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Potty Training-Signs Of Readiness?
What are the big signs of readiness for potty training?
I have an almost 3 yo dcg who just started at home last weekend, and mom makes it sound like she's doing GREAT at home. The girl hasn't told me once when she has to go, and has wet her diapers and pull ups all week. If I smell poop, and ask who is poopy, she runs over to me and turns around, like she wants me to check her, even when it's not her. |
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have you talked to the mom about what exactly she is doing at home and what specific progress she is seeing? I would imagine that by "great", mom means that DCG is being put on the potty constantly all day and is using the potty for that reason. Thats the way a lot of parents potty train and it is just not realistic for daycare.
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I start with it here, when the child is ready and tells me they have to go.
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I am conflicted on this issue! As a parent, who's daughter spent 8-10 hrs at daycare when she was 2-3yrs, (our jobs had long shifts ) and who's provider said I had to train her at home first, I thought it was unrealistic. She only had 4 hrs at night with me and an hour of that was driving to pick up her dad from work. The provider might put her on the toilet 2-3 times a day for a few days and said nope, you do it, she stays in diapers until then. It didn't make sense to me.
As a provider, I do understand we can not be running back and forth to the bath room all day. But we should at least be making an effort to try and help. May providers require certain readiness skills before they begin. Some signs to look for: The child is able to TELL you they need to go Needs to be able to remove/put on own clothing Have a dry diaper/pull up for extended periods of time Want to use a toilet/potty (lets face it, you can't hold a kids there and make them go ) |
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If you wait to start until the child tells you they have to go, The job is already done and why does the child just go do the job instead of telling you ?
at age 3 it is time to give a bit of a shove. take the child at normal times. like diaper changes, before nap and right after nap. any time you would tell the big kids to go take the trainer. |
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On Thursday her mom said that she was accident free wednesday evening and she was wearing underwear all morning (which wasn't that long cuz she comes at 7:15. She said that she had put a diaper on right before they left for the car ride but she wants me to put underwear on her. I said that I require diapers or pullups until they are accident free HERE for 2 weeks. Mom said "oh ok" and acted annoyed. I said that I cannot scrub carpets all day when other kids are here. |
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For me, it's not about what is best for the child. It's about what is best for my carpet and what's best for my time.
OP said: She said that she had put a diaper on right before they left for the car ride but she wants me to put underwear on her. See this shows that the Mom is thinking the same thing I am. She wants to protect her cloth (car seat) and her time (cleaning up the car seat). The Mom is on the right track but she's only concerned about her cloth and her time. The provider has to be the one to say it has to be about "my cloth" and "my time". Children will come and go in your child care. Each individual child's potty learning isn't more important than the furniture, carpet, and time of the provider. It's better for it to take a year more in diapers than a day where the provider has to have her carpet or cloth put at risk. Diapers are way cheaper than replacing carpet and carpet pads or furniture. Whether you can clean them or not the day they soiled they will never be as good as the day before. I've done child care in this house for ten years. I have had TWO potty accidents in my house. The last one was five years ago. I don't take any chances with a "training" child. They are completely trained before I allow them to go in underwear. By trained, I mean "I" know they are. I don't base it on parents words. Only what "I" know for sure.
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And I didn't even think about it from the point of view that she put the diaper on her child to protect her car but then wanted the provider to risk her own fabrics! |
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I am a provider and have been training my daughter for almost 3 weeks now. In the 3 weeks my almost 2.5 year old daughter has went from me putting her on the potty EVERY 30 min to now asking to go. I put her in panties at all time with a pull up over them. She does not feel the pull up against her skin (so it does not feel like a diaper) she feels the panties. If she is wet I will know and my furniture will not pay the price. This has worked great for me. I have extra panties available so if she is wet, I just put a new pair on and replace the pull up over it. She went from 10 accidents a day to now maybe one or two a day. I will continue this practice for awhile just to be sure. I am a provider of my own 3 children and between 2-5 DCK's daily. It is a challenge going every 30 min but well worth it in the long run! I have two more children to train my other daughter who is 2 and a DCG who is almost 3. I will be glad to help them both. The DCG is here 10 hours a day M-F. How could I expect her Mommy to train her?? Except the weekends.
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Even if they're not actually peeing that much, practice getting on and off the potty, managing clothing, learning to wipe...all that is good. That said, I don't run them back and forth to the potty every ten minutes either. I just take them when the other kids go. |
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Big difference At my house the child can't just go and do the job instead of telling me. That's one of the huge differences between potty training at home and in multi-level aged group child care. Here we have to SUPERVISE the child when they go. They can't have free access to a toilet without an adult being involved. At home they can go in and out of the bathroom without the parent even knowing where they are in the house. Here we have to supervise at all times. For this reason they must tell us they have to go before they go. By "tell" I mean say the WORDS "I have to go potty" not by doing body language or sign language but the actual WORDS "I HAVE TO GO POTTY".
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Here is my situation, any input would be great!
One with limited language and almost 3. Parents have been trying to potty train (I have no problem helping). Child though really doesn't speak alot and I think has no idea what it means to have to go to the bathroom. When they are on the toilet and don't go, they will say no go, but to actually tell me they have to go, not happening. I really would like to see the child doing this because they are getting way to heavy to be lifting up and down changing diapers. Also, less diapers for me to be changing! Next child, very broad vocabulary but same situation. Has no clue to tell me they have to go to the bathroom. I take them in with the diaper changers (about every two hours) and most of the time they will go, sometimes they won't. They kicker is they are probably dry 90% of the time. This indicates to me they are ready but don't know they have to go. So I'm perplexed on how to get them to know they have to go to the bathroom. |
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So this kid held it for a few hours one evening and maybe did an hour another morning.....how is that potty trained??? This mom sounds pushy. I would have backup diapers at your house just in case. Wouldn't surprise me if this mom sends the kid with only underwear even though you said no. I would use my backup diapers and then charge her. Forget what she is saying....the actions of her daughter show that she is not ready to be in underwear yet (and may not even be ready to potty train) and the actions of the mom says that she wants you to do the potty training at your house.
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I assist with it, when the child tells me they have to potty. I have a little 2 1/2 yr. old supposively going thru potty training at home. They say they put him on it once a night, and goes each time they put him on it. He is with me for 8 1/2-9 hrs. a day. He is home with them the rest of it, probably an hr. in the am, and about 4 hrs. in the evening. Then also every weekend. They need to have child learn to use it at home, and when he is ready, and say I have to potty, I will assist with it here as well. I do not have time to place child on the potty every 1/2 hr. also for them to be supervised sitting on the potty about 10 min. to see if they will go.
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I think I'm going to put a note with my potty training "rules" in her bag tomorrow. How does this sound?
"I am happy to help in the potty training process when your child is ready. Parent must supply 2 changes of clothing, diapers and/or pullups. Child must wear clothing that they can pull up/down themselves. Child can wear underwear after they are accident free at daycare for 2 weeks." Should I add something about the communication of the child telling me they have to go and how often I can take them in to try? |
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bathroom assistance, potty-training, pull ups, readiness, signs of readiness, toilet training |
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