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midaycare 05:16 AM 11-10-2014
So this is the same dcm who discovered the flea on dcg 24 hours after she had been here. I get a text today that dcm isn't feeling well, so she is keeping dcg home with her.

Dcg misses 1-2 days a week because dcm is sick or skips work. Add that to the constant late drop offs and I'm going a little batty. I'm just not sure dcg is the right fit for my preschool based program if she is not here or late all the time, kwim?

Any thoughts?
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Kimskiddos 05:35 AM 11-10-2014
You have got to do what you need to do to make your day and daycare run smoothly and happily. If you can afford to lose the income and/or replace easily then I say go for it. She is not likely to change her ways.

I totally understand having a dcf that runs very late and skips days (often without even calling to letting me know). It is frustrating to not know when and if child will be here. Thankfully my problem dcf decided on preschool last fall. Then dcm emailed me to ask about an infant spot for the 1st of the year, sorry I'm full! Which really is too bad they are nice people, just our schedules did not mesh at all!
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Second Home 05:48 AM 11-10-2014
Only you know what is best for your situation and what you can afford to do and how much their being late and missing days bothers you. If it were me I would try to fill the spot with someone who is a better match and replace them . That of course is easier said then done .
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Shell 05:50 AM 11-10-2014
Do you believe she is sick, or could it be that the flea situation is worse than she thought? I once babysat for a family with fleas (didn't know it at the time). They made all sorts of excuses and lies about the severity of it. It sounds like things are going from bad to worse with how you feel about this family (been there). Are they at least paying for missed days?
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midaycare 06:27 AM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by Shell:
Do you believe she is sick, or could it be that the flea situation is worse than she thought? I once babysat for a family with fleas (didn't know it at the time). They made all sorts of excuses and lies about the severity of it. It sounds like things are going from bad to worse with how you feel about this family (been there). Are they at least paying for missed days?
I don't think it's the flea thing. Dcm is state paid and even with missed time she only ends up paying a max of $50 a week, so she just doesn't seem to care.

At this point I just wonder how long will it be before dcm terms because she goes through jobs so quickly. Now we are on #4 since 3 months ago when she started. She gets state pay because she is in school, but she misses the majority of her classes ...

And now she has been talking about joining a commune You know, because everything is healthier. Except for the crap she feeds her herself!
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Shell 06:40 AM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I don't think it's the flea thing. Dcm is state paid and even with missed time she only ends up paying a max of $50 a week, so she just doesn't seem to care.

At this point I just wonder how long will it be before dcm terms because she goes through jobs so quickly. Now we are on #4 since 3 months ago when she started. She gets state pay because she is in school, but she misses the majority of her classes ...

And now she has been talking about joining a commune You know, because everything is healthier. Except for the crap she feeds her herself!
This dcm doesn't sound very stable. If you can replace, I would!
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EntropyControlSpecialist 11:38 AM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by Shell:
This dcm doesn't sound very stable. If you can replace, I would!
This. Exactly this. I NEED stability. Do what YOU need!
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melilley 11:46 AM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I don't think it's the flea thing. Dcm is state paid and even with missed time she only ends up paying a max of $50 a week, so she just doesn't seem to care.

At this point I just wonder how long will it be before dcm terms because she goes through jobs so quickly. Now we are on #4 since 3 months ago when she started. She gets state pay because she is in school, but she misses the majority of her classes ...

And now she has been talking about joining a commune You know, because everything is healthier. Except for the crap she feeds her herself!
Geez, 4 jobs in 3 months!?
I would be careful with dhs payments, if she is skipping class. I've heard of providers in our state getting in trouble for accepting state pay when parents aren't at school/work. Yeah it doesn't make sense, but it's happened.
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daycarediva 11:50 AM 11-10-2014
I couldn't do that. I have a dcd who works for the government and he is ALWAYS late to work. He near misses my time for drop off/cut off more than half the days he has the kid. Drives me NUTS. If it weren't for DCM they would have been termed LONG ago.

Can you do a drop off cut off? Tell her it's affecting your schedule/what dcg learns? If they don't get with the program, I'd term.
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midaycare 12:47 PM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
I couldn't do that. I have a dcd who works for the government and he is ALWAYS late to work. He near misses my time for drop off/cut off more than half the days he has the kid. Drives me NUTS. If it weren't for DCM they would have been termed LONG ago.

Can you do a drop off cut off? Tell her it's affecting your schedule/what dcg learns? If they don't get with the program, I'd term.
I'm really thinking about the drop off cut off except I have a dcb, 6 months old, and I agreed to a Monday late drop off for him. He's a baby and it makes my life much easier! But ... Then I'm breaking my own rule.
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Josiegirl 03:48 PM 11-10-2014
It sounds like her time with you is limited anyways because it doesn't sound like she can commit to very much. I think I'd be proactive in this case and look to fill her spot then give notice.
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midaycare 04:00 PM 11-10-2014
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
It sounds like her time with you is limited anyways because it doesn't sound like she can commit to very much. I think I'd be proactive in this case and look to fill her spot then give notice.
I was leaning this way but wanted to hear I wasn't crazy. She pays whether there it not, so it shouldn't bother me, but it feels like she isn't really part of the daycare with the crazy comings and goings.
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AmyKidsCo 08:19 PM 11-10-2014
Honestly, it's up to you and if she drives you crazy you may want to find someone else.

Personally, I get paid whether the children are here or not so it wouldn't be any skin off my nose if she paid me then kept her child home.

The late drop offs would have to end though. I've got a clause in my policies that say if a child isn't here by 9:00 they're considered absent for the day and won't be accepted for care. (I think I got that from someone here - BlackCat maybe??)
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daycarediva 03:52 AM 11-11-2014
Originally Posted by midaycare:
I'm really thinking about the drop off cut off except I have a dcb, 6 months old, and I agreed to a Monday late drop off for him. He's a baby and it makes my life much easier! But ... Then I'm breaking my own rule.
Then make it for preschool children only, or make it and don't tell them. I think that their time is limited with you anyway so if you do that, it might give her a reason to pull.
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Cradle2crayons 06:51 AM 11-11-2014
Originally Posted by daycarediva:
Then make it for preschool children only, or make it and don't tell them. I think that their time is limited with you anyway so if you do that, it might give her a reason to pull.
it's your business. If you want to give an exception to one family the do it. It's nobody else's business.
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