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williams2008 06:16 AM 07-25-2013
So one of my dcms called this morning to let me know that she wasn't going to send dcb this am since she called in to work. Then she went on to say, but since he is really cranky I'm going to bring him so I can get me some rest
Just what I needed today since my assistant is off, a cranky 9 month old
Just what I needed today since my assistant is off, a cranky 9 month old
crazydaycarelady 06:25 AM 07-25-2013
That's sucks, but I do have to give her kudos for being honest.
MrsSteinel'sHouse 06:26 AM 07-25-2013
On the plus side, usually if they are realy cranky for mom they aren't for me and visa versa! If I say they had a really rough day watch out, mom comes in the next morning saying what an awesome evening they had!
williams2008 07:05 AM 07-25-2013
Originally Posted by MrsSteinel'sHouse:
On the plus side, usually if they are realy cranky for mom they aren't for me and visa versa! If I say they had a really rough day watch out, mom comes in the next morning saying what an awesome evening they had!
He came in, had breakfast and went straight to sleep!!!On the plus side, usually if they are realy cranky for mom they aren't for me and visa versa! If I say they had a really rough day watch out, mom comes in the next morning saying what an awesome evening they had!
williams2008 07:10 AM 07-25-2013
Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady:
That's sucks, but I do have to give her kudos for being honest.
Yeah, I was glad she warned me. Turns out the lil fella was hungry and sleepy.That's sucks, but I do have to give her kudos for being honest.
caregiver 01:20 PM 07-25-2013
That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
williams2008 01:54 PM 07-25-2013
Originally Posted by care giver:
That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
No, it's not you. I have came across a lot of parents who do not want to spend time with their kids and that's just SAD.That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
The other day there was a power outage on the side of town I live on as well as the side my daycare is on. I told every parent at drop off that if the power was not back on by noon I will be closing for the day. One dcm said.....are you closing the entire day or will you be taking them to your house?
Just when I thought I had heard it all, she hit me with that!
EntropyControlSpecialist 03:36 PM 07-25-2013
Originally Posted by care giver:
That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
That is a constant complaint here.That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
Glad DCK was pacified by food and sleep!
Crystal 06:36 PM 07-25-2013
Why did she bother to call in the first place? She called to say she WAS going to keep him home but she changed her mind? What kind of cruel trick is that?
Crystal 06:37 PM 07-25-2013
On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick. 
Familycare71 05:22 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
I have wished many times that I had a dc to send my kids to when I was sick! On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
That is one time a parent being home doesn't bug me at all- they need to sleep and if they are really sick the dc kid isn't getting the care they need probably...
Jewels 05:50 AM 07-26-2013
That was the only time I sent my son to daycare when I had daycare, was if I was really sick, I totally understand that one! its the other ones that are annoying, like the other week, our family was camping with one of my daycare families, and that family had friday off, and when the dad picked up the baby and 5 year old the thursday before, he said "The kids will be here in the morning so we can get ready to go" I wanted to laugh, "um because I don't need to get ready to leave for the same exact trip you do!?and with 12 children here, you don't think it may be nice to lighten my load a little, after your wife told me they wouldn't be here....they didn't end up coming, luckily the wife thought the way I did, and was mad at the husband for telling me that. But I was so mad all of thursday night!
williams2008 05:57 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
Why did she bother to call in the first place? She called to say she WAS going to keep him home but she changed her mind? What kind of cruel trick is that?
yep, that's exactly why she called.Why did she bother to call in the first place? She called to say she WAS going to keep him home but she changed her mind? What kind of cruel trick is that?
Blackcat31 06:18 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
Same here. On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
I am betting that when a parent can get some good quality rest, they recover much faster than if they had to mind their child all day while trying to recuperate.
I get annoyed when parents want to dump their child all the time, but IME, those parents aren't really all that common.
I think that just because you are a parent, it doesn't mean that you are required to be attached to your child 24/7.
I would also assume that sending your child to daycare while you (the parent ) stay home and rest, cuts down on the exposure for the child.
Same concept many providers use for excluding sick kids or having a time limit for pick up after being notified of illness at care.....minimize expose for a less likely chance of getting the same illness.
@Williams2008 Glad the little guy was good for you and not at all cranky like mom thought he was. That always makes for a nice surprise
EchoMom 07:20 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by care giver:
That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
I get what yhour'e saying and myself, I also don't understand how parents say they can't get any work done, housework done, packing, moving, resting, etc. done while their child (usually only 1 child too) is with them so they drop them off to get things done. I can handle a group of kids, and as a teacher, a whole classroom.That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
HOWEVER, just to play devil's advocate. I also think you're wrong in your attitude about it... They have a job where they are allowed to call off, and they also pay for daycare. Those are the choices they made. We chose to work from home and know that usually we can't just call off whenever we want, that's not the job we chose. I don't think you can fault them for calling off of work and utilizing the daycare they pay for.
Unregistered 08:24 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by care giver:
That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
Doesn't bother me when a parent is home sick and brings child to me. If they're too sick to do their job at the office/factory/whatever, they need the rest so that they can care for their child when my daycare closes. Doesn't bother me a bit, I support it. When a parent takes a vacation day to bum around, it does burn me up-or when they have a federal holiday off and get upset because I'm not open for them. Not only do I get my "chores" done with my child in tow, I get them done with other peoples' kids, too. I don't believe that you can't buy groceries with your child (with a kid under 12 months, I know it's easier to go alone, but after that...).That really bugs me when a parent stays home because they are not feeling good, but still will bring their child to daycare saying that they won't be able to get rest if they keep their child home. How many times have we as daycare providers not felt 100% maybe one day, but still take the kids.... we get through the day, but would have rather had the day off ourselves so we could rest and feel better. If we can do it, why can't a parent do it with their own child! Parents seem to not want to take responsibility of their own child even when they are home, for whatever reason and pawn them off at a daycare so they don't have to be bothered with them for a few hours. Is it just me or does it seem like parents don't want to spend time with their child if they are home for whatever reason and want "ME" time?
Jewels 09:14 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Doesn't bother me when a parent is home sick and brings child to me. If they're too sick to do their job at the office/factory/whatever, they need the rest so that they can care for their child when my daycare closes. Doesn't bother me a bit, I support it. When a parent takes a vacation day to bum around, it does burn me up-or when they have a federal holiday off and get upset because I'm not open for them. Not only do I get my "chores" done with my child in tow, I get them done with other peoples' kids, too. I don't believe that you can't buy groceries with your child (with a kid under 12 months, I know it's easier to go alone, but after that...).
I had one of my mom's who's also a friend tell me the other day, a day I was closed for vacation, grandma was going to take the kids, she said she wanted to take that Friday off as well but grandma probably wouldn't be super happy if she had the day off and grandma watched the kids, and I quote "I don't want to use a vacation day when my kids are home" I had to keep my mouth from falling open....... Maybe it's just different for us since we are with kids all day, when it's just me and my 2 it's so easy, I guess they get used to being away from their kids while working, its alot more work for them? But that is what kids are . I don't let it big me to much, but that one did bother me. Another one is when they have they say of but still wait until the last possible minute to pick up, even more on a Friday.Doesn't bother me when a parent is home sick and brings child to me. If they're too sick to do their job at the office/factory/whatever, they need the rest so that they can care for their child when my daycare closes. Doesn't bother me a bit, I support it. When a parent takes a vacation day to bum around, it does burn me up-or when they have a federal holiday off and get upset because I'm not open for them. Not only do I get my "chores" done with my child in tow, I get them done with other peoples' kids, too. I don't believe that you can't buy groceries with your child (with a kid under 12 months, I know it's easier to go alone, but after that...).
williams2008 09:18 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
Don't get me wrong, I don't mind them coming at all. All of my dcks are here 5 days a week, so I'm used to that. I just couldn't understand what was the reason for the phone call if he was comingOn another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
julie 11:17 AM 07-26-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.
I don't really mind either, EXCEPT that the mom specifically phoned that she was keeping the kid home, she was sick herself, and then mentioned the kid was "cranky" so she was going to send him. When kids are "cranky" in my care, it generally tends to come down to feeling under the weather or a bad night of sleep because they were up all night puking, teething, fever, etc. So if the mom was sick and sends a "cranky" kid, I would be making sure that he had no other symptoms, or masked symptoms that mom felt she could not deal with in her state so I get the happy pleasure with many other kids around to infect. I am happy to let parents get much-needed rest, but I would NOT be cool with being a nursemaid or exposing my daycare to whatever they have either just so she can get that rest. That story set off major alarm bells in my head. Glad he wasn't cranky for you, OP. Hope you have a healthy weekend!On another note, I don't mind if the children are here while Mom or Dad are at home, especially if the parent is sick.