Help With Hard Letter To All Parents

[juliebug]

So i am trying to write a letter to my daycare parents telling them my husband has terminal cancer, and hospice will be coming to my house off and on. I also want the parents to have back-up or be willing to come get children immeditly if needed. i have have 2 sub i will be using to help for emergency's . Both have back ground checks and have been checked by the state. this is what i have please help my make is sound better this is soo hard to write.

Dear parents,
It is with a heavy heart I tell you my husband has Esophageal cancer. We have called hospice this week and they will be coming and caring for him periodically. I will stay open during this time. I will take a few days off when he passes to make funeral arrangements. I will try and keep you all informed when I think the time is closing in. Please make sure you have backup or are available for pickup for an emergency or he passes. I have 2 subs that will be helping me out during this time for doctor appointment and emergencies. Flame my current sub you have all met, or Peggy(new sub) may be here with your children during an emergency. If you have any questions or concerns please let me know, either by call, text, e-mail or in person.

[Hunni Bee]

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. I pray you all have peace.

[Margarete]

So sorry that you have to write this letter. I'm sure this is really hard.

I would change the order of what you wrote a bit, and probably de-emphasize that this would/ could be happening very soon.... unless it really looks that way.
First reassure them you have backup to handle doctors appointments and emergencies... You have made arrangements to make sure their care is uninterrupted as much as possible. Then tell them what will take place when/ if he passes.

Dear parents,
It is with a heavy heart I tell you my husband has Esophageal cancer. We have called hospice this week and they will be coming and caring for him periodically. I will stay open during this time. I have 2 subs that will be helping me out during this time for doctor appointment and emergencies. Flame my current sub you have all met, or Peggy(new sub) may be here with your children during an emergency. In the event he passes I will be closing for a few days to make funeral arrangements. I will try and keep you all informed if/ when the time is closing in. As outlined in your contracts please make sure you have backup or are available for pickup for an emergency or he passes. If you have any questions or concerns please let me know, either by call, text, e-mail or in person.

[Margarete]

hmmm maybe still rewording this a bit "I will try and keep you all informed if/ when the time is closing in"

Something like this could really happen at any time, to any of us (without any advance notice)... It sounds like you have you have made arrangements to make sure your business is not interrupted as much as possible.

[SilverSabre25]

Flame, my current sub, whom you've all met


I am so sorry you and your husband have to go through this, I can't even imagine.

[cheerfuldom]

oh no OP! I am so sorry to read this. I will really be thinking of you and please come here anytime you need to vent or chat or have support. We are all here for you! I am sorry I am not any help on the letter. I wouldnt know how to word such a letter.

[Evansmom]

OP I lost my hubs to brain cancer when we were 31. In my experience there is not a good/easy way to tell news like this. I think your letter is perfectly fine the way it is.

I'm really sorry that your husband has terminal cancer. Please take care of yourself. It sounds like you will have some good help with hospice. They are angels. Accept all the help from them that you can but also, be kind to yourself.

[Josiegirl]

I am so very very sorry.
I wouldn't fret over the wording of your letter, it looks fine.

[Lavender]

I am so sorry.

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

(((Juliebug))) my prayers are with you. I am sure your parents will be very understanding in this situation.

[Blackcat31]

Originally Posted by juliebug

So i am trying to write a letter to my daycare parents telling them my husband has terminal cancer, and hospice will be coming to my house off and on. I also want the parents to have back-up or be willing to come get children immeditly if needed. i have have 2 sub i will be using to help for emergency's . Both have back ground checks and have been checked by the state. this is what i have please help my make is sound better this is soo hard to write.

Dear parents,
It is with a heavy heart I tell you my husband has Esophageal cancer. We have called hospice this week and they will be coming and caring for him periodically. I will stay open during this time. I will take a few days off when he passes to make funeral arrangements. I will try and keep you all informed when I think the time is closing in. Please make sure you have backup or are available for pickup for an emergency or he passes. I have 2 subs that will be helping me out during this time for doctor appointment and emergencies. Flame my current sub you have all met, or Peggy(new sub) may be here with your children during an emergency. If you have any questions or concerns please let me know, either by call, text, e-mail or in person.

I know this isn't what you asked but I am wondering how YOU are doing? I know when you first posted about this, it was a shock and you were holding it together pretty well but I am wondering now, if you are still doing ok?

I know as a mom and a wife, you are doing your best to hold it all together but please, please make sure you have someone you can lean on. Do you need anything? Are you ok financially? Do you think any of your parents will leave through/during this?

Are any of your extended family members around to help you and offer you support?

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. My heart breaks for you and your children. Please let me or anyone on the forum know if there is anything we can do to help... ANYTHING.

Keeping you, your DH and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[Familycare71]

First- I am so sorry your family is going through this!!! Please make sure to take care of yourself!

Second- as a parent I would wonder what my child would see and be aware of. I would also share how you are going to Multi task this (if you need to) or state that you won't have to.
Just what I would personally wonder.

Again- thoughts and Prayers to you and yours!!

[juliebug]

Originally Posted by Blackcat31

I know this isn't what you asked but I am wondering how YOU are doing? I know when you first posted about this, it was a shock and you were holding it together pretty well but I am wondering now, if you are still doing ok?

I know as a mom and a wife, you are doing your best to hold it all together but please, please make sure you have someone you can lean on. Do you need anything? Are you ok financially? Do you think any of your parents will leave through/during this?

Are any of your extended family members around to help you and offer you support?

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. My heart breaks for you and your children. Please let me or anyone on the forum know if there is anything we can do to help... ANYTHING.

Keeping you, your DH and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

I am doing pretty well, i do have lots and lots of support. I have family this is willing and will eventually come down and help my husband.

Financially we are doing ok. not living high on the hog. but managing well. My husband is a veteran and the va hospital is covering all expenses. That helps alot!!!

2 of the parents know he is sick and terminal just not how close we are getting now. Not really worried they will leave, if they do i will have no hard feelings. and will still make it financially as well.

I guess the big things is i want them to know it will be coming in the next few months. doctors say 6months or less. Hince while hospice is coming. My husband is doing ok, looks fine just sleeps alot, and has a really hard time eating.

I do have 2 sub lined up that can help at a moments notice. i also have my mother who can come at any time and help. I also have lots of safety set up for the dck. I have 4 2yr olds right now in my daycare. I have a dedicated room for childcare. this really helps as my husband lays in bed upstairs away from kids, or in living room away from kids. he has done great thur all this. we found out last may and they thought only a year then so he is doing better than they expected. but the caner is growing rapidly now, and he is now in much more pain.

I really want the parents to know the sub may be here more, and i will stay open and make sure the kids are safe at all times.

Thanks for all the hugs and support. its great!

[mrsnj]

OMGoodness. I am so very very sorry. My gpop passed with lung cancer and it still feels like it was yesterday.

(((((((Hugs))))))) stay strong and you are in my thoughts and prayers

[lovemykidstoo]

I'm so sorry to read that you, your husband and your children are going through this tragedy. You will be in my prayers. I don't think it matters what or how you write your letter, your parents will completely understand. I wouldn't worry about the letter, you have bigger things to worry about. Sending you cyber hugs and thoughts and prayers.

[kathiemarie]

Just want to say you are in my prayers.

[Former Teacher]

I am so sorry

No words on your letter writing. Just know that you are having loads of thoughts and prayers for you and your family

[daycare]

other than a few grammatical errors, your letter sounds just fine. I will keep your family in my thoughts. AND Pray that all of your families will be supportive, understanding and thoughtful during this time. I know how hard it is to be going through personal stuff and then to have families that just can't seem to NOT create issues. SO I am going to pray for both.........

Keep yourself well and spend these days memorable ones for you and your hubby.....

[Heidi]

I've been wondering too how you and you family are doing, since you first posted about this months ago.

The others already gave advice on wording the letter, so not much I can add there. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I will keep your husband in my thoughts and prayers.

[Scout]

I have thought of you in the past few months and was wondering how this was going for you. I am very sorry this is happening to you. Your parents should understand and I also think your letter sounds fine the way it is. Take care of yourself.

[butterfly]

Praying for you and your family. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

[Play Care]

Originally Posted by Familycare71

Second- as a parent I would wonder what my child would see and be aware of. I would also share how you are going to Multi task this (if you need to) or state that you won't have to.
Just what I would personally wonder.

I am so sorry.

I think the letter sounds good, but I would probably find ways to emphasize that the children will be having their regular schedule/routine during this time and will not be in the way of any treatment, etc. Please don't take this as cold or callous, I think we all know that some parents would pull immediately and others might have concerns.

Again, I am so sorry. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

[coolconfidentme]

((hugs))

[momofboys]

I'm heartbroken for you. Sending hugs & prayers for you & DH

[e.j.]

I'm sorry you and your family are going through this. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

[Luna]

I'm sorry and I'm keeping you in my thoughts. I think your letter sounds fine the way it is.

[WImom]

Sorry to hear about your husband. Your family will be in my prayers.

[CedarCreek]

You seem like such a strong woman, juliebug. I am so very sorry for you to have to be going through all of this.

Your letter sounds just fine, the parents will understand, I'm sure.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My heart broke for you reading your post. You will be in my prayers as you prepare for this extremely difficult time.

[mema]

So sorry Juliebug. You and your family will be in my thoughts. I'm sure no matter how it's worded, the parents will be understanding.

[melilley]

So sorry. I will be thinking of you and your family.

[jenn]

I'm so sorry. Your letter sounds very professional. I'm glad you have support to help you through this. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.