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daycare 09:45 AM 08-06-2013
I have never had this happen before..
I have a family that has been with me for a few years. GREAT family and GREAT child. everything is always good with this family.
Well today they were a no-show. has never happened in the years they have been here. I have been trying to get in touch with the DCM since Friday, left VM never heard back. I tired calling this morning and straight to VM, I leave another message. I send an email asking are you guys ok.
Next I call DCD.....the person on the other end informs me that the DCD has not worked there in over a year, so no luck there.......Which BTW I am shocked because I ask all parents to update their childs file every 3 months.
I call the DCM mother (g-ma) she lives out of state, but visits a lot and I have gotten to know her over the years. Guess what, her number is out of service....
I have one more person that I could call, but I don't know if I should keep going down the list of emergency numbers. I would hate to get anyone in their family all worked up in their business. BUT at the same time I am concerned about the family...
I did fail to mention at the start of this that the DCP are in the process of separating.......they were never married...
How far down the list should I go and then what do I say if I decide to call that next person????
I have a family that has been with me for a few years. GREAT family and GREAT child. everything is always good with this family.
Well today they were a no-show. has never happened in the years they have been here. I have been trying to get in touch with the DCM since Friday, left VM never heard back. I tired calling this morning and straight to VM, I leave another message. I send an email asking are you guys ok.
Next I call DCD.....the person on the other end informs me that the DCD has not worked there in over a year, so no luck there.......Which BTW I am shocked because I ask all parents to update their childs file every 3 months.
I call the DCM mother (g-ma) she lives out of state, but visits a lot and I have gotten to know her over the years. Guess what, her number is out of service....
I have one more person that I could call, but I don't know if I should keep going down the list of emergency numbers. I would hate to get anyone in their family all worked up in their business. BUT at the same time I am concerned about the family...
I did fail to mention at the start of this that the DCP are in the process of separating.......they were never married...
How far down the list should I go and then what do I say if I decide to call that next person????
DaycareMomma 09:54 AM 08-06-2013
Keep going til you find out whats going on. Just say that you are concerned as you haven't heard from them and this is very atypical of them.
daycare 09:57 AM 08-06-2013
my gut says do this, but I don't want to get anyone in their family all worked up........ Perhaps I can just stress that maybe their was a communication issue??
UGH why today???
UGH why today???
MsLaura529 10:18 AM 08-06-2013
If this is so completely out of character for them, I would call. Just say you are trying to reach them and some of the numbers you have for them are no longer in service. You shouldn't need to mention anything else.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
EntropyControlSpecialist 10:30 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by MsLaura529:
If this is so completely out of character for them, I would call. Just say you are trying to reach them and some of the numbers you have for them are no longer in service. You shouldn't need to mention anything else.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
This is exactly what I would say. If this is so completely out of character for them, I would call. Just say you are trying to reach them and some of the numbers you have for them are no longer in service. You shouldn't need to mention anything else.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
Good luck. I hope you get ahold of someone.
Blackcat31 10:36 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by daycare:
my gut says do this, but I don't want to get anyone in their family all worked up........ Perhaps I can just stress that maybe their was a communication issue??
UGH why today???
Why not? my gut says do this, but I don't want to get anyone in their family all worked up........ Perhaps I can just stress that maybe their was a communication issue??
UGH why today???
They should be worked up.......this family is MIA and you have been unable to reach them. What if something is seriously wrong? Carbon monoxide poisoning, illness, in need of help, etc.... who knows....
As a family member, I would appreciate your concern and as the daycare family, I would also be understanding of your need to call until you found the answer(s) you need.
If they do by chance get upset, then in the future they will perhaps be more responsible in maintaining contact with you.
I'd call every contact person on the list as well as DCM's place of work and if I still couldn't reach anyone, I would call the Sheriff's department and ask them to do a check on the family as they haven't showed up or had contact with you for a few days now.
Familycare71 10:36 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by MsLaura529:
If this is so completely out of character for them, I would call. Just say you are trying to reach them and some of the numbers you have for them are no longer in service. You shouldn't need to mention anything else.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
This If this is so completely out of character for them, I would call. Just say you are trying to reach them and some of the numbers you have for them are no longer in service. You shouldn't need to mention anything else.
I hope you can find them and put your mind at ease.
. I hope you figure out what's happening! So weird!!!
Heidi 11:11 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Why not?
They should be worked up.......this family is MIA and you have been unable to reach them. What if something is seriously wrong? Carbon monoxide poisoning, illness, in need of help, etc.... who knows....
As a family member, I would appreciate your concern and as the daycare family, I would also be understanding of your need to call until you found the answer(s) you need.
If they do by chance get upset, then in the future they will perhaps be more responsible in maintaining contact with you.
I'd call every contact person on the list as well as DCM's place of work and if I still couldn't reach anyone, I would call the Sheriff's department and ask them to do a check on the family as they haven't showed up or had contact with you for a few days now.
Why not?
They should be worked up.......this family is MIA and you have been unable to reach them. What if something is seriously wrong? Carbon monoxide poisoning, illness, in need of help, etc.... who knows....
As a family member, I would appreciate your concern and as the daycare family, I would also be understanding of your need to call until you found the answer(s) you need.
If they do by chance get upset, then in the future they will perhaps be more responsible in maintaining contact with you.
I'd call every contact person on the list as well as DCM's place of work and if I still couldn't reach anyone, I would call the Sheriff's department and ask them to do a check on the family as they haven't showed up or had contact with you for a few days now.
coolconfidentme 11:21 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by daycare:
my gut says do this, but I don't want to get anyone in their family all worked up........ Perhaps I can just stress that maybe their was a communication issue??
UGH why today???
It's your business..., they will have to answer to their family getting worked up, not you.my gut says do this, but I don't want to get anyone in their family all worked up........ Perhaps I can just stress that maybe their was a communication issue??
UGH why today???
Crystal 11:38 AM 08-06-2013
Is it possible for you to drive by their house to check on them? I would if at all possible, out of concern for their well-being.
daycarediva 11:38 AM 08-06-2013
I would absolutely call! Like bc said, you really never know!
daycare 11:44 AM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by Crystal:
Is it possible for you to drive by their house to check on them? I would if at all possible, out of concern for their well-being.
I will drive by....I have called all of the childs emergency contacts.......ALL PHONE NUMBERS are wrong.................the only one that did work, says that the VM box is full so I can't leave a message. I sent a text...Is it possible for you to drive by their house to check on them? I would if at all possible, out of concern for their well-being.
I am really worried..... AND BC you are right....if they didn't want everyone upset, then they should have communicated with me about what is going on...... I do always seem to assume the worst case possible when things are out of the norm............. I almost want to cry, but trying to not freak out....I love this kid so much, I really hope everything is ok
MyAngels 01:14 PM 08-06-2013
Most police departments will do a welfare check if you just call and explain the situation.
KBCsMommy 05:46 PM 08-06-2013
Have you heard from the family yet?
jenn 05:55 PM 08-06-2013
I had this happen a few years ago. I had been watching the boy for a few years and had a great working relationship with his mom. They didn't show up on a Monday, and I was worried when I couldn't contact them. When they didn't show up on Tuesday, I was really worried. She is a single mom and the DCK (then 2 years old) lived alone. Of course, no emergency numbers worked. She was self employed, so no chance of calling work. I was loading up my family to go to their house (imagining the horrors that I would find) and she finally called back. She was "just taking a break from everything".
I insisted new paperwork be filed with current emergency back up. I then told her that if we had any more "no shows", I would call and give her 10 minutes to call back. I would then call an emergency back up. If I could not contact anyone, I would call the police to check in on them. It never happened again!
I insisted new paperwork be filed with current emergency back up. I then told her that if we had any more "no shows", I would call and give her 10 minutes to call back. I would then call an emergency back up. If I could not contact anyone, I would call the police to check in on them. It never happened again!
melilley 06:20 PM 08-06-2013
I would keep going down the list and like pp mentioned, drive by! I am a worrier and I would be worried about this family if it were one of my dcf's!
I have a family here that is going through a divorce. Dcm said that dcd is abusive and enough is enough so she left. Well one day they didn't show up on time. Thank goodness they eventually did. I was so worried that something happened and that's all I could think about! (dcd has a green card and is Canadian so I was worried that he somehow got the child and took him back there or one of his family members did)
Also like pp's have said, if they didn't want their family members to hear of things, then they should have said something to you!
Let us know what happened!
I have a family here that is going through a divorce. Dcm said that dcd is abusive and enough is enough so she left. Well one day they didn't show up on time. Thank goodness they eventually did. I was so worried that something happened and that's all I could think about! (dcd has a green card and is Canadian so I was worried that he somehow got the child and took him back there or one of his family members did)
Also like pp's have said, if they didn't want their family members to hear of things, then they should have said something to you!
Let us know what happened!
Lyss 06:46 PM 08-06-2013
Did you ever hear from them or find out what was up?
daycare 07:25 PM 08-06-2013
I finally got in touch with one grandma. Guess DCk has been with her since Sunday and both parents have been Mia since then.
G-ma said sorry a million times said she wish she would have thought to call me.
I told her it was not her responsibility and told her I was very very worried. She understood and shared in my concerns. So as of right now at least I know dck is ok. I have No clue what is going one with dcp........
Guess ill have to wait and see....
G-ma said sorry a million times said she wish she would have thought to call me.
I told her it was not her responsibility and told her I was very very worried. She understood and shared in my concerns. So as of right now at least I know dck is ok. I have No clue what is going one with dcp........
Guess ill have to wait and see....
Familycare71 07:52 PM 08-06-2013
Originally Posted by daycare:
I finally got in touch with one grandma. Guess DCk has been with her since Sunday and both parents have been Mia since then.
G-ma said sorry a million times said she wish she would have thought to call me.
I told her it was not her responsibility and told her I was very very worried. She understood and shared in my concerns. So as of right now at least I know dck is ok. I have No clue what is going one with dcp........
Guess ill have to wait and see....
Wow!!!I finally got in touch with one grandma. Guess DCk has been with her since Sunday and both parents have been Mia since then.
G-ma said sorry a million times said she wish she would have thought to call me.
I told her it was not her responsibility and told her I was very very worried. She understood and shared in my concerns. So as of right now at least I know dck is ok. I have No clue what is going one with dcp........
Guess ill have to wait and see....
At least you know dck is ok!! Did grandma seem surprised or worried??
Childminder 08:04 PM 08-06-2013
Witness protection program! Idk, 
daycare 08:21 PM 08-06-2013
I have soooo many mixed emotions. I don't know what to think
Grandma just felt bad I was worried
I just landed in ATL. I'm sooooo over work right now. Ugh.
Thanks ladies for your help. I wish more parents could be considerate of our feelings and position in their child's life. But one can always wish........
Grandma just felt bad I was worried
I just landed in ATL. I'm sooooo over work right now. Ugh.
Thanks ladies for your help. I wish more parents could be considerate of our feelings and position in their child's life. But one can always wish........
SilverSabre25 08:42 PM 08-06-2013
((hugs)) What a yucky thing to deal with as you leave on your vacation! I'm glad you got in touch and that dck is okay. I can't imagine just leaving my kid like that....people are SO WEIRD.
daycare 10:28 PM 08-06-2013
Totally off subject but how do you only have 5900 post....
Familycare71 05:25 AM 08-07-2013
Originally Posted by daycare:
I have soooo many mixed emotions. I don't know what to think
Grandma just felt bad I was worried
I just landed in ATL. I'm sooooo over work right now. Ugh.
Thanks ladies for your help. I wish more parents could be considerate of our feelings and position in their child's life. But one can always wish........
I have soooo many mixed emotions. I don't know what to think
Grandma just felt bad I was worried
I just landed in ATL. I'm sooooo over work right now. Ugh.
Thanks ladies for your help. I wish more parents could be considerate of our feelings and position in their child's life. But one can always wish........
enjoy your vacation - at least you know dck is safe
MsLaura529 07:16 AM 08-07-2013
Glad to hear that DCK is safe, and that Grandma at least seemed apologetic.
Have a great vacation!
Have a great vacation!
Josiegirl 04:50 PM 08-08-2013
Just wondering if you've heard anything from this family yet? It seems very strange. 
I couldn't picture a family you've had that length of time cutting off communication with no explanation. I guess as well as we think we might know our dcfs, we really don't.
I couldn't picture a family you've had that length of time cutting off communication with no explanation. I guess as well as we think we might know our dcfs, we really don't.