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Old 07-10-2019, 12:47 PM
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Dcb is going to be the last one picked up and probably right at closing time "to be on the safe side."

Dcm doesn't even work. Grrr.
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Old 07-10-2019, 01:22 PM
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Dcb is going to be the last one picked up and probably right at closing time "to be on the safe side."

Dcm doesn't even work. Grrr.
What’s that even mean? Lol

Everyone was picked up early today except I have 2 left and both their parents are off today 😑
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Old 07-10-2019, 01:38 PM
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What’s that even mean? Lol

Everyone was picked up early today except I have 2 left and both their parents are off today 😑
I think she didnt want to commit to picking up at a certain time, so "just to be on the safe side", she said she would pick up at closing time

Funny how sometimes the last kids in care are the ones who don't need it lol
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Old 07-10-2019, 04:29 PM
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We've had parents do the exact same thing
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Old 07-12-2019, 11:12 AM
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Talked with a woman at an event, asked what I do. I told her I run a licensed in-home daycare.

She told me she also watches kids and said she had 13 kids that day. Turns out she's not even licensed.

And to think she probably makes more $$ doing less work than me and she's the one running an illegal daycare...
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Old 07-12-2019, 11:35 AM
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Talked with a woman at an event, asked what I do. I told her I run a licensed in-home daycare.

She told me she also watches kids and said she had 13 kids that day. Turns out she's not even licensed.

And to think she probably makes more $$ doing less work than me and she's the one running an illegal daycare...
I had a previous parent text me yesterday with a copy of a "friend that wants to keep kids at home" contract and asked if she needed to add anything else. I replied with "I would be happy to help her as a legally unlicensed or how to get licensed and that she can only keep four without license. NO RESPONSE BACK!
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Old 07-12-2019, 11:44 AM
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I had a previous parent text me yesterday with a copy of a "friend that wants to keep kids at home" contract and asked if she needed to add anything else. I replied with "I would be happy to help her as a legally unlicensed or how to get licensed and that she can only keep four without license. NO RESPONSE BACK!
I'm glad you said something! I didn't have the guts to

It also crossed my mind that how could these parents be okay with that many other kids and only 1 provider??
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Old 07-12-2019, 11:51 AM
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I'm glad you said something! I didn't have the guts to

It also crossed my mind that how could these parents be okay with that many other kids and only 1 provider??
It's all about money and the hours of care not the quality, professionalism nor legally-licensed way to too many clients.
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Old 07-12-2019, 01:43 PM
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It also crossed my mind that how could these parents be okay with that many other kids and only 1 provider??
I have 12 kids every day. Alone. By myself. Sometimes in the summer months I've had 14 with only myself and a 13 yr helper.

None of my parents have issues with that many kids and only one provider.
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Old 07-12-2019, 01:52 PM
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Yes, but for you, that's legal, you are experienced, educated, and you follow your state's licensing regulations. Every provider I know of that operates illegally has way more kids than they can handle. They provide crap for meals, are stretched too thin, it's pretty chaotic, and they use guidance techniques that aren't exactly um..."best practices". Honestly, it's not usually the number kids a provider has-it's the whole dynamic.

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I have 12 kids every day. Alone. By myself. Sometimes in the summer months I've had 14 with only myself and a 13 yr helper.

None of my parents have issues with that many kids and only one provider.
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Old 07-12-2019, 01:54 PM
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Yes, but for you, that's legal, you are experienced, educated, and you follow your state's licensing regulations. Every provider I know of that operates illegally has way more kids than they can handle. They provide crap for meals, are stretched too thin, it's pretty chaotic, and they use guidance techniques that aren't exactly um..."best practices". Honestly, it's not usually the number kids a provider has-it's the whole dynamic.


I gathered it was illegal in the posters state but her comment wasn't in regards to the legality of it all.
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Old 07-12-2019, 01:55 PM
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I have 12 kids every day. Alone. By myself. Sometimes in the summer months I've had 14 with only myself and a 13 yr helper.

None of my parents have issues with that many kids and only one
In my state the max is 10 without an assistant, so it seems like alot to me. Especially since she's not licensed and shouldn't have more than 2.

Wasn't geared towards anyone on here...
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Old 07-12-2019, 01:58 PM
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In my state the max is 10 without an assistant, so it seems like alot to me. Especially since she's not licensed and shouldn't have more than 2.

Wasn't geared towards anyone on here...
As I posted in response to Heidi; your comment didn't come across as having anything to do with the legality of the situation.

I also didn't really think it was geared towards anyone specifically here but to me it was stated in a way that is more or less insulting to those that do have that many kids and only one provider.
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Old 07-12-2019, 02:02 PM
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As I posted in response to Heidi; your comment didn't come across as having anything to do with the legality of the situation.

I also didn't really think it was geared towards anyone specifically here but to me it was stated in a way that is more or less insulting to those that do have that many kids and only one provider.

Okay, well let me rephrase it.

In my opinion, and that's just what it is - my opinion - 13 is alot of kids for 1 person.

But kudos to the providers who can care for that many kids, cause I know I couldn't do it!
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Old 07-12-2019, 02:07 PM
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When I had after-schoolers, I had 12 most days. Six were toddlers/preschoolers, and the other six were school age. Things actually ran pretty smoothly! We had a routine, plus with that many kids, they all had someone to play with/connect with.
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Old 07-12-2019, 02:52 PM
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BlackCat I thought you worked with your husband! I have had 12 kids in centre before either in the beginning of the day or at the end when ratios legally go up. Here there is no ratio above 1:8 for anyone under 6 years old. In schools the ratio is 1:15
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Old 07-12-2019, 03:04 PM
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BlackCat I thought you worked with your husband! or anyone under 6 years old. In schools the ratio is 1:15
He is our "cook" and leaves his job to come prepare lunch for the kids but other than those 1-1.5 hours in the day I work alone.

He is also the resident "fix-it" guy and does repairs and maintenance for my facility but he isn't here full time nor is he licensed as a co-provider at all.
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Old 07-12-2019, 03:07 PM
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Okay, well let me rephrase it.

In my opinion, and that's just what it is - my opinion - 13 is alot of kids for 1 person.

But kudos to the providers who can care for that many kids, cause I know I couldn't do it!


I respect your opinion. We all have a right to one.

For the record I wasn't insulted personally but it did come across differently than it does now that you re-phrased it.

Also, it's all in how people interpret things posted too so my perception of what you said is MY perception (i.e. my issue) not yours so it's all good!
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Old 07-13-2019, 06:41 AM
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He is our "cook" and leaves his job to come prepare lunch for the kids but other than those 1-1.5 hours in the day I work alone.

He is also the resident "fix-it" guy and does repairs and maintenance for my facility but he isn't here full time nor is he licensed as a co-provider at all.
Ah! Well kudos to you for handling that by yourself!
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Old 07-13-2019, 12:09 PM
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I have 12 by myself too. (8 during summer months, 12 during the school year).

I find it more chaotic, stressful and overall not fun when I have less than 10. The only time I feel overwhelmed is when I have young infants... so I don't enroll infants. I tend to enroll 12 months-4 years old.
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Old 07-15-2019, 03:20 AM
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DCM sends me this text on Sunday

“Hi! DCB grandparents just asked if they could take him on vacation next week. I told them the only way he can go is if I don’t have to pay for child care for that week. Is that too short of notice or is that ok?”

My reply- Hi! Payment is due wether DCB attends or not. The only tome payment is not due is if I need to close outside of my paid holidays and 5 allotted sick days. Hope this helps!

Guess DCB won’t be going on vacation. Not my problem. Sad thing is, his dad actually pays for childcare not mom.
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Old 07-15-2019, 07:17 AM
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The summer is good in that I am more lax with the exception of meals/nap but it is more chaotic in that kids are in and out on vacation, always sleepy/tired because they get no structure while they are away and are not here consistently enough to get in the routine. Kind of ready for Sept 3 to begin my preschool routine and everyone back on their schedule. No behavior issues, just some lackadaisical kids that can't focus real well!
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It drives be bonkers to look out and see clients waiting in the driveway for me to open. Why do they think its ok to wait in someone's driveway for 10+ minutes until opening time?

if the lights are off and curtains are closed the door is locked it's not time for you to be here!

Its like they cant wait to get rid of their kids!
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Old 07-15-2019, 11:59 AM
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It drives be bonkers to look out and see clients waiting in the driveway for me to open. Why do they think its ok to wait in someone's driveway for 10+ minutes until opening time?

if the lights are off and curtains are closed the door is locked it's not time for you to be here!

Its like they cant wait to get rid of their kids!
I put the time they pull in (driveway alarm) on the sign-in sheet. 10 minutes in the driveway prior to opening = $10. They catch on quicker that way.
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Caught DCG7 demonstrating to her little brother (4) how to "smoke" today during snack time using a veggie straw... while multiple other kids watched.

Happy Monday!
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I have 12 kids every day. Alone. By myself. Sometimes in the summer months I've had 14 with only myself and a 13 yr helper.

None of my parents have issues with that many kids and only one provider.
Yes, but where you live it's legal... I have lived & done childcare in states where it's ok to take 6 on Legally licensed exempt fr infants 2.5 & under ; I still had parents ask me how I did it lol
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Old 07-15-2019, 07:46 PM
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Yes, but where you live it's legal... I have lived & done childcare in states where it's ok to take 6 on Legally licensed exempt fr infants 2.5 & under ; I still had parents ask me how I did it lol
It wasn’t about legalities
Every state seems vary in regards to ratios

But it’s all good/moving forward
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DCM sends me this text on Sunday

“Hi! DCB grandparents just asked if they could take him on vacation next week. I told them the only way he can go is if I don’t have to pay for child care for that week. Is that too short of notice or is that ok?”

My reply- Hi! Payment is due wether DCB attends or not. The only tome payment is not due is if I need to close outside of my paid holidays and 5 allotted sick days. Hope this helps!

Guess DCB won’t be going on vacation. Not my problem. Sad thing is, his dad actually pays for childcare not mom.
How sad for dcb, that he will miss out on a vacation. What difference would it make to dcm, anyway? If daycare is paid for either way, why not just let him go? Makes no sense.
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How sad for dcb, that he will miss out on a vacation. What difference would it make to dcm, anyway? If daycare is paid for either way, why not just let him go? Makes no sense.
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Old 07-16-2019, 05:26 AM
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How sad for dcb, that he will miss out on a vacation. What difference would it make to dcm, anyway? If daycare is paid for either way, why not just let him go? Makes no sense.
I think so too. They are spending a week in Florida. I know she was trying to make me feel guilty for still requiring payment but again, not my problem.
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So I've noticed some problems with the daycare but I just started last Friday... One thing I noticed is that they put the kids in the highchair when they miss behave. One of the ladies holds one of the toddlers down to get him to sleep. Like holds him down with the blanket on his head (she said he likes it like that). They let the babies cry in the infant room and leave them in the bouncers and kinda rock them to keep falling asleep. Like they just want all the babies to sleep. 6 month old crying in the bouncer I took her out and played with her. Also, The infant teachers were MISERABLE! no hello or smile.

One of the teachers (and probably more) are not qualified. They got lead teachers who haven't even completed their introductory certificate. And a lot of the teachers use one of the teachers as a scared tactic. Like if a kid is not being nice they will ask the kid if they want that teacher to come in and the kid gets scared and says no and listens. I saw like two teachers pick up some kids by their arm!

Teachers get free daycare and can bring their kid in their classroom (even if not of age) they don't watch the monitors (previous teacher arrested on child abuse charges). Idk, I just started and I already hate it! Oh, and the lead teacher brought out some worksheets and dead-ass let the kids "work" on them for like 5 minutes. It was a shape worksheet and none of the kids were even doing it right and she wasn't explaining it to them.

They basically play all day and sleep for like 2 hours. These are 2/3 y/o. Idk what to do. I need a job should I wait a few months and then leave and anonymously report them? Also, a lot of the kids are foster. And the owner straight up told me the kids she didn't like and her least favorite rooms. I always hear kids screaming somewhere and crying. They have a gold seal!
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Dcm lets dcb3 run the show. He refused to leave last night, and mom just played into it.

"Come on, it's time to go."

"okay, I'm leaving then, bye!"

"I'm going to go home without you."

She spent probably 5 minutes trying to convince him to leave.

Just pick him up and carry him out! Geez!

I don't know why parents are afraid to parent
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I think so too. They are spending a week in Florida. I know she was trying to make me feel guilty for still requiring payment but again, not my problem.
That is disgusting!
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Old 07-18-2019, 01:32 PM
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Dcm lets dcb3 run the show. He refused to leave last night, and mom just played into it.

"Come on, it's time to go."

"okay, I'm leaving then, bye!"

"I'm going to go home without you."

She spent probably 5 minutes trying to convince him to leave.

Just pick him up and carry him out! Geez!

I don't know why parents are afraid to parent
I used to think that they were worried about being too firm with their children in front of us, but now I think they just don't want to make their children unhappy.
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I hate marketing. I get the stupidest f’ing people on the planet. This was my latest phone call. Had to take a couple minutes &calm down after this one.

“You must be new to this. I’m going to give you some advice. Hire a woman to help out or run it for you. No one is going to leave their child with some random a$$ dude. “

We really need a “middle finger” smilie.

Not how I wanted to end my week. One of the real downsides of cell phones is you just push a button when hanging up. There was something cathartic about slamming a phone down when hanging up on morons.
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I hate marketing. I get the stupidest f’ing people on the planet. This was my latest phone call. Had to take a couple minutes &calm down after this one.

“You must be new to this. I’m going to give you some advice. Hire a woman to help out or run it for you. No one is going to leave their child with some random a$$ dude. “

We really need a “middle finger” smilie.

Not how I wanted to end my week. One of the real downsides of cell phones is you just push a button when hanging up. There was something cathartic about slamming a phone down when hanging up on morons.
That sucks. Unfortunately you can't fix stupid.
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I hate marketing. I get the stupidest f’ing people on the planet. This was my latest phone call. Had to take a couple minutes &calm down after this one.

“You must be new to this. I’m going to give you some advice. Hire a woman to help out or run it for you. No one is going to leave their child with some random a$$ dude. “

We really need a “middle finger” smilie.

Not how I wanted to end my week. One of the real downsides of cell phones is you just push a button when hanging up. There was something cathartic about slamming a phone down when hanging up on morons.
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I hate marketing. I get the stupidest f’ing people on the planet. This was my latest phone call. Had to take a couple minutes &calm down after this one.

“You must be new to this. I’m going to give you some advice. Hire a woman to help out or run it for you. No one is going to leave their child with some random a$$ dude. “

We really need a “middle finger” smilie.

Not how I wanted to end my week. One of the real downsides of cell phones is you just push a button when hanging up. There was something cathartic about slamming a phone down when hanging up on morons.
See this is where I wish I had a mean streak and had no issues being unprofessional because I'd take that callers name and info and then I'd post all about their stupidity all over the internet. I'd make darn sure that no daycares (male, female or alien) ever wanted to take her child. What a shame that there really are such closed minded d-bags out there still.

Sorry this happened to you Dave.
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I hate marketing. I get the stupidest f’ing people on the planet. This was my latest phone call. Had to take a couple minutes &calm down after this one.

“You must be new to this. I’m going to give you some advice. Hire a woman to help out or run it for you. No one is going to leave their child with some random a$$ dude. “

We really need a “middle finger” smilie.

Not how I wanted to end my week. One of the real downsides of cell phones is you just push a button when hanging up. There was something cathartic about slamming a phone down when hanging up on morons.
There's a male provider in our neck of the woods. I would love to meet him.

Anyways someone contacted me for DC. They had just had a baby but their provider didn't have a spot for the baby. So she was looking for care for just the baby or both. I didn't have an infant opening but said I would put her on my waiting list.
I later was introduced to her and she tells me that the older child was with the male provider and that his wife works for him. She then adds that she feels safe there because the wife does all the diaper changes.

I was so annoyed for him and you too. (Not to mention my DH is listed as my assistant, although he works a 9 to 5, he can cover for me if I need to leave before closing.) When my infant spot opened she didn't get a call back.
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Spent 2 hours cleaning (on top of my usual Sunday daycare work) to get ready for my interview and they no showed. I’ve never had a no show! So I got on here to research (of course! Because you guys are all amazing) and now I know I should have them contact me the day of the interview to get my address so I can avoid this in the future. I’m kind of starting to freak out about the two spots opening up next month. I’m not getting a lot of good fits calling me to interview... now a no show too. At least my house is clean now and I guess I can read a book or something...
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There's a male provider in our neck of the woods. I would love to meet him.

Anyways someone contacted me for DC. They had just had a baby but their provider didn't have a spot for the baby. So she was looking for care for just the baby or both. I didn't have an infant opening but said I would put her on my waiting list.
I later was introduced to her and she tells me that the older child was with the male provider and that his wife works for him. She then adds that she feels safe there because the wife does all the diaper changes.

I was so annoyed for him and you too. (Not to mention my DH is listed as my assistant, although he works a 9 to 5, he can cover for me if I need to leave before closing.) When my infant spot opened she didn't get a call back.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
I'm so very sorry for the pain and heartache you're going through.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
I'm so very sorry.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
I'm so sorry
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
I’m so sorry for this devastating news. Sending hugs and prayers your way.
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I know it's not daycare related but, I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Should be 9.5 weeks and their not even seeing a fetal pole in the yoke sack which puts me at less then 6 weeks. Had a ultrasound done 2 weeks ago which showed the exact same thing now I go back in a week, if my body dise not do anything on it's own they will schedule me for a d&c then.
Had to share with someone, hardly anyone knows we were expecting. I'm 39 and this was our last go at adding a third to our family. It took 11 months of trying to get pregnant.
I am so sorry to hear that.
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Dcb threw up right at pick up last night. He was completely fine all day and it was very sudden, and he was completely fine afterwards.

Policy states no vomiting for 24 hours. It really did seem like a one time thing. Dcm brought him this morning (I know, I know), I asked her is he was better. "Oh yeah! He didn't puke at all and ate all his dinner."

I just made a comment that we have fun plans this weekend with our children, so I don't want to risk anyone getting sick. "Oh, no! He has a weak gag reflux."

Not even 40 minutes after she leaves, he pukes up his morning snack. Oh, and no change of clothes.

I knew better, I really did. I'm so mad at myself
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Dcb threw up right at pick up last night. He was completely fine all day and it was very sudden, and he was completely fine afterwards.

Policy states no vomiting for 24 hours. It really did seem like a one time thing. Dcm brought him this morning (I know, I know), I asked her is he was better. "Oh yeah! He didn't puke at all and ate all his dinner."

I just made a comment that we have fun plans this weekend with our children, so I don't want to risk anyone getting sick. "Oh, no! He has a weak gag reflux."

Not even 40 minutes after she leaves, he pukes up his morning snack. Oh, and no change of clothes.

I knew better, I really did. I'm so mad at myself
Don't beat yourself up. I think we've all been there. Your backbone will be that much stronger for the next time something like this comes up. I hope no one else ended up getting it and that you were able to have that fun weekend with your own kids!
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Don't beat yourself up. I think we've all been there. Your backbone will be that much stronger for the next time something like this comes up. I hope no one else ended up getting it and that you were able to have that fun weekend with your own kids!
Thankfully, our kids didn't get it! But, one of my dck got it over the weekend.

I made sure I let dcm know
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Almost every morning, DCM brings a pair or 2 of shorts for DCB to change into in case he wants to. First of all lady.. dress your kid appropriately for the weather, its not my job to dress him every morning. Make him wear the shorts. Then grandpa picks up, my last child. I dont live in the house i do daycare in so i already locked up and was putting my own child (a baby) in the car when i see grandpa driving down the road again and says “he wants to get his shorts”
“Oh I already locked up, they will be here tomorrow”
Like really..why did the kid NEED the shorts. The day was already almost over and im sure he has a million other shorts at home. Why does this family answer to every whim of this child?!
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Almost every morning, DCM brings a pair or 2 of shorts for DCB to change into in case he wants to. First of all lady.. dress your kid appropriately for the weather, its not my job to dress him every morning. Make him wear the shorts. Then grandpa picks up, my last child. I dont live in the house i do daycare in so i already locked up and was putting my own child (a baby) in the car when i see grandpa driving down the road again and says “he wants to get his shorts”
“Oh I already locked up, they will be here tomorrow”
Like really..why did the kid NEED the shorts. The day was already almost over and im sure he has a million other shorts at home. Why does this family answer to every whim of this child?!
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Had our licenser pop in for our annual surprise inspection before relicensing today- all went well! But I'm an extremely anxious person so I'm always startled when she shows up and thinking I've gotta be doing something wrong- but nope it went well, no issues- howeverrrr

this means its yearly relicensing time again! My least favorite time of the year. I hate paperwork Here's to hoping it all goes well!
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Dcd has shown up early several times lately....he doesn’t come to the door, just sits in his vehicle until I open the door at 7:30. Fine, whatever....I just go about my business until then. This morning I looked outside at 7:15–already out there. I opened the door at 7:30 as usual. A few minutes later, dcg asked, “WHY didn’t you open the door?!?”
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Predicted high of 99 today...dcg shows up in jeans and a long-sleeved shirt.
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Predicted high of 99 today...dcg shows up in jeans and a long-sleeved shirt.
SMH. I have a few that do that here too...

Most times the kid is old enough to know better and if not, the parent certainly is.

It's been HOT here too with super high humidity lately so really hard to even breathe but yeah, those black denim jeans go fantastic with that triple layer fleece sweatshirt.

Pretty sure this is a battle parents should pick.
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SMH. I have a few that do that here too...

Most times the kid is old enough to know better and if not, the parent certainly is.

It's been HOT here too with super high humidity lately so really hard to even breathe but yeah, those black denim jeans go fantastic with that triple layer fleece sweatshirt.

Pretty sure this is a battle parents should pick.
I agree! Parents need to put a foot down here. I mean, we won’t be out there running in the heat of the day, but we are out from breakfast until time to nap. It gets plenty hot during that time.
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Predicted high of 99 today...dcg shows up in jeans and a long-sleeved shirt.
This is my 7 year old.. we had record highs this summer and the kid keeps dressing like he's going on an Artic expedition....

Thankfully he's just home with me, so some days I've let him do his thing. I just dont know how he can stand it it!!!
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This is my 7 year old.. we had record highs this summer and the kid keeps dressing like he's going on an Artic expedition....

Thankfully he's just home with me, so some days I've let him do his thing. I just dont know how he can stand it it!!!
Yup! My 25 year old dd has been known to wear jeans and a heavy sweatshirt with another shirt underneath it on 90 degree/humid days. Somedays I want to pass out just looking at her! She says she's comfortable.
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Yup! My 25 year old dd has been known to wear jeans and a heavy sweatshirt with another shirt underneath it on 90 degree/humid days. Somedays I want to pass out just looking at her! She says she's comfortable.
A school-ager even noticed, and said, “Dcg must be hot in those clothes. I asked her one day and she said she doesn’t have any shorts.”
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A school-ager even noticed, and said, “Dcg must be hot in those clothes. I asked her one day and she said she doesn’t have any shorts.”
That piece of info makes it sad. Poor kid!
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Does it irritate anyone else to get reimbursed for meals at half the rate of providers one town over, who charge the same or higher rates, and pay less in property taxes?
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Does it irritate anyone else to get reimbursed for meals at half the rate of providers one town over, who charge the same or higher rates, and pay less in property taxes?
Yes! What irked me most, though, was when Tier 2 providers took a cut in their rate while the Tier 1 providers got an increase in their already higher rate. Basing rates on the percentage of public school students who qualify for free or reduced lunch seems unfair to me. Child care providers who live in relatively wealthy communities don't necessarily make the same kind of money their neighbors do. Both Tier 1 and Tier 2 providers are required to pay for infant formula and good, quality food for the children in their care. In my opinion, they should be reimbursed at the same rate.
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When a parent tells you their child is ready for underwear and they end up pooping in their pants...in tight leggings...and not a firm poop...ugh!!! Until your child can poop and pee on the potty without me telling them to go, they must be in pullups!
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Dcb2 is a momma's boy and has separation anxiety issues. He was doing so much better and was reaching for me and waving bye to mom at drop-off.

He went on vacation for 2 weeks and now we are back at square one
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Not daycare related but..
I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.
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Not daycare related but..
I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.
I'm sure this was frustrating

Not sure what state you are in, but in my county, people are always trying to give other family-members' addresses to get in a certain school zone. Plus nowadays there are extended family members leaving town with children with no "legal rights". We are living in a different time with so much the school has to deal with. A few bad apples spoil the bunch for sure! While you were telling the truth, there were probably many who weren't.
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Not sure what state you are in, but in my county, people are always trying to give other family-members' addresses to get in a certain school zone. Plus nowadays there are extended family members leaving town with children with no "legal rights". We are living in a different time with so much the school has to deal with. A few bad apples spoil the bunch for sure! While you were telling the truth, there were probably many who weren't.
What bothers me is the people in line behind me now know that 1. im not married 2. im not on the title of my home 3. My son has no natural father
Personal things these questions should not have been asked in front of others.
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What bothers me is the people in line behind me now know that 1. im not married 2. im not on the title of my home 3. My son has no natural father
Personal things these questions should not have been asked in front of others.
I would call the school board and report this. Tell them that personal information like this should not be discussed in front of others. Not only that, your fiancé is not his legal guardian. So he could just take child in there and say he lives with me and I want to enroll him? That doesn’t even make sense.
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I would call the school board and report this. Tell them that personal information like this should not be discussed in front of others. Not only that, your fiancé is not his legal guardian. So he could just take child in there and say he lives with me and I want to enroll him? That doesn’t even make sense.
Right i dont understand why he has to come in, he could be lying for me. Asking for my name on a utility bill makes more sense.
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I needed to register my son for 3rd grade at his new assigned school since we moved. We still stayed in the district so this should have been easy. My mom goes for me to drop off the paperwork since as providers, its hard for us to take time off especially when the window the school is open in the summer is so small. They tell my mom she cant be the one to register. She says she doesn’t understand why if all they need is the paperwork, which she has. They said no they need to physicallly see mom or dad. Ok so i go, my mom is my backup provider and she had one hour before she had to go to work so i run down there to register him. I give her the registration and the paperwork to prove we are in the district, our closing papers. First she cant find where it says buyer. Umm..borrower is the same thing. Then she cant find my name in the paperwork. Well my name isnt on the title. I say its dads name. Then she asks me if hes on the birth certificate. Weird question since the birth certificate wasn’t required for registration. I said no...then she says “oh so hes step dad, so he doesnt actually have any educational rights” and some other stuff she said that i tuned out because i was getting angry. My son has no other legal dad, so if i say this man is his dad and im allowing him rights, then he has rights. I kept telling her its a complicated situation. Then she asked if we were married (still dont see why its relevant, what is she gonna ask for a marraige certificate??) i said no. So she goes “oh so your not even married and hes not even step dad” i still dont understand why shes asking me all these questions. So i asked the lady if it would be easier if he write me a lease agreement since no one has ever heard of fiancées living together...
Mind you, we are talking about this in front of everyone and i find this to be personal info. She tells me my fiancee has to be the one to come in. Why didnt she say that in the first place?!?!? The person on the title needs to come in. Geezzz!! What a waste of time. I just feel frustrated because if we all had the same last name im sure she wouldnt have asked all those questions. It seemed judgemental.
What weird district you live in.....

I've never heard of anything like that before.

If you stayed in the district your son should already be "registered" and the only thing you should need to do is provide a change of address.

Given the different types of relationship statuses people are in today, none of that questioning should even be legal or any of their business.
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Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.
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Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.
It could be that he is showing you who is boss by bossing his mom into taking off his shoes and by showing you that he doesn't have to do it himself because he has a servant for that. Try putting his shoes back on him and having him remove them himself?
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It could be that he is showing you who is boss by bossing his mom into taking off his shoes and by showing you that he doesn't have to do it himself because he has a servant for that. Try putting his shoes back on him and having him remove them himself?
As soon as we came in from outside, he took them off himself and put them away

Maybe it's one of those he "saves the drama for his mama" moments. He knows I expect it from him, and I'm sure he knows he doesn't need to do it when moms around.
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Dcb2.5 has a hard time doing anything for himself (taking off coat, taking off shoes, etc.) - because his mom does it all for him.

We've been working on taking his shoes off and he's able to do it most of the time. He comes in this morning and mom goes to take off his shoes and I tell her we've been working on him doing that himself and he can do it on his own most of the time.

Dcb throws a massive fit and demands mom take off his shoes. And she does.

I'm not sure why, but it bothered me. Maybe because I've been working on it with him everyday and I know he can do it. It's very clear she does everything for him at home, too.
I have two kids the same age, 2 yrs old. One kid can put on and off shoes, clothes, is potty trained, can put on her winter gear etc etc. The other kid has no clue what a garbage is when I tell her to throw something in it. You can tell which kid is treated like a princess
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One of my DCG4 has adopted a “diddy” laugh. All day at a high volume over every little thing. I want to have my eardrums removed and I feel like a bit of a jerk because I really want her to just stop laughing. It’s just so disingenuous and constant. Of course there’s one DCB4 that seems to thoroughly enjoy it so he spends a majority of his time getting her to do it.
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