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WImom 06:07 PM 04-18-2011
I have talked about this DCG before on potty training but I was speaking to her mom on how she is doing at home since she will go here but only if I take her ever 1.5 hours. If I don't saying anything she won't go on her own she will potty in her underwear. It's been a month so told parents I'm going back to just pull ups (we were doing underwear and pull ups) since I don't want the huge mess anymore.
So at home she hasn't had an accident at all for weeks. Goes on her own or tells parents. Also goes when they are at the store (tells them), or other places away from home.
Why won't she go here on her own??? I feel bad having her in pull ups here when she isn't at home. I'm so baffled. I've had two others potty train here and they did fine. All the other kids but one are potty trained so I don't get it.
Anyone?? I feel like that parents are tired of talking about this as am I. I just don't know what to do about it. I really hope they don't leave over this.
So at home she hasn't had an accident at all for weeks. Goes on her own or tells parents. Also goes when they are at the store (tells them), or other places away from home.
Why won't she go here on her own??? I feel bad having her in pull ups here when she isn't at home. I'm so baffled. I've had two others potty train here and they did fine. All the other kids but one are potty trained so I don't get it.
Anyone?? I feel like that parents are tired of talking about this as am I. I just don't know what to do about it. I really hope they don't leave over this.
daycare 06:12 PM 04-18-2011
this is so normal... DC is extremely different than home. There are alot of distractions at DC and therefore kids often get to distracted to want to go to the bathroom or listen to the signs that their body is givign them telling them to go.
I know that some time parents will get frustrated, but it's very normal and to be expected. Once you explain this to the parents, they will understand.
I have this statement in my potty training policy:
Please keep in mind that often children will show all signs of readiness and have success at home before the signs are seen at child care. Due to all of the distractions and excitement that goes on while at the daycare, there may be a period of time that your child is potty trained at home, but not at daycare. This is completely normal and happens quite a bit.
I know that some time parents will get frustrated, but it's very normal and to be expected. Once you explain this to the parents, they will understand.
I have this statement in my potty training policy:
Please keep in mind that often children will show all signs of readiness and have success at home before the signs are seen at child care. Due to all of the distractions and excitement that goes on while at the daycare, there may be a period of time that your child is potty trained at home, but not at daycare. This is completely normal and happens quite a bit.
cheerfuldom 07:19 PM 04-18-2011
the other option is that the parents are lying to you (whether intentionally or unintentionally). They may just ask her or take her often enough to where it is just not a problem at home. They may also just be flat out lying because its easier for them to act like its not a problem. Its amazing what parents will lie about when comparing what their kids are or are not doing at home. Sometimes it is just the perspective and other times, it is deception.
Live and Learn 07:21 PM 04-18-2011
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom:
the other option is that the parents are lying to you (whether intentionally or unintentionally). They may just ask her or take her often enough to where it is just not a problem at home. They may also just be flat out lying because its easier for them to act like its not a problem. Its amazing what parents will lie about when comparing what their kids are or are not doing at home. Sometimes it is just the perspective and other times, it is deception.
True....the other option is that the parents are lying to you (whether intentionally or unintentionally). They may just ask her or take her often enough to where it is just not a problem at home. They may also just be flat out lying because its easier for them to act like its not a problem. Its amazing what parents will lie about when comparing what their kids are or are not doing at home. Sometimes it is just the perspective and other times, it is deception.
Meyou 02:05 AM 04-19-2011
I'm leaning towards mama and dad are trained at home to make sure she get there on time. I had one family swear their son was fully PT and ready for underwear here and he couldn't take his own pants off. 
Reality was that mom and dad were excellent potty trainers and got him there on time every time. I let them know that being able to undress and redress themselves is the first step and they seemed to have skipped it. Still cracks me up thinking about his blank stare when I told him to get undressed and go potty.
Reality was that mom and dad were excellent potty trainers and got him there on time every time. I let them know that being able to undress and redress themselves is the first step and they seemed to have skipped it. Still cracks me up thinking about his blank stare when I told him to get undressed and go potty.
boysx5 02:40 AM 04-19-2011
I have on dcg who will be two next month for six months they keep saying she goes on the potty at home. Well one day she picked up early to her to the dr. and she said oh lets use the potty before we go. Well the mom put her on the potty and held her down not to get off sang a song turned on the water and guess what she didn't go. I said that is not being potty trained thats forcing her to go. I tell them all they need to tell me when they need to go on the potty if I had to take them every ten minutes so they don't wet their pants I would be in the bathroom all day
ColorfulLearning 02:40 AM 02-26-2020
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom:
the other option is that the parents are lying to you (whether intentionally or unintentionally). They may just ask her or take her often enough to where it is just not a problem at home. They may also just be flat out lying because its easier for them to act like its not a problem. Its amazing what parents will lie about when comparing what their kids are or are not doing at home. Sometimes it is just the perspective and other times, it is deception.
omg so true. I had a parent bring me underwear and tell me they were potty training and the kid would come in diapers size 3 so I just figured she was just using up what she had...fine right? nope...after 2-3 weeks she brought him in size 4, then months later it came out that she wasn't even potty training him. Guess she thought I was gonna take care of it by myself lol. I made her bring me pull-ups and I just stopped putting him on the potty. If your not doing it at home, im not doing it either. So its in my policy I will start only once your child is showing readiness at home and they still can only use pull ups here until they are fully potty trained.the other option is that the parents are lying to you (whether intentionally or unintentionally). They may just ask her or take her often enough to where it is just not a problem at home. They may also just be flat out lying because its easier for them to act like its not a problem. Its amazing what parents will lie about when comparing what their kids are or are not doing at home. Sometimes it is just the perspective and other times, it is deception.
Unregistered 12:31 PM 02-28-2020
Not that the previous poster should have responded that way - so rude - but the parents may be completely telling the truth and may be at as much of a loss as we are. My son is fully potty trained with his parents. He sometimes asks us to come in the bathroom with him, but he does it all himself. He tells us every time he needs to go. He even told us when he needed to go multiple times when we were at *Disney World.* If that's not a fun and distracting environment, I don't know what is. That was almost 2 months ago. And yet my son still has regular accidents at his home daycare. She will take him and put him on the potty when she knows he needs to go but he won't pee. 5 minutes later if she's out of the room he will pee his pants. He has never done it when she is actually in the room. We think he must just not be comfortable around her but he's been with her almost 3 years since it was just a couple months old. We are thinking of switching daycares because of some other concerns as well, but if anyone has any productive ideas, I'm all ears.
Ariana 08:00 PM 02-28-2020
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Not that the previous poster should have responded that way - so rude - but the parents may be completely telling the truth and may be at as much of a loss as we are. My son is fully potty trained with his parents. He sometimes asks us to come in the bathroom with him, but he does it all himself. He tells us every time he needs to go. He even told us when he needed to go multiple times when we were at *Disney World.* If that's not a fun and distracting environment, I don't know what is. That was almost 2 months ago. And yet my son still has regular accidents at his home daycare. She will take him and put him on the potty when she knows he needs to go but he won't pee. 5 minutes later if she's out of the room he will pee his pants. He has never done it when she is actually in the room. We think he must just not be comfortable around her but he's been with her almost 3 years since it was just a couple months old. We are thinking of switching daycares because of some other concerns as well, but if anyone has any productive ideas, I'm all ears.
If this were my child and I felt they were fully potty trained but were urinating in their clothes because they were too scared to tell their provider they would not be going back ever again.Not that the previous poster should have responded that way - so rude - but the parents may be completely telling the truth and may be at as much of a loss as we are. My son is fully potty trained with his parents. He sometimes asks us to come in the bathroom with him, but he does it all himself. He tells us every time he needs to go. He even told us when he needed to go multiple times when we were at *Disney World.* If that's not a fun and distracting environment, I don't know what is. That was almost 2 months ago. And yet my son still has regular accidents at his home daycare. She will take him and put him on the potty when she knows he needs to go but he won't pee. 5 minutes later if she's out of the room he will pee his pants. He has never done it when she is actually in the room. We think he must just not be comfortable around her but he's been with her almost 3 years since it was just a couple months old. We are thinking of switching daycares because of some other concerns as well, but if anyone has any productive ideas, I'm all ears.
Rockgirl 04:56 AM 02-29-2020
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Not that the previous poster should have responded that way - so rude - but the parents may be completely telling the truth and may be at as much of a loss as we are. My son is fully potty trained with his parents. He sometimes asks us to come in the bathroom with him, but he does it all himself. He tells us every time he needs to go. He even told us when he needed to go multiple times when we were at *Disney World.* If that's not a fun and distracting environment, I don't know what is. That was almost 2 months ago. And yet my son still has regular accidents at his home daycare. She will take him and put him on the potty when she knows he needs to go but he won't pee. 5 minutes later if she's out of the room he will pee his pants. He has never done it when she is actually in the room. We think he must just not be comfortable around her but he's been with her almost 3 years since it was just a couple months old. We are thinking of switching daycares because of some other concerns as well, but if anyone has any productive ideas, I'm all ears.
Some kids won’t go if someone is right there watching them on the toilet. I find they’ll go if I step out of the room....I guess the pressure is off.Not that the previous poster should have responded that way - so rude - but the parents may be completely telling the truth and may be at as much of a loss as we are. My son is fully potty trained with his parents. He sometimes asks us to come in the bathroom with him, but he does it all himself. He tells us every time he needs to go. He even told us when he needed to go multiple times when we were at *Disney World.* If that's not a fun and distracting environment, I don't know what is. That was almost 2 months ago. And yet my son still has regular accidents at his home daycare. She will take him and put him on the potty when she knows he needs to go but he won't pee. 5 minutes later if she's out of the room he will pee his pants. He has never done it when she is actually in the room. We think he must just not be comfortable around her but he's been with her almost 3 years since it was just a couple months old. We are thinking of switching daycares because of some other concerns as well, but if anyone has any productive ideas, I'm all ears.