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Old 11-09-2016, 11:48 AM
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I have a new 2 yo dcb that started on Monday who came walking in the house with his security blanket and pacifier clipped to his shirt. This is his first time in daycare so I was surprised that he has not really cried much at all and has been doing well eating and playing and joining the group. The problem is I am ready to throw that security blanket in the trash. He walks everywhere with it and when he does play he wraps it around himself or will check on it every 10 or so minutes if he drops it. It has cheese from Monday, stains from him and other kids stepping on it (and from it being dragged) and it is falling apart so the thread gets hooked on everything. Do you allow security blankets and why or why not? Plus they almost left it yesterday at pickup and I ran it outside because I know that would be an issue later in the evening. Mom also says he doesn't talk at all just grunts but he never takes his pacifier out (just long enough to eat). When do you stop allowing pacifiers? I personally took my sons pacifier away when he turned 1 but I know every parent is different. I have a dcb that is 3 and his mother told me last week they finally get rid of his pacifier (She also was wondering why her son doesn't talk much when he started). I have no problem making the pacifier gradually disappear but should I discuss this with mom or just do it? I have taken it a few times this week but he noticed right away. Please help with this security blanket and pacifier issue so I can fix it now while he is new. Thanks
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Old 11-09-2016, 11:51 AM
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Paci at around 4-6 mo. And no blankie. Germs. Bugs. Safety risks. Nope. Just nope.

I have two here that started this fall. Both have paci constant at home. I have never offered it here and they are fine.
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Old 11-09-2016, 12:07 PM
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When I stopped allowing lovies/blankets to come back and forth for NAPS ONLY our illness rate drastically declined.

I've become a LITTLE bit more lenient now and will allow a lovey to stay at school on their cot. It cannot go back and forth and is washed here. I only do this for 2-year-olds, though.
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Old 11-09-2016, 12:20 PM
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I have a new 2 yo dcb that started on Monday who came walking in the house with his security blanket and pacifier clipped to his shirt. This is his first time in daycare so I was surprised that he has not really cried much at all and has been doing well eating and playing and joining the group. The problem is I am ready to throw that security blanket in the trash. He walks everywhere with it and when he does play he wraps it around himself or will check on it every 10 or so minutes if he drops it. It has cheese from Monday, stains from him and other kids stepping on it (and from it being dragged) and it is falling apart so the thread gets hooked on everything. Do you allow security blankets and why or why not? Plus they almost left it yesterday at pickup and I ran it outside because I know that would be an issue later in the evening. Mom also says he doesn't talk at all just grunts but he never takes his pacifier out (just long enough to eat). When do you stop allowing pacifiers? I personally took my sons pacifier away when he turned 1 but I know every parent is different. I have a dcb that is 3 and his mother told me last week they finally get rid of his pacifier (She also was wondering why her son doesn't talk much when he started). I have no problem making the pacifier gradually disappear but should I discuss this with mom or just do it? I have taken it a few times this week but he noticed right away. Please help with this security blanket and pacifier issue so I can fix it now while he is new. Thanks
I have zero issues allowing a child of any age to have/use a paci and/or security blanket.

However, the ONLY spot they can use those items (other than rest time) are when sitting in X spot.

Sit in X spot for as long as you want but if you get up from X, the paci and/or security blanket stays put.

Their choice
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Old 11-09-2016, 01:24 PM
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I allow lovies anywhere, anytime. In your case I'd mention to Mom that it needs a wash and mending "so it doesn't get more ripped." I've also run yucky blankets through a quick wash so I could stand them.

Usually by 2 I'm phasing pacifiers out by allowing them at nap only, then eventually they get "lost." But it depends on the child. I have a child who was very oral and not ready to start giving up her Binkie until she was almost 2 1/2.
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Old 11-09-2016, 01:28 PM
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I have a new 2 yo dcb that started on Monday who came walking in the house with his security blanket and pacifier clipped to his shirt. This is his first time in daycare so I was surprised that he has not really cried much at all and has been doing well eating and playing and joining the group. The problem is I am ready to throw that security blanket in the trash. He walks everywhere with it and when he does play he wraps it around himself or will check on it every 10 or so minutes if he drops it. It has cheese from Monday, stains from him and other kids stepping on it (and from it being dragged) and it is falling apart so the thread gets hooked on everything. Do you allow security blankets and why or why not? Plus they almost left it yesterday at pickup and I ran it outside because I know that would be an issue later in the evening. Mom also says he doesn't talk at all just grunts but he never takes his pacifier out (just long enough to eat). When do you stop allowing pacifiers? I personally took my sons pacifier away when he turned 1 but I know every parent is different. I have a dcb that is 3 and his mother told me last week they finally get rid of his pacifier (She also was wondering why her son doesn't talk much when he started). I have no problem making the pacifier gradually disappear but should I discuss this with mom or just do it? I have taken it a few times this week but he noticed right away. Please help with this security blanket and pacifier issue so I can fix it now while he is new. Thanks
I should also note that while I do allow security blankets I require them to stay here so I can launder as needed.

I do not allow them to be brought from home daily...

BED BUGS!!!! SCABIES!!! LICE!!!!

Nope, no thanks.
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Old 11-09-2016, 01:33 PM
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Kids can have a security blanket but they can only use/hold it on the comforter I keep on the family room floor .They can go sit anytime they feel a need to but the security items go back into the cubby when they are done ( or used at nap time).

The security blanket has to be a small one though , I once had a child come in with a twin sized comforter .
And I require a spare security blanket be left here as I will not be available after hours if it is forgotten.

I have never had a child over 1 use a pacifier , but have had thumb suckers . They can suck their thumb but it must be on the blanket I keep out .
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Old 11-09-2016, 01:48 PM
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I've only had one so far a drop in child that used one. I would uselly tuck it out of site as soon as he dropped it behind. then it would remain so to after nap when he first started at abut 1. By the time he was 3 he was only using it for naps here but at home would have more access though mom was very good about making sure they had his blanket.

For soother use I do it based on the child. I don't uselly worry about discussing it with parents first. I remove it from site when I can and only give it back at sign of a melt down. I try to have kids only using at nap by age 2 if thay. but it depends on the kid and the parent. one that started this summer age 1 used it for the first month here and then started throwing it away so I stoped offering it. now he's completely done with it here and at home. My 2 year old DCB only uses at nap will come with it in month and then hand it straight over when asked even if parent is still here. asked gor it at nap and ten gives it back after. while one DCB (age 4) just left to go to kindergarden this year could ho the entire day without but as soon as mom was here he would cry till she piped it in his mouth. I tell the kidder those are for the baby's your big boy / girl now so you don't need it. I would try to phase both out as much as possible mabey focus on the lovie first since it's so dirty. I'd it happens now it might be easier since he is just starting and not use to using it there. also not allowed for me for either item to be at a table for any meal. good luck.
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Old 11-09-2016, 03:43 PM
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I had a 3 year old and 4 year old recently start who's Dad insisted they had to have a pacifier. At drop off I politely unclipped the pacifier off of their clothes and put them in their cubbies. They never once asked for the pacifier through out the day. I think the pacifier was more for his comfort then theirs.
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Old 11-09-2016, 05:08 PM
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I have a new 2 yo dcb that started on Monday who came walking in the house with his security blanket and pacifier clipped to his shirt. This is his first time in daycare so I was surprised that he has not really cried much at all and has been doing well eating and playing and joining the group. The problem is I am ready to throw that security blanket in the trash. He walks everywhere with it and when he does play he wraps it around himself or will check on it every 10 or so minutes if he drops it. It has cheese from Monday, stains from him and other kids stepping on it (and from it being dragged) and it is falling apart so the thread gets hooked on everything. Do you allow security blankets and why or why not? Plus they almost left it yesterday at pickup and I ran it outside because I know that would be an issue later in the evening. Mom also says he doesn't talk at all just grunts but he never takes his pacifier out (just long enough to eat). When do you stop allowing pacifiers? I personally took my sons pacifier away when he turned 1 but I know every parent is different. I have a dcb that is 3 and his mother told me last week they finally get rid of his pacifier (She also was wondering why her son doesn't talk much when he started). I have no problem making the pacifier gradually disappear but should I discuss this with mom or just do it? I have taken it a few times this week but he noticed right away. Please help with this security blanket and pacifier issue so I can fix it now while he is new. Thanks
I had a child that age start who was attached very much to both a blanket and a stuffed toy. I let her have both without restriction for the first couple of weeks and then very gradually phased them out. First they couldn't come to the meal table or for art, then they also had to stay inside during our extensive outside time, then only for naps. Now they don't come to daycare at all.
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Old 11-09-2016, 05:23 PM
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Soothers and blankets are allowed but they need to have a special spot that the child picks out. They are allowed to have them during quiet time. At this age I would only allow it at nap. As for the blanket same thing.

I think it is best to slowly wean it away from him over time and get him to pick a special place for them to be during the day and he is allowed to visit them if he wants, similar to what BlackCat does.
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Old 11-09-2016, 07:56 PM
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I don't really care about pacifier use and lovey use at any age. Probably because my three year old uses a pacifier at nap and bed!

I have four kids (of my own), so I don't tend to sweat the small stuff. I know it can be an inconvenience, but if they want their lovey or nuk on their cot or in their crib no biggie. Before 18 months, they can have their nuk when they want it.
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Old 11-10-2016, 05:42 AM
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I allow lovies anywhere, anytime. In your case I'd mention to Mom that it needs a wash and mending "so it doesn't get more ripped." I've also run yucky blankets through a quick wash so I could stand them.

Usually by 2 I'm phasing pacifiers out by allowing them at nap only, then eventually they get "lost." But it depends on the child. I have a child who was very oral and not ready to start giving up her Binkie until she was almost 2 1/2.
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I should also note that while I do allow security blankets I require them to stay here so I can launder as needed.

I do not allow them to be brought from home daily...

BED BUGS!!!! SCABIES!!! LICE!!!!

Nope, no thanks.
same!
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Old 11-11-2016, 07:29 AM
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Thanks for the responses. I am okay with blankets for nap time but not all day drag around. I told grandma at pickup and she said he cannot live without that blanket and he will cry all day (she sleeps with dcb and dcb seems more attached to her than mom). I took his blanket at drop off yesterday and only gave it to him during nap and he did not cry at all. I also have my other kids leave their blankets here for me to wash as needed and they only get them during nap. I like the idea of a blanket area but dcb is my youngest child and I know for a fact all my kids will all the sudden need special blanket time even though we have never had it and it will become a thing. I will see if I can dcm and grandma on board with sending a special blanket to leave here. The pacifier is a battle for another day.
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Old 11-12-2016, 09:00 AM
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No blankets. Dirty. A tripping hazard. If another child touches it....World War Three etc.

I give every child their own blanket to use as their nap blanket while enrolled here. It is used ONLY for nap time. I launder them very frequently.

Too many blankies from home come covered in stains and stinking of pee etc.....ugh!!!

Pacifiers are nasty, horrible, germ infested, teeth ruining parent plugs. I don't allow them!
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