work!
Yeah, but you do have to know that making ANY day special is more important.

"Just Because Tuesdays" are the very best days, anyway.

I think the bigger "birthday" issue is more about having the opportunity to make a kid feel special and blowing it off/rationalizing it away than it is about not having the opportunity...

You can make other, more memorable opportunities with a little creativity....
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Country Kids 08:03 AM 02-27-2013
I voted other for the reasons below:

If I was home (original question), I would definetly.

If I worked I might take the day off but I'm not sure. I think if I took off for a couple of my own children but not the others there would be hurt feelings. I'm thinking if some feel during the week but others on a weekend. That happened this year actually. So I might spend the day with one of them and the others wouldn't get that special one on one time.

Then I'm not sure if I would take the day off and take them out of school on their birthdays. I have heard/read studies though where kids where asked about special times in their school lifes and most answers were: the parties/field trips and when parents took kids out for special day with them. They remembered going shopping/skiing/to the park/etc. with parents but not things at school. The studies were saying its ok to take a day here or there for your kids to be out of school because they will remember that much longer then what they did in school that day.
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ABCDaycareMN 08:09 AM 02-27-2013
I value all time I get with my kids. I have pulled my son out of school on his birthday and my husband took the day off of work and we do something fun. Last year we went to the casino pool and stayed the the hotel.
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lovemykidstoo 08:09 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Jewels:
I replied wrong, I thought it just said would you send your child on their birthday, I missed the part that said if you were home, so I answered Yes, but that would definitely be a NO if I was home, If I were working yes I would.
Same here. I voted before I read the first post, so my answer really is no I would not if I was at home.
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littlemissmuffet 08:14 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Country Kids:
I voted other for the reasons below:

If I was home (original question), I would definetly.

If I worked I might take the day off but I'm not sure. I think if I took off for a couple of my own children but not the others there would be hurt feelings. I'm thinking if some feel during the week but others on a weekend. That happened this year actually. So I might spend the day with one of them and the others wouldn't get that special one on one time.

Then I'm not sure if I would take the day off and take them out of school on their birthdays. I have heard/read studies though where kids where asked about special times in their school lifes and most answers were: the parties/field trips and when parents took kids out for special day with them. They remembered going shopping/skiing/to the park/etc. with parents but not things at school. The studies were saying its ok to take a day here or there for your kids to be out of school because they will remember that much longer then what they did in school that day.
This is so true. I still remember the occasional days that my mom and/or dad kept me home from school and having a special day in or out!!
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daycare123 08:16 AM 02-27-2013
If I was out in the world at a different job and my kids birthday fell on a day I didn't work no way would I send them to daycare. kinda like if I had a day off during the week I wouldn't send them just to get my moneys worth. I greatly value my time with my child.
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jessrlee 08:19 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
Yeah, but you do have to know that making ANY day special is more important.

"Just Because Tuesdays" are the very best days, anyway.

I think the bigger "birthday" issue is more about having the opportunity to make a kid feel special and blowing it off/rationalizing it away than it is about not having the opportunity...

You can make other, more memorable opportunities with a little creativity....
Oh I know. Dd is 12 and we have a really awesome relationship. I still regret the thanksgivins, Christmas eves, and mothers days I missed when she was little. She never had to go to dc. We worked it so she went with family, but I still get really sentimental when I realize that she is big now .
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countrymom 08:40 AM 02-27-2013
I think the problem is that many just don't care anymore. Its easier to send them to someones house and make someone else celebrate their birthday then to spend the day with them at home. Its sad that people use excuses like "i have to clean the house or go to the grocery store" because i do this with all the kids. Oh yesterday ds and i were discussing his birthday (its not till july and he will be 11) and he was asking if i could take him to red lobster for his birthday
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jessrlee 08:46 AM 02-27-2013
Red lobster sounds like an awesome birthday!
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daycarediva 09:24 AM 02-27-2013
When I worked and my kids were in daycare, I took vacation days & did something fun with JUST them. I cherish these memories, and although my oldest daughter doesn't remember her very first McDonalds happy meal on her second birthday, she has the pictures and knows I care. The following year I had it scheduled off, and she wanted to go to daycare! I was DEVASTATED! I called and spoke to them, she told me that I could come in, bring cupcakes and stay for a mini celebration, then take her home/out for her birthday. Even if I couldn't have stayed, I would have come back after the 'party' was over. (Which I did for her 4th+ birthday). Those times FLEW by. This year she turned 13, and was off from school and went to the mall with friends to spend birthday money. (wah!)

I have done this since doing daycare as well. My oldest three kids are all born in the same month, and we pick a day in between/on a Friday dh & I take off and spend it together.

My youngest was born in a different month, and I am off for his birthday every year as well. It happens to be a Friday this year (YAY).

So to answer the poll. HECK NO would I send my child to daycare on their birthday when I wasn't working. I never sent my kids to daycare if I WASNT WORKING, PERIOD.
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itlw8 09:30 AM 02-27-2013
You know I think part of it is I think of my program as a preschool and so do the parents . When a child misses a day they miss something w are doing. So yes my kids all come if theey can when parents are off work.

If the parents thought of me as just childcare then that would be different. They would not miss much.

I guess because I market myself as a preschool/childcare they do think of this as school.
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DaisyMamma 09:45 AM 02-27-2013
Never. Ever.
I hire a sub for my kids birthdays and take them out somewhere special.

I'm sorry to come across like a jerk but this really irkes me to the core. It is ONLY one day a year, there is plenty of time to plan for it, as it is the same day every year!
It truly makes me sick.

I had a mom take off the day before her kids birthday but not the day of because she had stuff SHE needed to do. He was here both days.
I had another mom send her kid on his first birthday.
I use to babysit for a family 2nd shift. I got a 5 year old off the bus and put her to bed on her birthday. That is just WRONG!
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wdmmom 09:52 AM 02-27-2013
I voted other. My reason being is this: 1st birthday is a milestone. But 2, 3, 4, 5 really isn't too big of a deal. I was employed in work that just didn't allow for absences. And if I took all my kids birthdays off, I'd be off a day in November, December, January, February and August. It's just too many days to take off.

I don't allow my kids to take their birthdays off of school so I don't see why they would miss daycare.

I've got a dcg that turns 1 today. She's here. I really didn't think she would be but she is.
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cheerfuldom 10:00 AM 02-27-2013
I would never send my kids to daycare so no, they would never be there on their birthdays either. thats just me.....I am not saying that i judge others for making different choices but i personally would rather do almost anything then send my kid to someone elses house for 10 hours (or more) a day.
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Msdunny 10:05 AM 02-27-2013
It is funny you ask this today, as I have a dcg with a birthday tomorrow. Her mom asked me this morning, "Are you making cupcakes for her birthday or do I need to supply them?" So apparently I am having this sweet girl's party for her with no parents in attendance.

I really don't understand some people.

And no, I would not take my child to daycare on their birthday. It is a special day and I would want to celebrate with them.
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DaisyMamma 10:10 AM 02-27-2013
I just want to point out that if your daycare is open and you are working it and your kid is there on their birthday then that's almost the same thing as sending your kid to daycare IMO
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Play Care 10:14 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by itlw8:
You know I think part of it is I think of my program as a preschool and so do the parents . When a child misses a day they miss something w are doing. So yes my kids all come if theey can when parents are off work.

If the parents thought of me as just childcare then that would be different. They would not miss much.

I guess because I market myself as a preschool/childcare they do think of this as school.
I consider myself a child care with preschool activities. I like to think of my dc as a fun, happening place to be My mom was a SAHM so I got to spend lots of time at the grocery store, bank, helping her clean, watching her clean, etc. And honestly? Not how I would have wanted to spend my birthday When we have a dc birthday the child gets to be "leader" for the day, they get a special treat for PM snack, they get a card and book from me. It never occured to me to wonder why the parent didn't keep their child home. Especially as another poster pointed out, when you have mulitple children that adds up fast! I don't know, most of my parents are good about keeping kids home when sick, taking family vacations that include the kids, picking up on time, show me they appreciate me, etc. Maybe if I felt that they were "dumping" their kids on me I might feel differently.

On a side note, last year my DD's birthday was on a Friday so we had her friend party that evening. I took the day off to clean, shop, and decorate. She went to school
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Cat Herder 10:22 AM 02-27-2013
Quick question... I understand the question as "Would you send your kid to DAYCARE on their birthday if you were off work"

IMHO Daycare and School are not the same thing in any way, shape or form. No matter what preschool curriculum you use during circle time.... Daycare is not School.

Preschoolers are not School Agers.

The topic got confusing...
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SquirrellyMama 10:24 AM 02-27-2013
I voted other. It is hard to say what I would do because I'm not in the position and never have been. We rarely celebrate the kids birthdays on their birthdays. We usually pick a weekend day and take the birthday kids shopping and to lunch.

I imagine a lot of these parents do value time with their kids even if they take them to daycare on their birthdays. And I think cleaning house, buying party supplies, etc... is a valid excuse. If I were having a party for a young child the next day and knew I'd have a house full of kids or family I might try to spend a quiet day to myself also.

I'm not really hung up on the day but making a day around their birthday special. We may all have a preference but I don't think we should be so judgmental of someone's choice.

K
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Play Care 10:38 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
Quick question... I understand the question as "Would you send your kid to DAYCARE on their birthday if you were off work"

IMHO Daycare and School are not the same thing in any way, shape or form. No matter what preschool curriculum you use during circle time.... Daycare is not School.

Preschoolers are not School Agers.

The topic got confusing...
I understood the question to be about dc and answered as a provider. But I also pointed out my experience as a parent. My kids are still young and I know many parents do not hesitate to pull their kids out of elementary school for vacations, events, etc. with the idea of "it's *only* K or First or Second" so that's why I included it. Sorry if it made it confusing.
Obviously when they were not in school they spent the day with me for their birthdays And my one child has a summer birthday so she's always with us that day
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Cat Herder 10:46 AM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Play Care:
I understood the question to be about dc and answered as a provider. But I also pointed out my experience as a parent. My kids are still young and I know many parents do not hesitate to pull their kids out of elementary school for vacations, events, etc. with the idea of "it's *only* K or First or Second" so that's why I included it. Sorry if it made it confusing.
Obviously when they were not in school they spent the day with me for their birthdays And my one child has a summer birthday so she's always with us that day
Oh, hun.... not your post...

I was peeking back into the thread from earlier... It seemed to shift and I did not want to have answered incorectly...

I was teaching my preschoolers they were special... now I have to teach my teens that they are not; they have to work hard like everyone else. Ah, gotta love the irony.
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jokalima 10:49 AM 02-27-2013
I wouldn't... I was closed last year for my son's b day and I am thinking about doing same thing this year. For me is that he shares his mommy too much w/other kids that I think is just awesome for him to have me all for him on his special day.
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Willow 11:31 AM 02-27-2013
No way.


But I also want to point I don't take the day off from work on my kids' birthdays and I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. I don't have subs except in the event of an emergency and I really try to limit the amount of random days I take off.

Birthdays here are already way over the top. I don't feel the need to close to all my families for them, pull my child out of school, spend all day doing awesome things and then have a rockin weekend party with our ginormous family on top of that.

Would be overkill imho.

Not sure I'd want to deal with the complex they'd likely develop in regards to the severe overindulgence
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mamac 12:35 PM 02-27-2013
I voted other. I was fortunate enough to be able to spend both my kids' first birthdays with them as a PT SAHM. After they turned 2 I initially enrolled them into DC for socialization, but then it became necessary due to my crazy, unpredictable schedule. If they had been enrolled on their birthdays, I would have let them choose whether or not they wanted to spend it with their friends or take a special day with me. (Their DC did celebrate all birthdays.) To me, that is their special day and they can spend it how they like. (First birthday being the exception- that should be a biggie for all parents.) We also always have a celebration on the weekend with all family members- aunts, grandparents, etc. if it happens to fall on a weekday.

I would keep them out of DC quite frequently because I would often go a week or two at a time without having to work and I couldn't see not having them home with me if I was home. I also had to pay whether they were there or not, but I would rather raise my own kids than have someone else do it for me.

As for school- I don't think I would take my kids out for the day. My son's school let's the kids bring in treats on their birthday and dress out of uniform for the day so that's a really big deal. I'm not sure that he would want to miss out on that. Plus, his birthday is right when school starts and that wouldn't be a great time to take him out. (Not to mention that the school really values good attendance.)
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Former Teacher 12:59 PM 02-27-2013
I voted no. I have no children. However had I been blessed with them then no I wouldn't.

OT: Once there was a parent at my former center who had 3 children. 2 girls and a boy. The girls were older and school aged while the boy was a baby. His 1st bday was coming up and I know I was excited .

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.
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SquirrellyMama 01:06 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Former Teacher:

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.
You really don't need to feel sad for the boy or the parent. We didn't have birthday parties for our kids' first birthdays. Not our first, our boy or our youngest. We made cake but didn't have a big celebration.

My kids don't care and I'm not feeling regret.

K
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Former Teacher 03:27 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by SquirrellyMama:
You really don't need to feel sad for the boy or the parent. We didn't have birthday parties for our kids' first birthdays. Not our first, our boy or our youngest. We made cake but didn't have a big celebration.

My kids don't care and I'm not feeling regret.

K
While I TOTALLY respect your opinion etc I still feel sad. I am one of those women who would sell their soul to have a child-birth or adopted. If given the chance I would take advantage of every milestone that I could.
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Live and Learn 04:09 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom:
i would never send my kids to daycare so no, they would never be there on their birthdays either. Thats just me.....i am not saying that i judge others for making different choices but i personally would rather do almost anything then send my kid to someone elses house for 10 hours (or more) a day.
exactly!
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mama0609 04:48 PM 02-27-2013
When I worked outside the home I took my kids' bdays as vacation days. I could never stomach sending my kid to daycare on their birthday. We always took them out for lunch and got to pick out a special toy and spent time with them. That is so important to me. As a provider I've had dcp send their kids here on their birthday and it breaks my heart. They have no problem taking random days off but can't take a day off for their kid's bday.
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SquirrellyMama 05:19 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Former Teacher:
While I TOTALLY respect your opinion etc I still feel sad. I am one of those women who would sell their soul to have a child-birth or adopted. If given the chance I would take advantage of every milestone that I could.
And I completely understand how your experience colors your view also. I just found this thread to be very judgmental at times. I'm not saying I thought you were horribly judgmental, just the tone of the entire thread. I took your "sad" feeling to say that the mom should be sad also.

We are all different and that is ok.

Kelly
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cheerfuldom 06:27 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by DaisyMamma:
I just want to point out that if your daycare is open and you are working it and your kid is there on their birthday then that's almost the same thing as sending your kid to daycare IMO
its not even almost the same thing. not here anyway. i have a very small group. i keep it as small as i can afford so that i am available for my own kids.

if my home was the same thing as any old daycare, i certainly wouldnt be making the sacrifice to keep my kids here. its a million times better than any daycare! my kids have mom to hold and hug and kiss when they need me. i dont miss milestones, funny stories, walks to the park, trips to the library.

i go all out for my own kids birthday and no i dont do that for the daycare kids. the daycare kids are at daycare. my kids are at home. yes mom is busy at times and we have other people here during the day but its still home.
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cheerfuldom 06:31 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
Quick question... I understand the question as "Would you send your kid to DAYCARE on their birthday if you were off work"

IMHO Daycare and School are not the same thing in any way, shape or form. No matter what preschool curriculum you use during circle time.... Daycare is not School.

Preschoolers are not School Agers.

The topic got confusing...
i agree.

but also add that my oldest does go to school three days a week as a preK. on her birthday, i went to school and brought treats for everyone, we sang for her and brought her a balloon and a toy. i dont want to keep her away from her schooling but its still a special day. and yes, her preK is school. it is a private school with multiple grades per class. she sits down and participates in the school day....its not daycare. she is already writing cursive. anyway.....
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nanglgrl 08:09 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Jewels:
I replied wrong, I thought it just said would you send your child on their birthday, I missed the part that said if you were home, so I answered Yes, but that would definitely be a NO if I was home, If I were working yes I would.
Same here. I answered wrong because I didn't see the entire question and answered "other". If I was at home I would not take my child to daycare on their birthday.
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nanglgrl 08:15 PM 02-27-2013
Originally Posted by Former Teacher:
I voted no. I have no children. However had I been blessed with them then no I wouldn't.

OT: Once there was a parent at my former center who had 3 children. 2 girls and a boy. The girls were older and school aged while the boy was a baby. His 1st bday was coming up and I know I was excited .

So I asked the mom what kind of party were they having for the boy. She looked at me like I was crazy...I had to repeat the question. She said "oh Heavens no, we aren't having a party" I was shocked! His FIRST birthday. The ONLY boy. My mouth spoke before my brain thought and I said "what? it's his first " She said "oh I know but it's not like he will remember "

I immediately thought....no he won't remember but YOU will.
I have 4 children. The eldest is 20 and the youngest is 2. We had huge birthdays every year for the first child, the second child had big birthdays at first but then they dwindled when the third child came I realized exactly what this mom did with her first child, the child doesn't care or remember. I don't really remember my 20 year old's first birthday, what I do remember clearly is the stress of putting everything together.
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renodeb 06:14 AM 02-28-2013
Ok I put yes on the poll but if I was home, no I wouldnt.
Debbie
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Country Kids 07:14 AM 02-28-2013
I do have a little one coming today on her birthday-mom is home. The child wants to come here though and celebrate with her friends for just a couple hours and then mom is picking up and they are having a blast of a day for the afternoon. Also, this is not a child I have everyday-maybe a couple times a month if mom gets called into work.

These parents are very hands on and this is a child that I wish all children could be like. Polite to the hilt, never cries, everyones friend, loves our family to death. The skies are grey today but when this child walks in it will a sunshiney day!
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