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Cozy_Kids_Childcare 07:43 AM 12-09-2014
I obviously can't control what parents decide is healthy for their children. However, I have a family that likes to give their almost 4 and almost 2 year olds some form of candy on the way to my house. Yesterday it was blue suckers this morning finishing off a box of purple nerds. Yet I'm not suppose to give them juice because of the amount of sugar. Ok no problem. My issue is the candy at 6:45/7:00 in the morning makes the boy hyper and he is already a handful. They are very very very submissive parents so I'm sure it is because they were having some type of meltdown. They know I don't allow candy so when I reached for the boxes of nerds this morning they were already empty. I've expressed that candy first thing in the morning is not going to happen here so now they just do it on the way. I can't say hey you can't give your kid candy when they aren't in my care. How would you providers handle this?
Rockgirl 08:05 AM 12-09-2014
I'd definitely let them know it doesn't set the kids up for a good day, although if they're set on giving it to them, there's really nothing you can do. Sad that they're willing to sabotage their morning and yours to make them happy for those few minutes!
KIDZRMYBIZ 09:17 AM 12-09-2014
I have one that does this, too, but usually in the form of fruit snacks or a fruit roll-up. I let them know that she can't come in with it, so she eats it in the car, and DCM literally swipes it away from her the same second she opens the door, so I am left with a startled, sticky child.
Sometimes, we just have to pick our battles. In my case, my issue is that I don't want my DCG to have such unhealthy stuff be the first thing to enter her belly at the start of the day. It's just not a good lifestyle habit for her to form. I know if I pushed further, she would just take it away before getting out of the car and wipe her hands, but she will still be feeding her junk first thing in the morning no matter what I say. So I just let it be.
I think if you push the issue with your DCF, they might view you as being judgmental and be offended, and think that you are trying to micromanage their kids even outside of daycare (and not ever admit that what they are doing has any affect on them at daycare.)
Sometimes, we just have to pick our battles. In my case, my issue is that I don't want my DCG to have such unhealthy stuff be the first thing to enter her belly at the start of the day. It's just not a good lifestyle habit for her to form. I know if I pushed further, she would just take it away before getting out of the car and wipe her hands, but she will still be feeding her junk first thing in the morning no matter what I say. So I just let it be.
I think if you push the issue with your DCF, they might view you as being judgmental and be offended, and think that you are trying to micromanage their kids even outside of daycare (and not ever admit that what they are doing has any affect on them at daycare.)
Cozy_Kids_Childcare 09:35 AM 12-09-2014
Originally Posted by KIDZRMYBIZ:
I have one that does this, too, but usually in the form of fruit snacks or a fruit roll-up. I let them know that she can't come in with it, so she eats it in the car, and DCM literally swipes it away from her the same second she opens the door, so I am left with a startled, sticky child.
Sometimes, we just have to pick our battles. In my case, my issue is that I don't want my DCG to have such unhealthy stuff be the first thing to enter her belly at the start of the day. It's just not a good lifestyle habit for her to form. I know if I pushed further, she would just take it away before getting out of the car and wipe her hands, but she will still be feeding her junk first thing in the morning no matter what I say. So I just let it be.
I think if you push the issue with your DCF, they might view you as being judgmental and be offended, and think that you are trying to micromanage their kids even outside of daycare (and not ever admit that what they are doing has any affect on them at daycare.)
Your right they would see it as me micromanaging. So I'm just gonna keep taking it away when they walk in the door and leave it at that. It just eats me up inside that she complains about her students having so much candy before they get to class but she doesn't seem to think that lollipops, boxes of nerds, donuts covered with chocolate and sprinkles do the same thing to her kids and me. Oh well your right again about picking battles.I have one that does this, too, but usually in the form of fruit snacks or a fruit roll-up. I let them know that she can't come in with it, so she eats it in the car, and DCM literally swipes it away from her the same second she opens the door, so I am left with a startled, sticky child.
Sometimes, we just have to pick our battles. In my case, my issue is that I don't want my DCG to have such unhealthy stuff be the first thing to enter her belly at the start of the day. It's just not a good lifestyle habit for her to form. I know if I pushed further, she would just take it away before getting out of the car and wipe her hands, but she will still be feeding her junk first thing in the morning no matter what I say. So I just let it be.
I think if you push the issue with your DCF, they might view you as being judgmental and be offended, and think that you are trying to micromanage their kids even outside of daycare (and not ever admit that what they are doing has any affect on them at daycare.)
Second Home 09:54 AM 12-09-2014
Originally Posted by Cozy_Kids_Childcare:
It just eats me up inside that she complains about her students having so much candy before they get to class but she doesn't seem to think that lollipops, boxes of nerds, donuts covered with chocolate and sprinkles do the same thing to her kids and me. Oh well your right again about picking battles.
Next time she complains about her students tell her you know exactly what she is talking about because that is what she is doing to you .It just eats me up inside that she complains about her students having so much candy before they get to class but she doesn't seem to think that lollipops, boxes of nerds, donuts covered with chocolate and sprinkles do the same thing to her kids and me. Oh well your right again about picking battles.
KIDZRMYBIZ 10:43 AM 12-09-2014
Or if you have a pretty good relationship with her and she won't get real crabby, as you are taking the candy from their hands, say, "Don't you just hate it when your students have so much candy right before class?" With a sheepish smile and maybe a "Sorry, I just didn't know how to say it in a way you would understand."
craftymissbeth 11:07 AM 12-09-2014
I wouldn't say anything except to smile big and say "dcm, you'll need to take that with you on your way out".
I don't feel it's my place to input my opinions into what they do before or after their child is in my care... unless they ask for it. What I do feel is my place is to make sure that things here run smoothly. So if the candy at the door is disrupting your morning, then that needs to stop. For tantrums due to taking away said candy it would be "Dcm, little Susie doesn't seem to be quite ready for her day. You'll need to take this out on the porch or in the car and come back when Susie is ready to participate".
If Susie melts down *after* dcm leaves then I would follow what my policy is for situations like this: after an hour of uncontrollable screaming/tantruming the parent is called to pick up.
I like to put everything that I can't control back on the parents. If it's not a problem for them, then it won't change. You can't control whether she gives dcg junk before she shows up, but you sure as heck can control whether it comes into the daycare or if it causes tantrums.
I don't feel it's my place to input my opinions into what they do before or after their child is in my care... unless they ask for it. What I do feel is my place is to make sure that things here run smoothly. So if the candy at the door is disrupting your morning, then that needs to stop. For tantrums due to taking away said candy it would be "Dcm, little Susie doesn't seem to be quite ready for her day. You'll need to take this out on the porch or in the car and come back when Susie is ready to participate".
If Susie melts down *after* dcm leaves then I would follow what my policy is for situations like this: after an hour of uncontrollable screaming/tantruming the parent is called to pick up.
I like to put everything that I can't control back on the parents. If it's not a problem for them, then it won't change. You can't control whether she gives dcg junk before she shows up, but you sure as heck can control whether it comes into the daycare or if it causes tantrums.
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:19 AM 12-09-2014
Originally Posted by KIDZRMYBIZ:
Or if you have a pretty good relationship with her and she won't get real crabby, as you are taking the candy from their hands, say, "Don't you just hate it when your students have so much candy right before class?" With a sheepish smile and maybe a "Sorry, I just didn't know how to say it in a way you would understand."
That's what I would do.Or if you have a pretty good relationship with her and she won't get real crabby, as you are taking the candy from their hands, say, "Don't you just hate it when your students have so much candy right before class?" With a sheepish smile and maybe a "Sorry, I just didn't know how to say it in a way you would understand."
renodeb 02:39 PM 12-09-2014
I hate it when they come in with food. I had a kid come in with a bag of sun chips the other day and right after the mom left another kid swiped them from him and the fighting began. I just took the bag up. Honestly, I'm not sure what you can do, there having it before they enter your dc. 
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