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Originally Posted by twirlerzmom
I have a 2.5 yr dcg that constantly pushes, hits, snatches, and kicks the other kids, but mostly another dcg who is the same age. The other girl is mild tempered and ends up walking away, crying, so the other gets what she wants. Now she’s even starting to do the same to my 1 yr dcg but she’s not a pushover and will fight back. I’m at my wits end with this girl. I’ve tried redirection, explaining gentle touches, made her be my friend only, given her a box of toys and separated her from the group, talked with the parents. She continues the behavior. One day the other girl said she had to go potty, started heading to the bathroom when the feisty girl who was at the complete other side of the room screams “NO MY TURN” and literally runs to the bathroom and knocks this other girl to the floor. Now mind you she’s not even serious about using the bathroom. She’s still in a pull up! But she must be first in everything, have everything or she will throw a fit. The other day we were outside and she was sitting on the swing when the mild girl walked around the swing so feisty one kicked her square in the face....with her pointy toed cowboy boots on! Yesterday she had a great day right up til when Dad came today pick up. She ran to the mild girl and shoved her right down to the ground. Dad saw it. He yelled at her and told her to come sit down. She just ran to him crying and wanted to be picked up. Dad told her to sit down. She wasn’t listening so I made her sit down in front of dad. This morning she threw a fit because her brother was first to have his temp taken. 20 mins later she asked for a banana at breakfast so I gave her one, then she shoved it away and said she doesn’t want it. She touched it so I had to throw it away. Then she threw a fit so I removed her from the table. When she calmed down I invited her back to eat but then she said she didn’t want to eat do her breakfast went in the trash. How do I handle her?
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That would be an immediate termination for me as well. Children shouldn't have to worry about whether or not they are going to get hurt at a place where they should be protected. Esp. by an almost 3 year old bully.
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Originally Posted by twirlerzmom
I forgot to add I told the parents she is not allowed to wear boots anymore. Only soft rubber tennis shoes.
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We once had a bully at my former center. The director was all about money so she didn't care about this.
He also was 3 years old. He would kick etc as well. He especially was kicking more when he had his cowboy boots on.
Finally I took off his boots and just let him run around in socks. He didn't like it but oh well. When his mother came to pick him up, she was wondering why his boots were off. I explained to her that he wouldn't stop kicking his friends and instead of keeping him in time out for 12 hours of the day, his boots were off.
"It might be best to have him wear tennis shoes".
She got witchy with me..."You are NOT going to tell me how to dress my child!".....umm don't go there! "I am NOT telling you how to dress L. I am telling you about his day with his friends." The next day....yep...he wore boots! And yep, he was in socks again.
Long story short...he was playing with something in the cabin outside. My sister, who was working with me, saw it and got it. It was a freaking POCKET KNIFE.
The Director came in and I told her "you know, I live with the kicks, the hits, and the spits. But I draw the line when it comes to this". Her eyes were
She said " I am calling her now"
Mom of course laughed it off. "Oh silly! He must have grabbed it out of my purse when I wasn't looking". She completely blew it off. The Director said "if this was the school district, he would have been suspended for bringing a weapon" and then she gave some excuse. The Director said that he needed to be picked up immediately and that she needed to find care for him. Enough was enough.