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Old 05-25-2017, 06:19 PM
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Default What Are Your Red Flags During Correspondence & Tours?

What are things that are "red flags" for you?
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Old 05-25-2017, 06:30 PM
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Here's a few- When and how they talk bad about their previous daycare, if they are late for interview and don't apologize, if they try to negotiate things (start time, payment, etc.), and any rude or inappropriate comments
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Old 05-25-2017, 07:28 PM
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Start time like when their first day is, or like drop-off time?
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Old 05-25-2017, 08:18 PM
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When they send too many emails..... asking questions that are already answered on my website.
When they visit for too long or want multiple visits prior to committing.
When they don't follow direction on the contract
When their forms and not completed and all returned
When the payment amount is incorrect

I am sure I will have more, I just opened. Most of my red flags so far involve them wasting my time by not following directions or reading the info given.
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Old 05-25-2017, 09:05 PM
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Start time like when their first day is, or like drop-off time?
Honestly, trying to negotiate things that are not negotiable like when the spot is available or asking me to open earlier or close later for them.
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Old 05-26-2017, 04:24 AM
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Asking questions already answered on my website.
Asking for earlier drop off/later pick up.
Asking for special right off the bat. " I know you don't allow but....."
Badmouthing former/current daycare provider.
Leaving daycare for policy reasons that are the same as mine.

and then there's the whole interaction with the kid while they are here- does the child listen? Do they have the child help clean up? How do they interact with the child?
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Old 05-26-2017, 05:19 AM
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I've only had one big one since starting out. The parent wanted the child to be left out of crafts and activities. Did not want kid to do a lot of stuff cause they were worried something could happen. After explaining the stuff was age and developmently appointe the parent still did not want their kid colouring and stuff so I let them know right there during the interview that they would not be a good fit. (It sucked cause at the time I needed kids but it was for the best. As well the parent wanted to see in depth all areas off the house not just the daycare space.
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Old 05-26-2017, 07:01 AM
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How about the email I just received?

Your website says you accept ages 18 months and up. My 13 month old daughter is very advanced...

and that's when I stopped reading.
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Old 05-26-2017, 07:08 AM
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Acting like they are interviewing for me for a job. Bye bye!

Late to the interview. Shows that they have no respect for my time and that will almost always translate into late pick ups etc.

List of demands instead of questions.

Want "special" for their child. Shows they have no idea how GROUP care works. "Special" never fails to escalate once it's been granted.

Talking bad about the previous daycare and wanting to start the very next day. I learned early on that this means "The previous daycare had the audacity to want to be paid. They told us to take hike when we didn't...so here we are at your house"

Parents who let their child run wild during interview, with no respect for other people's belongings. That's an instant no from me. These kind of parents won't give a hoot later if their child misbehaves during the day and will do nothing to help curb the behavior.

Parents who ask me personal questions about my family and that seem uncomfortable that my husband and son are actively involved. Go away!

I sometimes don't even know exactly why I feel uncomfortable with certain families....but I go with my gut.

I tell all interviewed parents that I am meeting with several families and will decide by (date) which child I am going to take. This gives me time to think and makes parents understand that the decision is mine.

They are applying for a place. I am not applying for a job.

It takes the wind out of the sails of the "I'm your boss" type parent. It makes the "my child is jumping on your couch and it's OK" parent suddenly realize that junior might not be welcome. All win/win for me.
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I look for a few things.

Anyone who asks for discount....NEXT

Anyone who shows up late for our first meeting...NEXT

Anyone who has snowflake syndrome.....NEXT

Anyone who lets their child destroy my house or lets their kid make any mess but then does not offer to help clean it up.........NEXT

Anyone who says, oh yeah I think I might be able to get here by your closing......NEXT

Anyone who in any way leads me to believe that they want a dump and go program, where I am expected to do all the work.....NEXT

Anyone who has major TMI.... I don't do drama...NEXT

Anyone who says, my child's last school said they were really gifted, but still kicked them out, I don't get it. Meanwhile the child dumped my house upside down.......RUN

Poptart......anyone who says the word poptart.....NEXT NEXT NEXT...

Ok im done...lol
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Poptart......anyone who says the word poptart.....NEXT NEXT NEXT...
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I think everyone else has pretty much covered it. I'll add showing up to the interview drunk or stoned, but that's kind of obvious And yeah...it has happened
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Pretty much all of the above

I will say though, I do like when families send loads of questions in emails prior to our interview. I would much rather potentially weed them out during emails vs interviews. One of my best clients sent me an email with a list of questions asking stuff like "Your ad mentions healthy meals, can you please give me an example of the meals served?" She was polite about it and we were able to get all of the nitty gritty out of the way early.

Also, a few things I look for - social media presence and (as already mentioned above) bad mouthing your previous provider. I have not interviewed people before based on their egregious social media posts. Also, if you bad mouth your provider to me I won't enroll you. At all.

Also, if you tell me your child is "sweet, lovable, spirited" or any other adjectives I will proceed with caution. I have never had a successful parent/provider relationship with parents who start off saying "I am looking for care for my son. He is a sweet, lovable, typical 3 year old who loves..."
IME it is code for hiding a behavioral problem.
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What does "dump and go" mean?
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Old 05-26-2017, 10:37 AM
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What does "dump and go" mean?
meaning that they are just going to dump their kid on me and expect for me to do all of the work and not partner with me.

Parents dont care about anything that we are doing, all they seem to care about is what we are not doing or what they are not getting.

they are the first ones to drop off and last ones to pick up, even though they don't need all day care. Then will complain that their child has horrible behavior or will find any little thing to complain about. They expect me to do all of the potty training and so forth.

they also often dump their kids off knowingly sick and then will find any excuse argue with you that they aren't. I could go on...

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It means they are treating both you and their child like objects.
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I tell all interviewed parents that I am meeting with several families and will decide by (date) which child I am going to take. This gives me time to think and makes parents understand that the decision is mine.

They are applying for a place. I am not applying for a job.

It takes the wind out of the sails of the "I'm your boss" type parent. It makes the "my child is jumping on your couch and it's OK" parent suddenly realize that junior might not be welcome. All win/win for me.
I might use this one in the future, if only to give some folk a wake-up call. Yes, obnoxious parent with obnoxious child, I really can live without you!
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I tend to avoid people who don't at least try to cover up their prison tattoos at a first meeting....
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