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Bookworm 03:08 PM 05-16-2012
Lately I've been posting about my 2 DCBs and all their issues. Well here we go again.
DCB #1 (the one who is here EVERY SINGLE DAY) came in in a foul mood at 7 am with mom following close behind in the same mood. So I ask what's wrong? Mom says that she wants a conference with me and my Director to discuss a plan on improving DCB's behavior. So I said ok and put a note on my Director's desk.
The conference was set for nap time and I went into the office for the conference. Mom immediately jumps on us saying that we are doing nothing ton"train" her kid how to act at home or in public. She says that he doesn't listen to anything mom/dad has to say. He talks back and when they try to talk to him, he just talks over them. She has to fix his dinner first or else he won't eat because he doesn't want what they have. Every time they say No to him, he has a complete meltdown complete with lying on the floor, kicking legs and screaming (you should see it, horrible). After her tirade, she then said that we (not her) need to come up with a plan because he is going to kindergarten in August and this is embarrassing.
After I gave her the "uncomfortable stare", I asked my Director if I could speak first and she gave me the go ahead. I told here that we have been having issues with DCB since last summer and have tried on countless occasions to try to talk with the both of them. I have sent notes home, had my Director talk with her many times. No response. Luckily I keep a copy of every note sent home because she immediately claimed she never received them. My Director showed her the copies WITH her signature. Anyway, I politely told her that DCB's problems at home are not my concern. My only concern is when he is here. It is not my job to teach your son how to act at 4 yrs old when that was something they should have been doing since birth. I told her that I already have a plan that I use for my class and I am not responsible for any plan in their house. I told her that we repeatedly tried for almost a year to try to work with them and they refused. I told her that he had many issues that needed to be worked on immediately but refused to listen.
My Director then took over and told her that she was sorry but it's not up to us raise her son. That was their responsibility. We are here to help but we can only help if you want us to. Needless to say, mom wasn't happy. She had the nerve to say,"Well I guess it's too late to get my donation for Teacher Appreciation Week back". "You don't appreciate my son so why should appreciate you"? This immediately offended my Director who said,"I appreciate your business but I don't appreciate your attitude or yournson's behavior. We have tried on several occasions to work with you and you refused so now YOU have to deal with this". She then escorted mom. To the door.
I'm so sorry this is so long but this really took the icing off the cake. I have never in my daycare life (18yrs) had someone say something like this to me. I stewed over this all day long. I'm still in shock. My Hubby couldn't even comment. He couldn't even close his mouth. What in the H*** is wrong with people. Since when did we become responsible for home behavior. Why do we have to fix it. And what was she smoking for this to even enter her head. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. Where's my wine glass?
DCB #1 (the one who is here EVERY SINGLE DAY) came in in a foul mood at 7 am with mom following close behind in the same mood. So I ask what's wrong? Mom says that she wants a conference with me and my Director to discuss a plan on improving DCB's behavior. So I said ok and put a note on my Director's desk.
The conference was set for nap time and I went into the office for the conference. Mom immediately jumps on us saying that we are doing nothing ton"train" her kid how to act at home or in public. She says that he doesn't listen to anything mom/dad has to say. He talks back and when they try to talk to him, he just talks over them. She has to fix his dinner first or else he won't eat because he doesn't want what they have. Every time they say No to him, he has a complete meltdown complete with lying on the floor, kicking legs and screaming (you should see it, horrible). After her tirade, she then said that we (not her) need to come up with a plan because he is going to kindergarten in August and this is embarrassing.
After I gave her the "uncomfortable stare", I asked my Director if I could speak first and she gave me the go ahead. I told here that we have been having issues with DCB since last summer and have tried on countless occasions to try to talk with the both of them. I have sent notes home, had my Director talk with her many times. No response. Luckily I keep a copy of every note sent home because she immediately claimed she never received them. My Director showed her the copies WITH her signature. Anyway, I politely told her that DCB's problems at home are not my concern. My only concern is when he is here. It is not my job to teach your son how to act at 4 yrs old when that was something they should have been doing since birth. I told her that I already have a plan that I use for my class and I am not responsible for any plan in their house. I told her that we repeatedly tried for almost a year to try to work with them and they refused. I told her that he had many issues that needed to be worked on immediately but refused to listen.
My Director then took over and told her that she was sorry but it's not up to us raise her son. That was their responsibility. We are here to help but we can only help if you want us to. Needless to say, mom wasn't happy. She had the nerve to say,"Well I guess it's too late to get my donation for Teacher Appreciation Week back". "You don't appreciate my son so why should appreciate you"? This immediately offended my Director who said,"I appreciate your business but I don't appreciate your attitude or yournson's behavior. We have tried on several occasions to work with you and you refused so now YOU have to deal with this". She then escorted mom. To the door.
I'm so sorry this is so long but this really took the icing off the cake. I have never in my daycare life (18yrs) had someone say something like this to me. I stewed over this all day long. I'm still in shock. My Hubby couldn't even comment. He couldn't even close his mouth. What in the H*** is wrong with people. Since when did we become responsible for home behavior. Why do we have to fix it. And what was she smoking for this to even enter her head. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. Where's my wine glass?
Heidi 03:33 PM 05-16-2012
Holy Crappola!
I'll have one with you too! Prost!
I'll have one with you too! Prost!
MizzCheryl 05:31 PM 05-16-2012
there ya have it. Like Mom like son!
Sounds like the acorn (or nut) didn't fall far from the tree.
daycare 05:57 PM 05-16-2012
I had one of these and I termed...I had the kid 14 hours a day...Yes I was that stupid to take the kid for that many hours, my fault.
I even found out later, that the mom did not work. She sent him to me thinking that I would teach him how to behave and then it would magically work at home too. I got sick of her kicking me in the face every day complaining that his behavior was so bad that she could not take it....
I told her sorry, I do'nt have those issues with him and I am sorry that you do. Maybe you should try spending some time with your kid parenting him... That was the last of that family.....
I hear and see this more and more....
Not shocked to read this...But its horrible.
Also kudos to your director for supporting you and taking your back.
I even found out later, that the mom did not work. She sent him to me thinking that I would teach him how to behave and then it would magically work at home too. I got sick of her kicking me in the face every day complaining that his behavior was so bad that she could not take it....
I told her sorry, I do'nt have those issues with him and I am sorry that you do. Maybe you should try spending some time with your kid parenting him... That was the last of that family.....
I hear and see this more and more....
Not shocked to read this...But its horrible.
Also kudos to your director for supporting you and taking your back.
countrymom 06:49 PM 05-16-2012
wow, omg wow. Good for you guys standing up, more and more people need to start doing this.