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Winker 07:14 PM 08-27-2018
I have two children I watch and mom brings each one into the house each morning separately. Other than her coming in with snow all over twice, it's not such a big deal. The pickup is more of a problem. Mom comes to the door and then proceeds to go out and buckle the child in, which seems to take forever and I am captive to sit and wait with the other one who is bundled up and antsy to go. For some reason I guess it just bugs me because I feel so done by that point and I have to just sit around twiddling my thumbs. At a center I would think you just have to drag them out and get in the car same as if you go grocery shopping. Because it is only those two that I watch, I have fealt that it was the least I could do when the 2 1/2 year old was much younger, but now that he is very sturdy and capable (he's a big kid) I just wish that both kids and the diaper bag would all go out the door at the same time.

When it's spring, summer or fall I try to be outside when she comes. That helps. Unless the two year old decides to run away on her at the last minute in which event I felt guilty for not hanging on to him and seeing it through (and then I'm annoyed when she leaves).

I think doing daycare in my home makes me feel like a captive audience (especially because I don't have a reason like other daycare kids to get back to).

Also, when the kids come in the morning the 2 1/2 year old more than likely is sleeping in his carseat and she brings him in and wants to hand this big heavy kid to me like he is an infant because he is asleep wrapped up in a blanket with no coat. He is tired I suppose because the parents don't get him to bed at night according to mom and she usually leaves my house at 5:00 and takes them to eat and to play in a fadt food indoor playland for several hours each night.
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Laugh and Learn 09:40 PM 08-27-2018
At one point I had only two also,and they did the same thing! When Mom came to pick up, I started walking out with her, holding the younger ones hand, also 2. Sure it was a pain to get my jacket and get cold or wet depending on the weather but it was better than waiting around. It really helped speed up the process!
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Josiegirl 02:43 AM 08-28-2018
How old is the other one? Maybe you could have her leave dcks' stuff at dc so a diaper bag wouldn't be necessary then she's got 2 hands to bring them out. It's going to be a hard habit to stop without making her wonder why. But yeh, that would annoy me too. 2 1/2 yo should be walking in and out along with sibling. Maybe you could start a conversation like 'to make this more convenient for both of us, why don't we plan on leaving diapers/wipes/extra clothes(whatever you need) here to eliminate the need for a diaper bag, then you can bring both children in 1 trip.' Heck, if need be, she can carry the youngest and then hold the others' hand.
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Blackcat31 06:00 AM 08-28-2018
Originally Posted by Winker:
I have two children I watch and mom brings each one into the house each morning separately. Other than her coming in with snow all over twice, it's not such a big deal. The pickup is more of a problem. Mom comes to the door and then proceeds to go out and buckle the child in, which seems to take forever and I am captive to sit and wait with the other one who is bundled up and antsy to go. For some reason I guess it just bugs me because I feel so done by that point and I have to just sit around twiddling my thumbs. At a center I would think you just have to drag them out and get in the car same as if you go grocery shopping. Because it is only those two that I watch, I have fealt that it was the least I could do when the 2 1/2 year old was much younger, but now that he is very sturdy and capable (he's a big kid) I just wish that both kids and the diaper bag would all go out the door at the same time.

When it's spring, summer or fall I try to be outside when she comes. That helps. Unless the two year old decides to run away on her at the last minute in which event I felt guilty for not hanging on to him and seeing it through (and then I'm annoyed when she leaves).

I think doing daycare in my home makes me feel like a captive audience (especially because I don't have a reason like other daycare kids to get back to).

Also, when the kids come in the morning the 2 1/2 year old more than likely is sleeping in his carseat and she brings him in and wants to hand this big heavy kid to me like he is an infant because he is asleep wrapped up in a blanket with no coat. He is tired I suppose because the parents don't get him to bed at night according to mom and she usually leaves my house at 5:00 and takes them to eat and to play in a fadt food indoor playland for several hours each night.
How old are these children.

I would never allow a parent to leave a child unattended in the car while she is not. I can see this being a huge liability in the winter months when most cars are left running in the cold.

I would use that as logic as to why she must take BOTH children when entering/exiting your home.

Use licensing as an excuse if necessary. (I don't recall the exact rule but I am pretty sure you could be cited for allowing this...)

Write up a short note about expectations and rules for drop off and pick up mentioning that children under age 5 must be accompanied to and from care and not left in vehicles unsupervised.

Then verbally explain to her that she must take BOTH children at one time and manage HER children during periods of transition just as she would like you said at the grocery store or any other similar place.
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Snowmom 07:44 AM 08-28-2018
What does she do when she goes to the store?

Leave one kid in the car while strapping her infant to the cart inside and walk back out?

Beyond what the others said, I'd say it's creating unnecessary stress on the children. Come together as a family, leave together as a family.
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Ariana 08:45 AM 08-28-2018
She obviously does not take them anywhere so this must be why they run. These kids can walk right? This is just so absurd! Sorry no advice because I feel like there is not much you can do short of carrying the other kid out for her.

So weird
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284878 09:32 AM 08-28-2018
I agree with BC, I was going to post something similar.
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Unregistered 10:02 AM 08-28-2018
My elderly neighbor was in chuckling away one evening and asked how is that I can get 5 kids out the door, get 4 loaded in the stroller, do the school run and get 5 back in the house with them never being out of arms reach during transitions. He watches the same kids getting picked up at night out in sets of 2 or solo, and running down the sidewalk, in neighbors yards, sometimes in the street, hollering and running from mom.

If I have no other children in care and things are looking like a chaotic pick up, I have no problem assisting taking one child up & out, but will not place them in the car.
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