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notfeelinit 10:17 AM 07-11-2014
Today is the last day for two children I don't really care for. As I think back to all the groups, I've had I can never say I've had a group where I liked all the kids. Is that normal?
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daycarediva 10:25 AM 07-11-2014
I LIKE all of my kids. I have various levels of 'like', some are just pretty cool kids and others I just adore. Because I truly want these children to flourish in my care, I don't keep a child I just dislike or can't bond with.

It's OK to not LIKE every child though, as long as the child never knows and you can be fair/equal and hide it well.
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coolconfidentme 10:40 AM 07-11-2014
Right now I don't like my g'son..., but I love him more than he will ever know. He is staying with us for the summer. He is 8 going on 2. He constantly tries to bend the rules & he goes to TO like everyone else. All the little ones are mirroring his behavior..., UGH!!!
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midaycare 10:43 AM 07-11-2014
I like all of them but I like some better than others. Some I have a really cool bond with. They just match my personality, so that makes it easier. Others maybe aren't my favorite, but I still enjoy being around them.
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hope 10:44 AM 07-11-2014
I really care for most of my kids. I love their quirks, miss them when they take a break and want the very best for them in life. I have had a few that are hard to like but I didn't dislike them, I did dislike their parents for the child's outcome.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 10:55 AM 07-11-2014
Nope, I sure don't.
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cheerfuldom 10:58 AM 07-11-2014
I like all the kids in that I care for all of them and I care about all of them. I have three right now that are well behaved and funny and cute and then the fourth, not so much.....it's not like I dont like him. I just don't completely click with this personality and find him to be much whinier and less independent. It is hard to enjoy a child that is so demanding and unhappy. We are working thru it.
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melilley 10:58 AM 07-11-2014
Most, but not all.
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AmyKidsCo 11:06 AM 07-11-2014
I've always liked all of the children, but some I like more than others. I think it's just human nature - we like some adults more than others.
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hope 11:07 AM 07-11-2014
Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo:
I've always liked all of the children, but some I like more than others. I think it's just human nature - we like some adults more than others.
Haha! Hands down, I like all of my kids over most adults!
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Heidi 11:32 AM 07-11-2014
Currently, absolutely.

Had a kiddo a couple years ago who I really didn't like. He was almost 5 when I termed (after a year). Honestly, I don't use the term "spoiled brat" loosely, and I certainly never let him or his parents know how I felt, but yeah...

I did term over behavior, I just never let them know how I felt about him, and that the idea of spending an entire summer with him here every day made me want to go just off a bridge. I just said that "this might not be the best fit for all of us". There were 4 kids, he was the oldest, and I was tired of getting smacked, kicked, things thrown, and watching the constant, constant, constant meltdowns over every little crappola.

His sibs, I honestly liked, although I wasn't a fan of the behavior. Him, nope!
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Jack Sprat 12:05 PM 07-11-2014
I like some more then others as well. I have a six yr old who pushes my limits with her attitude everyday. I like her but, not as much as everyone else.
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SignMeUp 01:02 PM 07-11-2014
A strange thing happens to me sometimes. When I have a child who I don't naturally "like", it's usually because of some set of behaviors. By the time we have worked on those behaviors for a while, I like them
It's not just about the behaviors improving. It's something about working together
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Meeko 01:03 PM 07-11-2014
Some I have adored.

I had one at 6 weeks old. Her parents lived across the street from us. They became and 25 plus years later...still are, good friends. We left the area when my husband left the Air Force. I honestly felt like I was leaving one of my own kids behind. I thought my heart would break in two. She was three when we left.

The baby is grown now with a husband and baby of her own. I still adore her and we keep in touch.

On the other hand...I had one girl for almost 7 years. She was Angelica from Rugrats in real life and I had to fake feeling sad when she left us. Even after 7 years, I just couldn't wait for her last day.
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Blackcat31 01:06 PM 07-11-2014
Some I have thoroughly enjoyed and others I simply tolerated but ALL of them were treated fairly.

Most the time, it's the ones who are hardest to love/like that need it the most.
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SilverSabre25 01:10 PM 07-11-2014
Right now, of my 3 dcks, I can't take my eyes off of any of them. They are exhausting, truly.

One I love, one I enjoy, one I have to remind myself throughout the day to love and enjoy...
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spud912 01:33 PM 07-11-2014
I have found that it takes time to really love a child. It doesn't happen overnight for me....they have to "grow" on me. For example, my favorite dck's family has been with me for several years. I watched her older brother and I watched her since she was a newborn. My second favorite dck has been with me almost as long. My newest dck is my least favorite. I'm sure once he grows out of some of his bad behaviors, he will be more "likeable."
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Meeko 03:33 PM 07-11-2014
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Some I have thoroughly enjoyed and others I simply tolerated but ALL of them were treated fairly.

Most the time, it's the ones who are hardest to love/like that need it the most.
Exactly. My little "Angelica" had no idea I was happy to see her go! And she received just as many hugs etc as her playmates did.
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Play Care 03:50 PM 07-11-2014
I do. Some are more challenging than others but I do like all of them.

I find when kids outgrow my care, I tend to start not liking when they come. Usually that resolves itself with the "they are getting too old for my program" talk

If I truly didn't like/couldn't bond with a child I think I would need to term, some can "fake it until they make it" but I don't think I'm good at that
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Butter Biskets 06:54 PM 07-11-2014
I have one that I absolutely love, love, love. Most I liked and there a few that I could surely do without. One of the ones I just termed for example, was a nightmare and everyday, I could literally feel by blood boiling. I would pace by the window waiting for dad to pick up and watch the clock incessantly. He was by far one of the worst, but I have one for the summer who drives me insane as well, just not as much - but I am counting down to the end of summer when she is gone too.
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CraftyMom 08:22 PM 07-11-2014
No, I do not like all the kids I have had. Currently I adore all my dcks. But in the past I have had some that I just didn't click with and some that I flat out didn't like. Can't help it, we are not going to like EVERY child that walks in our door!

None of them knew they weren't liked and were treated the same regardless.

Now parents...I think I have had more that I disliked than ones I actually liked
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MotherNature 04:39 AM 07-12-2014
I have extremely small ratios- one or two at a time, so I've only had a handful of clients, but no, I haven't liked all my kids. Some started off great and then became obnoxious as they got older b/c the parents allowed them to do whatever they want, one was violent and needed way more than I could give and mom was a mess who took advantage of me, and one I did like, but had severe reflex and threw up constantly. I had to steam clean constantly and all my shirts now have stains on them from her. The others have been great though.
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Naptime yet? 06:14 AM 07-12-2014
It depends on the day. I like them all, but some days I like them more than others
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NightOwl 10:58 AM 07-12-2014
No, I don't. My nephew. I don't like him at all because of some serious behavior issues, but I love him anyway. There's a big difference. 22 days until kindergarten!!
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TwinKristi 03:14 PM 07-12-2014
Originally Posted by Naptime yet?:
It depends on the day. I like them all, but some days I like them more than others
This... Some days I love em to pieces and they make my job so much fun but other days I'm like really... You can't pay me enough to do this... LOL
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jokalima 04:35 PM 07-12-2014
Right now yes! I mean, they all have their own little things that drive me crazy sometimes, but I LOVE all of them. The bad part is that when a new one comes in, it is kind of difficult for me to adjust to them and feel the same way towards them. This little group I have right now has been with me since I opened, I had others in the way but this ones have always been with me for 3 and a half years now. Now... I can't wait for the summer to be over and for them to go back to school, I need some peace and quiet.
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