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SunflowerMama 08:32 AM 11-15-2012
Ok so I have one little dcg who is the sweeting girl and by coincidence doesn't speak any English.
For some reason my two dcbs that are age 2 have started bullying and terrorizing her. They take her lovies, push her down for no reason, put sand in her hair, etc.
They will be seperated or placed in TO and as soon as they are out and I turn my back they do it again. We talk about how to treat our friends but it just doesn't seem to sink in.
I feel horrible for her because she is so quiet and doesn't do anything to warrant this behavior.
Does anyone have any ideas on what to do?
For some reason my two dcbs that are age 2 have started bullying and terrorizing her. They take her lovies, push her down for no reason, put sand in her hair, etc.
They will be seperated or placed in TO and as soon as they are out and I turn my back they do it again. We talk about how to treat our friends but it just doesn't seem to sink in.
I feel horrible for her because she is so quiet and doesn't do anything to warrant this behavior.
Does anyone have any ideas on what to do?
daycare 08:44 AM 11-15-2012
you need to tell them that what they are doing is NOT ok.
we don't hurt our friends. They need to hug their hurt friend, say sorry and need to be told to play nice with our friends.
I had this issue some time ago with kids and as an adult I have also experienced what it is like to be bullied because you don't understand that language. It is not fun....
Does the girl cry when they do this to her?
we don't hurt our friends. They need to hug their hurt friend, say sorry and need to be told to play nice with our friends.
I had this issue some time ago with kids and as an adult I have also experienced what it is like to be bullied because you don't understand that language. It is not fun....
Does the girl cry when they do this to her?
JenNJ 08:49 AM 11-15-2012
Shut it DOWN. Involve the parents. Hell NO would this happen under my eye.
1. Those boys are DONE playing together. They are a nasty duo and no longer have the privilege of choosing their play partners. I would keep them totally apart.
2. If they somehow do it again, call their parents and have them picked up ASAP. It won't stop unless you have help from home and parents won't give their all unless it effects their life.
3. Those boys are back to baby toys. No sand since they are being nasty with it. No toys that could possibly hurt anyone else. Soft books, soft baby toys, etc.
4. If all else fails, get rid of them. Every child deserves to be safe and loved. this girl is suffering in quiet and it is just so heartbreaking. She deserves to be protected from those who harm her. I have a zero tolerance policy for bullying and hurting others. 2 incidents and you are GONE.
1. Those boys are DONE playing together. They are a nasty duo and no longer have the privilege of choosing their play partners. I would keep them totally apart.
2. If they somehow do it again, call their parents and have them picked up ASAP. It won't stop unless you have help from home and parents won't give their all unless it effects their life.
3. Those boys are back to baby toys. No sand since they are being nasty with it. No toys that could possibly hurt anyone else. Soft books, soft baby toys, etc.
4. If all else fails, get rid of them. Every child deserves to be safe and loved. this girl is suffering in quiet and it is just so heartbreaking. She deserves to be protected from those who harm her. I have a zero tolerance policy for bullying and hurting others. 2 incidents and you are GONE.
SunflowerMama 08:56 AM 11-15-2012
Originally Posted by daycare:
you need to tell them that what they are doing is NOT ok.
we don't hurt our friends. They need to hug their hurt friend, say sorry and need to be told to play nice with our friends.
I had this issue some time ago with kids and as an adult I have also experienced what it is like to be bullied because you don't understand that language. It is not fun....
Does the girl cry when they do this to her?
I tell them that every single time. That it's not kind to hurt or push our friends. That we need to be kind with our words but it's as if it's in one ear and out the other. I'm at a loss. She doesn't cry because I think she doesn't understand what they are doing or why, which makes me even more protective of her because they are just being unkind.you need to tell them that what they are doing is NOT ok.
we don't hurt our friends. They need to hug their hurt friend, say sorry and need to be told to play nice with our friends.
I had this issue some time ago with kids and as an adult I have also experienced what it is like to be bullied because you don't understand that language. It is not fun....
Does the girl cry when they do this to her?
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:37 AM 11-15-2012
Newly turned 2? 2 1/2 year olds? Or, are they nearing 3?
Could the pushing be a way of trying to initiate "rough housing" type play? There has to be a leader between the two. One has to be initiating most of it. Two leaders are never best friends. It's always a leader and a follower. Find out who and keep him separate from the other children and see if it changes at all.
Could the pushing be a way of trying to initiate "rough housing" type play? There has to be a leader between the two. One has to be initiating most of it. Two leaders are never best friends. It's always a leader and a follower. Find out who and keep him separate from the other children and see if it changes at all.