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daycare 09:36 AM 06-16-2014
As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
Butter Biskets 09:40 AM 06-16-2014
She is being ridiculous and I think you are being pretty fair. She can either suck it up or find another daycare. Good for you for standing firm. 
taylorw1210 09:44 AM 06-16-2014
Sounds to me like someone is trying to take advantage of the situation to save some coin. If they keep complaining about it, I would hand them your withdrawl form and smile big. 
melilley 09:56 AM 06-16-2014
Are you kidding me?! I can't believe they had the nerve to ask for a discount! Daycare, you are being fair. I would not offer a discount either. It's their choice whether or not they want to stay with you. Discount..smh
TwinKristi 09:59 AM 06-16-2014
Show them the map! Ask what kind of compensation they feel is "fair" for an extra 1/8 of a mile that they have the option not to drive. This wasn't a choice for you and it wasn't "fair" that you had to move and fork out a buttload of money to move. I would say you have a hefty waiting list and if 1/8 of a mile
is too much there are LOTS of parents willing and able to without a discount. Ugh. I hate whiners!
is too much there are LOTS of parents willing and able to without a discount. Ugh. I hate whiners!
Shell 09:59 AM 06-16-2014
that is ridiculous!
preschoolteacher 10:01 AM 06-16-2014
So ridiculous!!!
snbauser 10:03 AM 06-16-2014
Definitely sounds like someone trying to take advantage of you. Honestly you gave her an answer. I would give her a deadline and tell her that if she doesn't commit by that date then you will consider that date the beginning of her 3 week notice.
daycare 10:08 AM 06-16-2014
yes I think she is trying to take advantage of my move as a reason to try to get a discount.
Leanna 10:14 AM 06-16-2014
Utterly ridiculous. No way would I offer a discount. I am sure they can handle sitting in their nice cool car and having to spend the minimal physical effort it takes to drive an extra 2 minutes. If not, they can go somewhere else that is "on their route." Give me a break. I wish they could spend a week seeing what it is like to have to rely on public transportation to not only get to work but to get their child to daycare. Then maybe they'd appreciate the fact that they have a high quality program to take their child to when many others do not even have that option. Sorry I am getting off topic but the entitlement just kills me!
TwinKristi 10:21 AM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by Leanna:
Utterly ridiculous. No way would I offer a discount. I am sure they can handle sitting in their nice cool car and having to spend the minimal physical effort it takes to drive an extra 2 minutes. If not, they can go somewhere else that is "on their route." Give me a break. I wish they could spend a week seeing what it is like to have to rely on public transportation to not only get to work but to get their child to daycare. Then maybe they'd appreciate the fact that they have a high quality program to take their child to when many others do not even have that option. Sorry I am getting off topic but the entitlement just kills me!
Utterly ridiculous. No way would I offer a discount. I am sure they can handle sitting in their nice cool car and having to spend the minimal physical effort it takes to drive an extra 2 minutes. If not, they can go somewhere else that is "on their route." Give me a break. I wish they could spend a week seeing what it is like to have to rely on public transportation to not only get to work but to get their child to daycare. Then maybe they'd appreciate the fact that they have a high quality program to take their child to when many others do not even have that option. Sorry I am getting off topic but the entitlement just kills me!
I doubt the majority of the families there even know what public transportation is.
melilley 10:22 AM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by TwinKristi:
Show them the map! Ask what kind of compensation they feel is "fair" for an extra 1/8 of a mile that they have the option not to drive. This wasn't a choice for you and it wasn't "fair" that you had to move and fork out a buttload of money to move. I would say you have a hefty waiting list and if 1/8 of a mile
is too much there are LOTS of parents willing and able to without a discount. Ugh. I hate whiners!
Yes! Show them the map! I wonder what they would say or what the look on their faces would be...lolShow them the map! Ask what kind of compensation they feel is "fair" for an extra 1/8 of a mile that they have the option not to drive. This wasn't a choice for you and it wasn't "fair" that you had to move and fork out a buttload of money to move. I would say you have a hefty waiting list and if 1/8 of a mile
is too much there are LOTS of parents willing and able to without a discount. Ugh. I hate whiners!
llpa 10:29 AM 06-16-2014
Telling her no discount was the right thing to do!! Glad you said no! 
MarinaVanessa 10:33 AM 06-16-2014
Definitely not unfair. You are moving, they can choose to move along with you or not. They're being difficult for little to no reason. No discount.
My3cents 10:34 AM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
well you know better then that. Plenty of business relocate and they don't figure driving cost into the equation. If anything......you should charge more for the inconvenience your going to have of having to drive further.....lol. As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
I think you handled yourself perfectly and no I would not give a discount if I moved..... The Nerve! LOL
BumbleBee 10:45 AM 06-16-2014
Sounds like a grown up tantrum. "You're being unfaaaaaaaaaair" complete with a pouty face at the end.
No, I wouldn't give them a discount. They can use your services at the new location or not-their choice.
No, I wouldn't give them a discount. They can use your services at the new location or not-their choice.
daycarediva 10:54 AM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by Trummynme:
Sounds like a grown up tantrum. "You're being unfaaaaaaaaaair" complete with a pouty face at the end.
No, I wouldn't give them a discount. They can use your services at the new location or not-their choice.
YUP! NO discount! Ask them to notify you by X date if they will be giving notice or not. *big smile*Sounds like a grown up tantrum. "You're being unfaaaaaaaaaair" complete with a pouty face at the end.
No, I wouldn't give them a discount. They can use your services at the new location or not-their choice.
KayB 11:01 AM 06-16-2014
I agree show her the map!! Good for you for saying no!
daycare 11:06 AM 06-16-2014
thanks for the replies and support.
I am so stressed right now working with a really small time frame. RIght now I am conducting interviews for 2014-2015 school year. People are coming to an empty house.....lol
I am so stressed right now working with a really small time frame. RIght now I am conducting interviews for 2014-2015 school year. People are coming to an empty house.....lol
spud912 11:26 AM 06-16-2014
I definitely agree with the others. If they don't love you enough to move with you 1.5 miles then good riddance! Seriously! Then to ask for a pay differential? No thank you! I'm sure if they were to leave you they would have to drive that extra distance anyway!
Daycare, I know you have an excellent program for your kiddos, so don't let anyone make it seem like you are anything less, either at your current location or 1.5 miles down the road.
Daycare, I know you have an excellent program for your kiddos, so don't let anyone make it seem like you are anything less, either at your current location or 1.5 miles down the road.
Blackcat31 11:47 AM 06-16-2014
What is her reason for asking for a discount?
I saw you mentioned something about the drive being farther but I don't understand why she thought that would warrant a discount?
Is that the reason she gave?
I'd have a hard time not laughing outloud at her if that is the case...since when are rates based on the distance a family drives to get there...
Tell her the discount is that you are giving her "credit" for coming up with the most ridiculous reason to think she deserves a discount.
The "credit" being that you are sooooo gonna tell everyone you know about this one. That way, we all can say we HAVE heard it all now.
I saw you mentioned something about the drive being farther but I don't understand why she thought that would warrant a discount?
Is that the reason she gave?
I'd have a hard time not laughing outloud at her if that is the case...since when are rates based on the distance a family drives to get there...
Tell her the discount is that you are giving her "credit" for coming up with the most ridiculous reason to think she deserves a discount.
The "credit" being that you are sooooo gonna tell everyone you know about this one. That way, we all can say we HAVE heard it all now.
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:50 AM 06-16-2014
I wonder if she is one of those, "It never hurts to ask!" kinds of people. If she can guilt you into doing what she asked all the better. 
DaisyMamma 11:51 AM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
Honestly it would tick me off and I would ask them to make their choice or you will make it for them. As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
I just want to add that the only thing unfair about this situation is that they even put you in that position to not only have to say no to a discount, but have to say it more than once. wth is wrong with people?
snbauser 12:15 PM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I wonder if she is one of those, "It never hurts to ask!" kinds of people. If she can guilt you into doing what she asked all the better.
I can agree with the "never hurts to ask" but only one time. To keep asking and to say that it is "unfair" sounds like a 2 year old temper tantrum.I wonder if she is one of those, "It never hurts to ask!" kinds of people. If she can guilt you into doing what she asked all the better.
Second Home 12:50 PM 06-16-2014
I am glad that you stuck up for yourself .
Dia 12:55 PM 06-16-2014
Aren't some parents the best! I moved a while back approx. 5 miles from my old home. Not only was it out of everyone's way, but I RAISED my rates at this time also. One parents fee was raised a very considerable amount bc they were using hours outside of the original agreement.
Everyone stayed.
If they are acting so childish, maybe you would be better off to cut ties now anyhow
CraftyMom 12:59 PM 06-16-2014
Just curious, are you moving to the house you mentioned in another post that was nearby another daycare?
Oh and mom is out of line
Oh and mom is out of line
Mom of 4 02:53 PM 06-16-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
MOST RIDICULOUS THING I EVER READ! Are you serious!? You are messing with us right? LOL As some of you know, I am moving house/daycare 1.5 mile up the road.
Well all of the parents have been wonderful about it but 1.
They at first said it was out of their way, then it was not, then it was something else and now they are ok with the move, but they want discount.
I said no to the discount.
The DCP said that since I am having to change their morning drive, I should be required to give them a discount.
I responded with that it is their choice if they want to join us at the new location or not. If they don't they need to let me know with a 3 week notice.
BTW. I googled the DCP house and it is actually still on their route to their job and only less than 1/8 of a mile difference between my current house and the other one.
DCP said this morning that I am being a bit unfair.
There ain't NO way I'd give a discount for me moving ONE and 1/2 miles, like 3 minutes away. They are this lazy!!???I would probably mention to them that it's 1/8 of a mile difference for their route and make them feel silly! I mean seriously, I drive 15 mins out of the way for our backup, and I'd drive wherever for the right provider. I don't use a FT provider, so it's really not that bad for me. Our normal provider is right by my house lol
Laurel 02:38 AM 06-17-2014
Wow. It's really hard to believe that someone that said that could be serious.
Too bad you couldn't laugh and say "Well maybe you could move a little closer to our new home to make it more convenient for you."
Laurel
Too bad you couldn't laugh and say "Well maybe you could move a little closer to our new home to make it more convenient for you."
Laurel
Laurel 02:39 AM 06-17-2014
P.S. You wonder how people like this get through life....
mountainside13 06:40 AM 06-17-2014
I had a parents throw a fit about me moving. Funny thing is they followed me still. Some parents don't get it.
permanentvacation 07:02 AM 06-17-2014
I have moved twice in local area and did not lose one child or have anyone fuss about it in any way. The first time was just a short distance down the road from my first home, but the second move was 4 miles away from the last house. Two of my dads (at the time) actually helped me move. One of them drove the UHaul truck for me!
I used to LOVE my parents - I really miss my old group of kids and parents.
I used to LOVE my parents - I really miss my old group of kids and parents.
mema 07:26 AM 06-17-2014
Wow! People, people, people. You are just fine....stick to your guns. She can go somewhere else then and drive further out of her way. Is she normally a "tantrum" mom? If so, I might be like, ya know what, don't let the door hit ya
daycare 09:33 AM 06-17-2014
well looks like I am calling my wait list today. DCP came in and gave notice. I am happy she did as if this is how she is going to behave then you need to go.
Ugh. Oh well, everyone wish me luck, I have my LIC visit today in a few hours...
Ugh. Oh well, everyone wish me luck, I have my LIC visit today in a few hours...
snbauser 10:09 AM 06-17-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
well looks like I am calling my wait list today. DCP came in and gave notice. I am happy she did as if this is how she is going to behave then you need to go.
Ugh. Oh well, everyone wish me luck, I have my LIC visit today in a few hours...
Sorry she gave notice but it sounds like you are better off.well looks like I am calling my wait list today. DCP came in and gave notice. I am happy she did as if this is how she is going to behave then you need to go.
Ugh. Oh well, everyone wish me luck, I have my LIC visit today in a few hours...
And good luck on your visit!!
BumbleBee 10:19 AM 06-17-2014
Originally Posted by Laurel:
P.S. You wonder how people like this get through life....
They throw $$$$ at everything. I have a parent like this.P.S. You wonder how people like this get through life....
TwinKristi 03:30 PM 06-17-2014
Sorry to hear you lost em!
Good luck at your LIC appt!!!
daycare 03:47 PM 06-17-2014
so far everything is going great. AND I have an appointment tonight to replace that family starting next week if it works out.
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....
TwinKristi 04:48 PM 06-17-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
so far everything is going great. AND I have an appointment tonight to replace that family starting next week if it works out.
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....
so far everything is going great. AND I have an appointment tonight to replace that family starting next week if it works out.
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....
MarinaVanessa 07:12 PM 06-17-2014
Originally Posted by daycare:
so far everything is going great. AND I have an appointment tonight to replace that family starting next week if it works out.
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....
Yay!! so far everything is going great. AND I have an appointment tonight to replace that family starting next week if it works out.
I have daycare interviews every night this week and next for fall enrollment, so I am not too worried....