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Old 10-03-2012, 03:37 AM
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I have two little girls who always comes with hair clips or with their hair up in a hair elastic or what have you. I always viewed them as choking hazards for my 16 month old son. I have never actually said anything to the parents but when they come with a hair clip or barrette, I remove it and return it at the end of the day. I leave elastics in but I keep a close eye on them. I know I should have just said NO from the get-go but now it's pretty late in the game: there will never be any children here younger than my son and he's soon going to be past that "putting things in his mouth" stage. It's not a HUGE bother to take the smaller accessories away but I'm pretty forgetful so returning something so small at the end of the day sometimes slips my mind!

But just curious what your rules are regarding it. :-)
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Old 10-03-2012, 04:24 AM
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I don't restrict that. I only have 2 girls that wear barrettes and once in awhile they'll fall out, but since I'm right there watching them I see it right away and either put it back in or put it up. I'm sure it's happened somewhere, but I have not heard of anyone choking on one.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:08 AM
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I just take them out and give them back at the end of the day. I also keep a package of the little ouchless elastics so I can put ponytails in that will stay if I need to.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:40 AM
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I do allow them, but it is not my problem if they get lost, fall out when we are outside, etc. The first time they fall out, I put them away in a bag.

I had a dad show up last week with a brush and a hair clip in hand because his daughter wouldn't let him do her hair.

Not my kid, not my problem.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:45 AM
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I have a 2-year-old that is constantly wearing a bow that falls right on out. It is just clipped in her hair, not put on a ponytail/pigtails/etc. If I see it, I shove it in her cubby. If I don't, I don't worry about it. I have to monitor and teach 10+ children, the last thing on my mind is a bow.

I do have a couple of children that I put little elastic holders in (from the dollar store). Their parents do not brush their hair and it is constantly getting in their faces (growing out bangs, long hair, other issues).
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:08 AM
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because his daughter wouldn't let him do her hair.
I love this. I love it when parents say that their kid "wouldn't let them" do something. I always think seriously? UGH
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:14 AM
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Yep, I do. Both girls have long hair with wispy bits that tend to fall into faces and I personally can't stand hair in my face, so I'm not going to ask them to have to put up with it.

I will put hair back up if it falls out, and I usually fix a pony tail or hair-do before pick-up so we look a bit more...er, put together
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:46 AM
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I will put hair back up if it falls out, and I usually fix a pony tail or hair-do before pick-up so we look a bit more...er, put together


A few of my little girls are tossers at naptime - they wake up looking like they've been through a wind storm. It's hilarious to see what they're going to look like when they get up. I do hair each day after nap/during snack. I've always enjoying styling little girl's hair and I've got it down pretty quickly. Fixing 6/7/8 girls hair doesn't take much longer than a minute of each, but I don't do elaborate styles.

I definitely allow bows and clips. My babies are separated from my older group so I'm not concerned about things getting swallowed. I make bows myself and I love seeing my kids wearing the ones I make for them.
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:59 AM
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Yep, I do. Both girls have long hair with wispy bits that tend to fall into faces and I personally can't stand hair in my face, so I'm not going to ask them to have to put up with it.

I will put hair back up if it falls out, and I usually fix a pony tail or hair-do before pick-up so we look a bit more...er, put together

I have very long hair so I too empathize. Thankfully though I have had parents with common sense enough not to put items in hair that don't stay.


At pick up time fixing hair quick goes along with washing hands and faces.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:18 AM
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I allow them, but it depends on the child if I let them wear them throughout the day. I've had kids who don't mess with them at all and they stay in pretty well. But then there are the kids who mess with them and take them out and leave them on the floor, so that is the child who gets her hair stuff taken out at drop off and can take them home at the end of the day. I also have a 5 month old baby who has a LOT of hair for her age and she wears a little pony at the top of her head. I take that out during nap time just in case it falls out and she puts it in her mouth.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:22 AM
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I don't mind them and have never had a problem until this week. I told one dcmom to quit sending them because 2yo dcg won't leave the barettes in her hair and I have found 2 of them sitting in the bottom of the toilet bowl this week. I don't know which kid is throwing them in there.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:24 AM
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I do allow them, but it is not my problem if they get lost, fall out when we are outside, etc. The first time they fall out, I put them away in a bag.

I had a dad show up last week with a brush and a hair clip in hand because his daughter wouldn't let him do her hair.

Not my kid, not my problem.




This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:33 AM
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I agree. I think it is nice to be a little more caring towards your dckids. I have a dad that comes in on a regular basis and hands me hair ties so I can fix dcgs hair. She likes it when I do it and it looks better when I do it. It takes 2 seconds.

I also always fix hair after naptime. I like the kids to be presentable when they leave my house. If they are dirty and messy you just know it will come out that they were at MY daycare all day!
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:38 AM
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This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.
I agree

I love seeing the little decorations in their hair in the morning. When they fall out, I just put them on the entryway table and had them to Mom on the way out.

I always brush the girls' hair before pick up.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:46 AM
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I allow it, but I don't take anyone younger then 2. I enjoy fixing the little girls hair. If any clips won't stay in, then I just put them in their cubby until they go home. I even ask the parents to bring a brush that they can leave here if needed, not necessary though. I also keep a bag of little bands for any of the girls that may need them, if by chance theirs broke during the day.

My end of day routine is to make sure all hair looks decent, face and hands are washed, everyone has pottied and ready to go home.
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Old 10-03-2012, 10:43 AM
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This has been a huge issue here in this house.

1. Dck, 6 yr old, always takes out and leaves randomly her hair accessories. My DD is 11 months. I tried reminders, then she leaves them somewhere else in my house. Now, when I see them I keep them. Too many reminders. They are nice expensive ones too.

2. Dck started wearing them in hair bangs at 8 months old. UMM NO. I allowed it during waking hours and pulled it out before nap. After nap I put it back in ONCE. If she took it out, I tossed it by the door. Dad dealt with it at pick up.

Only issue was that at about 1 yr they stopped putting hair things in at all. This child had a ton of bangs, and a terrible cowlick and the parents REFUSED to cut her bangs. (not cultural reasons either). The kid could never see. She looked like Justin Bieber without the comb over or a hobbit or something. Finally MIL picked up one day and chopped bangs at my door. She ranted about how miserable the child was for months and months with her hair in her face. I AGREE. Dad and mom were mad (not at me) but agreed they should have taken care of it earlier. Two months later, same thing. She would come EVERYDAY with hair in her face. Twice I sent her back out with dad to deal with the hair. They still don't take care of their kid. Except when they take her out to family events or church. Then they want to "look" like they care.

And I agree with whom ever said your kid your problem to the extent that you have to make an effort. If dad doesnt know how to deal with the hair then mom better TEACH HIM OR CUT IT! If dad didnt know how to change their diaper would you do that for him every am at drop off? NO.

I will fix hair that has already been done. I will not take care of your childs every need so that all you have to do is drag them from bed to car to me in the AM. Make an effort and I will support you. If not, then bangs in face it is.
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Old 10-03-2012, 11:01 AM
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As a parent, I just wanted to let all the "I do hair before pick up" providers know how much it is appreciated by parents (well, at least this one).

I've had medium-long thick wavy hair as long as I can remember but somehow we ended up with a little girl who has slow growing super fine blond cornsilk (I blame the hubs ) that's terrible about coming loose...and after a nap - forget about it. One of the first things I noticed after starting with the lady who cares for her now is that when I pick my daughter up she had her shoes on, her hands and face were clean, her hair was tidy and her clothes were still presentable (she'd changed into her spare set if she got paint or food on her shirt, etc.). Makes things so much easier if we need to pop into the grocery store on the way home. I used to keep a kit in my car with wipes, a fresh shirt, brush and hair ties and spend several minutes sitting in the store's parking lot fixing my daughter up.
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Old 10-03-2012, 11:19 AM
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I allow it and really only have 2 girls that ever wear their hair in clips, etc.
It's never been an issue...If they fall out I just put it back in or put them in their cubby for me to fix before going home or send home with parents. It's never been an issue. If kid plays with it, it gets taken out and put away until pick up.

I also have a comb for each child so fixing hair/putting it up is not an issue. I comb their hair after PM nap, prior to p/u so they are nice and tidy.

Hair in their eyes and faces drives me nuts so I prefer longer hair to be put back somehow.

Some days we play hair dresser and they go home with funky hair
Parents always love the new looks we come up with and enjoy the pictures I take when we do this.
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Old 10-03-2012, 11:38 AM
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I allow them, but if they pull them out or they keep falling out, they go in the cubbies. I will reput them in once, but after that they usually don't want them anyway. I take them out at nap and put them back in after. I have 1 that must have her hair up. She is a "girly" girl. She leaves them alone for the most part. I have another that doesn't like anything in at all. Whoever drops her in the morning always does her hair, but the minute she gets here, she takes it out. I put it back in if she wants, but usually she says no. I just comb it out a bit so it doesn't have that elastic line/bump and off we go!
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Old 10-03-2012, 11:46 AM
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I allow hair accesories... and I keep about 790845798469 on hand as well (dollar store!) in every color and design. I PREFER that my girls have their hair in ponies or clipped back to keep it out of their faces! I do all my girls hair every day, sometimes several times a day - they love it, and I love it too. It makes them feel good about themselves, and it makes me feel good to know they go home looking/feeling happy, healthy and clean! I have had a few moms complain and makes snide remarks... but that's because they didn't have a clue how to do hair All my other parents really appreciate it!
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Old 10-03-2012, 11:50 AM
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I am with Willow and Silver as I have long hair too and if it is in my face, I get a little crazy so anyone having their hair fixed in an appropriate manner works for me, as long as the barrettes or ties don't fall out and aren't choking hazards.

I will also re-do or fix a child's hair if necessary.

I have a little guy here that "won't let" mom or dad take him to get a hair cut. It wouldn't be so bad but his hair is like super out of control and it is starting to actually be an issue because stuff is getting stuck in his hair and well, it is just really unruly and really getting out of control. Not really sure what to do with this issue though as I have never had to tell a parent their kid's hair is a problem...
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Old 10-03-2012, 12:48 PM
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I will provide special elastic bands that are choke, snap free.

about 2 years ago one of the DCKs had a pony tail holder in her hair that contained a small piece of metal on it. Well at some point during the day, it fell out and I did not notice. My son was about 2.5-3 at the time and he found it. He stretched it out and it shot backwards and hit him in the eye. My husband was home thank god, because he ended up having to take him to the ER. In the end, my little guy had tore the lens of his eye, which later got infected because he refused to leave the eye patch on. It could have cost my son his vision so yes I do not allow any form of hair accessories at all.
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Old 10-03-2012, 01:06 PM
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I am in the hair doer corner. I keep the little barbie rubber bands here because they are hard to pull out. I do hair in the morning and straighten them up in the afternoon. I want my little ones hair neat so that it is not in everything!
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Old 10-03-2012, 02:41 PM
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I do hair everyday and provide tiny rubber bands for daycare use. Since I only allow one type, I feel providing them is fair .

I will do hair in special bows for going home if they ask, just not for wear in the room with infants and toddlers.

I do not allow barrettes or anything that contains metal for safety reasons..metal can be difficult to pass through the digestive tract.

Also, If a child ingests these things and ever requires an MRI, it could tear the lining of the intestines.
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Old 10-03-2012, 02:54 PM
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I am with Willow and Silver as I have long hair too and if it is in my face, I get a little crazy so anyone having their hair fixed in an appropriate manner works for me, as long as the barrettes or ties don't fall out and aren't choking hazards.

I will also re-do or fix a child's hair if necessary.

I have a little guy here that "won't let" mom or dad take him to get a hair cut. It wouldn't be so bad but his hair is like super out of control and it is starting to actually be an issue because stuff is getting stuck in his hair and well, it is just really unruly and really getting out of control. Not really sure what to do with this issue though as I have never had to tell a parent their kid's hair is a problem...
I have had THREE boys like this in the last year... I would wait until dad picked up and then casually mention before they were leaving (as brushing the child's hair from his eyes) "I'm going to have to start putting clips in your hair to get it under control, Johnny..." and giggle. Worked great every time - within days each child returned with a clean-cut hair cut
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Old 10-03-2012, 03:17 PM
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I do allow them, but it is not my problem if they get lost, fall out when we are outside, etc. The first time they fall out, I put them away in a bag.

I had a dad show up last week with a brush and a hair clip in hand because his daughter wouldn't let him do her hair.

Not my kid, not my problem.
I agree. I have one little girl who always had them fall out and most days I had no idea where (probably outside) but I don't take care of infants so I don't have to worry about it. Her mom recently cut her hair and added bangs, now she doesn't need the barrettes any more as it is no longer in front of her eyes.

I would not do a child's hair either but I would show dad how to do it. I don't allow "I can't" from my daycare children so why would I allow it from a parent? Where does it end? "She wouldn't let me change her from her pajamas this morning can you do it?" I can see it now.

I'm surprised so many providers do hair and change a child's clothing before they leave for the day. I make sure my little ones have clean hands and a clean face but that's where it ends. Our day's are so busy with activities I can't imagine doing all of that but Kudos to the providers that do.
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I'm surprised so many providers do hair and change a child's clothing before they leave for the day. I make sure my little ones have clean hands and a clean face but that's where it ends. Our day's are so busy with activities I can't imagine doing all of that but Kudos to the providers that do.
It is super easy if you have set hours. All my clients drop off and pick-up at the same time. It flows like circle time, in the same pattern everyday.

It never would have worked for me either when I had part timers and flexible hours. Now that I can, the parents gush over it.
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It is super easy if you have set hours. All my clients drop off and pick-up at the same time. It flows like circle time, in the same pattern everyday.

It never would have worked for me either when I had part timers and flexible hours. Now that I can, the parents gush over it.
I need to start doing this because yesterday a DCP showed up with their child having a head full of applesauce. lol I tired to get it out, but was not vey successful with all of the screaming.........
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I need to start doing this because yesterday a DCP showed up with their child having a head full of applesauce. lol I tired to get it out, but was not vey successful with all of the screaming.........
Yep, mine show up covered in breakfast all the time. Most let them eat in the car during their commute as I am off the beaten track.

As soon as they come in I change them into play clothes for the day (standard black sweats), toss the clothes in the laundry with the nap linens and re-dress for gong home. Super easy.

Parents know if they are going to show up early they have two choices, text me with enough time to get them ready or go to Grandmas with glitter glue, paint and wobbly eyes on your windows.
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Yep, mine show up covered in breakfast all the time. Most let them eat in the car during their commute as I am off the beaten track.

As soon as they come in I change them into play clothes for the day (standard black sweats), toss the clothes in the laundry with the nap linens and re-dress for gong home. Super easy.

Parents know if they are going to show up early they have two choices, text me with enough time to get them ready or go to Grandmas with glitter glue, paint and wobbly eyes on your windows.
hmm...I have to start doing this........ we get DIRTY
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Old 10-03-2012, 04:58 PM
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This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.

Thanks for the input. I will say I am a bit insulted that you think I am not a good provider, as you don't know me or my exceptional program.

That being said, allow me to further explain. First off, I have a little girl in my program who wears hair bows every day. They DO NOT stay in. They fall out all the time, in all sorts of places. Then I waste valuable TEACHING time looking for a silly bow that, by the way, does NOT hold her hair back.

As for your next issue regarding me not doing a child's hair for the father, allow me to enlighten you. I am a very caring provider, at all times. It is not, however, my job to parent a child when their own parent chooses not to. This particular family is one that will bring their child with no shoes, with no coat, with an overnight diaper on, and without having eaten breakfast. AT NINE IN THE MORNING. And where did I say he said "please". He didn't. I also don't think being a father excuses a PARENT from caring appriopriately for his daughter. I have two boys - does that mean I should never play baseball or teach them how to pee standing up? And finally, the mother is HOME in the morning. So she certainly could help with the hair if the father is that inept. As I said, not my kid, not my problem.

I am a very good provider, and I have a huge heart. My program has a waiting list, and most programs in my area are fighting to find clients.

The reason I have a waiting list is because I don't waste my time on other people's responsibilities. I have tweaked my program rules over the years, as a result of experience.

I don't mind disagreement with my opinions. Just don't make assumptions when you are clearly not fully informed.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:10 PM
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I have to agree with you....if he wanted to learn how to do her hair there is a thing called youtube he can use to learn.

My best guy friend is a single dad raising two kids fully on his own. He has one o son and one younger daughter.

One day we were at the beach and he was getting annoyed with my hair in his face ( i have really long big hair) and he said do you have a brush and a rubber band??? I am puzzled. he french braided my hair. I was in shock. I asked how he learned and he told me he bought a book on how to do hair. He said that one day one of the kids teased her that her hair was always messy, so he felt like a horrible father and knew that since the mom was not in the picture, he had to teach himself.

sorry, if the dad really wanted to learn he could. I don't feel that it is our responsibility to teach them how.

It all goes back to offering SPECIAL.. you give an inch, they take a mile...

I could care less about hair and clothing....I'd rather spend time playing....
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I am with Willow and Silver as I have long hair too and if it is in my face, I get a little crazy so anyone having their hair fixed in an appropriate manner works for me, as long as the barrettes or ties don't fall out and aren't choking hazards.

I will also re-do or fix a child's hair if necessary.

I have a little guy here that "won't let" mom or dad take him to get a hair cut. It wouldn't be so bad but his hair is like super out of control and it is starting to actually be an issue because stuff is getting stuck in his hair and well, it is just really unruly and really getting out of control. Not really sure what to do with this issue though as I have never had to tell a parent their kid's hair is a problem...
I cut the bangs of two DCG's for this reason. They'll let me cut them sitting in my bathroom sink but they won't go to the hairdresser. Both have tried and I've fixed the results.
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I dont mind at all, mine as well look cute as long as they dont come off and become a hazard.
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I only allow hair things for those who are able to keep them in. I've had several girls in the past rip them from their hair as soon as they get here, and although have never had a child choke on them, I had a DCG that would constantly shove things in her nose. Actually was sent to the emergency room twice because she pulled her little plastic rubberbands out and had them shoved so far up her nose, we couldn't reach them. (She had this issue at her house too) Thank goodness she grew out of that phase! I do have it listed in my contract as well, that if they don't leave them in, they aren't allowed to wear them.
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I cut the bangs of two DCG's for this reason. They'll let me cut them sitting in my bathroom sink but they won't go to the hairdresser. Both have tried and I've fixed the results.
I am willing to bet mom would give me the go-ahead to do something for this little guy but I honestly have no idea what to do or how I would cut his hair....he is African-American and his hair is, lets just say really BIG right now.
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I am willing to bet mom would give me the go-ahead to do something for this little guy but I honestly have no idea what to do or how I would cut his hair....he is African-American and his hair is, lets just say really BIG right now.
Awwww, I bet it looks cute even if it's a pain.
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This bothers me. I don't feel this way. I don't think I would want a daycare that felt this way about my child. Dad's usually don't know what to do with little girls hair. Mom usually does this and they just don't know. Some do- If I had a Father come in with everything for me to help him out, I would. I don't want the hair in the child's eyes- drives me nuts. If you have a child in your care, then it is your problem. It is your problem to be the best provider that you can be. It is one thing if the parents don't care and expect you to do this, but the parent cared enough to say I just don't know how to do this, could you please help me out.

Thanks for the input. I will say I am a bit insulted that you think I am not a good provider, as you don't know me or my exceptional program.

That being said, allow me to further explain. First off, I have a little girl in my program who wears hair bows every day. They DO NOT stay in. They fall out all the time, in all sorts of places. Then I waste valuable TEACHING time looking for a silly bow that, by the way, does NOT hold her hair back.

As for your next issue regarding me not doing a child's hair for the father, allow me to enlighten you. I am a very caring provider, at all times. It is not, however, my job to parent a child when their own parent chooses not to. This particular family is one that will bring their child with no shoes, with no coat, with an overnight diaper on, and without having eaten breakfast. AT NINE IN THE MORNING. And where did I say he said "please". He didn't. I also don't think being a father excuses a PARENT from caring appriopriately for his daughter. I have two boys - does that mean I should never play baseball or teach them how to pee standing up? And finally, the mother is HOME in the morning. So she certainly could help with the hair if the father is that inept. As I said, not my kid, not my problem.

I am a very good provider, and I have a huge heart. My program has a waiting list, and most programs in my area are fighting to find clients.

The reason I have a waiting list is because I don't waste my time on other people's responsibilities. I have tweaked my program rules over the years, as a result of experience.

I don't mind disagreement with my opinions. Just don't make assumptions when you are clearly not fully informed.
I am sorry if I insulted you- was not my intent. I just wanted to state that I don't think that way, "not my kid, not my problem"

If a child is going to be with me all day or most of the day, I don't want the child to have hair in her face, eyes. I can make a difference while that child is in my care...... even if the parent/s doesn't for whatever reason. It takes me no time to throw a child's hair up out of the way. When a child is in my care, I feel like it is my problem.

We all do things different and that I have respect for. If it is working for you great! It would not work for me-

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I have to agree with you....if he wanted to learn how to do her hair there is a thing called youtube he can use to learn.

Ditto! we have a 3 year old daughter and my hubby tries very hard to do her hair. (It's actually funny watching him struggle, when I can do a great job in seconds, lol). She may have lopsided pig tails or a crooked ponytail but dad tries and he's getting better.

Just because they are men it doesn't make them completely useless :P
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Ditto! we have a 3 year old daughter and my hubby tries very hard to do her hair. (It's actually funny watching him struggle, when I can do a great job in seconds, lol). She may have lopsided pig tails or a crooked ponytail but dad tries and he's getting better.

Just because they are men it doesn't make them completely useless :P

LOL my hubby does the same with our 3 year old. She loves it!

I had a Dad come in and Mom was away for a while (service) and he had brush and elastics in hand, said he tried but his hands are big to get around the elastic and the child's hair and he just struggled trying to do something with her hair. He asked if I would mind. I said I would do it, no problem. He was frustrated with himself for being able to do everything else but not this. I can cook, clean, baths, diapers etc, but this is not my thing at all.

Then I have had men come in that have better hair then I do. LOL

I know for me that I am completely useless when it comes to doing anything with the car. I have no interest to do that, unless I absolutely have to do it and then it is usually fail on my part, because I just don't know. He does it and I do other things. It is not a male-female thing for us. We both would learn if needed. Our strengths are just different.

Anywhoooo
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I have 3 girls of my own, they love doing hair on the dcgs. So I have no problem. I supply the stuff too. i can't stand hair in faces, this drives me crazy. I even if they need a haircut get one of my parents to do it (they are a hair dresser) I know that parents are capable but when my girls do it, makes it so much more special.
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I love this. I love it when parents say that their kid "wouldn't let them" do something. I always think seriously? UGH
I laugh at those kinds of comments too. I have actually asked a mother
(who lived a few doors down from us) who always used the words "he insisted" (when her son would bring things from home that she knew were not allowed)....

"What will you do when he is 16 and "insists" on taking the car and staying out all night? If you can't control him now, what makes you think he will listen then?"

She would just shrug.

He left me when he was 5, but is now 14 and already has a police record.......
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I came across your thread and thought I'd post my comment. I make and sell handmade hair accessories, and continuously stress the importance of small hair accessories that pose as a choking hazard to small children. I totally agree with your feelings on removing small hair accessories when the child is at school, daycare, sleeping, playing outside, etc as it so easy for them to put it in their mouth. They're definitely cute, but need to be removed when the child is not being supervised 100% of the time. I think more parents need to become more aware of the danger of leaving hair accessories on their babies.

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NO! I once had a child once when I worked in a center, get ahold of a small hair clip and he swallowed it. We had to call his parents and they had to go to the doctor and the doc suggested that he get an x-ray. Sure enough it showed up. Luckily we just had to watch for it when he had a bm and it did pass. It was a scary situation, we were lucky that the mom saw that it was an accident! From that day forward we banned any hair pieces in the infant and toddler rooms. So with that being said, I won't allow hair pieces in my home unless they are big and do not come apart!
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Only very simple accessories like an elastic for a ponytail. Too much of a liability to have a crawler choke on a barrette that may fall on the floor.

Just yesterday, I had a three year old come with long dangling earrings in. I took them out and handed them to the mom and said "We don't want torn ears!" She said "Oh I didn't think of that!"

Note: Due to my new teeth I actually said "We don't want torn eershhh"
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Only very simple accessories like an elastic for a ponytail. Too much of a liability to have a crawler choke on a barrette that may fall on the floor.

Just yesterday, I had a three year old come with long dangling earrings in. I took them out and handed them to the mom and said "We don't want torn ears!" She said "Oh I didn't think of that!"

Note: Due to my new teeth I actually said "We don't want torn eershhh"
You are funny!

I honestly don't think that parents realize the choking hazards or other hazards that accessories pose to kids. I'm sure I have put a hair clip or two in my daughters hair in the past, without thinking! Sometimes a little reminder does wonders!
Hope your teeth are working out well!
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I really only had an issue with hair do-dads with one child. Her mom would bring her with a cute bow ( match her outfit) but it would always come out. I would put it in her cubby and mom would always put it back in upon picking her up. (it was just a bow with a pinch clip, if you just put that in, it would not stay in securely) I told mom they dont stay in and she just insisted on her having one. With my own daughter I would use bows but with an elastic so it was secure. If that makes since. I just keep a close eye on hair clips and put them in there cubbies (if I remember). Its never been a real concern though.
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depends if they leave them in then it is no problem

If I do not have anyone under 2 or 2s that mouth everything then fine.

fall out or take it out I stick them on top of the cubbies and tell parents either get something that stays in or leave them at home and I blame it on the toddlers.
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I probably wouldn't have a problem with it unless it came out and then I would either put it back in or put it away, depending on if it appears whether it's going to keep coming out or not.
When I had daycare when my girls were little, first thing in the morning after breakfast EVERYONE had their hair brushed and put in pony tails...helps reduce the possibility of their hair hanging loose getting head lice.
Then at the end of the day I'd do it again so they'd look neat for going home.
BUT things have changed so much in society since those days and I doubt I would brush or do anyone's hair...I may put them in pony tails for the sake of head lice.
As for a child getting to an age of not putting things in their mouths...I'm constantly reminding all my kids (even school age kids) to take things out of their mouths...it's never ending.
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