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Old 03-08-2012, 11:57 AM
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Default Help With Almost 2-Year-Old Behavior

I need advice. I've only been doing daycare 3 months; I have a little girl who will be two next month. She has never gone to daycare. She doesn't talk; I've heard her say some words, but she doesn't respond to questions, say hi, bye, no verbal interactions. She refuses to listen or respond to anything I say, unless it is something she WANTS to do. I've wondered many times about her hearing, but she will hear and respond if it's something she likes, such as saying her daddy is here. But telling her no, asking her to pick up, or even saying her name to get her to look at me when she knows she's doing something wrong-she doesn't respond at all. She throws toys everywhere, but acts like she has never had to pick one up in her life. She literarally stands there with a blank look while I show and explain to her, then turns and tries to run off. She knows very well the things she is not allowed to do: standing on chairs, climbing on things, ect and she waits until I'm feeding the baby or making lunch and then she does it. And she will keep doing it until I walk over to her, then she sometimes corrects herself, sometimes I have to pull her down. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I feel she understands almost all of what I say, but she doesn't want to respond, so she ignores me. And with her not talking, but being an active almost two-year-old, I feel I have no control over this little person. Tried time out, but she doesn't seem to undertand (her parents don't use discipline because they think she's too young to understand rules; a HUGE part of the problem, I know). There are many issues here, I think, but I don't know if I should just say I can't keep providing care, or try to establish at my house she has to follow rules. I'm grateful for any advice!
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Old 03-08-2012, 01:12 PM
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I think she will get the idea with lots of consistency. This is definately a major testing age, though! I have 2 19mo's and a 23 mo here. Some days it just no fun.

Can you set up a pnp or super-gate with a few toys and put her in there when she pulls her stunts and you are trying to feed baby/make lunch? Not as a "time out" more "You are not being safe, and I need to make lunch. I am going to put you here until lunch is ready, so that you will be safe". Occasionally, one of mine ends up sitting at the table with a book until lunch is ready for the same reason. Usually it's whopping someone on the head here though...

I'd basically give her one chance, and as soon as she blows it, put her in her in the pnp just long enough to get whatever done. Yeah, she will probably scream her bloody head off, not play with the toys, but you do need to keep her safe, and you do need to attend to other things.
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Old 03-08-2012, 02:02 PM
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Yes, keeping her safe gets to be a problem. She has climbed on the changing table many times, tried to climb into my daughter's crib, stands on chairs, ect. The pnp is probably the best option. Sometimes I feel bad that the other two year olds may get a minute or so where I have them sit for a time out, but she can't/won't. There are only a couple months between her and another girl who can do a minute or two time out no problem, but I guess I have to look at each child individually. Thanks!
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