What Do You Feel Parents Need To Know About Their Child's Day?

[daycare]

Sorry for all the report questions. I am trying to figure out a few things here and would like to know, what do you report to parents at the end of the day.

What do you feel parents need to know?? Other than getting hurt of course.....

[crazydaycarelady]

Well, it depends on the age and really on the particular parents also. I have some that want every detail from food, pottying, naps, to the child's disposition that day. Others really don't want to hear anything other than that the child had a good day.

At Funshine Express you can order little sheets called Toddler Times and they have another one for babies that are easy to fill out about the day. I give these to some of the needier parents.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady

Well, it depends on the age and really on the particular parents also. I have some that want every detail from food, pottying, naps, to the child's disposition that day. Others really don't want to hear anything other than that the child had a good day.

At Funshine Express you can order little sheets called Toddler Times and they have another one for babies that are easy to fill out about the day. I give these to some of the needier parents.

so lets say that the parents that don't want to HEAR anything, their child is having bad behavior that day hitting other kids or just being down right defiant. DO you tell the parents still knowing they don't want to hear it??

[crazydaycarelady]

Yes, if something out of line happens I do tell them. I have a just turned 4yo who is being a real stinker and I have to report to his parents almost everyday! I have a friend though that reports every. little. thing. to her dcparents and from what she tells me it sounds like they get really tired of it, especially when it is normal behavior for the age of the child.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady

Yes, if something out of line happens I do tell them. I have a just turned 4yo who is being a real stinker and I have to report to his parents almost everyday! I have a friend though that reports every. little. thing. to her dcparents and from what she tells me it sounds like they get really tired of it, especially when it is normal behavior for the age of the child.

I don't report for every little thing, but to me hitting and being defiant warrants a talk with the parents. But when it becomes a daily thing, do you just stop telling the parents? I have a child that all of a sudden has turned pretty mean. I don't have a lot of girls in my program and she has gone from sweet to sour. I know that parents will say its because she is so out numbered.....

[crazydaycarelady]

Yes, for hitting or defiance I tell the parents and I also tell them whenever their child has done something out of character. But say their 18mo child takes a toy away from another child, not gonna mention it because that is age appropriate and I can deal with it here. I guess I just try and not worry the parents needlessly.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady

Yes, for hitting or defiance I tell the parents and I also tell them whenever their child has done something out of character. But say their 18mo child takes a toy away from another child, not gonna mention it because that is age appropriate and I can deal with it here. I guess I just try and not worry the parents needlessly.

see this is what I am doing and when I do it, I have 3 families that are highly upset. I hate to say it, but their children are not very well behaved EVER.... I can deal with them, I am not bothered so much by the children, I just want to sink in a boat at the thought of haivng to tell the parents. Because I know I am going to get an ear ful..............

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I tell them how much their child ate (all, most, or none), how much their child had to drink (all, most, or none), what time they fell asleep and how long they slept for, their disposition, and any additional information I feel they need to know.

Today, I let a parent know on their child's report e-mailed home that their child is "working very hard on not telling stories to get other children into trouble" because that parent has been concerned about why her child has been telling her that none of the children want to play with him/don't want to be his friend. I felt that it was a necessary piece of information.

If they are injured and a mark occurs, I send home an accident report that the state has provided. I am not required to send home anything unless it requires me to report it to the state (serious injuries) but I do minor ones to cover my bottom and simply file it away instead of submitting it to the state AND filing it away.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Originally Posted by daycare

so lets say that the parents that don't want to HEAR anything, their child is having bad behavior that day hitting other kids or just being down right defiant. DO you tell the parents still knowing they don't want to hear it??

I'll add to their report, "DCB had a really hard time keeping their hands to themselves and listening today." I have a child who does this almost every single day (although, it isn't VIOLENT behavior it is HANDSY behavior) and I don't bother. Otherwise, it'd be all the time. When it gets too wild though I DO same something and I recently required that the parent have a discussion with their child as well. I had to recently and that child told me, "Dad said if I hit another child then I will be kicked out of Preschool so I'm not going to do that anymore!"

[daycare]

Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist

I'll add to their report, "DCB had a really hard time keeping their hands to themselves and listening today." I have a child who does this almost every single day (although, it isn't VIOLENT behavior it is HANDSY behavior) and I don't bother. Otherwise, it'd be all the time. When it gets too wild though I DO same something. I had to recently and that child told me, "Dad said if I hit another child then I will be kicked out of Preschool so I'm not going to do that anymore!"

can I ask what kind of report you use???

[JLH]

I'm glad for this post because I'm going through the same thing. I have 11 kids all between 2 and 4 years old. Several of them are going through a hitting phase. I'm at a real loss over whether or not to report things to parents also. I don't want to lose customers over it, but at the same time, as a parent I would want to know. This is why I was asking about behavior reports on here today. Part of it is because I would like to let go of 2 sisters that cause me so much grief every single day. They scream and cry VERY LOUDLY every time they are in trouble and it disrupts my whole house of 12 kids and looks terrible to parents coming and going. Seems like every day it's either one or the other of those 2 that are overtired (single dad tells me they are up till midnight or later because he can't get them to sleep). So I was thinking about doing behavior reports on them when they have a bad day to leave a paper trail leading up to terminating them. As for the other kids, I'm at a loss over whether or not to start reporting behavior problems to parents. It would be easy to report problems if the kids were older but I have such a young group that I'm not sure how it would be perceived by parents.

[crazydaycarelady]

I use these:

https://www.daycare.com/forum/newrep...ote=1&p=362415

There are baby, toddler, and preschool notes.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Originally Posted by daycare

can I ask what kind of report you use???

I copy and paste a form I made into an e-mail to each parent daily. I used to do paper copies and it got to be expensive using that much paper! It serves as a GREAT record for when I remind a parent to bring something/pay a fee and they claim I never told them. I forward them the exact e-mail that I did use. When I add an important reminder I will make the title of the e-mail "__Date__ + important reminder!" so that they are aware that there IS something in there that they MUST read.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by JLH

I'm glad for this post because I'm going through the same thing. I have 11 kids all between 2 and 4 years old. Several of them are going through a hitting phase. I'm at a real loss over whether or not to report things to parents also. I don't want to lose customers over it, but at the same time, as a parent I would want to know. This is why I was asking about behavior reports on here today. Part of it is because I would like to let go of 2 sisters that cause me so much grief every single day. They scream and cry VERY LOUDLY every time they are in trouble and it disrupts my whole house of 12 kids and looks terrible to parents coming and going. Seems like every day it's either one or the other of those 2 that are overtired (single dad tells me they are up till midnight or later because he can't get them to sleep). So I was thinking about doing behavior reports on them when they have a bad day to leave a paper trail leading up to terminating them. As for the other kids, I'm at a loss over whether or not to start reporting behavior problems to parents. It would be easy to report problems if the kids were older but I have such a young group that I'm not sure how it would be perceived by parents.

I feel for you. I do send home emails, never talk in front of the kids. I like that I have a paper trail this way. I just print it out and put it in their file.

I just can't stand the backlash that comes with it from some of the parents. It's like I am supposed to fix their kid or I am not doing something right here. UGH...today has been a really long day...Im tired...lol

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Originally Posted by JLH

I'm glad for this post because I'm going through the same thing. I have 11 kids all between 2 and 4 years old. Several of them are going through a hitting phase. I'm at a real loss over whether or not to report things to parents also. I don't want to lose customers over it, but at the same time, as a parent I would want to know. This is why I was asking about behavior reports on here today. Part of it is because I would like to let go of 2 sisters that cause me so much grief every single day. They scream and cry VERY LOUDLY every time they are in trouble and it disrupts my whole house of 12 kids and looks terrible to parents coming and going. Seems like every day it's either one or the other of those 2 that are overtired (single dad tells me they are up till midnight or later because he can't get them to sleep). So I was thinking about doing behavior reports on them when they have a bad day to leave a paper trail leading up to terminating them. As for the other kids, I'm at a loss over whether or not to start reporting behavior problems to parents. It would be easy to report problems if the kids were older but I have such a young group that I'm not sure how it would be perceived by parents.

Two of the "moods" that I check off on the reports of children like that is [X] Grumpy and [X] Sleepy. It makes it less about "bad behavior" and more factual. Plus, he likely will skim over it but it will serve as a great paper trail for YOU if you e-mail the report home daily.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Originally Posted by daycare

I feel for you. I do send home emails, never talk in front of the kids. I like that I have a paper trail this way. I just print it out and put it in their file.

I just can't stand the backlash that comes with it from some of the parents. It's like I am supposed to fix their kid or I am not doing something right here. UGH...today has been a really long day...Im tired...lol

The exact wording in my Behavior Plan of Action states, "We hope that working together as a team will not only eliminate this behavior but also prevent it from happening in the future. We recognize that it is primarily the parent’s responsibility in instilling the proper values into their children. __My daycare_ serves as a support system for the parents and wishes to support you in your efforts. __My daycare__ is limited in its disciplining efforts; therefore the responsibility to discipline and guide the children rests primarily on the parents.
We look forward to working with your family in developing a well-mannered, well-adjusted child!"

If I had a parent aggressively stating that it was my problem (I have!), I would have no problem telling them that I will ASSIST them in the development of a well-rounded child but it is THEIR responsibility to instill the proper values into their child. I would say it all with a smile, too. It really freaks out the parents when I'm assertive because I'm such a loud/bubbly person to them normally. They never expect it.

[daycare]

Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist

The exact wording in my Behavior Plan of Action states, "We hope that working together as a team will not only eliminate this behavior but also prevent it from happening in the future. We recognize that it is primarily the parent’s responsibility in instilling the proper values into their children. __My daycare_ serves as a support system for the parents and wishes to support you in your efforts. __My daycare__ is limited in its disciplining efforts; therefore the responsibility to discipline and guide the children rests primarily on the parents.
We look forward to working with your family in developing a well-mannered, well-adjusted child!"

If I had a parent aggressively stating that it was my problem (I have!), I would have no problem telling them that I will ASSIST them in the development of a well-rounded child but it is THEIR responsibility to instill the proper values into their child. I would say it all with a smile, too. It really freaks out the parents when I'm assertive because I'm such a loud/bubbly person to them normally. They never expect it.

I was up for an award last year for childcare and the MC said about me. YOu would never know that this person had any other emotions than happy.

I am a very happy bubbly person, I can fake it really good.....lol

I can't be assertive is my issue. I want to belive that I can be, but in person I back down. In emails I am assertive and I know it throws that parents off guard.

I often hear from new families or even old ones, wow you are nothing like your PHB. It is written so stern and you are so soft...........ugh

[daycare]

Originally Posted by daycare

I was up for an award last year for childcare and the MC said about me. YOu would never know that this person had any other emotions than happy.

I am a very happy bubbly person, I can fake it really good.....lol

I can't be assertive is my issue. I want to belive that I can be, but in person I back down. In emails I am assertive and I know it throws that parents off guard.

I often hear from new families or even old ones, wow you are nothing like your PHB. It is written so stern and you are so soft...........ugh

I like the wording that you have chosen to use. I think that I need to adapt to something like this.

[crazydaycarelady]

I am a very happy bubbly person, I can fake it really good.....lol

Me too! I feel like half my job is acting! Faking enthusiasm, faking being energetic, faking being so happy to start my day! It is unacceptable in this job to be anything less than SO HAPPY.........but it seems to be okay in other jobs to admit you'd rather be anywhere else.

[Happy Hearts]

Originally Posted by crazydaycarelady

I use these:

https://www.daycare.com/forum/newrep...ote=1&p=362415

There are baby, toddler, and preschool notes.

this link doesn't work.... can you repost please?

[LK5kids]

For my kids one and up I sent home a note 3x per week on a half sheet of paper that I created.

I have things I circle like I was happy, quiet, sleepy or I played in the : art center, housekeeping area, puzzles, etc. I also have: I ate a little or all my lunch. I fill in our stories and special activities also. I circle if they napped or not and write how long they nap.

It's just a little extra thing I have always done.

I also send a different infant sheet home each day.

I do not report negative or challenging behaviors unless it is extreme or there is a safety issue.

[daycare]

ONe of the other issues that I have is that most of my kids can talk. Many of them will tell on themselves. They will tell their parent somthing like. I had to sit in time out today because I ________.

THen I get a phone call and the parent wants conformation of it. Sometimes they are upset that I did not tell them. BUT when I do tell them they glare at me....lol I fell like I am often in a no win situation

[originalkat]

Originally Posted by daycare

ONe of the other issues that I have is that most of my kids can talk. Many of them will tell on themselves. They will tell their parent somthing like. I had to sit in time out today because I ________.

THen I get a phone call and the parent wants conformation of it. Sometimes they are upset that I did not tell them. BUT when I do tell them they glare at me....lol I fell like I am often in a no win situation

I do not tell parents about little behavior issues that may land their child in time out. If a child tells on themselves and the parent calls me (which has RARELY happened) I tell them that these types of behaviors are typical in early childhood and I handle the situation as it occurs. I let them know that if their child's actions become a problem I discuss it with them but I do not make a habit of listing all the things their child did good or bad during the day.

If they are the type of parent who NEEDS that then they will be better off with a different provider.

[renodeb]

I use tadpole. (I think thats what its called) theres a mobile app and desk top version. It emails a copy of the daily to the parent. Its helps you track attendance and everything. Its very cost effective also.

[spud912]

Originally Posted by originalkat

I do not tell parents about little behavior issues that may land their child in time out. If a child tells on themselves and the parent calls me (which has RARELY happened) I tell them that these types of behaviors are typical in early childhood and I handle the situation as it occurs. I let them know that if their child's actions become a problem I discuss it with them but I do not make a habit of listing all the things their child did good or bad during the day.

If they are the type of parent who NEEDS that then they will be better off with a different provider.

I like that!