My father in law lives an hour away and is laid off in winter. He has come to stay with us anywhere from a couple days to a week at a time to visit his 3 grandchildren. I run a home daycare that includes 4 kids plus my 3 year old daughter. I run it in the basement. Father in law likes to come in the basement and play with his granddaughter and the daycare kids. The other morning a mother was dropping off her son and daycare father was right there. He offered to bring the daycare kid down the steps. I could not see interaction as I was down but I could hear it. She declined and said she could do it. I think he was trying to be helpful but obviously it probably shouldn’t have happened. When he is visiting, he seems to rush to the basement so he can talk to the parents. He is lonely and I chalk it up to being overly friendly. I am wondering what I can tell him to stop him from doing this. It makes me uncomfortable with him trying to interact with my parents and I don’t like when he is downstairs with my daycare kids for long periods of time. I assume there are fingerprinting laws and background checks I could use to dissuade him from spending so much time with them and “tying to help me” with the kids. Do any of you have any suggestions on how I could word this without being too mean?

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