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lflick 06:59 PM 08-12-2013
Hey all, it's me the nuisance again! I have many questions, I search most but post some.... anyways.... I have 5 boys... aged 7,6,5,5, and 6 months.... anyhow... my question is have any of you ever considered the impact of having another child into your daycare business as a whole? Have any of you decided to wait a particular length of time before conceiving again or ..?
I know it may sound silly but I am curious.... I was married had a tubal ligation and then divorced.... have since been remarried and have a tubal reversal... and a 6 month old... and I am honestly contemplating how on earth I am to decide the spacing... in my mind, and my pattern per say.... rearing your own children is easier when they are close in age; however, I am loving I have extra hands.... anyways I ramble...... Mostly I am curious to see if you all have ever postponed having a baby with your daycare in mind?
I know it may sound silly but I am curious.... I was married had a tubal ligation and then divorced.... have since been remarried and have a tubal reversal... and a 6 month old... and I am honestly contemplating how on earth I am to decide the spacing... in my mind, and my pattern per say.... rearing your own children is easier when they are close in age; however, I am loving I have extra hands.... anyways I ramble...... Mostly I am curious to see if you all have ever postponed having a baby with your daycare in mind?
Starburst 07:06 PM 08-12-2013
I thought about that a few times because I want to have a big family (about 4-6; if possible). I think about 2 years at least would be good, because in my state you are limited more on how many children under 2 you can have for daycare. And apparently, spacing kids at least 2 years apart can actually help make the older child smarter (and possible even the younger child as well). http://healthland.time.com/2011/11/2...rter-siblings//
But then at the same time there are times when I hope to have twins, so IDK how that would work out, lol.
But then at the same time there are times when I hope to have twins, so IDK how that would work out, lol.
lflick 07:13 PM 08-12-2013
lol, I know there are studies for everything it seems. I have 5 boys.... older two are 18 months apart... then the twins 14 months after that and then my youngest 4.5 years after them.... I am completely loving the whole relishing in everything he does... it's simply amazing how rapidly they develop and grow in their first year.... I just love being a mother and a care provider... it's purely natural... I will never be a "Duggar" per say but I am open to having more (one for sure).
Familycare71 07:21 PM 08-12-2013
As a parent of two boys that are 21 months apart... And are now 15 and 17
I will say having them close together when they were little was fantastic! Having them close together during puberty... Much less so! 
I think you will know when the right time is to have your next
. And who knows- a surprise may pop up between now and then!
I will say having them close together when they were little was fantastic! Having them close together during puberty... Much less so! I think you will know when the right time is to have your next
. And who knows- a surprise may pop up between now and then!
Lyss 07:26 PM 08-12-2013
Personally I feel like my family comes first, I wouldn't stop myself from having another if I felt the time was right because of my numbers in daycare.
I don't have a guarantee that the kids I have enrolled now are going to be here in 9 months or a year, I feel like there is a high likelihood they will be but no guarantee so I'm not going to base my personal life on that. If I had to term a family for a child of my own I would.
DH and I are discussing having another now, but none of our hesitations are based on the DC. I want my kids to be closer in age than my brothers and I were (6 and 16 year age differences) because we weren't that close due to the age difference but I could not have handled another one before now! DD put us through the ringer! I have a friend with two girls who are 11 months apart The girls get along great and are smart as whips but I would have gone insane! I'm in awe of her!
I don't have a guarantee that the kids I have enrolled now are going to be here in 9 months or a year, I feel like there is a high likelihood they will be but no guarantee so I'm not going to base my personal life on that. If I had to term a family for a child of my own I would.
DH and I are discussing having another now, but none of our hesitations are based on the DC. I want my kids to be closer in age than my brothers and I were (6 and 16 year age differences) because we weren't that close due to the age difference but I could not have handled another one before now! DD put us through the ringer!
I have a friend with two girls who are 11 months apart The girls get along great and are smart as whips but I would have gone insane! I'm in awe of her!
Starburst 07:39 PM 08-12-2013
Originally Posted by Lyss:
DH and I are discussing having another now, but none of our hesitations are based on the DC. I want my kids to be closer in age than my brothers and I were (6 and 16 year age differences) because we weren't that close due to the age difference but I could not have handled another one before now! DD put us through the ringer! I have a friend with two girls who are 11 months apart The girls get along great and are smart as whips but I would have gone insane! I'm in awe of her!
I think they are considered "Irish twins"- When siblings are not born twins but are born less than a year apart. It's kinda a stereotypical joke because supposedly Irish families have lots of children and usually have them close together. BTW, I am part Irish, so no offense to anyone.DH and I are discussing having another now, but none of our hesitations are based on the DC. I want my kids to be closer in age than my brothers and I were (6 and 16 year age differences) because we weren't that close due to the age difference but I could not have handled another one before now! DD put us through the ringer!
I have a friend with two girls who are 11 months apart The girls get along great and are smart as whips but I would have gone insane! I'm in awe of her!
cheerfuldom 08:01 PM 08-12-2013
I dont space my kids based on the daycare but I will say that my own family does effect who I can take at daycare. For instance, I never take newborns when I have my own newborn, thats what I did for my last two children so that they had my full attention as best as possible, especially since I nurse on demand.
but since I know that you have struggled with some of the aspects of daycare, I would recommend that you give yourself and your family more time before adding to the family because your job is so demanding. If you space your kids two years apart, that would mean that you would be pregnant in like 6 months so its up to you if that is a wise decision or not. I think three years apart is more reasonable and this is coming from someone that had four kids in 6 years LOL
but since I know that you have struggled with some of the aspects of daycare, I would recommend that you give yourself and your family more time before adding to the family because your job is so demanding. If you space your kids two years apart, that would mean that you would be pregnant in like 6 months so its up to you if that is a wise decision or not. I think three years apart is more reasonable and this is coming from someone that had four kids in 6 years LOL
Lyss 08:09 PM 08-12-2013
Originally Posted by Starburst:
I think they are considered "Irish twins"- When siblings are not born twins but are born less than a year apart. It's kinda a stereotypical joke because supposedly Irish families have lots of children and usually have them close together. BTW, I am part Irish, so no offense to anyone.
Yeah, it was originally a derogatory comment aimed at Irish immigrants whom were considered poor and uneducated, its not really a derogatory term anymore but she is actually Irish so she hates it I think they are considered "Irish twins"- When siblings are not born twins but are born less than a year apart. It's kinda a stereotypical joke because supposedly Irish families have lots of children and usually have them close together. BTW, I am part Irish, so no offense to anyone.
Play Care 03:51 AM 08-13-2013
Yes and no. Like another poster said, if we wanted to have another baby (Heaven forbid!!!!
) and all other factors lined up (we had "extra" money in the bank, plans for the what-ifs, etc.) then we would move forward. I wouldn't necessarily take my dc families into account (as someone pointed out it's impossible to know what our clients plans will be in the next year) - but I would be foolish not to think about the impact of that kind of decision.
) and all other factors lined up (we had "extra" money in the bank, plans for the what-ifs, etc.) then we would move forward. I wouldn't necessarily take my dc families into account (as someone pointed out it's impossible to know what our clients plans will be in the next year) - but I would be foolish not to think about the impact of that kind of decision.
EntropyControlSpecialist 05:30 AM 08-13-2013
I did kind of consider that with this pregnancy and I was just thinking about additional children yesterday (despite the fact that I'm 37 weeks pregnant with this one and have no need to think about additional children). More in terms of ratios and the logistics of managing two little kids, since my oldest is a teen and doesn't count in the ratios.
More in terms of ratios and the logistics of managing two little kids, since my oldest is a teen and doesn't count in the ratios.
preschoolteacher 07:29 AM 08-13-2013
I'm actually hoping to time my second child's birth to summer 2015. I know that probably sounds crazy! My son will be turning 3 that year, and my daycare business will have been (hopefully) going for 2 years by then.
I think it's a good time to have a second child--financially, which is important so we can afford another little one AND the time off I want to take--and also because I like the 3 year age gap between kids. It's what I had with my closest sibling, and we get along great.
Also, I want to have them 3 years apart because I had a very difficult labor and c-section with the first. Doctor recommends this time gap for me!
I think it's a good time to have a second child--financially, which is important so we can afford another little one AND the time off I want to take--and also because I like the 3 year age gap between kids. It's what I had with my closest sibling, and we get along great.
Also, I want to have them 3 years apart because I had a very difficult labor and c-section with the first. Doctor recommends this time gap for me!
melilley 12:08 PM 08-13-2013
I'm asking myself the same question. I have a 10 year old dd and a 1 year old ds and we are talking about maybe having one more , and if we do, it has to be soon as I will be 35 soon and I don't really want to be very much older.
Sometimes I think of the dcf's and that I will have to close (I don't think I could be like some ladies on here and go right back a week or two later) and what would they do and who would I term and blah blah blah...
Lately though the dcf's are getting farther from our decision and maybe after the summer is over, we'll go for it!
Sometimes I think of the dcf's and that I will have to close (I don't think I could be like some ladies on here and go right back a week or two later) and what would they do and who would I term and blah blah blah...
Lately though the dcf's are getting farther from our decision and maybe after the summer is over, we'll go for it!
wdmmom 12:21 PM 08-13-2013
I have 4. Oldest is 17 today, then they fall 13, 12 and almost 9.
Obviously the 12 year old was a huge surprise but the others were planned out with about 3-3.5 years in spacing. If I had to do it over again, I would stick to about 2.5 to 3 years apart. My siblings and I are all 4-4.5 years apart and to this day we aren't close and I think that's why.
Obviously the 12 year old was a huge surprise but the others were planned out with about 3-3.5 years in spacing. If I had to do it over again, I would stick to about 2.5 to 3 years apart. My siblings and I are all 4-4.5 years apart and to this day we aren't close and I think that's why.