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lovemykidstoo 05:33 AM 04-11-2019
I swear I'm gonna lose it. Mom of 19 month old constantly says first thing in the morning, he "wouldn't let me" change his pajama top into a regular shirt this morning. I mean he outweighed you or what? I said what do you mean he wouldn't let you? She says I get the shirt to where I'm taking it over his head and it turns into a 10 minute temper tantrum. I couldn't help it, I said well he knows that a 10 minute temper tantrum works and he gets his way. WTH never was anything like that a struggle with our kids. Now she thinks he is having night terrors because he's waking up 3 times a night crying. Well, possibly, but more probable that he knows when this happens they go in and rock him. I'm just tired of parents saying kids under the age of 18 "won't let them" do something lol
Jo123ABC 06:08 AM 04-11-2019
I hear you! I swear most of my dc parents are like this! BE THE PARENT people 
Firefly 06:16 AM 04-11-2019
I hear this all the time! One time a parent dropped off her son who wasn’t potty trained yet in underwear saying he wouldn’t let me put a pull up on him! Hadn’t even started potty training with me yet! I’ve had kids come in with their pjs on with parent saying the same thing. Maybe I should have a rule about this 
Blackcat31 06:16 AM 04-11-2019
I've just gotten to the point that any time I hear a parent say their kid won't let them I reply with something like;
"Well I am glad your child doesn't treat me that way. He/she listens very well here but I suppose that's expected as they spend so much time with me." Then I just smile big.
I am so over parents that are parents by definition rather than action.
"Well I am glad your child doesn't treat me that way. He/she listens very well here but I suppose that's expected as they spend so much time with me." Then I just smile big.
I am so over parents that are parents by definition rather than action.
CountryRoads 06:31 AM 04-11-2019
I hear this all the time, too!
Mostly from one family. Her child has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
Mostly from one family. Her child has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
Josiegirl 10:17 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by CountryRoads:
I hear this all the time, too!
Mostly from one family. Her child has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
I had a set of twins whose mom let them have anything and everything, then they wouldn't let her take it away. I hear this all the time, too!
Mostly from one family. Her child has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
Dcm used to tell me they just *had* to sleep with chapstick tops at night time(they were maybe 18 mo at the time??!!)because they'd scream. Their older sister had a zillion teeny tiny toys that the girls would bring in and I'd have to confiscate them because they'd scream at mom or hide stuff in their hot little hands to slip by her. Choking hazards dcm?? It's really a miracle more little children don't choke.
lovemykidstoo 11:13 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
I had a set of twins whose mom let them have anything and everything, then they wouldn't let her take it away.
Dcm used to tell me they just *had* to sleep with chapstick tops at night time(they were maybe 18 mo at the time??!!)because they'd scream. Their older sister had a zillion teeny tiny toys that the girls would bring in and I'd have to confiscate them because they'd scream at mom or hide stuff in their hot little hands to slip by her. Choking hazards dcm?? It's really a miracle more little children don't choke.
OMG people are crazy. Those twins are so luckyI had a set of twins whose mom let them have anything and everything, then they wouldn't let her take it away.
Dcm used to tell me they just *had* to sleep with chapstick tops at night time(they were maybe 18 mo at the time??!!)because they'd scream. Their older sister had a zillion teeny tiny toys that the girls would bring in and I'd have to confiscate them because they'd scream at mom or hide stuff in their hot little hands to slip by her. Choking hazards dcm?? It's really a miracle more little children don't choke.
Mom2Two 01:49 PM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by CountryRoads:
...has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
Wait... "worn spurs" ??? ...has brought in kitchen utensils, an air pump, worn spurs, all because he wouldn't "let her" take those things away
Ariana 10:12 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I've just gotten to the point that any time I hear a parent say their kid won't let them I reply with something like;
"Well I am glad your child doesn't treat me that way. He/she listens very well here but I suppose that's expected as they spend so much time with me." Then I just smile big.
I am so over parents that are parents by definition rather than action.
I say “I guess he/she saves the drama for their momma” and then I laugh I've just gotten to the point that any time I hear a parent say their kid won't let them I reply with something like;
"Well I am glad your child doesn't treat me that way. He/she listens very well here but I suppose that's expected as they spend so much time with me." Then I just smile big.
I am so over parents that are parents by definition rather than action.
lovemykidstoo 11:11 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by Ariana:
I say “I guess he/she saves the drama for their momma” and then I laugh
I say something similar. I usually say "he saves it for you" I also said this morning, you think the struggle is bad now, wait until he's older.I say “I guess he/she saves the drama for their momma” and then I laugh
Mom2Two 11:15 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
I say something similar. I usually say "he saves it for you" I also said this morning, you think the struggle is bad now, wait until he's older.
Let's hope that they're not saying it to the judge one day. I say something similar. I usually say "he saves it for you" I also said this morning, you think the struggle is bad now, wait until he's older.
"I'm sorry, your honor. I tried to take the car keys away from him, but he wouldn't let me."
"I'm sorry, your honor. I tried to tell him to not play with guns, but he wouldn't listen."
etc
Grown ups need to be in charge! Kids don't have the brain power to make these kind of choices!
Yes, I totally give in to stuff that doesn't matter. But some of it does....
Ms.Kay 08:45 AM 04-11-2019
Parenting is a verb.
BumbleBee 11:07 AM 04-11-2019
Last week 7 month old arrived and had her jammies on. I honestly didn't even notice bc her jammies vs day clothes are very similar.
Until dcm opens her mouth. "She wouldn't let me take her jammies off this morning. There's an outfit in her bag for the day.
...I had no words. 7 months old. Ok then.
I was content to leave her in her jammies all day and if questioned by dcm at pick up the response would've been "she wouldn't let me take them off either." But the little booger had a diaper blow out an hour before pick up so I had to change her clothes.
Until dcm opens her mouth. "She wouldn't let me take her jammies off this morning. There's an outfit in her bag for the day.
...I had no words. 7 months old. Ok then.
I was content to leave her in her jammies all day and if questioned by dcm at pick up the response would've been "she wouldn't let me take them off either." But the little booger had a diaper blow out an hour before pick up so I had to change her clothes.
nannyde 11:29 AM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by BumbleBee:
Last week 7 month old arrived and had her jammies on. I honestly didn't even notice bc her jammies vs day clothes are very similar.
Until dcm opens her mouth. "She wouldn't let me take her jammies off this morning. There's an outfit in her bag for the day.
...I had no words. 7 months old. Ok then.
I was content to leave her in her jammies all day and if questioned by dcm at pick up the response would've been "she wouldn't let me take them off either." But the little booger had a diaper blow out an hour before pick up so I had to change her clothes.
I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.Last week 7 month old arrived and had her jammies on. I honestly didn't even notice bc her jammies vs day clothes are very similar.
Until dcm opens her mouth. "She wouldn't let me take her jammies off this morning. There's an outfit in her bag for the day.
...I had no words. 7 months old. Ok then.
I was content to leave her in her jammies all day and if questioned by dcm at pick up the response would've been "she wouldn't let me take them off either." But the little booger had a diaper blow out an hour before pick up so I had to change her clothes.
e.j. 11:53 AM 04-11-2019
I had a one year old come in with a half eaten waffle one morning. According to his father, "He insisted on bringing it with him!"
happymom 12:12 PM 04-11-2019
My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
Lovisa 12:16 PM 04-11-2019
I also have a parent like this. Kid is 3 years old and wakes up at 2am most nights to have a "dance party" (not even kidding). And he is hungry for a snack at 3am. Mom wakes up for work at 5am so she is tired most days. Kid comes here in same clothes from the previous day because "he wouldn't let me change him". AYKM?!?! Never once has a daycare kiddo told me I couldn't change their clothes. Never once have they refused to nap because they wanted food or a dance party.
lovemykidstoo 12:34 PM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by happymom:
My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
Sorry but that made me chuckle a bit.My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
I have a cousin that her favorite line when her daughter was little said "pick your battles" OMG if I had a nickel for every time she said that. Well, her darling daughter is now 21 and has been smoking pot, dropped acid a few times, by the time she was 14. How'd that work out for her.
ColorfulSunburst 04:59 PM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by happymom:
My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
Ohhh, don't tell they still wear diapers.My mom did this with my son last week.
He's 3 and spent the night at her house. I sent a pull up for bed time but he "wouldn't let" her put it on.
Would you be surprised if I told you my 30 and 32 year old brothers still live with my mom?
BumbleBee 02:09 PM 04-11-2019
Originally Posted by nannyde:
I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.
Had she had the blowout earlier in the day I probably would have washed and dried her jammies then put them back on her...but I'm like that "sometimes."I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.
Aussiedaycare 03:18 PM 04-11-2019
I have had a child for three years - SUPER well behaved here not so much for the parents (to the point they tried as hard as they could to get an Autism diagnosis for him to explain his behaviour 
).
The number of times I have heard "He wouldn't let me ...", "I couldn't get him to do ...." it makes my head spin.
Then a few days back I'm telling another parent in this parents hearing about how my 19-year-old son (who is no longer under my roof and supports himself fully), has just bought himself a motorbike. The other parent pipes up with, "Oh there is no way I would let my son buy a motorbike. I would be telling him no and he would respect my decision". I honestly thought I was going to pass out as I was laughing so hard. I turned around and said to this parent that they can't get their 3-year-old to respect them but they think their child is magically going to do what they are told when they are 19.
).The number of times I have heard "He wouldn't let me ...", "I couldn't get him to do ...." it makes my head spin.
Then a few days back I'm telling another parent in this parents hearing about how my 19-year-old son (who is no longer under my roof and supports himself fully), has just bought himself a motorbike. The other parent pipes up with, "Oh there is no way I would let my son buy a motorbike. I would be telling him no and he would respect my decision". I honestly thought I was going to pass out as I was laughing so hard. I turned around and said to this parent that they can't get their 3-year-old to respect them but they think their child is magically going to do what they are told when they are 19.
amberrose3dg 03:51 AM 04-12-2019
Originally Posted by nannyde:
I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.
Same here. You send a kid in pj's they staying in pj's. You change their clothes the parents think they don't have to anymore.I keep the kid in whatever they came in and just say the same thing...... "she wouldn't let me change her". Too bad you had the blow out but at least you had clothes to put her in.