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erinalexmom 05:50 AM 10-21-2011
Tell me about your departure. Do you tell parents how the child did each day or do you do "no news is good news" and just kind of shove them out the door? My parents are awsome. I love them but I am wanting to be more efficient with my time and thiers and I think they are ok with me handling anything that goes on during the day and letting it go. What do ya'll think?
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Cat Herder 05:55 AM 10-21-2011
I pick my battles.

If it is a behavior that I need help with, then I bring it up.

If they were a bit "off" and a possible illness is approaching, I bring it up.

If they were age appropriate, acting normally and need no supplies, I let the daily sheet do the "talking" for me.

I do comment on funny little anecdotes or if they do something really cute/sweet/funny/charming.
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nannyde 05:59 AM 10-21-2011
"He was great today and he's eating me out of house and home. Can I have a raise?"

That gets them to fly out the door real quick like.
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Springdaze 06:02 AM 10-21-2011
I try to think of at least one little thing to say but most times the parents arent listening anyway. And I hate it when they come in on their bluetooth and I am jabbering away and they are on the phone! But besides that, I do like to tell them at least one thing.
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iheartkids 06:16 AM 10-21-2011
I'm pretty chatty with my daycare parents. They tell me about their day, I tell them about the kids' day. I don't shove them out the door...I like having a friendly relationship with them. There is only one kid I "kind of" hand the bag to the parent and give a quick report! And that is because she acts out towards the babies when the parents come. So to keep my child safe...that departure is quick. I don't do daily sheets, I write on a dry erase board reminders of things I want to tell them. To me it's a waste of paper and from my experience there is only a small percentage of parents who appreciate it. The rest will shove the paper in their bag and not even look at it.
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MyAngels 06:17 AM 10-21-2011
The only exchanges at pick up are:

1. Anything unusually cute, funny or smart that their child did/said today.
2. Behavior problems that need to be addressed at home (very rare).
3. Signs of anything wonky going on, like an illness.

Typically pick up time is quick to avoid transition problems.
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Zoe 06:20 AM 10-21-2011
It depends on the parents. Most aren't very chatty and I'm ok with that. Like a pp mentioned, I write down all need to know info on my daily note so unless there was a problem, there's not much to say. I say hello, they get their child's stuff on (if it's not already on), they say thank you, I tell them to have a good day, we say good-bye, I move on! I might say a thing or two about anything I need or if we have something special coming up. But that's it.

I figure if they have any questions, they'll ask me.
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erinalexmom 06:24 AM 10-21-2011
I just think I have been telling them too much and I think it comes across as "complaining" when my kids were at a sitter I wanted to know all about thier day, especially misbehavior but I think that because I tell the parents all about thier kids day (including any misbehavior) then it seems like I am "telling on them" everyday KWIM? So I am thinking of only saying something if its an ongoing problem or a goal or something.
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erinalexmom 06:25 AM 10-21-2011
What is on your daily sheet and do you do it for kids over 2? Mine are all over the age of 2
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Cat Herder 06:33 AM 10-21-2011
Originally Posted by erinalexmom:
What is on your daily sheet and do you do it for kids over 2? Mine are all over the age of 2
My daily sheet has activities we did, projects we did, curriculum we covered that day (pre-planned), books read, menu, naptime and any personal notes I need them to see. Simple and for the most part can be filled out on Mondays for the week in advance...then edited before printing if there was a deviation of plan.

I don't list how much they ate, how many times they pooped, etc...if there are issues, I will let them know.

IMHE, it can lead to "obsessive" issues or comparing each child to another. Kids are held to way too many "statistics" as it is.
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renodeb 06:47 AM 10-21-2011
I'm a very chatty person anyways so I have to remember to keep it short, I keep daily sheets on the babies but the parents never check them. I do a brief ditty on how they were during the day. Most of the behavior stuff I handle as it comes up. ( I mean lets face it there not going to remember clobbering so and so on head at pick up time when it occured in the morning). I have two families that have 2 kids with me so I try and acomidate a speedy exit with them. With the 3 1/2 m/o it usually just tell her when the last bottle was so she knows what to expect. Most parents want a general run down nothing to wordy! The only time I really rush them out the door is if I have to run and pick up my own kids from something right after work. Keeping it short is a good idea for all concerned I think.
I keep daily sheets on the kids until they are well into potty training. Its kinda a waste cause most parents never check it but I feel its part of my job. I use the infant/toddler grams from funshine express.
I feel that way to, to much info told sometimes, I dont want to complain or compare kids. Its hard to find that right balance. When I worked at kinderkare I wasnt allowed to really say anything about the child like even if they were real whiny all day or something like that. Sometimes kids have bad days and I think the parents should know. ofcourse I sandwhich it with a positive thing when talking to the parent.
I would just give short answers, most likely you have dealt with things during the day that is not nessacary to tell the parents.
Debbie
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Country Kids 06:50 AM 10-21-2011
Originally Posted by Catherder:
My daily sheet has activities we did, projects we did, curriculum we covered that day (pre-planned), books read, menu, naptime and any personal notes I need them to see. Simple and for the most part can be filled out on Mondays for the week in advance...then edited it there was a deviation of plan.

I don't list how much they ate, how many times they pooped, etc...if there are issues, I will let them know.

IMHE, it can lead to "obsessive" issues or comparing each child to another. Kids are held to way too many "statistics" as it is.
This is pretty much like mine. I found mine on the internet and printed one so that I can just make copies off of that blank one each day. Mine is called the "Kiddie Gram".

All my parents love it! They will actually skim it while they are here and then if there are any questions we can talk about it. I'm all about communication so that it doesn't seem like all I'm doing is complaining. If you really talk to a parent it usually comes out that the parent is having some sort of problem at home also.
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iheartkids 07:41 AM 10-22-2011
Originally Posted by erinalexmom:
I just think I have been telling them too much and I think it comes across as "complaining" when my kids were at a sitter I wanted to know all about thier day, especially misbehavior but I think that because I tell the parents all about thier kids day (including any misbehavior) then it seems like I am "telling on them" everyday KWIM? So I am thinking of only saying something if its an ongoing problem or a goal or something.
I've decided that if the behaviour can't be corrected at home some way then I don't bring it up unless they ask or it gets to be a problem. For example: I have a lil one that is constantly taking toys away from the younger kids. I figure telling the parent won't do anything but make them feel bad cause she is an only child and they can't work on that at home. It's just something I have to figure out at daycare. On the other hand, I had one lil one that kept climbing and jumping on the couch. I lightly brought it up that she was doing it a lot and I'm just scared that she is going to fall and get hurt. My hope is that when she is doing it at HOME they correct it.
I pick my battles, I don't tell every bad thing they do during the day cause a lot of it is learning to socialize (and that is my job). But I do tell them now and then because I don't want something really bad to happen and the parent say "well, I never knew he/she was acting like that". I've seen people pull their child out of centers because they got tired of always hearing bad things so I don't want that to happen with me unless it is a child that I absolutely can't handle.
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