Daycare.com Forum Daycare Forum

Go Back   Daycare.com Forum > Main Category > Daycare Center and Family Home Forum

Daycare Center and Family Home Forum Daycare Center and Family Home owners, Directors, Operators and Assistants should post and ask questions here.

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 05-10-2011, 10:54 AM
MamaBear MamaBear is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 666
Default How Long Is Ok To Let A 5 Month Old Cry?

So I started this new baby yesterday. Hes 5 months old. Yesterday he was fussy but I thought maybe because new environment. He fusses all the time. Even if I'm holding him at times. His mom tells me at pick up yesterday that he is very spoiled at home and that they hold him ALL the time. ARGHHH!
She said she didnt mind if I let him cry because she knows I cant hold him all the time. Yesterday I held him quite a bit, but it really wore me out.

Right now i have him in a nap room where he slept for about 5 minutes and now hes crying. Its been about 3 minutes of crying now. How long should I let him cry or is he too young to learn this yet? I can tell they never let him just soothe himself. Very frustrating for me when I cant make him happy.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 05-10-2011, 11:07 AM
laundrymom's Avatar
laundrymom laundrymom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 4,222
Default

I don't know what to tell you to do. I can tell you I would feed, change, burp, then lay him down, go back and burp in 5 min. Lay him down. Go back in 6 min lay down. Then 7 min or so repeat until it's time for food or diaper. He will soon realize that you are coming back. I wouldn't pick up for every whimper tho. He needs to learn to self sooth. Just my opinion. Also I keep them in the room with me. If the kids fuss I just tell them, yep you did it too. It will pass it should in a few days. :-) good luck.
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 05-10-2011, 11:13 AM
youretooloud's Avatar
youretooloud youretooloud is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: The desert.
Posts: 1,956
Default

I never let them cry over five minutes unless I have something going on and I can't stop to pick him up. It stresses me out to let them cry.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 05-10-2011, 11:14 AM
dEHmom's Avatar
dEHmom dEHmom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Canada EH
Posts: 2,354
Default

you can tell by his cry at what stage he is in. if he is screaming bloody murder for 10 mins or so, then something needs to be done. if it's just a come and pay attention to me cry, then let it go 20 mins or so. if it seems like he is calming down, then i just let them, but i always pay close attention to see what type of cry, and make sure nothing is wrong.
they learn quickly 1 of 2 things...
1) if i cry long enough, i get what i want
2) if i cry, i won't get what i want, so i'll sleep instead
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 05-10-2011, 11:53 AM
countrymom's Avatar
countrymom countrymom is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: ontario canada
Posts: 4,756
Default

does he have a routine. I remember my kids having 2 naps in the morning and one in the afternoon, maybe if he has a routine he wouldn't be so fussy.
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 05-10-2011, 12:09 PM
KEG123's Avatar
KEG123 KEG123 is offline
Where Children Grow
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Illinois
Posts: 1,254
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by youretooloud View Post
I never let them cry over five minutes unless I have something going on and I can't stop to pick him up. It stresses me out to let them cry.
Same here. I cannot tolerate a crying baby, it stresses me out to the max. So I always pick them up if shushing/talking to them will not do. When my own son was little he NEVER cried because I never let him get to that point. With daycare kids, I couldn't imagine them crying for longer than 10 minutes and only if I was preoccupied and I could not get to them at that exact moment.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 05-10-2011, 12:35 PM
MamaBear MamaBear is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 666
Default 8 minutes of crying & hes asleep... ahhh

He finally fell asleep after crying for 8 minutes. His mom does not have him on any type of routine. She said she rocks him to sleep and he naps randomly. I HAVE to have a routine so that I can have some sanity time. So I'm trying to get him to do at least an hour in the morning and 2 hours in the afternoon. It worked yesterday --- He did a 9am-10am or so and then 2 hr in the afternoon from 1pm-3pm approximately.

I ended up calling the mom because I needed to know if she had any advice to make him happy. He was just so fussy that I was afraid he didnt feel well. She tells me that hes teething of course. Well I expected that answer but that might be what it is. She said she didnt mind me giving him a schedule and letting him cry (up to 10 minutes). So thats what I tried and it worked.

Its weird how I've dealt with so many infants but forget every time I start again how to deal with the crying!! The crying just stresses me out too much and I want them to be happy. Its hard to let them cry it out but I guess its worth it.

I hope he gets used to this schedule quickly. I wish the mom would put him on a similar schedule at home. And wish she would stop rocking him to sleep!! /
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 05-10-2011, 01:01 PM
DaisyMamma's Avatar
DaisyMamma DaisyMamma is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 2,239
Default

I don't like crying babies, it is stressful, but its more stressful to have a spoiled infant. I say go with the 5 min 6 min 7 min crying. You have to get him used to not being held all day long.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 05-10-2011, 01:10 PM
Symphony's Avatar
Symphony Symphony is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 222
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by KEG123 View Post
Same here. I cannot tolerate a crying baby, it stresses me out to the max. So I always pick them up if shushing/talking to them will not do. When my own son was little he NEVER cried because I never let him get to that point. With daycare kids, I couldn't imagine them crying for longer than 10 minutes and only if I was preoccupied and I could not get to them at that exact moment.
Same three! I have it in my policy manual that I do not let children cry it out, and it is actually against my licensing regs too. We are required to tend to every cry in my state
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 05-10-2011, 01:43 PM
nannyde's Avatar
nannyde nannyde is offline
All powerful, all knowing daycare whisperer
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Des Moines
Posts: 7,311
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Symphony View Post
Same three! I have it in my policy manual that I do not let children cry it out, and it is actually against my licensing regs too. We are required to tend to every cry in my state


that's in your state regs?????????????????

what state may I ask?
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 05-10-2011, 06:32 PM
Live and Learn's Avatar
Live and Learn Live and Learn is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Paradise :-)
Posts: 959
Default

I would start the cry it out at 6 months.

At five months I would be giving lots and lots and lots of tummy time to wear them out and I wouldn't pick them up the moment they started fussing.

At five months they need to start learning to sooth themselves a little bit when they get put down to bed or put down for tummy time.

Good luck.
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 05-12-2011, 02:48 PM
littlemissmuffet's Avatar
littlemissmuffet littlemissmuffet is offline
Advanced Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Canada
Posts: 2,081
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Symphony View Post
Same three! I have it in my policy manual that I do not let children cry it out, and it is actually against my licensing regs too. We are required to tend to every cry in my state
Oh no! If I lived where you live... I most definitely wouldn't be in the business of childcare any longer!!!!!!!!
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 05-12-2011, 09:10 PM
MamaBear MamaBear is offline
Daycare.com Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 666
Default Hes gotten so much better

The 5 month old is so much better on day 4 today. His mom admitted to me that he has absolutely no schedule and she picks him up and holds him at the slightest whimper. We talked about both of us kinda working together to get him able to soothe himself a little more. I still hold him a lot (because hes so darn cute) haha - but when hes fed, dry, and tired and wont stop fussing, I lay him down in his bed and he is falling asleep minutes later now! It only took a few days and he got it down. I'm soooo relieved that hes getting it. He still fusses a bit here and there during the day but I've noticed that I dont need to pick him up every time. If I let him whimper a little, he gets over it quickly and is back to cooing. Hes so freakin cute.

Anyway - thanks everyone for your advice His first couple days were a doozie!
Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
crying, spoiled

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
A Month Vacation Country Kids Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 13 06-12-2012 10:44 AM
A Day From H**L...But Do I Do It Again? (Long) Former Teacher Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 9 02-21-2011 03:16 PM
How Long Should A 3 Month Old Sleep During The Day? marniewon Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 9 01-31-2011 01:06 PM
Am I In The Right, Or Are The DCPS? (Long, Sorry) SilverSabre25 Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 28 12-18-2010 07:30 PM
Holding Spot for a Month daysofelijah Daycare Center and Family Home Forum 3 07-20-2010 09:22 AM


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:21 PM.



Daycare.com         Find A Daycare         List Your Daycare         Toys & Products                 About Us

Daycare.com
Please read our Disclaimer before continuing.

Topics pertain mainly to the following States:

Alabama Alaska Arizona Arkansas California Colorado Connecticut Delaware District of Columbia Florida Georgia Hawaii Idaho Illinois Indiana Iowa Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Maine Maryland Massachusetts Michigan Minnesota Mississippi Missouri Montana Nebraska Nevada New Hampshire New Jersey New Mexico New York North Carolina North Dakota Ohio Oklahoma Oregon Pennsylvania Rhode Island South Carolina South Dakota Tennessee Texas Utah Vermont Virginia Washington West Virginia Wisconsin Wyoming