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Old 11-06-2013, 12:26 PM
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I don't want to get too far into it, but I am on specific medications and I have been weaning myself off of them pretty well over the past few weeks. Today I had to take one and I realized my bottles are containing far fewer meds than they should be. I don't know for sure that the assistant took them, and I don't want to assume, but I know it wasn't anyone in my house and the only family members that know I'm on these particular medications are my parents who live in another state. I feel saddened and betrayed. I have really come to love my assistant and I don't want to believe she has a problem-- or even would sell them-- but who else could it be? I'm rambling because I don't even know what to do. I don't even know how to approach it...
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Old 11-06-2013, 12:30 PM
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Shouldn't any prescription medications be kept in a locked cabinet so they unavailable to ANYONE in the child care?

I think that you would be better off just removing the ability to access your medications verses drug testing your assistant.

What if she didn't take anything? That trust will be forever tainted.

I'd just remove them from being available to ANYONE other than yourself and move on.
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Old 11-06-2013, 12:33 PM
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Is it a drug that is typically even tested for?

Personally, I would not drug test my assistant in this situation. I would simply lock my medications up (ideally they should be anyway) and move on. I'm not saying she didn't do it, but i wonder how you would even approach the subject without being offensive.... yes, it would be very wrong if she stole your meds, but what would happen to your business relationship if it turns out she didn't do it?

This has to be a tough spot to be in!
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Old 11-06-2013, 01:17 PM
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Yep. Lock up your.drugs. Easy fix.
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Old 11-06-2013, 01:32 PM
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BTW are you certain that there is no one else in your home that would take them? Do you have school agers? Prescription meds are now the number one street drug these days, because they are so easy to get a hold of.

Like others said, move them. They should not be in your DC area and if they are locked as they should be or inaccessible to the DC areas then this would not be an issue.

If you are doubting your assistant, then maybe you need to ask yourself if this is the right person for your DC. I would trust all of my asst with my whole life. IN fact, they take care of my home and pets when I am gone./ All of them have a key to my house...

If someone all of a sudden asked me to take a drug test, I would be pretty offended
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Old 11-06-2013, 01:37 PM
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If you're talking about opiates, than yes, I would do a random drug test for opiates, if it's another type of medication it could be hard to test. If she declines than fire her, it's sort of an admission of guilt right there. But as the other said, your medications should be locked up and inaccessible to anyone, your assistant or your daycare kids.
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If you're talking about opiates, than yes, I would do a random drug test for opiates, if it's another type of medication it could be hard to test. If she declines than fire her, it's sort of an admission of guilt right there. But as the other said, your medications should be locked up and inaccessible to anyone, your assistant or your daycare kids.
That's not necessarily an admission of guilt. If I were the assistant in this instance I would be offended if I were randomly asked to be drug tested... even if my boss didn't tell me they think I'm stealing their medications. I would feel like she doesn't trust my character and believes that I'm off doing drugs in my spare time.

IMO op needs to reconsider whether this is someone she trusts to work for her.

ETA: I forgot to say that if I were the assistant I would decline the drug test no matter what... especially if this is a random request and it was not part of the initial job requirements.

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If you're talking about opiates, than yes, I would do a random drug test for opiates, if it's another type of medication it could be hard to test. If she declines than fire her, it's sort of an admission of guilt right there. But as the other said, your medications should be locked up and inaccessible to anyone, your assistant or your daycare kids.
I disagree with this. Declining a request for a drug test that wasn't/isn't mandatory to the job would not immediately mean guilt.

I would decline. I've never taken a drug in my life. Other than an antibiotic and/or an occasional Tylenol.

As a matter of fact, I would quit on the spot if an employer asked me AFTER being on the job for awhile to take a drug test. Unless random (and/or planned) drug testing is part of the job description there is NO way anyone has a right to ask anyone else to take a drug test IMHO.

Plus, what if the assistant is currently taking prescription medication too? Legally prescribed by her own doctor....how would OP be able to differentiate between what was hers and what belonged to the assistant already?
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I disagree with this. Declining a request for a drug test that wasn't/isn't mandatory to the job would not immediately mean guilt.

I would decline. I've never taken a drug in my life. Other than an antibiotic and/or an occasional Tylenol.

As a matter of fact, I would quit on the spot if an employer asked me AFTER being on the job for awhile to take a drug test. Unless random (and/or planned) drug testing is part of the job description there is NO way anyone has a right to ask anyone else to take a drug test IMHO.

Plus, what if the assistant is currently taking prescription medication too? Legally prescribed by her own doctor....how would OP be able to differentiate between what was hers and what belonged to the assistant already?
We keep posting at the same time

I was thinking this too (bolded). Normally you can simply provide your prescription for your employer to see but this instance is a bit different.
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Old 11-07-2013, 01:21 PM
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Well I would start a new rule! Starting today, in order to provide our parents and children with the highest quality of care, you can take & pass a drug test or you can leave! Some centers require drug testing anyway, so it would just be a new implementation of something MANY companies do! And if they were taking their own Rx they can provide that to show why they tested positive. If she's the only one with access to them and tests positive, even if she has her own Rx, I would fire her. If she declined to take the test I would let her go. If she quit because I asked her to she obviously didn't want the job, didn't want to use my business as job experience and/or was going to test dirty!
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The medications are narcotics, and they are locked up in the medicine cabinet in my master bath. The assistant has access to the "go keys" which have a copy of my bedroom key on the ring, so that's why I would assume it was her and not just a random parent or visitor. It would be someone who has time and access, and she's had both. It's resolved though. I approached her as a friend and told her I had something uncomfortable to discuss with her and I apologized in advance. She initially denied taking them but then came over last night in tears saying she did take a couple, not because she has a drug problem, but because she has a feminine health issue that causes her pain and no insurance. She apologized and I believe her because she could've kept denying instead of confessing and sharing a very personal thing with me. They are moved to a lockbox now, just because that's how I feel most comfortable, but I'm not getting rid of her or anything.
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The medications are narcotics, and they are locked up in the medicine cabinet in my master bath. The assistant has access to the "go keys" which have a copy of my bedroom key on the ring, so that's why I would assume it was her and not just a random parent or visitor. It would be someone who has time and access, and she's had both. It's resolved though. I approached her as a friend and told her I had something uncomfortable to discuss with her and I apologized in advance. She initially denied taking them but then came over last night in tears saying she did take a couple, not because she has a drug problem, but because she has a feminine health issue that causes her pain and no insurance. She apologized and I believe her because she could've kept denying instead of confessing and sharing a very personal thing with me. They are moved to a lockbox now, just because that's how I feel most comfortable, but I'm not getting rid of her or anything.
Glad things are figured out. Sometimes things are never as clear as they originally appear to be.

NOT saying it was ok that she took something from you without permission but it is really nice that you two were able to openly talk and she was honest with you...even if it was after the fact....it still beats denying it over and over.

Glad you two were able to clear it up.
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