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melilley 04:39 PM 01-15-2014
I did it! I have a family who has been late on paying me in the past and I always let it go. Well come Monday, dcm drops dcb off w/o payment. Dcb left early with a family friend because last Wed. he got his tonsils and adnoids (sp? out at 1.5 years old) so I texted dcm and told her payment was due. She called back and I told her she could pay the next day. Well come Tuesday, they kept dcb home. I told dcm she could pay Wed. 
and she said she wasn't sure if dcb would be here because he wasn't 100% yet, but her dh would drop payment off. Well it's Wed. No call, no show, nothing about payment.
I texted her and asked if she was still planning on bringing payment because I haven't heard from her. I told her that I'm assessing late fees too! She hasn't called back and it's been about an hour. Why do I feel so nervous? I've kinda used my backbone before, but not like this. I HATE confrontation! My dh is a big part in this, he made me feel stronger and not take sh** this time...and you I also thought of the people on here and how I hear of you being strong and firm!
-boy I sound silly when I read this back...lol
I thought I would be nice and let her pay late, but I'm sick of this and this isn't the first time they have done this. I should have listened to advice on here and did it right from the first time! This dcm always tries to make me feel guilty and I'm not going to feel sorry for her anymore! I have also caught her in lies that she doesn't know I know, but I thought I would save her the embarrassment.
Anyways, you guys were in the back of my mind the whole time-I just thought of the things you say to your parents and remembered someone saying "this isn't personal, it's business" BC-I think it was you.
Ok I'm done. Sorry, this was a major turning point for me and for the better!
and she said she wasn't sure if dcb would be here because he wasn't 100% yet, but her dh would drop payment off. Well it's Wed. No call, no show, nothing about payment.I texted her and asked if she was still planning on bringing payment because I haven't heard from her. I told her that I'm assessing late fees too! She hasn't called back and it's been about an hour. Why do I feel so nervous? I've kinda used my backbone before, but not like this. I HATE confrontation! My dh is a big part in this, he made me feel stronger and not take sh** this time...and you I also thought of the people on here and how I hear of you being strong and firm!
-boy I sound silly when I read this back...lol
I thought I would be nice and let her pay late, but I'm sick of this and this isn't the first time they have done this. I should have listened to advice on here and did it right from the first time! This dcm always tries to make me feel guilty and I'm not going to feel sorry for her anymore! I have also caught her in lies that she doesn't know I know, but I thought I would save her the embarrassment.
Anyways, you guys were in the back of my mind the whole time-I just thought of the things you say to your parents and remembered someone saying "this isn't personal, it's business" BC-I think it was you.
Ok I'm done. Sorry, this was a major turning point for me and for the better!
butterfly 04:43 PM 01-15-2014
Mister Sir Husband 05:13 PM 01-15-2014
I'm proud of ya... I agree it can be difficult to confront parents, but as others have said on here, where else in this world can you get any kind of product or service and pay when you feel like it.
Laurel 05:28 PM 01-15-2014
Originally Posted by melilley:
I did it! I have a family who has been late on paying me in the past and I always let it go. Well come Monday, dcm drops dcb off w/o payment. Dcb left early with a family friend because last Wed. he got his tonsils and adnoids (sp? out at 1.5 years old) so I texted dcm and told her payment was due. She called back and I told her she could pay the next day. Well come Tuesday, they kept dcb home. I told dcm she could pay Wed. and she said she wasn't sure if dcb would be here because he wasn't 100% yet, but her dh would drop payment off. Well it's Wed. No call, no show, nothing about payment.
I texted her and asked if she was still planning on bringing payment because I haven't heard from her. I told her that I'm assessing late fees too! She hasn't called back and it's been about an hour. Why do I feel so nervous? I've kinda used my backbone before, but not like this. I HATE confrontation! My dh is a big part in this, he made me feel stronger and not take sh** this time...and you I also thought of the people on here and how I hear of you being strong and firm!
-boy I sound silly when I read this back...lol
I thought I would be nice and let her pay late, but I'm sick of this and this isn't the first time they have done this. I should have listened to advice on here and did it right from the first time! This dcm always tries to make me feel guilty and I'm not going to feel sorry for her anymore! I have also caught her in lies that she doesn't know I know, but I thought I would save her the embarrassment.
Anyways, you guys were in the back of my mind the whole time-I just thought of the things you say to your parents and remembered someone saying "this isn't personal, it's business" BC-I think it was you.
Ok I'm done. Sorry, this was a major turning point for me and for the better!
Whoo hoo!I did it! I have a family who has been late on paying me in the past and I always let it go. Well come Monday, dcm drops dcb off w/o payment. Dcb left early with a family friend because last Wed. he got his tonsils and adnoids (sp? out at 1.5 years old) so I texted dcm and told her payment was due. She called back and I told her she could pay the next day. Well come Tuesday, they kept dcb home. I told dcm she could pay Wed.
and she said she wasn't sure if dcb would be here because he wasn't 100% yet, but her dh would drop payment off. Well it's Wed. No call, no show, nothing about payment.I texted her and asked if she was still planning on bringing payment because I haven't heard from her. I told her that I'm assessing late fees too! She hasn't called back and it's been about an hour. Why do I feel so nervous? I've kinda used my backbone before, but not like this. I HATE confrontation! My dh is a big part in this, he made me feel stronger and not take sh** this time...and you I also thought of the people on here and how I hear of you being strong and firm!
-boy I sound silly when I read this back...lol
I thought I would be nice and let her pay late, but I'm sick of this and this isn't the first time they have done this. I should have listened to advice on here and did it right from the first time! This dcm always tries to make me feel guilty and I'm not going to feel sorry for her anymore! I have also caught her in lies that she doesn't know I know, but I thought I would save her the embarrassment.
Anyways, you guys were in the back of my mind the whole time-I just thought of the things you say to your parents and remembered someone saying "this isn't personal, it's business" BC-I think it was you.
Ok I'm done. Sorry, this was a major turning point for me and for the better!
Just last week I had two people late and I had let one slide a time or two plus I had somewhere to go. It was to dinner with friends so not an appointment but still. I was sooo upset. I charge $5 for every 15 min. late or any part thereof. One gave me $5 and the other $15. The $5 one had just started 3 days earlier. Both cheerfully paid and apologized profusely. It felt sooo good!
Laurel
daycarediva 06:05 PM 01-15-2014
Go you!
TwinKristi 06:40 PM 01-15-2014
You go girl!!! I need some backbone lessons too! I have one mom who always forgets! She pays the bills but dad picks up so it's hard to coordinate sometimes but I know I just have to remind her. Today she apologized and said she doesn't want to be "that mom" and would write 2 checks on the 1st and post date her 2nd payment now because that's so much easier for us both. Yay! She also picked up instead of her dh an hour later than usual...
And today proved to me with another mom that I have to institute some extra time fees. It was not a big deal before and maybe once every other month but now they're just drop-ins on occasion. Her normal hours are 7:30-4:15. She texts me at 6:30am that she's bringing them at 7 instead. Then she texts me at 3:50 that she needs to talk to her coworker about what she missed that day or something (which is also why she had to go in early) and she'll get them at 4:30 if that's ok. So now I worked an extra hour for free. It's my own fault but ugh... Just annoys me. Would $10 be worth it? She tends to be easily offended and take things personally and then act like she's all about business.
And today proved to me with another mom that I have to institute some extra time fees. It was not a big deal before and maybe once every other month but now they're just drop-ins on occasion. Her normal hours are 7:30-4:15. She texts me at 6:30am that she's bringing them at 7 instead. Then she texts me at 3:50 that she needs to talk to her coworker about what she missed that day or something (which is also why she had to go in early) and she'll get them at 4:30 if that's ok. So now I worked an extra hour for free. It's my own fault but ugh... Just annoys me. Would $10 be worth it? She tends to be easily offended and take things personally and then act like she's all about business.
boysx5 03:52 AM 01-16-2014
I always say none of the parents would go to work and not get paid why should we. Good for you keep up the good work
coolconfidentme 04:21 AM 01-16-2014
I was a softy & was taken advantage of too. No more for me either. Some people think because you are nice, you are also naive.