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JeepGirl6 06:39 PM 04-01-2014
3 yr old, 3 days a week. Babysitter quit so they wanted to get him in a home daycare to interact with other children.

Everything was fine for about the first 45 minutes, they said they wanted me & they liked everything...they were nice. Once I started talking about my contract with charging when he wont come & when he is sick. The dad literally blew up on me! Saying how in the heck can I do that, I'm not paying you when my son doesn't come( he said this multiple times)...basically said if my house was a sh*t hole he would have walked right out the door once He heard that but he was giving me respect because my house is nice & I have a nice set up...blew up on me some more saying He doesn't have extra money to be paying me for services when he isn't using them.I was so worked up, As soon as they left I went outside to find my husband...I started bawling my eyes out & shaking so bad. The dad turned into a complete jerk...the mom's attitude totally changed also. The dad said well we might just use you two days a week then. Then he asked me what he is suppose to do when their son is sick & asked me how sick he has to be for me not to take him.

I have never had someone at an interview disrespect me so badly.

Like honestly he scared the crap out of me once I seen that side of him

I will be E-mailing them in a little bit to tell them I feel they are not a good fit for the spot I have open.
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craftymissbeth 06:43 PM 04-01-2014


Yeah I wouldn't have been nice. He went off on you and still wanted you to take his kid twice a week... oh my goodness what a POS.
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MarinaVanessa 06:46 PM 04-01-2014
Oh hun, I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Whatever you do,please DON'T TAKE THEM ON AS CLIENTS!! Someone that would be that disrespectful after only knowing you for an hour is incredulous. Imagine how they'll act once they've been in your care for a while and "feel comfortable"

NEXT
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Tasha 06:47 PM 04-01-2014
This sounds so scary to me. Very sorry you had to suffer that ordeal. While the husband was yelling at you, what was the wife doing/saying?
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Luvnmykidz 06:48 PM 04-01-2014
I think I would've asked them to leave after he stated he wasn't willing to pay for when his child wasn't there. Makes me wonder why the babysitter quit. I would definitely tell them they are not a good fit for any amount of days in my program. I think it would've scared me as well. Hopefully you find a respectful family to fill your spot.
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Josiegirl 03:04 AM 04-02-2014
Their eyes will soon be opened to the world of daycare. Most dcs charge for the slot. so glad they showed their true colors before you signed them up. Hope you find someone completely suited to your program!
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Play Care 03:15 AM 04-02-2014
Scary!!! Hope you find a good fit soon!!
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KidGrind 03:43 AM 04-02-2014
I am not suggesting you send the following. It is an example of what my email would be in the situation.

Good evening Mr. & Mrs. ________,

I cannot type it was nice to meet you. It was actually one of the most awful displays of disrespect I’ve witnessed from potential clients. I am not accustomed to cursing, yelling and disrespect in my home business.

Based on how quickly Mr. ________ erupted as we reviewed the program’s policy and he learned fees are based on enrollment and not attendance (sick days). We are in agreement. You are correct. You will not have to pay me for days your child is not in attendance. Mr. _______ ’s outburst demonstrated we are not a right fit.

In closing, I wish your family success in your search childcare.

Respectfully,

Not-Your-Doormat-Provider

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JeepGirl6 04:08 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by Tasha:
This sounds so scary to me. Very sorry you had to suffer that ordeal. While the husband was yelling at you, what was the wife doing/saying?
She was very talkative until we started discussing my policies. She then got real quiet the remaining 15 minutes of the interview and just stood there looking over my info without talking. Her husband would try to get her opinion on my policies and every time he asked her a question she just said "I dont know" or shrugged her shoulders.

I told him that charging for enrollment is usually how it is in home daycare's/centers... He didn't believe me.
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Naptime yet? 04:13 AM 04-02-2014
She probably knew he was going to be an a@@hole & hopefully was embarrassed or she knew he would soon turn on her.

You did the right thing, this family was DEFINATELY not worth the money or stress.
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taylorw1210 04:49 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by MV:
Oh hun, I'm sorry you had to go through that.

Whatever you do,please DON'T TAKE THEM ON AS CLIENTS!! Someone that would be that disrespectful after only knowing you for an hour is incredulous. Imagine how they'll act once they've been in your care for a while and "feel comfortable"

NEXT
Exactly!!
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Second Home 05:09 AM 04-02-2014
Yikes , sorry you had to deal with that jerk .

This is why I do not do interviews during daycare hours . I like to be sure my dh will be home just in cases like this .
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coolconfidentme 05:32 AM 04-02-2014
He probably verbally abuses his family too. I wouldn't have been nice. I would have said, "You may speak that way to others, but you will NOT speak that way to me. If you do not remove yourself from my property immediately, I will have you removed." I would hit the 9 1 1 keys on my cell & hover my finger over the send button so he could see. I would do it if he didn't leave at once.
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KDC 06:03 AM 04-02-2014
If you're like me, you're mind is probably still reeling with all the possibilities of things you could've/should've said. Thankfully, it's over and he showed his true colors BEFORE you accepted them as clients.

He'll probably end up taking his kid to some sh*&thole to save a few bucks. It's a shame.
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countrymom 06:07 AM 04-02-2014
thats horrible. The other day, my friend who is a provider had an interview and the mom and dad got into a fight right there in the play room. Imagine that, what the heck are you suppose to do then.
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cheerfuldom 06:13 AM 04-02-2014
Judging from the fact that my mom was in an abusive relationship for many years, trust me, that mom knew exactly what was going to happen. She was trying to remain neutral so she wouldnt have that wrath directed at her. If this was totally out of character for him, she would have looked at him funny, said something or become embarassed. Sounds like she just sat there so yeah, this is not new behavior. You can bet why the babysitter quit. I would send an email this morning and make sure they did not enroll or think there was anyway in he** you would work with someone like that.
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Mister Sir Husband 07:45 AM 04-02-2014
I wouldn't waste my time emailing them to say "I don't feel it would be a nice fit"

I would email them and say his poor attitude, rudeness, and disrespectful display that happened in your home is the 100% reason his children are not welcome, and if he ever steps foot on your property again he will be escorted away.
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saved4always 07:48 AM 04-02-2014


I am so sorry that they were so awful and upset you so much. I would have been a wreck after that, too. At least he showed his true colors in the interview so you know not to take them on.
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Leigh 08:07 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by Mister Sir Husband:
I wouldn't waste my time emailing them to say "I don't feel it would be a nice fit"

I would email them and say his poor attitude, rudeness, and disrespectful display that happened in your home is the 100% reason his children are not welcome, and if he ever steps foot on your property again he will be escorted away.
I agree. Tact is not necessary with that kind of behavior. I would point blank state that you are not interested in ANY further contact with them and why. I would probably also mention as a side to Mom that I hope Dad is able to get the help he needs to control his anger (because I can't help but address those kinds of behaviors).
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Play Care 08:19 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by cheerfuldom:
Judging from the fact that my mom was in an abusive relationship for many years, trust me, that mom knew exactly what was going to happen. She was trying to remain neutral so she wouldnt have that wrath directed at her. If this was totally out of character for him, she would have looked at him funny, said something or become embarassed. Sounds like she just sat there so yeah, this is not new behavior. You can bet why the babysitter quit. I would send an email this morning and make sure they did not enroll or think there was anyway in he** you would work with someone like that.

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Margarete 08:33 AM 04-02-2014
Considering how sudden the outburst was at THAT policy, and saying that they only wanted 2 days then. I'm guessing that they only intended on usually using 2 days, or only need 2 days, and didn't want to pay for the third unless they used it, but wanted access to the 3 days in case for no extra cost. His reaction was unacceptable.
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My3cents 10:17 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by JeepGirl6:
3 yr old, 3 days a week. Babysitter quit so they wanted to get him in a home daycare to interact with other children.

Everything was fine for about the first 45 minutes, they said they wanted me & they liked everything...they were nice. Once I started talking about my contract with charging when he wont come & when he is sick. The dad literally blew up on me! Saying how in the heck can I do that, I'm not paying you when my son doesn't come( he said this multiple times)...basically said if my house was a sh*t hole he would have walked right out the door once He heard that but he was giving me respect because my house is nice & I have a nice set up...blew up on me some more saying He doesn't have extra money to be paying me for services when he isn't using them.I was so worked up, As soon as they left I went outside to find my husband...I started bawling my eyes out & shaking so bad. The dad turned into a complete jerk...the mom's attitude totally changed also. The dad said well we might just use you two days a week then. Then he asked me what he is suppose to do when their son is sick & asked me how sick he has to be for me not to take him.

I have never had someone at an interview disrespect me so badly.

Like honestly he scared the crap out of me once I seen that side of him

I will be E-mailing them in a little bit to tell them I feel they are not a good fit for the spot I have open.
The interview would have ended. I would have been polite and said this......

I don't think we are going to be a good fit. Excuse me but I am done. Thank you for your time. If he wouldn't have up and left, I would have gone to get my husband. Its ok to tell someone this. I am sure you were just taken back as I probably would have, but coming here to the forum has made me a stronger person and I would like to think that this is what I would have done or would do if I experience someone speaking to me that way-
hugs to you and move on. You will find someone that fits your program and respects you. Another approach is to direct him to a center where they take less days off but they charge a much higher price- Ugh I feel for you I would not want to deal with this type of client on a regular basis. No way, no how, no thank you....NO NO NO......GO
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Shell 10:19 AM 04-02-2014
Hmm, so I wonder why the babysitter quit

This guy is crazy, and I wouldn't ever communicate with them ever again. I personally wouldn't email either, but if mom does contact you I would just say the spot has been filled, thanks for your interest. Good luck finding someone that is going to put up with that nonsense
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My3cents 10:20 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by JeepGirl6:
She was very talkative until we started discussing my policies. She then got real quiet the remaining 15 minutes of the interview and just stood there looking over my info without talking. Her husband would try to get her opinion on my policies and every time he asked her a question she just said "I dont know" or shrugged her shoulders.

I told him that charging for enrollment is usually how it is in home daycare's/centers... He didn't believe me.
let him find out! Bye Bye.

Sounds like he intimidates his own wife
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My3cents 10:22 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by countrymom:
thats horrible. The other day, my friend who is a provider had an interview and the mom and dad got into a fight right there in the play room. Imagine that, what the heck are you suppose to do then.
ask them to leave~

I don't do interviews during daycare hours.......another reason why to add to my list- I don't want to deal with that. Your talking therapy $ now- tee hee
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KiddieCahoots 11:57 AM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by KidGrind:
I am not suggesting you send the following. It is an example of what my email would be in the situation.

Good evening Mr. & Mrs. ________,

I cannot type it was nice to meet you. It was actually one of the most awful displays of disrespect I’ve witnessed from potential clients. I am not accustomed to cursing, yelling and disrespect in my home business.

Based on how quickly Mr. ________ erupted as we reviewed the program’s policy and he learned fees are based on enrollment and not attendance (sick days). We are in agreement. You are correct. You will not have to pay me for days your child is not in attendance. Mr. _______ ’s outburst demonstrated we are not a right fit.

In closing, I wish your family success in your search childcare.

Respectfully,

Not-Your-Doormat-Provider

KidGrind, I gotta hand it to you....you have the best letters....hands down!!!


This guy....ABUSIVE written all over him! Thank God he's not the majority.
Sorry his darkness was able to creep into your world, even for a moment.
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trix23 01:08 PM 04-02-2014
Wow. What an *******. Better off as you are, my friend ! For the future, maybe say something like, "We are all adults here and we need to speak respectfully to each other. If you don't like my policies or cannot behave like an adult, then I ask you to leave."
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KidGrind 01:47 PM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by KiddieCahoots:

KidGrind, I gotta hand it to you....you have the best letters....hands down!!!


This guy....ABUSIVE written all over him! Thank God he's not the majority.
Sorry his darkness was able to creep into your world, even for a moment.
Thank you! When I am irritated or , I’ll let people have it in person, email , text or letter. If it’s something without emotion I get stuck and suck like a monkey’s morning breath.
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Heidi 01:54 PM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by Mister Sir Husband:
I wouldn't waste my time emailing them to say "I don't feel it would be a nice fit"

I would email them and say his poor attitude, rudeness, and disrespectful display that happened in your home is the 100% reason his children are not welcome, and if he ever steps foot on your property again he will be escorted away.


You have no reason to be anything but straightforward. He doesn't deserve "not a good fit".
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MarinaVanessa 02:47 PM 04-02-2014
I'm curious if this guy is really going to have the nerve to want to come back. I'd be embarrassed of my DH if he ever acted in this way and for THAT reason alone I wouldn't want to sign up with that daycare. Do people really have no shame?

Update??
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NightOwl 06:15 PM 04-02-2014
Update? I'm really curious to know what they said in response to your rejection. Lots of people don't realize they have to pay for enrollment, not just attendance, but I've never heard of someone blowing up like this.
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KidGrind 06:23 PM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by MV:
I'm curious if this guy is really going to have the nerve to want to come back. I'd be embarrassed of my DH if he ever acted in this way and for THAT reason alone I wouldn't want to sign up with that daycare. Do people really have no shame?

Update??
Yes ma’am.
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JeepGirl6 07:17 PM 04-02-2014
Just got a text from the mom saying they decided to look elsewhere because they dont agree with my policies. I did not text the mom back. I E-mailed them last night telling them they would not be a good fit for my daycare...they must not have received it. I kind of wish I knew if they did or not so I can get the satisfaction of them knowing that I also did not want them. I wonder if that Father even realizes he did anything wrong

After I sent my E-Mail last night I wish I would have told them the Fathers rudeness & disrespect is the reason why I would never became their child care provider, just like some of you have said. He didnt deserve just a "your family isnt a good fit email"
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momofboys 07:29 PM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by JeepGirl6:
Just got a text from the mom saying they decided to look elsewhere because they dont agree with my policies. I did not text the mom back. I E-mailed them last night telling them they would not be a good fit for my daycare...they must not have received it. I kind of wish I knew if they did or not so I can get the satisfaction of them knowing that I also did not want them. I wonder if that Father even realizes he did anything wrong

After I sent my E-Mail last night I wish I would have told them the Fathers rudeness & disrespect is the reason why I would never became their child care privider, just like some of you have said. He didnt deserve a "you're family just isnt a good fit email"

I would definitely text her back & wish her good luck & let her know that due to the disrespectful behavior/swearing, etc. exhibited last night during the interview you wouldn't have been able to accept them anyway. I think parents need to know why sometimes. I mean really, that is scary for an interview. Who acts like that - don't they realize they are making a terrible 1st impression?! I am sorry you had to go through that. My DH usually is present during my interviews. That is horrible that you went through that. I would have cried too!
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starz0123 08:27 PM 04-02-2014
"they must not have received it"

I bet they got the email and Mum is :
a) so embarrassed is ignoring fact she received it
or b) can't believe you sent that email so is trying to get one over you by sending you the text

I wouldn't get into a narky text exchange trying to out do each other ... let it go and be thankful you dodged a bullet so to speak.
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Starburst 09:12 PM 04-02-2014
Originally Posted by JeepGirl6:
3 yr old, 3 days a week. Babysitter quit so they wanted to get him in a home daycare to interact with other children.

Everything was fine for about the first 45 minutes, they said they wanted me & they liked everything...they were nice. Once I started talking about my contract with charging when he wont come & when he is sick. The dad literally blew up on me! Saying how in the heck can I do that, I'm not paying you when my son doesn't come( he said this multiple times)...basically said if my house was a sh*t hole he would have walked right out the door once He heard that but he was giving me respect because my house is nice & I have a nice set up...blew up on me some more saying He doesn't have extra money to be paying me for services when he isn't using them.I was so worked up, As soon as they left I went outside to find my husband...I started bawling my eyes out & shaking so bad. The dad turned into a complete jerk...the mom's attitude totally changed also. The dad said well we might just use you two days a week then. Then he asked me what he is suppose to do when their son is sick & asked me how sick he has to be for me not to take him.

I have never had someone at an interview disrespect me so badly.

Like honestly he scared the crap out of me once I seen that side of him

I will be E-mailing them in a little bit to tell them I feel they are not a good fit for the spot I have open.
The minute he blew up and said he can't afford that, I would have tried to say in the calmest voice I could manage "I understand your concerns and I agree this probably wouldn't work out. Thank you for your interest and your time" and try to get them out the door ASAP! Kill them with kindness and don't let them see they got to you or try to stoop to their level (not that I'm saying you did, just in general). They had their chance and they blew it.

He had no right coming into your business (which is also your HOME!) and disrespect you like that! I think I can see why the babysitter quit; and she was most likely getting paid more than you charge (babysitters usually get paid by the hour and charge at least minimum wage).
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TaylorTots 06:06 AM 04-03-2014
So sorry you had to deal with this! I suggest next time making them leave as soon as the interviewee argues with one of your policies. There is a big difference between clarifying a policy and arguing with it.
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NightOwl 06:24 PM 04-05-2014
Any updates?
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