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Unregistered 07:09 AM 10-09-2014
I Have One Dcm That Comes To Breastfeed During her Lunch Break.She Has Been Doing This Since Her Child Was Enrolled at 3 Months, Now He Is 12 Months And It Is Starting to Be A Problem. The Children Have All Just Switched To One Nap A Day and Dcm Has Her Lunch Break Right In The Middle Of Nap time. When She Comes She Is Very Loud With Her Son And Lets Him Play And Bang On The Floor Which Wakes Everyone up ( Daycare Room Is In The Basement). I Have talked To Her About This But She Has A Hard Time Telling Her Son Not To Do Things So She Contunues To Let Him Do What He Wants.
it Is Extremly Disruptive To The Other Children And To My Day. I Could Tell By The Sound Of HIm Playing That She NoBreastfeeding So I Asked Her And She Said He Only Will Feed For Maybe 5 Mins Now And That He Just Wants To Play. I Was Okay WitH Her Breastfeeding But Not During Nap Time And I Have Told Her She Could come before Or After Nap Time But Not During. She Said She Is Not Sure She Can Do That. I Have A Feeling She Is Going To Show Up During Nap Time Today.
Now That I Know She Isnt Really Feeding HiM How Do I Go About Telling Her She Can Not Come And Play With Him During The Day?
Sorry About THe Capital Letters! My phone Is Acting up
it Is Extremly Disruptive To The Other Children And To My Day. I Could Tell By The Sound Of HIm Playing That She NoBreastfeeding So I Asked Her And She Said He Only Will Feed For Maybe 5 Mins Now And That He Just Wants To Play. I Was Okay WitH Her Breastfeeding But Not During Nap Time And I Have Told Her She Could come before Or After Nap Time But Not During. She Said She Is Not Sure She Can Do That. I Have A Feeling She Is Going To Show Up During Nap Time Today.
Now That I Know She Isnt Really Feeding HiM How Do I Go About Telling Her She Can Not Come And Play With Him During The Day?
Sorry About THe Capital Letters! My phone Is Acting up
CraftyMom 07:21 AM 10-09-2014
Just tell her! "I support you wanting to breastfeed, but that's all. If the child doesn't want to breastfeed at this time then this is no longer working and it is causing too much disruption to our day."
This child is being allowed to play during naptime, disrupting everyone else to make mom happy. Sounds like the child has outgrown these feedings and mom isn't willing to give it up yet. You need to put your foot down.
If mom were not there, would this child be napping? I'm sure you wouldn't allow him to play if she weren't there, he would be napping like the others.
Why does he get special time to play with mom at everyone else's expense? Mom can play with him at home.
This child is being allowed to play during naptime, disrupting everyone else to make mom happy. Sounds like the child has outgrown these feedings and mom isn't willing to give it up yet. You need to put your foot down.
If mom were not there, would this child be napping? I'm sure you wouldn't allow him to play if she weren't there, he would be napping like the others.
Why does he get special time to play with mom at everyone else's expense? Mom can play with him at home.
Blackcat31 07:43 AM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by Unregistered:
I Have One Dcm That Comes To Breastfeed During her Lunch Break.She Has Been Doing This Since Her Child Was Enrolled at 3 Months, Now He Is 12 Months And It Is Starting to Be A Problem. The Children Have All Just Switched To One Nap A Day and Dcm Has Her Lunch Break Right In The Middle Of Nap time. When She Comes She Is Very Loud With Her Son And Lets Him Play And Bang On The Floor Which Wakes Everyone up ( Daycare Room Is In The Basement). I Have talked To Her About This But She Has A Hard Time Telling Her Son Not To Do Things So She Contunues To Let Him Do What He Wants.
it Is Extremly Disruptive To The Other Children And To My Day. I Could Tell By The Sound Of HIm Playing That She NoBreastfeeding So I Asked Her And She Said He Only Will Feed For Maybe 5 Mins Now And That He Just Wants To Play. I Was Okay WitH Her Breastfeeding But Not During Nap Time And I Have Told Her She Could come before Or After Nap Time But Not During. She Said She Is Not Sure She Can Do That. I Have A Feeling She Is Going To Show Up During Nap Time Today.
Now That I Know She Isnt Really Feeding HiM How Do I Go About Telling Her She Can Not Come And Play With Him During The Day?
Sorry About THe Capital Letters! My phone Is Acting up
If she shows up AT nap time today, hand her her child and tell her she cannot have her "playtime" at your house as you said yesterday. Tell her to take him and bring him back when he is fed and ready for his nap. I Have One Dcm That Comes To Breastfeed During her Lunch Break.She Has Been Doing This Since Her Child Was Enrolled at 3 Months, Now He Is 12 Months And It Is Starting to Be A Problem. The Children Have All Just Switched To One Nap A Day and Dcm Has Her Lunch Break Right In The Middle Of Nap time. When She Comes She Is Very Loud With Her Son And Lets Him Play And Bang On The Floor Which Wakes Everyone up ( Daycare Room Is In The Basement). I Have talked To Her About This But She Has A Hard Time Telling Her Son Not To Do Things So She Contunues To Let Him Do What He Wants.
it Is Extremly Disruptive To The Other Children And To My Day. I Could Tell By The Sound Of HIm Playing That She NoBreastfeeding So I Asked Her And She Said He Only Will Feed For Maybe 5 Mins Now And That He Just Wants To Play. I Was Okay WitH Her Breastfeeding But Not During Nap Time And I Have Told Her She Could come before Or After Nap Time But Not During. She Said She Is Not Sure She Can Do That. I Have A Feeling She Is Going To Show Up During Nap Time Today.
Now That I Know She Isnt Really Feeding HiM How Do I Go About Telling Her She Can Not Come And Play With Him During The Day?
Sorry About THe Capital Letters! My phone Is Acting up
Stand your ground or this little issue is going to become a bigger issue.
In all honesty, I would start weaning her from needing to come in at all. At his age, he is going to start having trouble with her leaving him more than once per day and that will cause problems for you too.
Either way, whatever you allow or don't allow in your program is up to you but if you seriously want to stop the nap time visits, hand her child to her AT the door if she does show up and tell her she is no longer allowed to be there during nap time. It's simply too disruptive.
Controlled Chaos 08:14 AM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
If she shows up AT nap time today, hand her her child and tell her she cannot have her "playtime" at your house as you said yesterday. Tell her to take him and bring him back when he is fed and ready for his nap.
Stand your ground or this little issue is going to become a bigger issue.
In all honesty, I would start weaning her from needing to come in at all. At his age, he is going to start having trouble with her leaving him more than once per day and that will cause problems for you too.
Either way, whatever you allow or don't allow in your program is up to you but if you seriously want to stop the nap time visits, hand her child to her AT the door if she does show up and tell her she is no longer allowed to be there during nap time. It's simply too disruptive.
Having her take the child is what I was going to suggest as well. I hate to discourage a parent who actually wants to spend time with their childIf she shows up AT nap time today, hand her her child and tell her she cannot have her "playtime" at your house as you said yesterday. Tell her to take him and bring him back when he is fed and ready for his nap.
Stand your ground or this little issue is going to become a bigger issue.
In all honesty, I would start weaning her from needing to come in at all. At his age, he is going to start having trouble with her leaving him more than once per day and that will cause problems for you too.
Either way, whatever you allow or don't allow in your program is up to you but if you seriously want to stop the nap time visits, hand her child to her AT the door if she does show up and tell her she is no longer allowed to be there during nap time. It's simply too disruptive.
KiddieCahoots 09:00 AM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
If she shows up AT nap time today, hand her her child and tell her she cannot have her "playtime" at your house as you said yesterday. Tell her to take him and bring him back when he is fed and ready for his nap.
Stand your ground or this little issue is going to become a bigger issue.
In all honesty, I would start weaning her from needing to come in at all. At his age, he is going to start having trouble with her leaving him more than once per day and that will cause problems for you too.
Either way, whatever you allow or don't allow in your program is up to you but if you seriously want to stop the nap time visits, hand her child to her AT the door if she does show up and tell her she is no longer allowed to be there during nap time. It's simply too disruptive.
If she shows up AT nap time today, hand her her child and tell her she cannot have her "playtime" at your house as you said yesterday. Tell her to take him and bring him back when he is fed and ready for his nap.
Stand your ground or this little issue is going to become a bigger issue.
In all honesty, I would start weaning her from needing to come in at all. At his age, he is going to start having trouble with her leaving him more than once per day and that will cause problems for you too.
Either way, whatever you allow or don't allow in your program is up to you but if you seriously want to stop the nap time visits, hand her child to her AT the door if she does show up and tell her she is no longer allowed to be there during nap time. It's simply too disruptive.
.......And depending on where you are located, winter is coming! Her having to take him elsewhere during that cold time, might do the trick alone.
deliberateliterate 09:55 AM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by Controlled Chaos:
Having her take the child is what I was going to suggest as well.
If you don't want to say ho visiting at all, this is a great alternative. You don't have to go home, but you can't stay here Having her take the child is what I was going to suggest as well.
rosieteddy 11:20 AM 10-09-2014
I would tell her no more.One year old ,one nap not playtime on your time.He should be transitioning to a cup and regular food at your house.I would also put it in your contract for future clients.I do not allow this.I have two nursing moms and I bottle feed for the day.One drop off one pickup per day.I tellparents it is way to disruptive to the group.
EntropyControlSpecialist 11:47 AM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by rosieteddy:
I would tell her no more.One year old ,one nap not playtime on your time.He should be transitioning to a cup and regular food at your house.I would also put it in your contract for future clients.I do not allow this.I have two nursing moms and I bottle feed for the day.One drop off one pickup per day.I tellparents it is way to disruptive to the group.
I would tell her no more.One year old ,one nap not playtime on your time.He should be transitioning to a cup and regular food at your house.I would also put it in your contract for future clients.I do not allow this.I have two nursing moms and I bottle feed for the day.One drop off one pickup per day.I tellparents it is way to disruptive to the group.
I am classified as a "crunchy" mom and do extended breastfeeding (past 12 months) with my own child and completely support that in others...BUT, in a daycare setting I wouldn't do more than ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day. That is way too hard on you, the child, and possibly others (if they are woken up/distracted from the activity they should be participating in).
AmyKidsCo 12:45 PM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
I am classified as a "crunchy" mom and do extended breastfeeding (past 12 months) with my own child and completely support that in others...BUT, in a daycare setting I wouldn't do more than ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day. That is way too hard on you, the child, and possibly others (if they are woken up/distracted from the activity they should be participating in).
I'm a crunchy mom too and did extended bf-ing with my children, but disrupting the other children's naps isn't OK. Since he's only feeding 5 min I'd think he could give up the noontime feeding. Maybe it's mom who isn't ready for him to give it up - I wasn't ready when my boys self-weaned.I am classified as a "crunchy" mom and do extended breastfeeding (past 12 months) with my own child and completely support that in others...BUT, in a daycare setting I wouldn't do more than ONE drop off and ONE pick up per day. That is way too hard on you, the child, and possibly others (if they are woken up/distracted from the activity they should be participating in).
KSDC 01:01 PM 10-09-2014
Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo:
I'm a crunchy mom too and did extended bf-ing with my children, but disrupting the other children's naps isn't OK.
I'm a crunchy mom too and did extended bf-ing with my children, but disrupting the other children's naps isn't OK.
Another vote for drawing a close to this stage. I also did extended BFing. But, this is group care. If one child is disrupting care for the rest of the group, then something needs to change.
TwinKristi 01:43 PM 10-09-2014
Yeah sounds like mom has just gotten spoiled with her mid-day play session. Now that baby is 12mos I would tell her it time to change things up and end this fun mid-day play session. He's not a baby who "needs" to breastfeed at lunch so this plan isn't necessary anymore. Imagine if every parent did this. It would be a circus!!
renodeb 02:07 PM 10-09-2014
I have a good friend who does child care and she has a client who has been coming over at her lunch break for almost a year first it was to breast feed an now that its been nearly a year she goes over to feed her, her lunch. I honestly think it's a little strange to keep doing that but she doesn't have the nerve to tell her that she can no longer do that. The very first time that it disrupted nap time I would of been annoyed. I would put a stop to it now. Naptime is break time for the kids and us! Let us know what happens!