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Old 04-17-2014, 07:48 PM
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Today I watched as my 21-month old held hands with his little buddy and walked all around the playroom together pretending to "go bye-bye", and they both waved at everyone. He cried when he woke up from nap before her and had to wait to play "hold hands" again!

I've been thinking lately that I'm so glad I'm doing daycare, for his sake. Obviously because I can stay home with him. But also because I have so many kids right now who come one day/week for socialization and are with SAHMs the rest. I think if I would have been able to be a SAHM, my son would either have the run of the house (rules seem so much less important when you only have one kid to deal with) and/or I'd be way too utterly focused on him. I have seen kids who won't play because they are used to mom coming up with these elaborate activities all the time; they're used to being entertained. I so would have been that mom. I probably would be overly concerned about his life/controlling--no sugar, TV is awful! I certainly was going down that path,but the realities of daycare changed that fast.

I think he's pretty well adjusted. Independent, and social because of the daycare.

What about you?
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Old 04-17-2014, 07:51 PM
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I wouldn't go see Santa or the Easter Bunny so my youngest lucks out since I have them come to us.
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Old 04-17-2014, 08:31 PM
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...was a strong-willed little thing
I think we would have butt heads on everything.
With childcare, there was always something going on that she didn't want to miss. No time for head-butting your mama
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Old 04-17-2014, 08:47 PM
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It goes both ways for me. My 3 year old son definitely has his moments where he doesn't want dck's around. But then there are those moments where he calls them his friends and they hold hands on our walks or at the park. I love when he asks for them on the weekends and gets upset when I tell him they aren't coming that day. I often wonder what he and I would be doing if we didn't have daycare. My older 2 are in school. I think we would be so bored!
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Old 04-17-2014, 11:39 PM
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I started my daycare when my oldest was 1 1/2. Now he's 6 and I have a 4 & 2 year old.
For my 6 year old - he told his teacher that he 'works at a daycare' he loves the kids and has some friends that outgrew daycare that schedule weekend play dates w him.

For my 4 year old - a lot of my dck will be going to school With her. She's such a shy girl that doing daycare forces her to be social. She calls herself a big sister to any new babies we get into daycare.

For my 2 year old - she has developmental, gross motor & speech delays. She is incredibly social and even with all of her delays, she's a very smart girl. She is surrounded by kids who love her & cheer for her when she accomplishes things. The kids get excited when the therapist arrive for my dd to go to 'work'. Being around older kids has really helped her developmentally.
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Old 04-18-2014, 03:25 AM
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For my 3(they're all adults now) it served a very good method of birth control.
Otherwise who can say? I have no idea how they would have fared differently going to a daycare other than mine.
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Old 04-18-2014, 04:27 AM
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Prior to opening my daycare, I worked a very crappy shift (2 overnights & 2 day shifts a week) at a factory and hardly got any sleep, and did not get much time with my kids - they spent majority of their time with 'sitters. I have 3 boys, ages 8, 6, and 4 and my baby girl is 2. Since opening my daycare I have seen an incredible improvement in their behavior. It is so nice getting to spend quality time in the evenings and on the weekends with my family. My older boys love spending time with the DCKs after school and "helping", and my 4 yo is really excited that him and his best friend in daycare will be graduating to pre-school together in the fall. My 2yo has been a little difficult lately with becoming very possessive over "her" things and "her" mommy, but we've been working through that, and for her I think it's in part due to the daycare but mostly her personality and having to work through that right now is developmentally normal.
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Old 04-18-2014, 09:01 AM
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My child is not necessarily better because of daycare but he is a better, more well adjusted child because I was his primary caregiver.

My DD benefited from the social aspect of being able to have so many different playmates but again, she was social to begin with so she would have thrived in any situation.

My DH grew up in daycare. His mom provided care 24/7 to other families. His experience as a daycare child is more negative than positive.

I am sure everyone has their own set of circumstances and outside influences that definitely define who they are and having a mom who runs a daycare can be both detrimental and positive at the same time for kids.
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My DH grew up in daycare. His mom provided care 24/7 to other families. His experience as a daycare child is more negative than positive.

I am sure everyone has their own set of circumstances and outside influences that definitely define who they are and having a mom who runs a daycare can be both detrimental and positive at the same time for kids.
Mine always tells me how lucky she is that I raised her, compared to so many people she knows. She thinks she's more logical, compassionate & realistic, and less self-centered & unreasonable, among other things.

I think so too I'm proud of her for her though, not because I raised her. Okay, I will take credit for a smidge of her

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For my 3(they're all adults now) it served a very good method of birth control.

My kids (5) range from ages 5-28. My girls have always said this was the best form of birth control I could've shown them.
Even so.....I see them using the same gentle methods I use with the little one's on their younger siblings.

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Old 04-18-2014, 04:33 PM
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For my 3(they're all adults now) it served a very good method of birth control.
Otherwise who can say? I have no idea how they would have fared differently going to a daycare other than mine.
LOL
This is my kids too. 30 ds & 26 dd and both still single.
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Old 04-21-2014, 06:32 AM
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I know every kid is different, so it's hard to compare, but I have a 3yr old daughter and my brother has an almost 3yr old son who stays at home with his SIL and her 3yr old daughter. Mine obviously gets a lot of socialization, taught rules, how to play well with a large group of children, has a lot to play with (vs someone's home), and has older kids to look up to and learn from. My brother's son has 1 girl to play with and it's just them and the mom home all day. They do activities and stuff, but I don't think it's the same. My daughter is much more advanced than my nephew, but she's 5 months older and a girl lol
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Old 04-21-2014, 06:41 AM
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When my kids were younger, they didn't like the days I was closed. They missed their "friends."
I know we have waaaay more toys here (and better quality lol) then we would if I wasn't doing day care.
If I were a SAHM, I probably wouldn't have done most of the projects, field trips, etc that I did with my kids. We would have done some things, but with such a reduced income I can't imagine we would have been able to afford what we have done.

For the most part it's been a pretty positive experience (that I can tell) but I've always kept my own kids bedrooms, toys, etc off limits. I've always taken time off when I wanted/needed and I've always kept my day care hours as short as I can so that day care didn't completely take over our family.
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:28 AM
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I was able to be home with them instead of in childcare. They practiced their reading by reading to the younger children. They learned a lot about child development as they grew up and are both excellent fathers. I was the adult in the neighborhood that the middle school boys could come if they needed help when mom was still at work. I was able to earn the money needed to send them on the trips and camps they wanted to go to.
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Old 04-21-2014, 07:29 PM
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In our specific situation, my kids were going to my mother's house while I went to work as a teacher, and once we had my youngest, 3 kids in 3 years, it was going to be too much for her, though she wouldn't say it outright, so my kids have a MUCH better relationship with her, now that she can come over and see them any time and isn't obligated to be their primary caregiver, and I think they of course benefit from ME being the primary caregiver. They actually see more of their dad, who can come home between meetings and things, and they have made great friends that they wouldn't otherwise have had at this age. They learn great things from the other kids here, they learn great things about being part of a group (not just a family) and they do lots more fun learning than they would've done otherwise. They will get to grow up with their cousins, and have a nice sense of community even before starting elementary school. I honestly find so many benefits, and I don't think that the sharing of toys diminishes any of it
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