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daycarediva 03:20 PM 08-10-2016
Child with a bunch of allergies. Easy enough to accomodate/available substitutes so I offered to provide meals for a slightly higher daily rate, mom preferred this to packing.

It is documented with the pediatrician based on moms food logs, the child was too young to test.

Anyway, Mom let it slip that she gives child known allergens. There ARE obvious (mild-moderate) symptoms when the child is exposed to 2 of the 4 things listed.

Mom is known to give ALL things listed. She is not careful when they eat out, and I have had to point out several things that PROBABLY contain allergens (check every label, duh.)

WWYD here? I get paid enough to compensate continuing and I sub it for all children so it's easy enough. Ask for the allergy tests? Stop providing? ugh.
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happymom 03:25 PM 08-10-2016
That is frustrating.

You know for sure that she is intentionally giving her child allergens? Or did she let it slip that she mistakenly gave allergens and "this is what happened"?

How do you know how she eats out/what she orders for child?

Since you have contracted with the mom to pay a higher rate for food allergens to be avoided, you should definitely continue to do your part. It can only be beneficial to the child.
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Blackcat31 05:19 PM 08-10-2016
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
Child with a bunch of allergies. Easy enough to accomodate/available substitutes so I offered to provide meals for a slightly higher daily rate, mom preferred this to packing.

It is documented with the pediatrician based on moms food logs, the child was too young to test.

Anyway, Mom let it slip that she gives child known allergens. There ARE obvious (mild-moderate) symptoms when the child is exposed to 2 of the 4 things listed.

Mom is known to give ALL things listed. She is not careful when they eat out, and I have had to point out several things that PROBABLY contain allergens (check every label, duh.)

WWYD here? I get paid enough to compensate continuing and I sub it for all children so it's easy enough. Ask for the allergy tests? Stop providing? ugh.

I worry about your liability.
I'd document and insist mom sign off (admitting her lack of adherence to restrictions) and continue what you're doing.
Poor kid
As long as the side effects aren't serious or life threatening I doubt its something worth reporting.
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spedmommy4 05:25 PM 08-10-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I worry about your liability.
I'd document and insist mom sign off (admitting her lack of adherence to restrictions) and continue what you're doing.
Poor kid
As long as the side effects aren't serious or life threatening I doubt its something worth reporting.
This. 100% Or log meals. Been there . . .
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DaveA 06:29 PM 08-10-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I worry about your liability.
I'd document and insist mom sign off (admitting her lack of adherence to restrictions) and continue what you're doing.
Poor kid
As long as the side effects aren't serious or life threatening I doubt its something worth reporting.
This X10. Take care of your part and go from there
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rosieteddy 07:59 AM 08-11-2016
I would ask for child to be retested.Then insist on Dr. note of known allergies.If child has a serious reaction to something mom allows she could blame you.
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CalCare 09:03 AM 08-11-2016
I know I've told this story multiple times on here lol but it was so ridiculous so here I go again. I had a girl in our program where I worked and the girl was supposed to be allergic to peanuts so all year we had adjusted our snack purchases (I was the director and lead teacher so I did the planning, shopping, prepping, serving, cleaning, you name it). The snack budget was higher and took more time, but of course we did it. Then one time she ate another child's lunch item and I freaked out even though she was perfectly fine and we called the mom and mom didn't come or worry or anything.... Hm that was my first hint at suspicious allergy nonsense. But we kept on with the nut free life at school and of course nothing could come from a 'plant that processes peanuts' etc. Then at the very end of the school year, it was her birthday and mom brought a Von's cake. An actual standard grocery store bakery Von's cake. Ha. Ridiculous. In that job, a private school trying to get the littles in at 3, 4 and 5 years old to feed into the kindergarten, I would never even think to complain about that to the headmaster. If I were there now, I would probably have mom give me drs record of allergies (which obviously wouldn't exist)!

The mom from the OP sounds like she didn't actually ever test but the dr agreed there were allergies based on mom's observations. I wonder if mom is sort of blasé about it because it was never really confirmed with testing (though it seems clear to her when she sees the allergic reactions!?).. hm strange situation!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:08 AM 08-11-2016
I'd continue making meals that are safe for the child to eat.
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