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lovemykidstoo 06:25 AM 12-03-2012
I had my dcb come in pullups today. He's 33 months old and has shown no interest in potty training. Mom said that today he refused to wear a diaper and insisted on a pullup. I asked if he was going on the potty at home and she said, welllll kinda. Which means no, maybe hit and miss. He hasn't been here since last Wednesday, so I guess I would have thought that for the past 4 days that they would have been heavily training. This child also has about 4-5 bowel movements a day, so this should be fun. I actually just had a talk with him telling him that if he needs to go, to tell me and we'll go on the potty. He wasn't here 10 minutes and he pooped in his pullups. UGH!
itlw8 07:12 AM 12-03-2012
I think they slow down toilet training BUT at 33 months a diaper is just delaying it.
I do insist on pullups that have velcro on the side so the clothes do not need to be changed.
I do insist on pullups that have velcro on the side so the clothes do not need to be changed.
lovemykidstoo 07:19 AM 12-03-2012
I guess the thing that is irritating me is that it doesn't sound like they are seriously pursuing toilet training at home. If they're not doing it at home, why should I do it here? It should be done at the same time.
Blackcat31 08:18 AM 12-03-2012
If parents don't take the initiative and do the majority of the work, I do nothing. I don't care if a kid stays in Pull-ups or diapers until they are 5 yrs old.
Parents MUST start, continue and finish the process....I will assist but will NOT take the lead.
In your situation, I would simply continue doing what you always do. If he poops, change the pull up same way as you would if he were in diapers. The only line I would draw is if any of his poo isn't contained by the Pull up and leaks out, I would insist on diapers then.
I HATE Pull-ups but since toilet training is only something I will assist parents with, it is their choice to use whatever method they choose just so long as they are the ones doing 51% or more of the work.
Parents MUST start, continue and finish the process....I will assist but will NOT take the lead.
In your situation, I would simply continue doing what you always do. If he poops, change the pull up same way as you would if he were in diapers. The only line I would draw is if any of his poo isn't contained by the Pull up and leaks out, I would insist on diapers then.
I HATE Pull-ups but since toilet training is only something I will assist parents with, it is their choice to use whatever method they choose just so long as they are the ones doing 51% or more of the work.
lovemykidstoo 08:50 AM 12-03-2012
Absolutely agree BC. If she asks about it, I"m going to tell her that she has 12 days between the holidays when I'm off and she has him and that would be a great time for her to start his training.
sharlan 09:10 AM 12-03-2012
Pull-ups = expensive diapers. I prefer not to use them.
Blackcat31 09:11 AM 12-03-2012
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
Absolutely agree BC. If she asks about it, I"m going to tell her that she has 12 days between the holidays when I'm off and she has him and that would be a great time for her to start his training.
I PM'ed you. Absolutely agree BC. If she asks about it, I"m going to tell her that she has 12 days between the holidays when I'm off and she has him and that would be a great time for her to start his training.
lovemykidstoo 09:25 AM 12-03-2012
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I PM'ed you.
Got it, thanks so much!! I PM'ed you.
I agree Sharlan.
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:08 AM 12-03-2012
I have found that I actually prefer pull-ups to diapers because I can send the child to the restroom, have them take it off themself, have them use the restroom, and have them put on a new pull-up by themself. They can't put on a diaper without help. 
I have a 35 3/4 month old that is still wearing Pull-Ups. The child was making progress for awhile, and then it went back to peeing in a Pull-Up every hour (whether the child took a restroom break or not). I asked parents about it. They said they slacked off on potty training at home. I said, "Ok!" No sweat off my back.
I have a 35 3/4 month old that is still wearing Pull-Ups. The child was making progress for awhile, and then it went back to peeing in a Pull-Up every hour (whether the child took a restroom break or not). I asked parents about it. They said they slacked off on potty training at home. I said, "Ok!" No sweat off my back.
lovemykidstoo 11:03 AM 12-03-2012
I am cracking up. I just got a text from the mom of this child. She wanted to know if he went on the potty. I told her no and that he pood in his pullup twice. I asked if he was going at home and she said a little bit and that it's not enough to empty out and also that he "won't" wear diapers anymore. I love it when the kids dictate what they'll do. I wrote her back and asked her if she wanted him to wear pullups or diapers?
itlw8 12:16 PM 12-03-2012
with 12 days off mom needs to push the issue. They need to stay home and not run around until he gets this down.
Tell her to go by training pants one one pair of really cool underware.
have the boy drink lots of fluid and wear jeans. When he pees in his pants it feels bad. He will not like it. The cool underware is a bribe for staying dry and pooping on the potty for several days.
Then when he comes back he should be in underware hopefully
Tell her to go by training pants one one pair of really cool underware.
have the boy drink lots of fluid and wear jeans. When he pees in his pants it feels bad. He will not like it. The cool underware is a bribe for staying dry and pooping on the potty for several days.
Then when he comes back he should be in underware hopefully
Willow 12:20 PM 12-03-2012
If a parent told me their child wouldn't do this that or the other I'd likely give a very flamboyant laugh, and then offer a half hearted apology adding I didn't mean that..... 
I LOATHE pull ups and would have no problem giving a parent the "but come on now" talk. If he doesn't like diapers he can make the choice to not soil them and move on to big boy underwear.
I don't give a hoot when kids potty train but I would nip this notion that kids can dictate options right square in the butt, as well as clarifying that it is MOM'S responsibility to initiate and follow through with the "training," not yours.
I LOATHE pull ups and would have no problem giving a parent the "but come on now" talk. If he doesn't like diapers he can make the choice to not soil them and move on to big boy underwear.
I don't give a hoot when kids potty train but I would nip this notion that kids can dictate options right square in the butt, as well as clarifying that it is MOM'S responsibility to initiate and follow through with the "training," not yours.
lovemykidstoo 12:35 PM 12-03-2012
Originally Posted by Willow:
If a parent told me their child wouldn't do this that or the other I'd likely give a very flamboyant laugh, and then offer a half hearted apology adding I didn't mean that.....
I LOATHE pull ups and would have no problem giving a parent the "but come on now" talk. If he doesn't like diapers he can make the choice to not soil them and move on to big boy underwear.
I don't give a hoot when kids potty train but I would nip this notion that kids can dictate options right square in the butt, as well as clarifying that it is MOM'S responsibility to initiate and follow through with the "training," not yours.
Doen't it just crack you up. He refuses to wear a diaper? Seriously? I wanted to say, glad you're bigger than he is so you can hold him down to put a diaper on him. Oh lord the power the children of today have.If a parent told me their child wouldn't do this that or the other I'd likely give a very flamboyant laugh, and then offer a half hearted apology adding I didn't mean that.....
I LOATHE pull ups and would have no problem giving a parent the "but come on now" talk. If he doesn't like diapers he can make the choice to not soil them and move on to big boy underwear.
I don't give a hoot when kids potty train but I would nip this notion that kids can dictate options right square in the butt, as well as clarifying that it is MOM'S responsibility to initiate and follow through with the "training," not yours.
crazydaycarelady 10:48 AM 12-04-2012
If the child "won't" wear diapers then at 33months of age why didn't she try underwear for a bit then? When he refused diapers he was probably wanting to be a big kid.
I hate Pull-Ups.
I hate Pull-Ups.
lovemykidstoo 10:56 AM 12-04-2012
I talked with her this morning and she said that her husband is putting him in underwear this weekend and trying that. I have had him sit on the potty here and he's gone pee once. He still is going in his pullup both #1 and #2. Unfortunately, this is a child that poops like 5 times a day. UGH!
williams2008 11:15 AM 12-04-2012
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I have found that I actually prefer pull-ups to diapers because I can send the child to the restroom, have them take it off themself, have them use the restroom, and have them put on a new pull-up by themself. They can't put on a diaper without help.
I have a 35 3/4 month old that is still wearing Pull-Ups. The child was making progress for awhile, and then it went back to peeing in a Pull-Up every hour (whether the child took a restroom break or not). I asked parents about it. They said they slacked off on potty training at home. I said, "Ok!" No sweat off my back.
I hate pull-ups especially the cheap kind where you have to literally undress the kid all the way down to their bulky shoes to change them. It would be so wonderful if the dcks i have in pull-ups could put theirs back on, I even wish the 3 year old dcb that I take care of who is in big boy shorts could do a lot of things when it comes to putting things on/off and up/down. I guess i'm just wishful thinking!I have found that I actually prefer pull-ups to diapers because I can send the child to the restroom, have them take it off themself, have them use the restroom, and have them put on a new pull-up by themself. They can't put on a diaper without help.
I have a 35 3/4 month old that is still wearing Pull-Ups. The child was making progress for awhile, and then it went back to peeing in a Pull-Up every hour (whether the child took a restroom break or not). I asked parents about it. They said they slacked off on potty training at home. I said, "Ok!" No sweat off my back.
Lilbutterflie 12:17 PM 12-04-2012
I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
MyAngels 07:55 PM 12-04-2012
Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady:
If the child "won't" wear diapers then at 33months of age why didn't she try underwear for a bit then? When he refused diapers he was probably wanting to be a big kid.
I hate Pull-Ups.
I agree with this. I have two that decided one day that they didn't want to wear diapers anymore so their mom put them in underwear. They never had an accident after that. If she had put them in pull-ups we probably would have delayed their training by who knows how long.If the child "won't" wear diapers then at 33months of age why didn't she try underwear for a bit then? When he refused diapers he was probably wanting to be a big kid.
I hate Pull-Ups.
Sunshine74 08:56 PM 12-04-2012
Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady:
If the child "won't" wear diapers then at 33months of age why didn't she try underwear for a bit then? When he refused diapers he was probably wanting to be a big kid.
I hate Pull-Ups.
I feel the same way. When I read the title of this thread, I thought, "Ugh, I hate them!"If the child "won't" wear diapers then at 33months of age why didn't she try underwear for a bit then? When he refused diapers he was probably wanting to be a big kid.
I hate Pull-Ups.
CrackerJacks 11:56 PM 12-05-2012
Originally Posted by Lilbutterflie:
I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
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I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
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I do it this way as well. Pull Ups are just like diapers. If the kids are comfortable going potty in a diaper and not caring they are going to do the same thing in a pull up. When parents say they are ready to work together at potty training I say bring lots of extra clothes and underwear. But I do also make it clear that the parents need to be on board at home as well. I don't want to spend all my time changing clothes and possibly cleaning up accidents if the parents aren't on board.
daycaremom76 08:33 PM 12-10-2012
Originally Posted by Lilbutterflie:
I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
Where did you get your handout???I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
wdmmom 09:47 PM 12-14-2012
Absolutely NO pull ups unless the child is being potty trained. This means no leaving daycare in a diaper and entering Monday in a pull up. Not only do they not hold poo very well but they're a royal pain if they aren't actual pull ups brand. (The kind that requires a full wardrobe change.)
CozyHome 02:01 AM 12-15-2012
Oh, I insist on pullups during the toilet learning phase. They can wear their underpants but they are going to wear the pullups over them. My contract states 30 days without accidents before containment isn't necessary. I don't care if they go for a year without an accident but if it happens again then the 30 day rule applies again.
I have a beige couch and beige carpets and it's ridiculous to take time out from our day to have to clean up pee or poop that isn't contained so I won't do it!
I have a beige couch and beige carpets and it's ridiculous to take time out from our day to have to clean up pee or poop that isn't contained so I won't do it!
Kaddidle Care 07:29 AM 12-15-2012
Pull Ups are a waste of money. They're fine if a child is potty trained but has that occasional accident.
I tried them with #1 son who was potty training forever. (My bad - listened to the Mother-In-Law.)
I don't think my 2nd son ever wore them but I didn't START training him until 3 1/2. No regrets - he was accident free within 2 weeks.
Letting the child dictate what he will or will not wear is only the start of this mother's problems. Be glad you won't have him past school age.
I tried them with #1 son who was potty training forever. (My bad - listened to the Mother-In-Law.)
I don't think my 2nd son ever wore them but I didn't START training him until 3 1/2. No regrets - he was accident free within 2 weeks.
Letting the child dictate what he will or will not wear is only the start of this mother's problems. Be glad you won't have him past school age.
MamaG 07:53 PM 12-16-2012
I had a Dcb same age same problem. I straight up told mom that he is not ready for pull ups yet and needs to be in diapers at my house. If you have to change 4+ diapers you don't need the hassle IMO.
Personally I've never used pull-ups. Every kid I know knows they can go in it and they do. I use a diaper till the child's basically trained but might have an accident at nap time. I have a few rules parents have been mad about. No pull-ups, no pacifier, no toys, no food (unless enough for everyone and packaged/labeled appropriately), no tie shoes, no clothing they can't remove and replace by themselves (no zippers, buttons, snaps ect). It's bad enough I zip 6 coats every time we go outside, I'm not tying 12 shoes! Lol
Personally I've never used pull-ups. Every kid I know knows they can go in it and they do. I use a diaper till the child's basically trained but might have an accident at nap time. I have a few rules parents have been mad about. No pull-ups, no pacifier, no toys, no food (unless enough for everyone and packaged/labeled appropriately), no tie shoes, no clothing they can't remove and replace by themselves (no zippers, buttons, snaps ect). It's bad enough I zip 6 coats every time we go outside, I'm not tying 12 shoes! Lol
MamaG 08:06 PM 12-16-2012
Originally Posted by Lilbutterflie:
I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
That would be nice IF all parents knew when a kid was actually ready. To often I have dcp who try to tell me kids trained! Nope. Not even close to ready either. I'm not mopping up pee n poop all day. That's unsanitary and gross.I don't like Pullups at all. Here are my reasons:
-Have you ever noticed that pullups smell so much worse than diapers when they are soiled with urine??? Do a side by side comparison when you get a chance, the smell from the pullup is awful!!
-Children get too comfortable soiling in pullups. I don't care what they advertise- they feel just like a diaper when they are soiled.
-They are so much more expensive
That said; if the parents sends a child in pullups I don't make a fuss.
BUT if a parent says "We are potty training and using pullups", I give them my handout about potty training and kindly tell them they will not get any effort from me if they are still using pullups. I require underwear or training pants & lots of changes of underwear/clothes/socks.
A 3 yr old girl started with me 4 weeks ago. She came in pullups with mom saying she is having a hard time with potty training. I gave her my handout and told her that as soon as she becomes adjusted, we would get rid of the pullups and try underwear. Last Monday she came in underwear (mom started over the weekend) and was potty trained by the end of the day. Hasn't had an accident since.
Play Care 03:14 AM 12-17-2012
The problem with pull ups is that they are not made/meant for anything other than the occasional accident. So a child who is not potty trained and wearing one means you are going to be changing clothing, washing furniture and carpeting, etc.
Like another poster I do use them (over "real" undies) when the child is still training for nap times. Most of the time the child wakes dry and I can reuse the pull up (as it wasn't touching bare skin) the next day. But I refuse to use them in leiu of diapers for an untrained child. They just are not made for that (thus the bad smell when the pull up is "full")
I'll be honest, most kids potty train better for me than parents. And I've had kids totally trained here while still in diapers at home. I'm all for whatever makes my life easier. "Training" a child who is actually ready to use the potty is easy and takes less than a week, IME. Totally worth having one less diaper to change.
Like another poster I do use them (over "real" undies) when the child is still training for nap times. Most of the time the child wakes dry and I can reuse the pull up (as it wasn't touching bare skin) the next day. But I refuse to use them in leiu of diapers for an untrained child. They just are not made for that (thus the bad smell when the pull up is "full")
I'll be honest, most kids potty train better for me than parents. And I've had kids totally trained here while still in diapers at home. I'm all for whatever makes my life easier. "Training" a child who is actually ready to use the potty is easy and takes less than a week, IME. Totally worth having one less diaper to change.
clep 10:05 AM 12-20-2012
Pull-ups are not welcome in my day home at all. I believe they are a glorified diaper and confuse children during the potty teaching process.
Children are in diapers here until the teaching process starts. I have them put underwear on their favorite doll or stuffie. The child teaches the stuffie with aid for a week or so how to go on he pottie. Sometimes the stuffie pees his pants, sometimes he is successful. I initiate things to progress exactly how I want them to with the child when it is their turn.
When mom and dad start potty teaching the child at home on a Saturday, they are well on their way by Monday. By the end of the week, the child is potty taught.
This process isn't effective with a pull up. I think mentally they don't differentiate the feeling of a pull up with a diaper. We use panties and they really feel how uncomfortable it is to go in their underwear.
Children are in diapers here until the teaching process starts. I have them put underwear on their favorite doll or stuffie. The child teaches the stuffie with aid for a week or so how to go on he pottie. Sometimes the stuffie pees his pants, sometimes he is successful. I initiate things to progress exactly how I want them to with the child when it is their turn.
When mom and dad start potty teaching the child at home on a Saturday, they are well on their way by Monday. By the end of the week, the child is potty taught.
This process isn't effective with a pull up. I think mentally they don't differentiate the feeling of a pull up with a diaper. We use panties and they really feel how uncomfortable it is to go in their underwear.