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auntymimi 10:16 AM 12-08-2015
12:45 and nap time had just begun. I had kids at 5:30 am and will until 7:30 pm. I was very much looking forward to nap, obviously. One of my 5:30 am kiddos is screamer boy who needs but fights nap and I'm also transitioning a new21 mo, who, thank god, is an angel. There's my back story. New family called on Monday needing care and was supposed to call yesterday for an interview. Never called. Guess who shows up ringing my doorbell at 12:45? 
They thought they'd "just stop by". Uh, no. So screamer is woke up, of course, and doing what he does best. They want a copy of my contract to look over. Whatever. I hand them the copy (they are still outside on my front stoop) and here comes my husband. Apparently he knows one of them and INVITES them in! Between the screaming baby and my loud talker husband(we nap in the living room right off my entryway) now my own 2 yo is up and wailing and my angel baby is starting to cry! Enough is enough. I interrupt their freakin high school reunion to ask them to please call in the future and asked my hubby if he'd mind stepping outside to finish his conversation. He tells me that I was being extremely rude? Wth! Never mind the screaming kids, let's just sit here and chat.
Let alone the fact that I'm sure none of my other parents would be cool with complete strangers hanging out around their kids. Ugh. People just don't get it. I want to see THEM get 4-6 toddlers napping! Most can't even manage 1! Ok, rant over.
They thought they'd "just stop by". Uh, no. So screamer is woke up, of course, and doing what he does best. They want a copy of my contract to look over. Whatever. I hand them the copy (they are still outside on my front stoop) and here comes my husband. Apparently he knows one of them and INVITES them in! Between the screaming baby and my loud talker husband(we nap in the living room right off my entryway) now my own 2 yo is up and wailing and my angel baby is starting to cry! Enough is enough. I interrupt their freakin high school reunion to ask them to please call in the future and asked my hubby if he'd mind stepping outside to finish his conversation. He tells me that I was being extremely rude? Wth! Never mind the screaming kids, let's just sit here and chat.Let alone the fact that I'm sure none of my other parents would be cool with complete strangers hanging out around their kids. Ugh. People just don't get it. I want to see THEM get 4-6 toddlers napping! Most can't even manage 1! Ok, rant over.
Blackcat31 10:32 AM 12-08-2015
Originally Posted by auntymimi:
12:45 and nap time had just begun. I had kids at 5:30 am and will until 7:30 pm. I was very much looking forward to nap, obviously. One of my 5:30 am kiddos is screamer boy who needs but fights nap and I'm also transitioning a new21 mo, who, thank god, is an angel. There's my back story. New family called on Monday needing care and was supposed to call yesterday for an interview. Never called. Guess who shows up ringing my doorbell at 12:45?They thought they'd "just stop by". Uh, no. So screamer is woke up, of course, and doing what he does best. They want a copy of my contract to look over. Whatever. I hand them the copy (they are still outside on my front stoop) and here comes my husband. Apparently he knows one of them and INVITES them in! Between the screaming baby and my loud talker husband(we nap in the living room right off my entryway) now my own 2 yo is up and wailing and my angel baby is starting to cry! Enough is enough. I interrupt their freakin high school reunion to ask them to please call in the future and asked my hubby if he'd mind stepping outside to finish his conversation. He tells me that I was being extremely rude? Wth! Never mind the screaming kids, let's just sit here and chat.Let alone the fact that I'm sure none of my other parents would be cool with complete strangers hanging out around their kids. Ugh. People just don't get it. I want to see THEM get 4-6 toddlers napping! Most can't even manage 1! Ok, rant over.
I'm sorry. 12:45 and nap time had just begun. I had kids at 5:30 am and will until 7:30 pm. I was very much looking forward to nap, obviously. One of my 5:30 am kiddos is screamer boy who needs but fights nap and I'm also transitioning a new21 mo, who, thank god, is an angel. There's my back story. New family called on Monday needing care and was supposed to call yesterday for an interview. Never called. Guess who shows up ringing my doorbell at 12:45?
They thought they'd "just stop by". Uh, no. So screamer is woke up, of course, and doing what he does best. They want a copy of my contract to look over. Whatever. I hand them the copy (they are still outside on my front stoop) and here comes my husband. Apparently he knows one of them and INVITES them in! Between the screaming baby and my loud talker husband(we nap in the living room right off my entryway) now my own 2 yo is up and wailing and my angel baby is starting to cry! Enough is enough. I interrupt their freakin high school reunion to ask them to please call in the future and asked my hubby if he'd mind stepping outside to finish his conversation. He tells me that I was being extremely rude? Wth! Never mind the screaming kids, let's just sit here and chat.Let alone the fact that I'm sure none of my other parents would be cool with complete strangers hanging out around their kids. Ugh. People just don't get it. I want to see THEM get 4-6 toddlers napping! Most can't even manage 1! Ok, rant over.
Been there. All it takes is one tiny little thing to set the ball in motion for all sorts of other little things.....little things that add up and make big things.
I'm sorry your DH didn't "get it" and I'm sorry that family was so inconsiderate. If it were me, it would be the deciding factor as to whether they enrolled or not. And for me, it would be a no.
I hope your day gets better.
laundrymom 10:35 AM 12-08-2015
I agree w pp. no offer to enroll and a STERN REMINDER to DH about who runs the daycare.
Rockgirl 10:38 AM 12-08-2015
Oh, heck no! You don't mess with naptime!
auntymimi 10:40 AM 12-08-2015
You guys are too awesome! I really didn't even expect any replies, just kid of "releasing to the universe" lol.
Ariana 10:43 AM 12-08-2015
You are a saint!!
laundrymom 10:58 AM 12-08-2015
Originally Posted by auntymimi:
You guys are too awesome! I really didn't even expect any replies, just kid of "releasing to the universe" lol.
Ha! I read to my husband. His response....You guys are too awesome! I really didn't even expect any replies, just kid of "releasing to the universe" lol.
He's an idiot. You don't mess w nap. Ever.
:-) smart man I raised. Huh?
Thriftylady 11:05 AM 12-08-2015
I wouldn't enroll them for just dropping in when they pleased. And DH would be caring for kids the rest of the day while I watched a movie in my room lol. Okay really he wouldn't because I would pay for it in other ways, like a destroyed house lol.
midaycare 11:15 AM 12-08-2015
Sometimes it takes a reminder of how important nap time is - like asking DH to watch the kids for you for a minute and come back in 20. I kid, I kid.
DaveA 12:09 PM 12-08-2015
Yeah- the "just dropping by" would be enough for me to say no way to that family. And I tell my wife any child she wakes up from naptime is hers for the rest of the day AFTER they get a cup of mountain dew and a pack of ho hos.
sahm1225 12:15 PM 12-08-2015
Originally Posted by Thriftylady:
I wouldn't enroll them for just dropping in when they pleased. And DH would be caring for kids the rest of the day while I watched a movie in my room lol. Okay really he wouldn't because I would pay for it in other ways, like a destroyed house lol.
Although I agree about not allowing them to drop in, if you look up questions to ask potential providers it almost always says to show up unexpected. That way they don't have time ti prepare and 'hide' any bad things. I wouldn't enroll them for just dropping in when they pleased. And DH would be caring for kids the rest of the day while I watched a movie in my room lol. Okay really he wouldn't because I would pay for it in other ways, like a destroyed house lol.
I would calmly explain that did the safety of the children, I don't Allow drop in interviews. Then they would have to blow me away to even be considered for a spot!
Unregistered 01:26 PM 12-08-2015
Wow! Talk about being a hypocrite! They're the ones being RUDE!
rosieteddy 02:11 PM 12-08-2015
Seriously I have threatened my family for years about this.My children were trained to not make noise between 1 and 3;30.I had a sign on the door and a no ring sign on bell. My husband was laid off for 11/2 years and I threw him out everyday with the dog.Unemployed daughter also spent nap time at the library. As far as new clients ,charge them more(kidding)and tell them when they can interview.Send your husband food shopping while they will be there. So annoying to have your day messed up.
LysesKids 04:12 PM 12-08-2015
Originally Posted by sahm1225:
Although I agree about not allowing them to drop in, if you look up questions to ask potential providers it almost always says to show up unexpected. That way they don't have time ti prepare and 'hide' any bad things.
I would calmly explain that did the safety of the children, I don't Allow drop in interviews. Then they would have to blow me away to even be considered for a spot!
I cannot allow drop-ins due to the way I end up with some of my babies (Foster & Shelter kids - sometimes last minute); I have to protect them as well as others in my care - as such my address & phone# are never on my website or in ads because there have been times I have to go "on lockdown" because parents might be losing custody that day or a mom is running from an abusive spouse and is getting a court order ... A parent wants care they can send me a message thru my website and they can meet me after hrs. It's why I never do pics of the outside of my home too. Less chance of somebody driving by and recognizing my houseAlthough I agree about not allowing them to drop in, if you look up questions to ask potential providers it almost always says to show up unexpected. That way they don't have time ti prepare and 'hide' any bad things.
I would calmly explain that did the safety of the children, I don't Allow drop in interviews. Then they would have to blow me away to even be considered for a spot!
auntymimi 04:37 AM 12-09-2015
So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending. 
Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation! 
Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation!
childcaremom 04:48 AM 12-09-2015
Originally Posted by auntymimi:
So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending. Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation!
This is my refrain lately, too. So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending.
Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation! 
I like the idea of charging extra past your hour cap. I can't believe the amount of families that work long shifts and while I empathize with that type of schedule, I don't charge enough per day to cover 11-12 hours of care. I may adopt that system.
I'm sorry. A good fit is out there! (I keep telling myself this, too)
auntymimi 05:09 AM 12-09-2015
Originally Posted by childcaremom:
This is my refrain lately, too.
I like the idea of charging extra past your hour cap. I can't believe the amount of families that work long shifts and while I empathize with that type of schedule, I don't charge enough per day to cover 11-12 hours of care. I may adopt that system.
I'm sorry. A good fit is out there! (I keep telling myself this, too)
I charge about 20$ a day, which is the going rate where I'm from. I learned early on that some parents would have you keep them as many hours as you allowed. Now I might bend the rules a little for a single mom who was a nurse or something, but I don't advertise it. Most of the time, when I inform parents of my capped hours policy, they have someone already at home who can pick up the child. Whether dad enjoys "babysitting" or not is not my issue. If he needs "me time" that bad he can pay for it! Also, because so many families receive assistance in this area, most providers don't charge for days not attended and provide meals and snacks. While I do basically the same thing, I could not afford to hold a full time spot for two weeks unpaid every month.This is my refrain lately, too.
I like the idea of charging extra past your hour cap. I can't believe the amount of families that work long shifts and while I empathize with that type of schedule, I don't charge enough per day to cover 11-12 hours of care. I may adopt that system.
I'm sorry. A good fit is out there! (I keep telling myself this, too)
Mom2Two 05:33 PM 12-09-2015
Originally Posted by auntymimi:
So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending. Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation!
Oh, wow, that's a whole lotta crazy! Their lives sound so disorganized and their attitude is really blase...and guess where they'll end up trying to dump it? Disorganized people always seem to expect someone else to pick up behind them.So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending.
Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation! And I totally agree with Dave above...if DH messes with my situation, he's the one who gets to sort it out and put things back to right!
Thriftylady 06:30 PM 12-09-2015
Originally Posted by auntymimi:
So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending. Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation!
What a hot mess! You dodged a big one! And the big irritant for me would be the "he just gets sick of babysitting". Who "babysits" their own child?So they called this evening and they will not be enrolled. Dcd and gf have "the baby" for 2 weeks out of the month, the other 2 she spends with mom in the next state over. They want full time for the 2 weeks she's here but don't want to pay for the other 2 she won't be attending.
Nope. They "need" upwards of 12 hours care. I cap at 9 for babies. They then tell me she's 4! I guess they refer to her as a baby? Okaaaayy. Still, my cap hours in that case would be 10. I charge 8 dollars an hour after 10 hours. Just because I have kids here doesn't mean I want yours moving in. Anyway, gf then says, "oh, well dcd is laid off, so maybe he could pick her up early. He just gets sick of babysitting. That's why we need a daycare". Uh, also no. Can they start tomorrow morning? Uh, no. Where oh where are the normal families! I really think it's my area. And it's not called babysitting, it's called visitation!