scorp122 05:47 AM 04-01-2015
I have a 5yr dcb that came in this morning, crying cuz he didn't want to come to daycare, which is fine, around this age they all do, because they are just getting bored with daycare and ready to start kindergarten! Totally normal, however, the dad then asks me if my daughter is hitting him and being mean to him, cuz that's what his son told him. Obviously this boy is making up stories cuz i honestly have no hitting here, this group gets along very good. As soon as the dad left, i asked the boy who was hitting him and when it happened, he immediately started crying and said "I don't know." What would you do with this? Lying is not ok, and i've talked to the boy about it, what would you say to the parents?
laundrymom 06:02 AM 04-01-2015
I would make darn sure no one had the opportunity to hit him again. I would make sure to tell him IN FRONT OF DAD, that I would protect him and keep him safe, always.
(Read this response as::
He will be my shadow all day. Every day. He will sit by me, play by me, eat by me, etc. I would keep stressing that because he seems to be getting hurt each time your head is turned, you are taking extra care to keep him safe. A week of invisible "tethering" and he will reevaluate his need to be so closely supervised)
Blackcat31 06:24 AM 04-01-2015
Originally Posted by scorp122:
I have a 5yr dcb that came in this morning, crying cuz he didn't want to come to daycare, which is fine, around this age they all do, because they are just getting bored with daycare and ready to start kindergarten! Totally normal, however, the dad then asks me if my daughter is hitting him and being mean to him, cuz that's what his son told him. Obviously this boy is making up stories cuz i honestly have no hitting here, this group gets along very good. As soon as the dad left, i asked the boy who was hitting him and when it happened, he immediately started crying and said "I don't know." What would you do with this? Lying is not ok, and i've talked to the boy about it, what would you say to the parents?
I would have done that right in front of dad.
ANY TIME a child tells the parent something you know is a lie, I address the issue in front of the parent and child. I want the child to know that I will discuss those types of things with the parent because I do not take kindly to DCK's of that age lying about things they know did not happen in an attempt to not have to go to daycare.
I get that kids don't want to go after a certain age, but don't drag me, my kids or my program into that natural progression of aging.
As for today, I'd do exactly as Laundrymom said and that child would be my shadow ALL day long.
Unregistered 09:08 AM 04-01-2015
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I would have done that right in front of dad.
ANY TIME a child tells the parent something you know is a lie, I address the issue in front of the parent and child. I want the child to know that I will discuss those types of things with the parent because I do not take kindly to DCK's of that age lying about things they know did not happen in an attempt to not have to go to daycare.
I get that kids don't want to go after a certain age, but don't drag me, my kids or my program into that natural progression of aging.
As for today, I'd do exactly as Laundrymom said and that child would be my shadow ALL day long.
Ditto. Put dck on the spot. I've called dck's out for lying in front of heir parents. Dcp didn't say anything.