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Indoorvoice 06:10 PM 06-25-2014
I watch dcb3 and his baby sister who is 9 months. He and I butt heads sometimes because he is not a fan of my rules or my food, but he is overall a good kid and his parents are friends of mine. Today he told his parents that his sister rolled off the couch and fell on her head. If this had happened, I would have obviously told the parents but it didn't happen. Dcp called and confronted me about it and asked why I didn't tell them. I told her that she hadn't fell, but I'm sure she didn't believe me. Anyone ever dealt with this? How can you defend yourself in this situation?
SilverSabre25 06:34 PM 06-25-2014
"Kids this age are learning to use their imaginations and sometimes make up stories. Keeping this in mind...my rule of thumb is that *I* will only believe 50% of what they say about home if *you* only believe 50% of what they say about here! You can always check with me if you're unsure about something and you can trust that I'll do the same with you 
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Indoorvoice 06:36 PM 06-25-2014
Originally Posted by SilverSabre25:
"Kids this age are learning to use their imaginations and sometimes make up stories. Keeping this in mind...my rule of thumb is that *I* will only believe 50% of what they say about home if *you* only believe 50% of what they say about here! You can always check with me if you're unsure about something and you can trust that I'll do the same with you "
"Kids this age are learning to use their imaginations and sometimes make up stories. Keeping this in mind...my rule of thumb is that *I* will only believe 50% of what they say about home if *you* only believe 50% of what they say about here! You can always check with me if you're unsure about something and you can trust that I'll do the same with you
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TwinKristi 07:59 PM 06-25-2014
Yeah parents often doubt that he's making things up until it happens to them! It will eventually!
But what a little nutso for saying that!!
But what a little nutso for saying that!!
cara041083 05:59 AM 06-26-2014
I don't have any advice but I'm in the same boat. I feel like I'm on egg shells and no matter what I say or do the parents are doing to listen to dcg. Most of the time it's nothing. She will lie about nap or what we ate. But there had been twice she said her baby sister hurt her self or that I let everyone play outside except for her. I plan on terming I certainly I have replacements but that's just me. Good luck. I don't know how I would handle them saying I did it on purpose.
Unregistered 06:00 AM 06-26-2014
I had a little boy who told his mom that I gave him time-out by putting him in a corner and putting a net over him.
I think he knew how to get his mom's full attention. (It wasn't easy.)
I think he knew how to get his mom's full attention. (It wasn't easy.)
Brustkt 06:05 AM 06-26-2014
I would turn the problem back on them...because it definitely is a problem.
I would let them know that you understand that kids will sometimes lie or embellish, but this is unacceptable. It could negatively effect your business and reputation as a provider and you can not allow it. Let them know that you all need to sit down and discuss with him together how lying is very, very bad and that if this happens again, you will have to term them.
I bet they will believe you then! Don't put up with it.
I would let them know that you understand that kids will sometimes lie or embellish, but this is unacceptable. It could negatively effect your business and reputation as a provider and you can not allow it. Let them know that you all need to sit down and discuss with him together how lying is very, very bad and that if this happens again, you will have to term them.
I bet they will believe you then! Don't put up with it.
hope 06:46 AM 06-26-2014
Originally Posted by Brustkt:
I would turn the problem back on them...because it definitely is a problem.
I would let them know that you understand that kids will sometimes lie or embellish, but this is unacceptable. It could negatively effect your business and reputation as a provider and you can not allow it. Let them know that you all need to sit down and discuss with him together how lying is very, very bad and that if this happens again, you will have to term them.
I bet they will believe you then! Don't put up with it.
This!!!! Make it what it is....their Problem.I would turn the problem back on them...because it definitely is a problem.
I would let them know that you understand that kids will sometimes lie or embellish, but this is unacceptable. It could negatively effect your business and reputation as a provider and you can not allow it. Let them know that you all need to sit down and discuss with him together how lying is very, very bad and that if this happens again, you will have to term them.
I bet they will believe you then! Don't put up with it.
Meeko 06:47 AM 06-26-2014
Who knows why kids lie..........My mother has never forgiven me 
for an incident in a department store when I was 3 years old.
I was being a little stinker and misbehaving....so my mother took my hand and told me that we were leaving right that second.
She expected tears or whining....what she got was me (in a waaay too loud voice) pleading "Please don't put me in the fridge!"
My mother says she can still feel the disapproving stares from other shoppers as she dragged her "sweet" curly-headed toddler out of the store. They obviously though this monstrous woman put me in the fridge when I was naughty.
I don't remember the incident and have no idea why I would say such a thing. I was never put in the fridge It must have just felt appropriate at the time!
My poor Mum!
for an incident in a department store when I was 3 years old.I was being a little stinker and misbehaving....so my mother took my hand and told me that we were leaving right that second.
She expected tears or whining....what she got was me (in a waaay too loud voice) pleading "Please don't put me in the fridge!"
My mother says she can still feel the disapproving stares from other shoppers as she dragged her "sweet" curly-headed toddler out of the store. They obviously though this monstrous woman put me in the fridge when I was naughty.
I don't remember the incident and have no idea why I would say such a thing. I was never put in the fridge
It must have just felt appropriate at the time!My poor Mum!
CedarCreek 06:52 AM 06-26-2014
Oh gosh, that's uncomfortable.
Kids lie. I'd tell her exactly what Silver suggested.
I had a kid once who told his Mom that he learned "Shut-up" from my house. When she called to ask me about it I told her we do not say that here but that he did introduce the kids to the term "butt-head" today.
Kids lie. I'd tell her exactly what Silver suggested.
I had a kid once who told his Mom that he learned "Shut-up" from my house. When she called to ask me about it I told her we do not say that here but that he did introduce the kids to the term "butt-head" today.
EntropyControlSpecialist 06:57 AM 06-26-2014
This can escalate into a very ugly thing if they don't trust that you will tell them the truth 100%! I JUST had a very serious accusation thrown at me due to mistrust that I was completely unaware of. If there was obvious mistrust they would either have to have a serious discussion with me about it or leave.
mountainside13 10:34 AM 06-26-2014
Originally Posted by Meeko:
Who knows why kids lie..........My mother has never forgiven me for an incident in a department store when I was 3 years old.
I was being a little stinker and misbehaving....so my mother took my hand and told me that we were leaving right that second.
She expected tears or whining....what she got was me (in a waaay too loud voice) pleading "Please don't put me in the fridge!"
My mother says she can still feel the disapproving stares from other shoppers as she dragged her "sweet" curly-headed toddler out of the store. They obviously though this monstrous woman put me in the fridge when I was naughty.
I don't remember the incident and have no idea why I would say such a thing. I was never put in the fridge It must have just felt appropriate at the time!
My poor Mum!
Who knows why kids lie..........My mother has never forgiven me
for an incident in a department store when I was 3 years old.I was being a little stinker and misbehaving....so my mother took my hand and told me that we were leaving right that second.
She expected tears or whining....what she got was me (in a waaay too loud voice) pleading "Please don't put me in the fridge!"
My mother says she can still feel the disapproving stares from other shoppers as she dragged her "sweet" curly-headed toddler out of the store. They obviously though this monstrous woman put me in the fridge when I was naughty.
I don't remember the incident and have no idea why I would say such a thing. I was never put in the fridge
It must have just felt appropriate at the time!My poor Mum!
One dcb (4) told his dad at pick up yesterday that I painted the walls with peanut butter and he licked it all up! We didn't even have PB that day!
Dad got a good laugh from it. Agree with Silver!