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Old 07-27-2017, 10:02 AM
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Im expecting a baby and with the baby it would make me over ratio. I know exactly which child to terminate, but how do i tell the parents? Ill tell them why I have to terminate, but they are going to want to know why I chose them. Its because their child is my most difficult one, but I dont want to say that. Anyone else been in a similar situation?
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Old 07-27-2017, 10:51 AM
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I had to let a family go when I had my last child. (2 actually cause 2 days after his due date our ratios changed and my kids counted).
I waited till I was 12 weeks before letting parents know I was pregnant and then it was a couple weeks before I planned but I was starting to show and one mom asked so I let all know. I let them know of my plan for when baby was born just by words (that my MIL would sub for some part so would my husband and that I would be closed for a few weeks) but let them know I would give them a more detailed time line closer to my due date or in my case when my c section was scheduled for. Which was at about 7 months. I then sent a letter with which weeks were what. When I was at 7.5 months one parent said she would be leaving when I had baby. The other parent at PT kid I wrote a letter and also gave her a outline of what letter said. Basically it said that due to the upcoming addition to my family and to stay in line with the provincial ratios that I would at this time have to terminate care as of my leave date. I left off that they part of the reson was that they were pt. Before the other family left I would have termed a diffent kid cause he was my problem child.
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Old 07-27-2017, 11:10 AM
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Im expecting a baby and with the baby it would make me over ratio. I know exactly which child to terminate, but how do i tell the parents? Ill tell them why I have to terminate, but they are going to want to know why I chose them. Its because their child is my most difficult one, but I dont want to say that. Anyone else been in a similar situation?
I don't mean this in a snarky way at all....but why?
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In most cases, if a child is difficult the provider is usually working with the parent to remedy the situation and address the tough behaviors so if that is the case, this parent(s) shouldn't be surprised that their child is difficult.

I think you would more than likely be doing the parent(s) a favor by being transparent in a situation like this.

That might provide them the opportunity to not be in this type of situation again.
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Old 07-27-2017, 11:11 AM
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Agree with BlackCat, why not tell the parent about behavioral issues? You could start today, let them know they have two weeks to nip it in the bud or they will be terminated. We both know what will happen
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Most of the behavioral issues are common for the age, the other kids seem to be angels compared to this one. So there hasnt been too much discussion on the childs behavior because its typical. I let them know about the tantrums and what not, but the parents just assume it will pass. Should i say its because your kid throws tantrums and the other kids dont? I feel its harsh.
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Old 07-27-2017, 12:19 PM
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Most of the behavioral issues are common for the age, the other kids seem to be angels compared to this one. So there hasnt been too much discussion on the childs behavior because its typical. I let them know about the tantrums and what not, but the parents just assume it will pass. Should i say its because your kid throws tantrums and the other kids dont? I feel its harsh.
Gotcha.... Yeah, it is hard when others set the bar much higher.

I would just give a term notice with an end date and leave it at that. Don't give any more details then necessary.

IF the parents do end up asking why them and not another family, I would just be vague then and say something like "I made a decision that I felt was best for my business and although I understand your feelings I really can't go into any more detail than that."

...because honestly this IS your business and you ARE the boss so you DO get to make those kinds of decisions without owing anyone a detailed explanation.
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Old 07-27-2017, 12:22 PM
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Most of the behavioral issues are common for the age, the other kids seem to be angels compared to this one. So there hasnt been too much discussion on the childs behavior because its typical. I let them know about the tantrums and what not, but the parents just assume it will pass. Should i say its because your kid throws tantrums and the other kids dont? I feel its harsh.
Dear daycare family,
It is with a heavy heart I write to let you know I will no longer be able to provide care for little jimmy. Although it has been great working with your family I just feel that little jimmy is not as happy here as I would like him to be. He deserves the very best in care and I feel he might do well in another setting.
As per my contract this is your two week notice. Care will end effective XXX.
Thanks,
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Old 07-27-2017, 12:40 PM
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I have been in this situation. I just told the mom that due to the new baby, I was downsizing numbers and the ages of kids that I worked with and unfortunately that included her child. Gave her lots of notice and it was fine.
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Most of the behavioral issues are common for the age, the other kids seem to be angels compared to this one. So there hasnt been too much discussion on the childs behavior because its typical. I let them know about the tantrums and what not, but the parents just assume it will pass. Should i say its because your kid throws tantrums and the other kids dont? I feel its harsh.
Perhaps saying that you feel a different environment would be a better fit for their child would be a way to word it?
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"because my program is no longer able to meet your child's needs"

I don't suppose he's the most recent enrollment so you could use that as an excuse...
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She will definantely ask why her child lol
I was thinking of using a lottery excuse, her name was the one i pulled out of the hat...
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She will definantely ask why her child lol
I was thinking of using a lottery excuse, her name was the one i pulled out of the hat...
I would just say that
"Believe me mom, I agonized over the decision but feel jimmy would transition to a new care program easily and quickly. I think this is a great time for him to adjust to a new group. Would it be alright with you if we had a special snack on his last day? I was thinking of making rice crispie treats and serving it with white grape juice with frozen blueberries floating on top. "

Make it a celebration.
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