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Great Beginnings 08:56 AM 12-13-2013
So I see that a lot of you give out gifts as the children are heading out the door. And there are always those kids that take the week off from work so you don't have their children.
My question is; if you have a problem family with repeated lack of respect for you or children that are such a problem but you cant term, do you get them gifts if you know they wont be in care? Or do you maybe spend less on them then the others? This was a debate between another provider and I so I'm curious to what the majority think!
My question is; if you have a problem family with repeated lack of respect for you or children that are such a problem but you cant term, do you get them gifts if you know they wont be in care? Or do you maybe spend less on them then the others? This was a debate between another provider and I so I'm curious to what the majority think!
sharlan 09:03 AM 12-13-2013
I spend about $20 per child regardless of how I feel about them or the family.
thetoddlerwhisper 09:04 AM 12-13-2013
i try to be equal at christmas and buy in bulk.but for birthdays i favor others more!
JoseyJo 09:05 AM 12-13-2013
I always pick out special gifts for each child but I spend the same amount on each. This year- I am giving a box of legos to one dcb, lalaloopsy to my dcg, sticker books to my 2 yo dcb- they will all love them and they are specific to their interests.
I am going to give dcb who is a total terror and whose parents are totally disrespectful, who always has the best of everything and brings in and brags every day even though we don't allow toys- preschool workbooks (ya know because he LOVES to learn at home, he's just a terror during preschool time for me because I must be doing something wrong)
AND dcb who doesn't ever get new clothing even though big sis has a wardrobe to make a grown woman cry - I'm gonna give him socks! (he will love them, they are his favorite character
)
I am going to give dcb who is a total terror and whose parents are totally disrespectful, who always has the best of everything and brings in and brags every day even though we don't allow toys- preschool workbooks (ya know because he LOVES to learn at home, he's just a terror during preschool time for me because I must be doing something wrong)
AND dcb who doesn't ever get new clothing even though big sis has a wardrobe to make a grown woman cry - I'm gonna give him socks! (he will love them, they are his favorite character
)
Maria2013 09:10 AM 12-13-2013
I buy the same for everyone, then again I only work for families that I get along with fine
Great Beginnings 09:12 AM 12-13-2013
Originally Posted by JoseyJo:
I am going to give dcb who is a total terror and whose parents are totally disrespectful, who always has the best of everything and brings in and brags every day even though we don't allow toys- preschool workbooks (ya know because he LOVES to learn at home, he's just a terror during preschool time for me because I must be doing something wrong)
Lol!! That is too funny and such a great idea!! I am going to give dcb who is a total terror and whose parents are totally disrespectful, who always has the best of everything and brings in and brags every day even though we don't allow toys- preschool workbooks (ya know because he LOVES to learn at home, he's just a terror during preschool time for me because I must be doing something wrong)
Blackcat31 09:09 AM 12-13-2013
Originally Posted by Great Beginnings:
So I see that a lot of you give out gifts as the children are heading out the door. And there are always those kids that take the week off from work so you don't have their children.
My question is; if you have a problem family with repeated lack of respect for you or children that are such a problem but you cant term, do you get them gifts if you know they wont be in care? Or do you maybe spend less on them then the others? This was a debate between another provider and I so I'm curious to what the majority think!
For other reasons as well as to avoid situations like that ^^, I simply don't give gifts to DCK's or parents. So I see that a lot of you give out gifts as the children are heading out the door. And there are always those kids that take the week off from work so you don't have their children.
My question is; if you have a problem family with repeated lack of respect for you or children that are such a problem but you cant term, do you get them gifts if you know they wont be in care? Or do you maybe spend less on them then the others? This was a debate between another provider and I so I'm curious to what the majority think!
The kids do lots of fun holiday crafts and activities and we also have a charity drive but the always inevitable forgotten gift participant or absent kid makes buying gifts for the kids too stressful and difficult so I just skip it and do other things instead.
Angelsj 11:56 AM 12-13-2013
I give books to all children. One book per kid, usually given at their last day before Christmas, or there about. I do try to hit their interests, but I also love to give classics that my kids loved, but many kids don't know.
Happily_wed 09:29 AM 12-23-2013
I buy for all children in my care. I spend approximately the same amount but buy a gift based on their current likes. This year 4 year old dcg is into Batman and told me she wanted a Batman toy so that is what she got. 6 yr old loves art and crafting so she got a big Hello Kitty art set.
EchoMom 09:42 AM 12-23-2013
I also do not buy any presents for parents or kids at Christmas. We do plenty of take home crafts etc. butno gift. I do not feel like it's my job to buy the kids a toy at all. When I buy them toys they are for daycare to play with here. No way am I spending money for them to have a toy at home. I want the benefit of a new toy here.
melskids 09:43 AM 12-23-2013
I used to go all out for my kids until one 9 yr old girl handed me her present back and said "I don't want this dollar store ****".
It WASNT $ store stuff, and from then on, I stopped buying gifts for them all. It kind of ruined it for me.
They all get a free scholastic book I get with my points.
It WASNT $ store stuff, and from then on, I stopped buying gifts for them all. It kind of ruined it for me.
They all get a free scholastic book I get with my points.
daycarediva 10:00 AM 12-23-2013
This is the LAST year I will buy gifts for dcks. I will buy them a book (because some of them don't have any, or only a very few) but that's IT.
Today was our Christmas party, and I am OVER IT. I had one dcb scream and throw a MASSIVE tantrum because other dcb got a bigger car than him (same exact toy in different colors).
DCG said "I want something else."
I spent $25 per kid, x 8 kids. Next year, I'm taking myself to get dinner and have a few glasses of wine!
Today was our Christmas party, and I am OVER IT. I had one dcb scream and throw a MASSIVE tantrum because other dcb got a bigger car than him (same exact toy in different colors).
DCG said "I want something else."
I spent $25 per kid, x 8 kids. Next year, I'm taking myself to get dinner and have a few glasses of wine!
coolconfidentme 10:50 AM 12-23-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
For other reasons as well as to avoid situations like that ^^, I simply don't give gifts to DCK's or parents.
The kids do lots of fun holiday crafts and activities and we also have a charity drive but the always inevitable forgotten gift participant or absent kid makes buying gifts for the kids too stressful and difficult so I just skip it and do other things instead.
For other reasons as well as to avoid situations like that ^^, I simply don't give gifts to DCK's or parents.
The kids do lots of fun holiday crafts and activities and we also have a charity drive but the always inevitable forgotten gift participant or absent kid makes buying gifts for the kids too stressful and difficult so I just skip it and do other things instead.
SSWonders 11:14 AM 12-23-2013
This year I embroidered hand towels with each child's name on it. All the girls had the same floral designs, in their favorite colors, and the one boy I have had tools embroidered with his name. Same for everyone. Maybe not overly exciting for the kids, but hey, who doesn't like something with their name on it? I do not get gifts for parents.
lovemykidstoo 11:16 AM 12-23-2013
I keep every gift equal no matter what and I would not leave anyone out. I spend about $15 per child. This year I did the Milo and Otis animal movie for each and the smaller pillow pet in their fave animals. They all were very happy and ran up and gave me hugs and said thank you. I have never had a child that was a stinker about a gift. I do Christmas and their birthdays. We also made a craft for their parents for Christmas.
To those that don't do gifts, just curious if the parents give you a Christmas gift.
To those that don't do gifts, just curious if the parents give you a Christmas gift.
MrsSteinel'sHouse 11:19 AM 12-23-2013
They make their mama and dad an ornament (glass) we wrap it all up. I got them all a book and I make them reindeer food because they love it. Write out a little Christmas card. Some years I send home some cookies but I didn't have time this weekend.
I try to keep Christmas very low key because I feel like society doesn't. Kids are just crazy by this point so we have had a very quiet, on schedule day with an extra 30 minutes tacked on to the beginning of naptime I figure they will need it tomorrow!
When they come back Thursday, I will get to hear all of the wonderful things they got and have an extra long naptime
Oh and back to original question...I would send home the same "token gift" to everyone. Kids talk and I wouldn't want hurt feelings.
I try to keep Christmas very low key because I feel like society doesn't. Kids are just crazy by this point so we have had a very quiet, on schedule day with an extra 30 minutes tacked on to the beginning of naptime
I figure they will need it tomorrow!When they come back Thursday, I will get to hear all of the wonderful things they got and have an extra long naptime
Oh and back to original question...I would send home the same "token gift" to everyone. Kids talk and I wouldn't want hurt feelings.
Childminder 11:56 AM 12-23-2013
I have always given a book and small token gift. This year they are getting the book and a lamp for their room both of which I paid $0.00 for. Last winter we cleaned the home of a hoarder friend and I found the books and these lamps, new in package. Even the wrapping paper and cards were from there.
Every time I gift or use something from our "stash" I say "Thank You Paula".
Every time I gift or use something from our "stash" I say "Thank You Paula".
providerandmomof4 12:01 PM 12-23-2013
I make a gift for dcp. Usually a goody jar. This year i sent home a decorated jar filled with hersheys kisses. For dck, i am sending home reindeer food and a treat bag.