Unregistered 05:52 AM 05-30-2017
This child does things like pushing babies that are just learning to stand, holding on others' arms and pressing hard using fingers, dragging kids around by the hand.... nothing is working that we've tried and this child has severely injured others through pushing....
bklsmum 07:27 AM 05-30-2017
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
This child does things like pushing babies that are just learning to stand, holding on others' arms and pressing hard using fingers, dragging kids around by the hand.... nothing is working that we've tried and this child has severely injured others through pushing....
If the child is a danger then they can't be around other kids in any way that would allow them to hurt other kids. I would term.
Pestle 07:44 AM 05-30-2017
This is your own child? This is unfortunate.
So you have a preschooler of your own inside your family day care with infants?
Did you just open your day care? There's probably a lot of jealousy going on.
I have a strict "Nobody touches the babies but me" rule. NO EXCEPTIONS. Doesn't matter if it's gentle touches or not. Anybody who touches the babies has to go sit in the quiet corner.
The day care area is gated off from the living room, and I allow my 4yo to come and go. If she gets too wild or I'm worried she's getting angry, she HAS to go. She can play quietly in the living room or go to her own room. I don't force her to participate in the day care program.
If your child isn't trustworthy or obedient enough to go play elsewhere, then unfortunately I don't see any way to keep your day care open with babies in it. You can't provide safe care for other people's children so you shouldn't take the children in, knowing that they're in danger of injury.
If your child is able to play separately, you may find that they outgrow this jealous, rough stage and can gradually be re-introduced to the day care. You might also consider switching to preschool-only care--kids those age are hard to come by and you can't charge as much, but at least you could keep making money from home, if your child has better behavior around peers.
Pestle 07:51 AM 05-30-2017
Another thought: Maybe you have a family member or friend who can come over and provide care for your child during day care hours for a few days or weeks, acting as an assistant assigned just to your child, to see if that kind of close attention helps change the behavior.
Ariana 11:12 AM 05-30-2017
"Severely injured others through pushing" and "nothing is working" means this child needs to be completely seperated from the group either through termination or physically being barred off from the rest of the group.
Other children deserve to be kept safe in your home. They did not ask to be terrorized by this child and it can do great psychological damage.
daycarediva 11:24 AM 05-30-2017
Originally Posted by Pestle:
This is your own child? This is unfortunate.
So you have a preschooler of your own inside your family day care with infants?
Did you just open your day care? There's probably a lot of jealousy going on.
I have a strict "Nobody touches the babies but me" rule. NO EXCEPTIONS. Doesn't matter if it's gentle touches or not. Anybody who touches the babies has to go sit in the quiet corner.
The day care area is gated off from the living room, and I allow my 4yo to come and go. If she gets too wild or I'm worried she's getting angry, she HAS to go. She can play quietly in the living room or go to her own room. I don't force her to participate in the day care program.
If your child isn't trustworthy or obedient enough to go play elsewhere, then unfortunately I don't see any way to keep your day care open with babies in it. You can't provide safe care for other people's children so you shouldn't take the children in, knowing that they're in danger of injury.
If your child is able to play separately, you may find that they outgrow this jealous, rough stage and can gradually be re-introduced to the day care. You might also consider switching to preschool-only care--kids those age are hard to come by and you can't charge as much, but at least you could keep making money from home, if your child has better behavior around peers.
I agree with this. Your child is TELLING you he cannot handle this. Either keep him separated, or quit caring for other children. It wouldn't take much to seriously injure an infant.