Background...I used to have a family in my care about 4 years ago. They started one summer and the dcg was going to enter Kindergarten in the fall. (She is now 4th grade) Dcb was in preschool. Long story short...I wanted to term because dcg clearly had issues but since she would be full time school, I let them stay. Dcb ended up picking up most of sisters nasty behavior problems and when he entered kindergarten, I wanted to throw a freaking party! Then when summer hit, she no longer needed me because boss lady was letting her work from home! Yea!!!!!! ALTHOUGH...she pulled out two weeks before summer started. (Not cool) I had been dreading it however and felt it was a sign. (That was two summers ago) Last summer she asked me if I could watch the kids for 4 weeks only. I went ahead and watched them because dh was freaking out a little that I don't have many summer kids. (Mostly watch teachers kids). Well, dcm ended up pregnant! I had no room, but told her I would put baby on my list. Two months ago I contacted her that I would have room for baby in the fall if she wanted that slot. She told me she was/is trying to get her boss to let her work from home full-time. I told her great, good luck. I started interviews. A month ago and filled the slot for fall. Tonight I get a msg that she is wondering if I will have room for her two oldest this summer? Not the baby however because she doesn't want to lose her slot where she is at currently! I feel offended ...would you? I already replied that I can't watch them, I am keeping my summer light. Just wondering if you all would be offended or is it just me?

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I would not invest the time or energy thinking about it to be offended. I would think, "What an odd one..." and move right on with things.

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Don't waste your time worrying about what a selfish mom thinks of you. Her and her kids are high maintenance and yes, it is rude to take your baby elsewhere and then call back and ask for care for the other two. Clearly, you were not her first choice and she has the audacity to call you and expect you to be thrilled about that?! whatever. I think you did the right thing to say no to these requests and continue to say no to her in the future. After that, just move on.

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Thanks ladies! I am moving on!!!!

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I can see where you would feel offended and honestly....I'd feel a twinge of hurt, too, but I'd try not to dwell on it. I've been in this business long enough to have learned not to take too many things personally. On the plus side...you're going to enjoy a nice, light summer. Sounds great to me!

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ditto what the other ladies said. Let yourself feel bad for a minute, then move on. Just say no!

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I wouldn’t be offended at all.

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whats she's really saying is that no one wants to watch her kids and since she suckered you last time she was hoping it would work again. I would kindly send her and her kids to a daycamp instead.

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I would definitely want nothing more to do with that family...and I would consider myself lucky

and so should you

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Totally unrelated- Hello fellow Whovian!

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Yeah I don't know that offended is really the word I would use... irritated maybe? I think, like the other pointed out, she's just using you because no one else will take them! Why can't her new provider take them? What about summer camps? Does the YMCA offer childcare for school aged kids there? Ours has sites at schools, owned by various places like YMCA or another center or run by the school district. Anyway, move on!

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