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Boymom 05:54 AM 10-28-2016
Alright, I posted yesterday about how I made the mistake of letting a dcb start wearing underwear. He started off ok, but now he's having accidents, so I told dcm yesterday that he would have to go back in pull-ups until he's ACTUALLY READY. Dcm acted pissed and basically blamed ME for it.

Guess who's in underwear today??? I'm PISSED.

She has pushed pretty much every policy I've ever had, so why should this surprise me???

And she didn't "forget" because she was visibly upset about it at pickup yesterday.

Would y'all type up a term letter for something like this?
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daycarediva 05:57 AM 10-28-2016
I would be LIVID.

I would call her and tell her to bring the required supplies or pick up dcb. Then I would check him daily to make sure he was in pull ups, and I would send him home to get ready for the day if he wasn't. No different than how I handle kids who come without shoes/coats/etc

Did you give her a copy of your potty training policy?

If she kept pushing it, I would term them. No way I can handle that level of disrespect.
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Cat Herder 05:59 AM 10-28-2016
No.

I would have turned her away at the door.

If she dropped and did not tell you he was in cloth, I'd call and term effective immediately.

I'd refund any future dated payment from today.
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Boymom 06:16 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
I would be LIVID.

I would call her and tell her to bring the required supplies or pick up dcb. Then I would check him daily to make sure he was in pull ups, and I would send him home to get ready for the day if he wasn't. No different than how I handle kids who come without shoes/coats/etc

Did you give her a copy of your potty training policy?

If she kept pushing it, I would term them. No way I can handle that level of disrespect.
My potty training policy is kinda vague and I will absolutely be updating it since this happened lol! But I want to send my son to her house to pee all over her floor and see how she likes it

This mom has showed up 15-30 minutes early many Friday's at pickup without money. Like, she could have gone to the bank in that time....I charged her late fees, but she didn't care and kept doing it. (I am going to make my late fees higher)

She has tried to show up early. (I left her standing at the door hehehe)

She has picked up late on several occasions.

SHE is the reason that my backbone is strengthening. I'm so done I could scream. I love the dcb though :-(

I really think that she believes she's MY boss.
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Boymom 06:20 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
No.

I would have turned her away at the door.

If she dropped and did not tell you he was in cloth, I'd call and term effective immediately.

I'd refund any future dated payment from today.
I should have checked, but she always brings her kid by carrying him (he's 3) and she holds him like a baby on the couch for 20 minutes. She was extra friendly with me today, so I should have known!

I need to look at my contract, but I think I only have a two week notice, I don't have anything that says I can term immediately :-(. Something else I need to change!!
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DaveA 06:27 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
My potty training policy is kinda vague and I will absolutely be updating it since this happened lol! But I want to send my son to her house to pee all over her floor and see how she likes it

This mom has showed up 15-30 minutes early many Friday's at pickup without money. Like, she could have gone to the bank in that time....I charged her late fees, but she didn't care and kept doing it. (I am going to make my late fees higher)

She has tried to show up early. (I left her standing at the door hehehe)

She has picked up late on several occasions.

SHE is the reason that my backbone is strengthening. I'm so done I could scream. I love the dcb though :-(

I really think that she believes she's MY boss.
Beyond time for a "Come to Jesus" meeting with DCM. Something along the lines of "I like having you as a client of MY business, but these are my policies. If there are any you are unclear about I will explain them to you. These and any additional policy updates will be followed. If that is a problem for you I will terminate care for DCB due to parental disrespect and refusal to follow my business's policies."
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childcaremom 06:27 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
My potty training policy is kinda vague and I will absolutely be updating it since this happened lol! But I want to send my son to her house to pee all over her floor and see how she likes it

This mom has showed up 15-30 minutes early many Friday's at pickup without money. Like, she could have gone to the bank in that time....I charged her late fees, but she didn't care and kept doing it. (I am going to make my late fees higher)

She has tried to show up early. (I left her standing at the door hehehe)

She has picked up late on several occasions.

SHE is the reason that my backbone is strengthening. I'm so done I could scream. I love the dcb though :-(

I really think that she believes she's MY boss.
I'm basing my response on the bolded.

You can fix this but it will take a lot of work and effort to reprogram mom. Not something I am willing to do but if you are, you need to stop and correct every little thing. Immediate consequences. Checking at the door. Not letting in if he isn't prepared for the day. Late fees each and every time. No pay no stay.

Or you can just be done. If it isn't in your contract to term immediately, I would give notice right now. And enforce every single thing until they are done. If that means turning away at the door, fine.

Ftr, I'd be done. Parents like this drive me nuts.
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daycare 06:30 AM 10-28-2016
We CAn all thank the parent that pushed us daily breaking our policies, giving us headache and driving us crazy. This is how we build and strength out back bone.

Do you have any diapers? I would text mom and say

Dcb didn't come in a pull up, so I had to put a diaper on him. Please be sure to bring pull ups today at pick up. Also please don't forget the $2.00 diaper charge fee. I'll let you know how many he uses by the end of the day so you can pay me the total tonight when you pick up. I know the diaper fee will be much cheaper than a carpet cleaning bill would be! Thanks so much. TGIF!
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Ariana 06:30 AM 10-28-2016
Parents just do not understand that once a child is ready to use the toilet pullups will not matter. So many parents think their kids cannot train in pullups and it is not true.

I have a friend who basically blamed her daycare for why her child was not potty trained at 12 months old she continually tells the story about how it was going so well at home (the mom was trained to put him on the toilet every 15min to 1/2 hour in other words) and how the daycare wouldn't do that and wouldn't put a potty out on the floor for him to use no amount of explaining will help these morons!
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Blackcat31 07:06 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by DaveA:
Beyond time for a "Come to Jesus" meeting with DCM. Something along the lines of "I like having you as a client of MY business, but these are my policies. If there are any you are unclear about I will explain them to you. These and any additional policy updates will be followed. If that is a problem for you I will terminate care for DCB due to parental disrespect and refusal to follow my business's policies."
You don't have to have a written policy in order to terminate immediately. It's your house.

I would absolutely say what Dave said above....I'd also let her know that ANY carpet cleaning expenses WILL be attached to her next invoice.
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Boymom 07:07 AM 10-28-2016
Thank you all. I decided I am going to term because I can no longer deal with this woman's disrespect.

For the term letter, I think I'm kinda stuck with them for 2 weeks. Can y'all please help me with the wording?

This is what my contract says:

Child care may be terminated by the provider or the parents for any reason by providing the other party with two weeks advance written notice. The two weeks must be paid in full either at the time the notice is given or at the start of the final two weeks, regardless of whether or not your child is in attendance. The provider can terminate the contract immediately without giving any notice if parents do not make payments when they are due.
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JackandJill 07:19 AM 10-28-2016
I would give two weeks, and reminder her payment is due in full. If she doesn't have it in FULL on Monday, then term immediately. And if she decide to pay and stick out the two weeks, have her sign a two week agreement that child must come fully dressed with all diapering supplies. If he is unprepared for the day, or any more rules are broken (including late pick up) you will immediately term.

Hopefully, with all this she wont show up Monday!
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JackandJill 07:20 AM 10-28-2016
And I would have him in a diaper today, eve if I had to "borrow" it from another kid!
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midaycare 08:01 AM 10-28-2016
I keep extra diapers on hand. Actually, people give them to me when they size up. That child would be in diapers and I would charge an extra fee for inconvenience.

Any dcf that got ticked with me to my face I would probably term. I don't have time for that. Treat me with respect or don't come. You're replaceable.
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Boymom 08:19 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by JackandJill:
I would give two weeks, and reminder her payment is due in full. If she doesn't have it in FULL on Monday, then term immediately. And if she decide to pay and stick out the two weeks, have her sign a two week agreement that child must come fully dressed with all diapering supplies. If he is unprepared for the day, or any more rules are broken (including late pick up) you will immediately term.

Hopefully, with all this she wont show up Monday!
Perfect, thank you!
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Boymom 08:21 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I keep extra diapers on hand. Actually, people give them to me when they size up. That child would be in diapers and I would charge an extra fee for inconvenience.

Any dcf that got ticked with me to my face I would probably term. I don't have time for that. Treat me with respect or don't come. You're replaceable.
Exactly! She's my age and I can't believe how immature and irresponsible she is. Plus, she was a friend, more of an acquaintance, prior to her son coming to my dc, so I think I've learned that I just can't watch anyone's kids that I know. It's just too hard for me.
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Boymom 08:27 AM 10-28-2016
Is this OK?

I am terminating our contract and the last day of care will be Friday, November 11, 2016. As per my contract, the full payment of ____ for the remaining two weeks MUST be paid in full no later than 8:00am on Monday, October 31, 2016, whether your child is in attendance for the remaining two weeks or not. If any policies in my contract are not followed within the remaining two weeks, this will result in immediate termination with no refunds given. Also, 5 pull-ups per day must be provided.
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midaycare 08:31 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
Is this OK?

I am terminating our contract and the last day of care will be Friday, November 11, 2016. As per my contract, the full payment of ____ for the remaining two weeks MUST be paid in full no later than 8:00am on Monday, October 31, 2016, whether your child is in attendance for the remaining two weeks or not. If any policies in my contract are not followed within the remaining two weeks, this will result in immediate termination with no refunds given. Also, 5 pull-ups per day must be provided.

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JackandJill 08:31 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
Is this OK?

I am terminating our contract and the last day of care will be Friday, November 11, 2016. As per my contract, the full payment of ____ for the remaining two weeks MUST be paid in full no later than 8:00am on Monday, October 31, 2016, whether your child is in attendance for the remaining two weeks or not. If any policies in my contract are not followed within the remaining two weeks, this will result in immediate termination with no refunds given. Also, 5 pull-ups per day must be provided.
Good luck!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 08:46 AM 10-28-2016
This woman has been a thorn in your side. I'm glad you'll be letting them go and replacing them with a MUCH better family (praying for that for you!).

I would absolutely not keep him in undies. He would be in diapers.
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daycarediva 08:57 AM 10-28-2016
I would rephrase the pullups part to include:

"Dcb must be in pullups daily, with a minimum of 5 pullups provided at drop off. Sending dcb in underwear or not proving pull ups will be grounds for immediate termination of child care services."

Also-

Additional fees for early drop off and late arrival will increase total fees owed.
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Leigh 09:01 AM 10-28-2016
I'd call DCM RIGHT NOW.

"DCM, I need to you come pick up your child. He's wearing underwear, and you didn't leave diapers/pull ups for him. I can not and will not have him peeing and pooping in underwear around my house. It's unsanitary and unfair of you to think that this is OK to do at someone else's home. I need him picked up within 30 minutes". Hand her the term letter when she picks up.
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laundrymom 09:17 AM 10-28-2016
This.
Absolutely.
Or
I'd put him in a diaper until pickup. Give him a great big cup of chocolate milk 15 min before and stick him in underwear.
Originally Posted by Leigh:
I'd call DCM RIGHT NOW.

"DCM, I need to you come pick up your child. He's wearing underwear, and you didn't leave diapers/pull ups for him. I can not and will not have him peeing and pooping in underwear around my house. It's unsanitary and unfair of you to think that this is OK to do at someone else's home. I need him picked up within 30 minutes". Hand her the term letter when she picks up.

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Ariana 09:25 AM 10-28-2016
Hopefully she refuses to pay and you get to terminate her immediately. Not sure I would even open my door if she showed up anyway.

I charge a two week deposit at beginning of care to cover the last two weeks. It is non refundable and you have the choice to send you child for those last two weeks. I have not had any parents use it. I only refund the money if I terminate immediately during the trial period.
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Boymom 11:51 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by EntropyControlSpecialist:
This woman has been a thorn in your side. I'm glad you'll be letting them go and replacing them with a MUCH better family (praying for that for you!).

I would absolutely not keep him in undies. He would be in diapers.
Thank you very much! I'm nervous about interviewing new families, but God will definitely provide
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Boymom 11:51 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
I would rephrase the pullups part to include:

"Dcb must be in pullups daily, with a minimum of 5 pullups provided at drop off. Sending dcb in underwear or not proving pull ups will be grounds for immediate termination of child care services."

Also-

Additional fees for early drop off and late arrival will increase total fees owed.
I changed it, thank you very much!
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Boymom 11:53 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Leigh:
I'd call DCM RIGHT NOW.

"DCM, I need to you come pick up your child. He's wearing underwear, and you didn't leave diapers/pull ups for him. I can not and will not have him peeing and pooping in underwear around my house. It's unsanitary and unfair of you to think that this is OK to do at someone else's home. I need him picked up within 30 minutes". Hand her the term letter when she picks up.
I wish I had the guts to do it! I'm already nervous about handing her the letter because I'm too nice, but I am praying for confidence!!
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Boymom 11:54 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
This.
Absolutely.
Or
I'd put him in a diaper until pickup. Give him a great big cup of chocolate milk 15 min before and stick him in underwear.
This seriously made me laugh out loud and I needed that today!!
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Boymom 11:56 AM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Ariana:
Hopefully she refuses to pay and you get to terminate her immediately. Not sure I would even open my door if she showed up anyway.

I charge a two week deposit at beginning of care to cover the last two weeks. It is non refundable and you have the choice to send you child for those last two weeks. I have not had any parents use it. I only refund the money if I terminate immediately during the trial period.
I'm definitely going to start taking a deposit. I wish I would have done that when this mom started. So do you have them pay a two week deposit and also the first weeks fee?
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childcaremom 11:58 AM 10-28-2016
I like the suggestions you've been getting.

I hope things go well for you at pick up time. Be firm. Say your piece. Hand her the notice and shoo them out the door.

Then do a little happy dance and let us know how it went.
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Rockgirl 12:14 PM 10-28-2016
You've got this! She KNOWS she did this.

I used to dread confrontation so badly, until my dh said, "They know they *insert offense...owe money, were late, etc. When you bring it up to them, the awkwardness is on them, because they KNOW."

You can do it. Hand off the letter as they are walking out the door, and feel the relief!
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Boymom 12:54 PM 10-28-2016
I have another question! When she actually pays on time on Friday's, she walks in and hands the money to me.

Should I hand it back to her and hand her the letter or do I keep the money even if they don't come back on Monday? My contract is basically worded that there will still be payment even if there is no care provided for the last two weeks.

I just want to make sure I do the right thing!
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MarinaVanessa 01:01 PM 10-28-2016
That depends on you.

I can tell you what I would do. I would hand her the two-week letter first and cross my fingers that she didn't want to come back and I'd let her keep the fee for the next two weeks just to be rid of her.

If you really want to hold your ground on receiving the fee for the next two weeks then I'd wait until she gave you at least next weeks payment and then hand her the letter. Then at least you'll have one week out of the two paid. She might not pay the final week if she decides not to return.
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TwinMama 01:02 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
This.
Absolutely.
Or
I'd put him in a diaper until pickup. Give him a great big cup of chocolate milk 15 min before and stick him in underwear.
I love this!!!
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Play Care 01:02 PM 10-28-2016
If it were me, I'd have dck ready, watch for her to pull in and meet her at the car notice in hand.
Personally I would let her keep the money just to be done. But that's me.
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Boymom 01:06 PM 10-28-2016
That's what I was thinking too, I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing Thank you all so much!

And next time I will just get a deposit so I don't have to worry about this ha!
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Mom2Two 02:20 PM 10-28-2016
Definitely change your contract for a new family to have a two week deposit. I also have it go to the last two weeks of care--that's after I parted ways with my first family when they owed me some money.

I have had like four children potty train in the past six months or so. Right before the first set got put in underwear, I changed my policy to say that there was a $20 cleaning fee for a body fluid accident. I charge it for underwear accident (that soaks through) or vomit or a large bloody nose. That's ON TOP of the fact that my policies say that I need to agree to the transition to underwear. Problem is that I've had every single parent surprise me at show up saying that Junior is in underwear today. The $20 helps ease the pain for me. Although one of them I did say absolutely had to go back into pull ups.

I'd term if the parent and I just couldn't see eye to eye. It's not worth the stress on your mental health and peace of mind. You'll be so glad when they're gone.
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finsup 02:21 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
That's what I was thinking too, I just wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing Thank you all so much!

And next time I will just get a deposit so I don't have to worry about this ha!
At least bad families always teach us something! Good for you though, you're doing the right thing. Praying it went well!
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Boymom 02:23 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by finsup:
At least bad families always teach us something! Good for you though, you're doing the right thing. Praying it went well!
I have about an hour left and I'm so nervous for some reason!
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Boymom 02:24 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Mom2Two:
Definitely change your contract for a new family to have a two week deposit. I also have it go to the last two weeks of care--that's after I parted ways with my first family when they owed me some money.

I have had like four children potty train in the past six months or so. Right before the first set got put in underwear, I changed my policy to say that there was a $20 cleaning fee for a body fluid accident. I charge it for underwear accident (that soaks through) or vomit or a large bloody nose. That's ON TOP of the fact that my policies say that I need to agree to the transition to underwear. Problem is that I've had every single parent surprise me at show up saying that Junior is in underwear today. The $20 helps ease the pain for me. Although one of them I did say absolutely had to go back into pull ups.

I'd term if the parent and I just couldn't see eye to eye. It's not worth the stress on your mental health and peace of mind. You'll be so glad when they're gone.
I REALLY like your $20 cleaning fee. I would have made an extra $60 yesterday alone
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Mom2Two 02:32 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
I REALLY like your $20 cleaning fee. I would have made an extra $60 yesterday alone
I have seriously made some extra money on this fee! But I don't WANT to have to charge it. I mean when you have to soap and wash a kid's legs, use a bunch of rags and Chlorox wipies on the linoleum or Lysol the carpet or think about how long it's going to be before you have to replace the sofa, it's not something I WANT to do. It just helps ease the pain...
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Mom2Two 02:34 PM 10-28-2016
But the best thing about it is that it makes the parents hesitate before putting kids in underwear. Otherwise it doesn't hurt them at all, and they don't care if your house gets peed on. At least this way it actually costs them something and you're less likely to have to get to the point of terming.
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JackandJill 02:40 PM 10-28-2016
Let us know how it goes!!
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Boymom 02:44 PM 10-28-2016
She got here early and once again said she would be back to pay me...

So I told her don't worry about it, handed her the letter and shut the door hahahahaha! Yay I'm so excited! Thank you for all your help everyone.

The bad thing is that I have to see her at a wedding tmrw night ugh!
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Blackcat31 02:54 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:

The bad thing is that I have to see her at a wedding tmrw night ugh!
Just smile and be your friendly self.

It's the weekend. No one talks shop during a social event.

Plus, it wasn't personal at all. It was business.

You have no reason to feel awkward or uncomfortable at all.

Smile, be friendly and hold your head high.

Being a business woman is hard work.
Being a good business woman is even harder.

Be proud of yourself!
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daycare 03:07 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Just smile and be your friendly self.

It's the weekend. No one talks shop during a social event.

Plus, it wasn't personal at all. It was business.

You have no reason to feel awkward or uncomfortable at all.

Smile, be friendly and hold your head high.

Being a business woman is hard work.
Being a good business woman is even harder.

Be proud of yourself!
I love your advice BC....

Yes, don't feel bad about it and if you must, do it today. Promise yourself when you wake tomorrow, it will be a feeling you no longer have to carry with you and go on as usual.

I live in a small city where I run into all of my dcp. I have had to term parents and at first felt horrible seeing them, I would get anxiety.

I stopped doing that and just go on with my day as usual. Sometimes I will stop and say hello, mostly if they have their child with them, but I don't let it upset me, change me or make me feel bad.

I agree be proud of yourself...guess what standing up for yourself is going to get even easier......take a bow..... you deserve it.
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Boymom 03:54 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Just smile and be your friendly self.

It's the weekend. No one talks shop during a social event.

Plus, it wasn't personal at all. It was business.

You have no reason to feel awkward or uncomfortable at all.

Smile, be friendly and hold your head high.

Being a business woman is hard work.
Being a good business woman is even harder.

Be proud of yourself!
I seriously needed this so much. Thank you, BC
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Boymom 03:59 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by daycare:
I love your advice BC....

Yes, don't feel bad about it and if you must, do it today. Promise yourself when you wake tomorrow, it will be a feeling you no longer have to carry with you and go on as usual.

I live in a small city where I run into all of my dcp. I have had to term parents and at first felt horrible seeing them, I would get anxiety.

I stopped doing that and just go on with my day as usual. Sometimes I will stop and say hello, mostly if they have their child with them, but I don't let it upset me, change me or make me feel bad.

I agree be proud of yourself...guess what standing up for yourself is going to get even easier......take a bow..... you deserve it.
Thank you! I am learning so much from you all in this forum; not only how to run a successful daycare, but how to be a stronger person. I've always had just about zero confidence, but I'm getting better thanks to you all!
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ColorfulSunburst 08:32 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by laundrymom:
This.
Absolutely.
Or
I'd put him in a diaper until pickup. Give him a great big cup of chocolate milk 15 min before and stick him in underwear.
seriously?!
I think it is not a good to use a kid. The two adult women have not a wish to find a compromise. The both of them are acting in a passive aggressive way. Why should the kid be involved into this, especially in such a dirty way?!?
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Boymom 08:35 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst:
seriously?!
I think it is not a good to use a kid. The two adult women have not a wish to find a compromise. The both of them are acting in a passive aggressive way. Why should the kid be involved into this, especially in such a dirty way?!?
You're kidding, right?
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ColorfulSunburst 08:39 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
You're kidding, right?
I am not!
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Boymom 08:46 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst:
I am not!
I'm pretty sure she was kidding!!! I didn't actually do that, nor do I think she was being serious!

And I am not being passive aggressive...I told the mom on Thursday at pickup that dcb had THREE accidents that day and he would need to be in pull-ups from now on until he was ready. She decided to not listen to me and put him in underwear. I don't understand how that's being passive aggressive!
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ColorfulSunburst 08:59 PM 10-28-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
I'm pretty sure she was kidding
I hope.
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Meeko 11:06 PM 10-28-2016
She was kidding! Have you never seen those signs in beauty salons etc. that say

"Unattended children will be given a double espresso and a puppy" ??

It's a joke. They don't actually DO it......

I tell my daycare parents that if they are late picking up, I will have their child in a plastic bag on the porch. They know that I am joking......
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daycare 12:53 AM 10-29-2016
Originally Posted by Meeko:
She was kidding! Have you never seen those signs in beauty salons etc. that say

"Unattended children will be given a double espresso and a puppy" ??

It's a joke. They don't actually DO it......

I tell my daycare parents that if they are late picking up, I will have their child in a plastic bag on the porch. They know that I am joking......
Lol. I love that we can all laugh and joke in a business that keeps us so serious all day. Glad we have this place to joke around.

I tell parents anyone who's not here by 5 their kids will be helping to scrub toilets. ������
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Josiegirl 04:49 AM 10-29-2016
Originally Posted by ColorfulSunburst:
I hope.
Good grief, of course it was meant to be a joke. As I'm always telling my kids, 'have a sense of humor!'


I've learned so much just from this topic! Things to change in my handbook. Again. Thanks for posting!
And to have chocolate milk on hand.
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Gemma 04:56 AM 10-29-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
I wish I had the guts to do it! I'm already nervous about handing her the letter because I'm too nice, but I am praying for confidence!!
I think we were all "too nice" at first....then we learned to stand up and "demand" the respect we deserve!
Once you do that a few times, you will feel so much better about this job, I promise!
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sharlan 02:02 PM 10-29-2016
Originally Posted by Meeko:
She was kidding! Have you never seen those signs in beauty salons etc. that say

"Unattended children will be given a double espresso and a puppy" ??

It's a joke. They don't actually DO it......

I tell my daycare parents that if they are late picking up, I will have their child in a plastic bag on the porch. They know that I am joking......
I tell mine that the kids will be duct taped to the tree out front. I actually have pictures where my daughter used USPS packing tape (the red, white, and blue stuff) and taped 2 of my kids to the mailbox for the mailman to pick up. The kids are laughing and the parents thought it was funny.
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Unregistered 09:18 PM 10-29-2016
I had one family who when the dad brought the boy, he always came in with a baggie of candy. I would take the candy away after dad left and get it back out for him right before mom picked up. It seemed only fair.

Coincindentally, that particular boy was the reason I now have potty training rules that say potty training starts at home only. I don't potty train anyone at my daycare. They do all their practicing at home on their own time and when they start telling me they have to go and are dry after naps, THEN they can wear pullups at daycare. Two weeks with no accidents and they can do all the wiping and pants up and down by themselves, then they can do undies. This mom would try bringing him in undies under the pullups and every single time he did, he pooped in them. I would bag that up as is and send it home without washing it. I always wondered if she threw them out. She never said anything about the dirty underwear, even though I would tell her not to put them on under the pullups. The dad admitted one day that they gave him candy for using the potty and so he went every 20 min at home just so he could have more candy, where at daycare, I did not give candy and he was not at all interested in going. I did not feel one bit bad about giving him his candy and a HUGE drink right before he went home.
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Boymom 06:27 AM 10-31-2016
Mom didn't show up today. I knew she wouldn't! BYE FELICIA!!
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Rockgirl 07:51 AM 10-31-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
Mom didn't show up today. I knew she wouldn't! BYE FELICIA!!
Yay!! Did you see her at the wedding?
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Boymom 08:04 AM 10-31-2016
Originally Posted by Rockgirl:
Yay!! Did you see her at the wedding?
Actually I ended up not going because my son is getting two molars in right now, so he wasn't a happy camper! But she gave my husband the death look and other people noticed it and were like wth was that all about!
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daycare 08:53 AM 10-31-2016
awe, that stinks. Let her act childish, others will see her true colors without you needing to say a word.

I would just smile and move on. Don't let it get to you.
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Blackcat31 08:20 AM 11-01-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
Actually I ended up not going because my son is getting two molars in right now, so he wasn't a happy camper! But she gave my husband the death look and other people noticed it and were like wth was that all about!
Well I hope if pressed, your DH replied that she (DCM) is mad you won't let her kid pee on your carpet. When put that way, most people totally understand.

Glad she isn't returning.... less stress overall!
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Ariana 08:42 AM 11-01-2016
Originally Posted by Boymom:
I'm definitely going to start taking a deposit. I wish I would have done that when this mom started. So do you have them pay a two week deposit and also the first weeks fee?
I take the two week deposit and they pay me biweekly after care has been given. This way if I care for their kid for two weeks and they do not pay me they get terminated immediately but I have already been paid.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:43 AM 11-01-2016
Originally Posted by Ariana:
I take the two week deposit and they pay me biweekly after care has been given. This way if I care for their kid for two weeks and they do not pay me they get terminated immediately but I have already been paid.
I do something similar. I require an enrollment fee (I use the term fee so they know it is non-refundable in addition to stating so) of the final two weeks tuition if one child. The enrollment fee will hold the available spot (or upcoming spot) for up to 2 weeks. After that, it is no longer theirs.
Their first two week's tuition payment is due prior to their first day. All payment here is required prior to services being rendered.
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