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DCM Now Wants DCG3 Not To Nap
I posted last week about how dcm wanted me to shorten dcg's naps bc she wasn't going to bed on time. The consensus was to just go ahead and keep my normal schedule, and see if the problem fixes itself. Today, dcm stated that dcg still is having problems going to sleep, despite the decrease in nap times, and asked that I give her quiet time instead.
I'm up with my kids from 5:30am until 8:00/8:30pm, and naptime during the day is the only "free" time I have, so theres no way that I am going to provide 1:1 care, and watch this child during MY quiet time. The solution was to let dcg read quietly during naptime, which I agreed to do with dcm. Today is day 1 of "quiet time" for dcg. I advised her that she could read or play quietly in the playroom. I just went in to check on her, and she got her sleeping bag out, put it on her cot, and was laying down. My first inclination is to just tell dcm what happened, but I don't want dcm to get mad that she was trying to go to sleep and take her out of my care bc shes having problems at night sleeping. I cant replace dcg. I have been trying to fill my other spot for a few months as it is, and she has a great schedule. What do you suggest? I don't want to |
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I always tell families that we have our rest time; that all children have to have quiet time and if they fall asleep, then they fall asleep. Here we have to have a time where children can rest, sleep, or do both. I always tell new families that we have a nap time and if their child falls asleep, then I have to let them sleep even if they request for them not to. Thankfully all of my dcp's want their children to nap.
I don't think that some parents realize that nap time is our break time. We need the break as much as the kids need a rest break! |
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So at pickup time, should I just tell dcm that dcg was advised that she did not have to nap, and was given books and told she could play quietly, but dcg instead chose to lay down and nap?
It annoys me that parents want me to keep a child awake so they can put them to bed early. If a child falls asleep during the day, its obvious that they need it, isn't it? |
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I would just tell the parent what you said. I would tell them that you can't prevent a child from falling asleep. It is annoying that they want or expect you do do that! |
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Poor you and poor her! The kiddo is tired! I would tell mom exactly what happened and how it made you feel. Maybe she needs to adjust the bedtime routine.
I had a dcb who was 5 last summer. His parents said he could rest but, not nap as then he wouldn't go to bed till late at night. I asked him what he did to fall asleep at night. There was the problem. T.V. was on in his room, he got a snack every night before bed (cookie, chips etc) and was sometimes allowed to play video games till he was tired. I told his parents I wasn't making him sleep but, he HAD to lay down and rest and if he fell asleep I would not wake him. I then posted links on my website about sleep, routines, and watching T.V. while trying to get to sleep. Never a peep out of them again about naps. |
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Unfortunately, because you are stuck...(financially) there really is no other alternative other than to do what the mother is asking you to do.
I know it's hard but when money(or loss of) is THE number one contributing factor in a situation, your hands become tied and the list of options becomes blank. If you can't afford to say no this nonsense (because clearly the child *needs* a nap) then you are just going to have to keep her awake and not let her sleep. If you try and just let her sleep and not tell mom, the family WILL know and will pull their child. If you give her quiet time and have to continually remind her to not fall asleep, then YOU lose your quiet time. Bottom line is you either do what works for you and potentially lose the income or you do what works for the family and keep the income. It IS a tough choice and not one I like finding myself in but sadly those really are the only options. |
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Why do you have her such long days? Does she wake up at 5:30 upon drop off or sleep for another hour? What is nap time again?
Personally I just wouldn't do it. Unless she's sleeping til 3-4hrs at your house I don't know why a child would have such a hard time sleeping after 9pm. I would encourage re-evaluating her schedule in general and seeing how you can help. Is this a new development or mom is just tired of fighting sleep at night? Maybe recommend asking their Ped about CalmForte4kids or Melatonin to help with sleep? If shes awake at 5:30am I don't know HOW a 3yr old would phyiscally make it to 9pm without a nap. WAY too long to be awake. Quote:
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Regardless of the need for income, I wouldn't do what mom is asking. My need for money can't negate doing the right thing. Rest is one of the most important things for a child. I would simply explain that yes, you explained the quiet play thing to dcg and leave it at that. If she asked me if dcg napped I would tell her what happened. If she pulls she pulls. I know you need the money, but doing what you know is right for you AND dcg shouldn't rest on income.
I know you are in a very tough spot right now. |
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Well that makes sense! |
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nap, naptime issues, parent request - no nap |
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