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DanceMom 11:21 AM 01-12-2016
What do you do for appointments? I rarely go to the doctor, my husband takes our kids to 95% of their appointments. If I do have to schedule one or take one I make it for the last hour possible and when it doesn't affect the daycare parents...
But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.
WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.
But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.
WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.
Leigh 11:39 AM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by DanceMom:
What do you do for appointments? I rarely go to the doctor, my husband takes our kids to 95% of their appointments. If I do have to schedule one or take one I make it for the last hour possible and when it doesn't affect the daycare parents...
But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.
WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.
She MAY just have responded like that to let you know that she's going to make it work. She may have meant that she'll get there if it doesn't inconvenience her too much. I would just respond with something like: I will be leaving my house at 4:20, if you're not able to ensure you can get here, please be sure to arrange for someone else to get her picked up. I can not leave any later than 4:20.What do you do for appointments? I rarely go to the doctor, my husband takes our kids to 95% of their appointments. If I do have to schedule one or take one I make it for the last hour possible and when it doesn't affect the daycare parents...
But..this appontment I had to make for a surgery consult for my daughter was made a bit before one daycare mom was off work so I need an early pick up. Like seriously 20 min.
Her response was"I'll do what I can to get there"
Which I interpret there's a possibility she cannot be here early to pick up.
I bend over backwards for these people and feel like they have zero cares about me or my life.
WWYD? Am I overreacting ? Would u respond or just hope she gets here on time.
Thriftylady 11:44 AM 01-12-2016
I have had to learn not to "ask" people to do things. When you ask, they seem to always think they have an option. So instead of saying "could you please pick up by 4 as I need to leave", I say "I am going to have to close at X time on this day, I need all children than X".
MunchkinWrangler 11:46 AM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by Leigh:
She MAY just have responded like that to let you know that she's going to make it work. She may have meant that she'll get there if it doesn't inconvenience her too much. I would just respond with something like: I will be leaving my house at 4:20, if you're not able to ensure you can get here, please be sure to arrange for someone else to get her picked up. I can not leave any later than 4:20.
I agree. Texts are so hard to read, and definitely make it known that you cannot miss this appointment and give her options, like her getting someone else to pick up. Do you have anyone that can sub for you, just in case. I'm sure she meant she will get there and she's going to make her best effort to do so.She MAY just have responded like that to let you know that she's going to make it work. She may have meant that she'll get there if it doesn't inconvenience her too much. I would just respond with something like: I will be leaving my house at 4:20, if you're not able to ensure you can get here, please be sure to arrange for someone else to get her picked up. I can not leave any later than 4:20.
Annalee 11:49 AM 01-12-2016
Never "ask" but always "tell". I have taken all holidays and follow the school schedule with the exception of summer...this gives me several days to schedule my appointments without getting into my vacation, personal time. I tell parents at interview that if something arises, i can't just place anyone in my home therefore leading to emergency closings. This is our livelihood and our HOME. Good luck 
Blackcat31 11:52 AM 01-12-2016
I operate on contracted hours so I know EXACTLY when parents will be here to pick up. If they are late, there is a hefty fee to pay so it rarely if ever happens.
Contacted hours assures me that I wont have to worry and wonder when and if a parent will arrive on time. Contracted hours also allows me to plan and go to appointments pretty far in advance too.
I agree with the others though....never ask; tell.
Contacted hours assures me that I wont have to worry and wonder when and if a parent will arrive on time. Contracted hours also allows me to plan and go to appointments pretty far in advance too.
I agree with the others though....never ask; tell.
mommyneedsadayoff 11:55 AM 01-12-2016
I agree with the PPs. Just as with children, if it is a non negotiable, then I tell them what I need from them, not ask. 
DanceMom 11:58 AM 01-12-2016
I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
Thriftylady 12:00 PM 01-12-2016
The only reason I brought up asking, is because that is what I used to do. Hopefully you get it worked out. Sometimes we have to take care of our family and they have to understand that.
Blackcat31 12:02 PM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by DanceMom:
I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
Maybe reply back with something like "I know you will do your best but it absolutely vital that I am at this appointment on time. If you are unable to leave your work by X time, please make sure you send your back up person. Thank you" I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
DanceMom 12:03 PM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by Thriftylady:
The only reason I brought up asking, is because that is what I used to do. Hopefully you get it worked out. Sometimes we have to take care of our family and they have to understand that.
Same with me - I used to ask and learned to tell.The only reason I brought up asking, is because that is what I used to do. Hopefully you get it worked out. Sometimes we have to take care of our family and they have to understand that.
Thanks !!
mommyneedsadayoff 12:03 PM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by DanceMom:
I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
In that case, as a previous poster said, a text back may be in order. "Okay, we will see you at 4:15! If you have issues being here on time, just let me know who you will be sending as a back up to pick up dck instead."I did not "ask" - I told her I was having to close at 4:15 and needed dcb picked up by then. It wasn't and isn't an option.
To me her response was she thinks she has an option to be late. We've had our days butting heads in the past, as she treats me like HER employer at times...but I could be reading her reply as crappy and it's not.
Good idea on telling her she may need someone else to pick up.
DanceMom 12:03 PM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Maybe reply back with something like "I know you will do your best but it absolutely vital that I am at this appointment on time. If you are unable to leave your work by X time, please make sure you send your back up person. Thank you"
Ha ! Love this ! Thanks !Maybe reply back with something like "I know you will do your best but it absolutely vital that I am at this appointment on time. If you are unable to leave your work by X time, please make sure you send your back up person. Thank you"
Play Care 12:26 PM 01-12-2016
Agree with what everyone else said BUT I take time off as needed to deal with appointments. I refuse to let my health suffer for a job.
I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close.
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.
I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close.
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.
DanceMom 12:36 PM 01-12-2016
Originally Posted by Play Care:
Agree with what everyone else said BUT I take time off as needed to deal with appointments. I refuse to let my health suffer for a job.
I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close.
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.
This is what it's for too - ortho appointments (gum surgery to get her gap to close ) - they will be the death of me 😁Agree with what everyone else said BUT I take time off as needed to deal with appointments. I refuse to let my health suffer for a job.
I also have a substitute that covers for me as needed. I've been able to take younger DD to all her orthodontist appointments so far without having to close.
If you can swing it I highly recommend it.
Lovisa 08:47 PM 01-12-2016
I have contracted hours, but many times, if me or my family are seeing a specialist, they will only do morning appointments (which sucks because then I have to tell my families that they need to find alternate care). Luckily, they have all been pretty good about it. I do hate not being available for them on that rare occasion, but I do mention in my contract that very rarely things will come up and because of that they need to have a back up.
I also don't ask, I tell
I also don't ask, I tell
childcaremom 02:09 AM 01-13-2016
My dh and I have the same arrangements, he takes our children to appts. If I have one, I close for the day. I do not do half days, close early, etc b/c there will always be that one dcp who does not show up on time and I will not miss an appt that I need.
I give dcps as much notice as possible (weeks) and just do it. I try to schedule as many appts as possible on that one day so it is all out of the way in one fell swoop. Not a very exciting day off.
I give dcps as much notice as possible (weeks) and just do it. I try to schedule as many appts as possible on that one day so it is all out of the way in one fell swoop. Not a very exciting day off.
Blackcat31 05:56 AM 01-13-2016
Update? Did she show up on time?
DanceMom 06:35 AM 01-13-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Update? Did she show up on time?
The appointment is next Friday. I'll let ya know !!Update? Did she show up on time?
Blackcat31 07:59 AM 01-13-2016
Originally Posted by DanceMom:
The appointment is next Friday. I'll let ya know !!
Oh, sorry..... I thought it was yesterday. The appointment is next Friday. I'll let ya know !!
My bad.....poor reading comprehension....
finsup 10:15 AM 01-13-2016
I would have taken that response as somewhat rude too, depending on the family that is. My "problem" family from a while back would make comments like that to try and regain control. But it really does depend on how well yo know the mom and her way of wording ings.
Right now I schedule all appointments for as early in the morning as possible and open late. That way the only issue that can come up is when a parent doesn't remember. Then I can just turn away at the door. If I have to do an afternoon appointment I always tell parents an hour earlier then I really need them to pick up by just in case
Right now I schedule all appointments for as early in the morning as possible and open late. That way the only issue that can come up is when a parent doesn't remember. Then I can just turn away at the door. If I have to do an afternoon appointment I always tell parents an hour earlier then I really need them to pick up by just in case