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Old 02-08-2018, 09:46 AM
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I have a 5 yr old dcg who has been with me since she was just almost 2yrs. I think it was 2 summers ago she developed a fear of the wind, caused a lot of issues, just non stop crying, (not loudly) just crying to herself and just sitting in the play house, any ways it was there last summer as well and it is difficult because it upsets a couple of my other kids. Anyways the parents were stopping doing things because of this if they were "outdoor" activities. Then increasingly she doesn't like it when I'm not in the room, so at quiet time they watch a movie and I'm not "sitting' out here all the time, I'm back and forth from one room to another, cleaning up lunch ect. It's not far and I can hear everything, so when I"m not in the room she will lay out here and cry. She now cries every day her mom drops her off, this started maybe a week ago. I've asked mom if she knew what was upsetting her or if it was something here or at home and she just says that she's "tired" and it's nothing here.
I've tried asking dcg but she just looks at me, or she will sometimes say she misses her mom, or sometimes she will say I don't want you to leave the room.
I know at home she sleeps with her parents, I think since she has been here she has never slept in her own room. They don't even try, and it's whatever she wants to do they do. Dad has said since she's in our room and she goes to bed when we do (which is late) we don't ever get to watch what we want to watch. They are in there mid to late 40's and she is an only child.
I've explained to the dad with the wind issue that they needed to find "wind" things to do and try to explain it to her and not stop doing outdoor things because of the wind, she needs comfort through it but it isn't going to help her to not go out in the wind.
I don't know does anyone have any suggestions? She will be going to kindergarten in the fall too.
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Old 02-08-2018, 09:55 AM
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its sounds like your doing what you can, suggesting to the parents what you see is maybe causing an issue for her at the daycare.
I had a boy for almost 2 years who got increasingly whinny i guess before he went to school he also slept in moms/dads bed idk if that caused some of it, he didnt have an issue with wind this just reminded me that it seemed like he maybe just got bored? id give him plenty to do, but always made him be part of our group, not come follow me around which is what he wanted to do, and the closer to school he got the more it seemed he was just ready to go, we didnt have any friends his age in care at the time.
i hope you find a solution soon
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Old 02-08-2018, 10:02 AM
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My take on the situation is that if the parents are not going to change at home there is very little you can do at daycare. Sleep is so so so important for emotional regulation. Without sleep kids can get bothered and weepy by all kinds of stuff, they essentially become emotional messes. Co sleeping children IME are a mess. They are not getting restful sleep and the bulk of their sleep time is at night. She is likely a bit sensitive to the wind and then with lack of sleep she is really bothered by it.

So I would either put up with it until it is time for her to go to school or let the parents know you want changes at home so she gets more sleep (donít count on this ever happening because cosleeping parengs are usually very selfish and do what is best for them no matter how it is affecting their kid)
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Old 02-08-2018, 11:12 AM
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I don't think its causing issues because I'm talking to the parents about it. She doesn't even know unless they are telling her what I'm saying which I doubt.
I do agree with you Ariana about sleep deprivation, she is always so tired in the mornings, to the point she just sits around and whimpers or just sits there, which I don't allow, I tell her if she doesn't get up and play then I'll set up a nap mat for her, she will then go and interact. She is completely different in the afternoons, she is like how she used to always be, bubbly, playful, loud (lol) she doesn't nap but she does have quiet time. I've asked her parents what they are going to do when she starts school because kindergarten here is full days 5 days a week. So no weaning into it.
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Old 02-08-2018, 11:35 AM
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My son doesn't like the wind either, but he has sensory issues to other things as well. Does she have any other sensitivities to her environment?
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Sounds like some anxiety or something. Maybe go very gently with her to try to build trust.
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Maybe they would listen to a therapist. Sheís having anxiety that is affecting her quality of life. She needs to be seen and evaluated.
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How about popping her down for a short nap as soon as she gets to daycare? I am really surprised she does not nap at your house. Maybe it isnít exhaustion at all. No idea!
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Is this the same one you had back in 2016? https://www.daycare.com/forum/showthread.php?t=83427
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Old 02-09-2018, 10:59 AM
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Yes Michael same one. Her anxiety of others things mostly me leaving the room has now developed. She was never like that before until few months ago.
She used to fall asleep when she got here in the mornings she was sleeping so long, I'm sure she would have slept longer had the other kids not woke her up. She hasn't been falling asleep the past month though.
I have been very gentle with her, constantly reassuring her with everything, but I also wont "baby" her like her parents do, which is partly why I think her anxiety is getting worse. They do what she wants to do, she doesn't like something, they don't do it, she doesn't want to go some where, they don't go, she doesn't want what they are having for dinner, they make what she wants, she wants to watch something on tv, that's what they watch, it's ridiculous.
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