mrsnj 06:45 AM 11-20-2013
Willow 08:25 AM 11-20-2013
I'd leave it up to him. Give a one word response with a single explaination and then just hit repeat:
You'll never know what dcm....
STOP. If you finish that sentence our contract will be terminated effective immediately and you will not be allowed back. I already said I'm not getting involved. You either respect that, or don't and find another provider. What *you* are doing is harming your child and I dont want any part of that. The rules go both ways and apply to everyone dropping off and picking up in my home.
(If)
But I.....
STOP.
But cant I just.....
STOP.
Well blah blah.......
Ok thanks for your notice, here are her things, goodbye and good luck. If mom asks I will be sure to let her know the reason care was terminated is because you refused to stop creating animocity and hostility in my home and around the child. (If I was angry enough I'd go so far as to throw in a snarky....perhaps dcfs would be interested in knowing that too).
Blackcat31 08:35 AM 11-20-2013
Wow! That's an awful lot of drama....
Why would you let it go on for so long?
After a parent tries to drag me into their drama OUTSIDE of daycare, I immediately let them know that I don't want to, need to or allow ANY talk that is not DIRECTLY related to the care of the enrolled child.
The rest is their business to handle.
If a parent continued to try and tell me stuff I would just tell them
"STOP! I don't want to hear any of this" and walk away.
You don't have to be part of any of that if you don't let yourself be.
mrsnj 09:41 AM 11-20-2013
I didnt. The first case happened Halloween. I cut it off n refused contact unless it was about the baby. His itch texts n message always start out with "got a min?" Then I ignore. The big child services stuff was this weekend
Laurel 10:10 AM 11-20-2013
Originally Posted by Willow:
I'd leave it up to him. Give a one word response with a single explaination and then just hit repeat:
You'll never know what dcm....
STOP. If you finish that sentence our contract will be terminated effective immediately and you will not be allowed back. I already said I'm not getting involved. You either respect that, or don't and find another provider. What *you* are doing is harming your child and I dont want any part of that. The rules go both ways and apply to everyone dropping off and picking up in my home.
(If)
But I.....
STOP.
But cant I just.....
STOP.
Well blah blah.......
Ok thanks for your notice, here are her things, goodbye and good luck. If mom asks I will be sure to let her know the reason care was terminated is because you refused to stop creating animocity and hostility in my home and around the child. (If I was angry enough I'd go so far as to throw in a snarky....perhaps dcfs would be interested in knowing that too).
BrooklynM 10:52 AM 11-20-2013
Yes, it is done! I have a wonderful relationship with my ex-husband and his wife. We have 50/50 custody for our 2 together and I watch their 2 babies during the day.
It takes a village to raise kids and it's so much easier when you have support. We have always put our kids first. It's a shame that others cannot put their feelings aside and become a great co-parent because the rewards are beyond worth it. We all spend the holidays together which is wonderful for us and the kids!
I've actually been writing a book about our experience, hopefully it will be out sometime in the fall of 2014.
itlw8 11:57 AM 11-20-2013
so if family services call you just politely tell them the truth. I have had no problems with mom. Children are well cared for. the only problem is the hostility dad is exhibiting towards mom. And trying to involve me.