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Old 01-07-2019, 04:53 AM
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I gave them the two week notice on the 28th and dcm cried but wasnít confrontational (thank goodness) but that same night the texting began. She texted me all thru that night and weekend. The following week every day at drop off-what are we going to do?! Iíll never find anyone like you!! Everyone weíve called is full!! Etc etc. At pick up dcb is doing his thing-screaming, running away from mom, being carried out thrashing about-and mom says something along the lines of oh dcb I know you love it here so much but we canít stay here Ms. so n so canít watch you anymore sheís got too many dckís. Grrrr!!!!!! This is his last week and I canít freakin wait for Friday night!!!! This morning she went on and on about the new provider they signed with over the weekend-she charges too much, she takes too much time off, she closes when the schools close....etc etc etc. Sheís been getting here early just so she can spend 30 min hanging out and crying to me.
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Old 01-07-2019, 05:34 AM
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I gave them the two week notice on the 28th and dcm cried but wasnít confrontational (thank goodness) but that same night the texting began. She texted me all thru that night and weekend. The following week every day at drop off-what are we going to do?! Iíll never find anyone like you!! Everyone weíve called is full!! Etc etc. At pick up dcb is doing his thing-screaming, running away from mom, being carried out thrashing about-and mom says something along the lines of oh dcb I know you love it here so much but we canít stay here Ms. so n so canít watch you anymore sheís got too many dckís. Grrrr!!!!!! This is his last week and I canít freakin wait for Friday night!!!! This morning she went on and on about the new provider they signed with over the weekend-she charges too much, she takes too much time off, she closes when the schools close....etc etc etc. Sheís been getting here early just so she can spend 30 min hanging out and crying to me.
Oh Lord. I am so sorry, but just count the days (or hours lol). She needs to get a grip on that child or she's going to have the same problem again.
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Old 01-07-2019, 06:49 AM
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She is harassing you and if you didn't need to have the ability to contact her in an emergency I'd say block her.

This could turn into something nasty, too. How do you feel about giving her an ultimatum? "I provide a safe, comfortable space for the children in my care. Drop-off should not involve trash talking me to your child and making them anxious at the beginning of their day. My phone number is available to you for professional communication only. If you cannot respect that, you need to come pick up your child and we will terminate care immediately." Maybe edit for less snippiness but I'm angry at this bratty woman on your behalf and don't want her wrecking your week and the time afterward when she continues pestering you.
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Old 01-07-2019, 06:52 AM
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Drop-off and pick-up outside. Kiss and go.
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Old 01-07-2019, 08:11 AM
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She is harassing you and if you didn't need to have the ability to contact her in an emergency I'd say block her.

This could turn into something nasty, too. How do you feel about giving her an ultimatum? "I provide a safe, comfortable space for the children in my care. Drop-off should not involve trash talking me to your child and making them anxious at the beginning of their day. My phone number is available to you for professional communication only. If you cannot respect that, you need to come pick up your child and we will terminate care immediately." Maybe edit for less snippiness but I'm angry at this bratty woman on your behalf and don't want her wrecking your week and the time afterward when she continues pestering you.
I agree! Her behavior is bullying in a "nice" way.

How rude of her to trash talk you in front of you!!

As for the early drop off, I'd start charging her for it.
I'd also let her know that she is not to "hang out" for 30 minutes. Use licensing or insurance as an excuse if necessary...."Licensing doesn't allow parents to stay longer than a quick drop off/pick up. Sorry but you'll have to drop off quicker."

I also agree with blocking her. There is NO reason she needs to tell you any of what she is telling you. NOT your circus, NOT your monkey.

Hoping Friday comes fast for you! Hang in there!!


I know it doesn't make it any better but these are the parents/kids/situations that teach us the most about this business.
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Old 01-07-2019, 09:38 AM
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Oh Lord. I am so sorry, but just count the days (or hours lol). She needs to get a grip on that child or she's going to have the same problem again.
Oh sheís definitely going to have the same problem again! I almost feel sorry for her because heís so terribly behaved and she interviewed with 4 other providers before this one that accepted her. All 4 ended up coming back with typical excuses for not being able to take dcb after all the very next day. Iím 100% sure they saw red flags at interview that made it clear that they donít want this kid.
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This too shall pass. Hang in there and soon you'll feel the peace flowing again.
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Oh sheís definitely going to have the same problem again! I almost feel sorry for her because heís so terribly behaved and she interviewed with 4 other providers before this one that accepted her. All 4 ended up coming back with typical excuses for not being able to take dcb after all the very next day. Iím 100% sure they saw red flags at interview that made it clear that they donít want this kid.
Be prepared....when heís terminated from the new daycare, thereís a good chance dcm will beg you to take them back. It would be a good idea to have a response ready!
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Old 01-07-2019, 11:24 AM
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Be prepared....when heís terminated from the new daycare, thereís a good chance dcm will beg you to take them back. It would be a good idea to have a response ready!
How professional would it be to just laugh and hang up?!
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How professional would it be to just laugh and hang up?!
Well....
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